Chart Stalkers January 2008

[Chrissy1]

choklatemounkey & Kitty - to you both. I don't know if it's just that time of the year or something but everyone seems so down at the minute. Kitty - I def think you should speak to your doc, especially considering your family history.

I just keep trying to look at things positively by thinking that if I ever do get pg that I'll have to leave chartstalkers!!! so really it's a blessing in disguise each month when AF turns up........ yeah, I'm not even convincing myself there!!

It's so hard when people really don't get how much it takes over your life when you are ttc. I said to DH that perhaps we should stop but I know that now I know what CM to look for I would still be obsessed by it so I may as well just embrace it and get on with it. We haven't told many people but the couple that we have told are so full of contradictive and usleless advice that all they're doing is confusing me even more. I've made a decision not to tell anyone, apart from you lot, anymore.

Just rememebr that we're all in the same boat on here and there are other girls who totally understand what your going through each month and we all feel the same feelings as you and we're all here for each other

A group hug is in order I think...... I'll start

Here's my bit

 

[KayKav]

Group Hug

 

[choklatemunky]

I'm up for that Chrissy....so here's mine

I know what you mean about stopping - I dont think I could - I think that once you have made the decision to start trying you cant put it to the back of your mind - no matter how hard you try. It really doesnt help when Drs etc just tell you not to think about it too much - thats what mine told me! (yeah like thats possible!!!)

I know we are all in the same boat and I really get so much comfort coming on here talking to you lot as I dont have anyone 'in the real world' who knows we are ttc - apart from DH obviously but men don't always understand do they?!

Anyone else coming in on the group hug?

 

[Loola]

Me!

I do think that January is the cause of everyones blues at the moment. Its such a rubbish month. I think Ive cried more this month and laid awake worrying more than all of my previous months TTC - no surprise really.

This time last year I had a bit of depression. It was when my broodiness got really bad and I found out that my 2 best friends were both pregnant. Im not quite so frustrated and emotional this year because at least we are trying now, but the more the months go by with BFN's the more vacant I seem to be becoming.

The thought of stopping TTC makes me cry, as I feel defeated.

We WILL be ok girls and we will all get the babies that we so deserve!!! This is the hardest Ive ever had to work for anything but boy it will be worth it in the end!!

I find it so frustrating when people tell me not to think about it too much, it is completely impossible not to think about it! Its the only thing on my mind, all of the time. I have completely changed my life so that I can have a baby. I even moved house back in August just so that we would have more room for a child. I have completly changed the way I eat and drink, obviously for the better. I cant plan any holidays or plan anything until I get that elusive BFP!!

Sorry that was a hell of a rant! Heres another hug!

 

[Kittykins]

I think we all need somewhere to scream every now and again. It probably sounds stupid to everyone else, but for me, it's this spotting that's getting me down more than anything else - I could deal with the BFNs, it's the 'is it IB? AF? ov spotting? something else?' that's driving me nuts. Going to the loo, and thinking, phew, it's stopped, then next visit, bugger, it's there again...

I'm going to ask the doctor about agnus castus next week - and red clover, raspberry leaf and anything else I can think of. Best I book a double appointment... I had thought about trying it this cycle, but because I didn't know my period had started till it finished, I was on cycle day 7 - later renamed 10 - and +OPKs before I knew for sure I'd started the new cycle.

In the meantime - it's a gorgeous day outside, I'm getting nowhere with the article I'm writing, so I think I'm going to take my bike to the shop for its mid-winter service, a friend has organised a ride next week and I rather fancy joining them...

 

[Chrissy1]

a nice bike ride out in the fresh air on such a lovely day will do you the world of good kitty...

I had a new bike for christmas, well I had it in November actually...........it's not been out of the shed yet!!!

 

[Kittykins]

Chrissy, that's terrible


Not that I can talk! I have three bikes and I haven't ridden any of them since we started TTC.

Well, my winter road bike is now being serviced, I'll be picking it up tomorrow. No more excuses...

 

[CB23]

everyone to all of us fed up with this

 

[CazH]

Hello

I have joined Fertility Friend and well confused with the site? Going to track my temps with my new basal therm when arrives in next 2 days. I have also ordered Pre Seed, got my hubbie Zinc & Vit C tabs and Me Vit B6 tabs.

Can I join the gang?????

 

[Chrissy1]

course you can join Caz.

Did you sign up for the FF lessons??? If so they will tell you everything you need to know about charting.

Also if you go to Page 1 of this thread you will see the link to all our charts and you can have a look at them to get yourself familiar with them while you're waiting for your thermometer.

Welcome to the gang....

Kitty - my excuse is that the cycle path that runs at the end of our road is being re-surfaced at the moment so the whole place is like a mud pit because of the diggers etc...... I'll definately be taking it out over the summer though

 

[Bagpuss17]

Hi all,

Memory test now as there's been so many posts:

Sookie - so sorry to hear that your DH is poorly. I hope he makes a speedy recovery.

Babydust - Hope your not suffering too much with the shingles.

Loola - Well done on the weight loss. Your description of feeling emotional and irritable was exactly how I felt the weekend before I got my BFP!

Kittty - I know exactly how you are feeling regarding the spotting. I had a 2/3 consecutive cycles with several days of pre-AF spotting too as you know. It really gets you down. Is the colour the same as it is normally? I did notice that mine this month was a different colour entirely which is perhaps why deep down I wasn't as depressed as I normally am when I spot.

Chrissy - Great news that you have a supportive GP whose got the ball rolling forward for you. I would still consider using pre-seed if I were you. I usually have lots of EWCM but still feel a bit dry when BD'ing. It seems to be a lucky aide to BD'ing for many of us

all

 

[Kittykins]

Welcome to CazH, our 20th chart stalker this month!
Caz, your chart has been added to the front page of the thread, but don't forget to put it in your signature too, once you start temping.


Bagpuss - it's only your charts that are giving me any hope! The only other person I could think of with BFPs and lots of spotting was ROM, and much as I love her I'd rather have your outcome than ROM's!

Um, if isn't TMI, what do you mean by different colour? TBH, I'm now thoroughly confused - it seems to be different each time. Last time - the non-period - (sorry about this, ladies, it's really quite revolting) it was dark brown dry stringy clots when I wiped, then some dark red clots and occasional spurts of dark blood on the liner. The previous time the spotting was pinky-brown creamy mucus. This time it's just brown, occasionally pale pink, water. No clots, no thickness yet - just coloured wetness and only when I wipe - which I do a lot, because I keep having this feeling of wetness and rushing to the loo. Sooooo gross

Anyway, I guess I'll know one way or another within the week, and I'll also be seeing the doctor next week to get some tests done. I'm feeling much calmer and more relaxed again now. We may have one more go at TTC next month, then take a couple of months off - DH has to have a hernia op in March, which looks like it'll take out our March and April opportunities.

Night all!

 

[reallyoldmum]

what Kitty I cant believe you dont want to be the same as me!!! Actually I dont want to be the same as me.......

I join the group hug having an awful January - first all the stuff with my ectopic and then yesterday I received a letter from my ex employer and they are saying they are going to take me to court - long story and they dont have a leg to stand on I hope but it has made me physically sick all day yesterday and today too - with all that has been happening to me over the past 4 months I dont really know how much more I can take - went to my mums this evening and didnt want to come home...... Felt all safe and looked after there......

Anyway Kitty I too hope you get the same outcome as Bagpuss - we could all do with a boost and it would definately put a smile on my face

oh yes and to top it all I have discovered I am allergic to condoms.....

 

[Loola]

This may be a silly question ROM but why are you using condoms? You're never gonna get pregnant that way!

 

[reallyoldmum]

Loola our consultant wants us to wait until after my next scan on 5th February just to be sure that the fetal sac has completely gone..... Bet you sat there looking for a minute wondering if I had lost my marbles....

 

[Loola]

Haha! It all makes sense now! I hate condoms, the smell is enough to put me off sex. Cant you use the withdrawal method until next week?

Dare I ask how you found out you are allergic to condoms? Im imagining itchiness and redness!

 

[reallyoldmum]

Absolutely and burning..... Not nice, its been a long time and now I remember why I hate them.......

 

[Loola]

Oh meh! As my temp has risen again today, FF has decided that I ovulated on Tuesday (day 20) which Im pretty sure I didnt as I had no cervical fluid at all and negative OPK's. I guess Ill leave it like that for now.

 

[choklatemunky]

Oh dear ROM, you really are having a bad time of it

Loola - doesnt seem right to me - guess you will just have to wait and see but Im not convinced by FF's conclusion at all

CazH!

Kitty - no worries about TMI - I dont think there will ever be anything thats TMI again after discussing the things we do on here! Really hope all the worrying and spotting has a positive outcome for you in the end!

Morning everyone else.

 

[reallyoldmum]

Loola I am still sure it is the highest temp on CD9 that is putting FF off setting your ovulation date earlier - have you tried changing that temp by ticking the box to disregard it?