*** march 2015 mummys to be ***

[i.love]

Oh so sorry Demaris This is really rubbish! Unfortunately, I think this happens so often with house moving business. When we were house hunting last year our deal fell through at the last moment, twice! We were gutted! But you know what? It all worked out for the best, as we got a much better house than either of those options in the end! Let's hope you will also find that this is somehow for the best.

Good luck with the hospital trip. Hope all goes well x

 

[Sarah90]

Mama Moo hope your ok!!!
Tiggy that sounds like an awful situation to be in, and odd that your mum should feel like that about your partners mum. I really hope you get it sorted esp with your mum being the closest. Calling someone who is a 5 hour drive away is crazy!! Poor you, this is probably the last thing you need .
Demaris I hope you are ok! That is such crap news about the house. I can only sympathise as we have been waiting to move to a house for nearly a year and everything keeps falling through, even before we get to the last hurdle! Our place is tiny we are in now and will have to lug stuff up and down the stairs as we are top floor which isn't ideal either. Everyone says when its meant to be it will be.... mmmm after a year of hearing that it doesn't really help the feeling!
We finalllllllly put up the wardrobe and chester drawers on the weekend - Cot will be next weekend. All I can say is Mothercare's instruction guides are absolutely awful, and it took my poor OH about 5 hours overall to build. However I am so pleased with how lovely they look and OH is chuffed to!. So today for me is baby clothes/sheets etc washing day! I can finally wash it all as I have somewhere to put it away. No more boxes sitting around! The only downside..... is I don't have anywhere to dry it haha, my radiators are cranked up good job OH is at work. I am also telling myself I am going shopping for the very last time this weekend to get the final bits and pieces for my hospital bag. I can't believe I am over 33 weeks.
Im finding it more difficult to go to places, LO seems to squish my bladder so half the time when im out I need a wee, even if I have only just been 10mins earlier! LO drives me crazy, some days hes so active, then others hes so quiet but then has a party in my belly when I get in from work and relaxed. Anyone else have this? 3 weeks left at work I am so pleased. The place is stressing me out and I work in a small office of women, half of whom are very 2 faced and bitchy so at the moment there is a lot of tension. I will be soooooooooooo pleased to say bye bye to them very shortly.
I am nearly popping out of my coat, my maternity one from H&M I got in the sale im hoping will arrive today, better late than never I guess!
Anyway im awful for keeping an eye on this post so there's my update. Hope all you lovely ladies are keeping well. I am beginning to feel super super excited!!!! xxxxxxx

 

[Demaris]

Back from the hospital, BP fine, no protein in wee and baby sounding happy. They still have concerns about my sugars dropping low so I have to go back in two days to be rechecked.

My daughter and son are now on their way home from school as my daughter is feeling poorly. this means my son has to come too as they get the train home and he isn't able to travel on his own because of his autism. Its been one of those days so far!!

On the plus side hubby is getting us a take away on the way back from seeing his son tonight so at least i dont have to cook.

Our chances of being offered another housing association are slim because we were 11th on the list and only got to where we did because apparently other people refused it for whatever reason. We live in a 3 bedroomed 3rd floor flat, but the rooms are all single (we have no room for a cot or the crib in our room as we only have 1 ft around out bed, we have our drawers in the living room). At the weekends we have to wear ear plugs because there is a nightclub up the road and drunk people walk by (we have sash windows) and it sounds as if the people are in our room, shouting screaming etc. We wont be able to wear earplugs when baby comes. The tenant downstairs is meant to be getting evicted, he spends all day shouting at his kids and has been involved in fights outside our window. Its hell every day (I have phoned the police so many times). He deals in weed and on a weekend the smell floats up to our door, and people come and go at all hours.

Anyway, we are not homeless so I have to count blessings and try and look on the bright side of things. I just feel like the offer of something amazing was given to us which would sort out so many problems especially for my son and its been taken away.

So, sorry for the self pity today, i'm going to put a lid on this and try and keep positive.

 

[Sarah90]

Aww hun, it's obviously been one of those days!
Onwards and upwards, tomorrow is a new day , I am wishing you luck on the house front you never know something may be around the corner again.... That's the way I'm looking at with mine and trying not to lose hope.
You enjoy your yummy takeaway. I'm having pizza tonight because after however many counts of washing I've done today and cleaning I seriously cannot be bothered to cook anything!
Hope the recheck goes fine as well. Sending you big hugs!! Xx

 

[tiggy85]

Thanks for your support girls. Still really upset about it but not much I can do, mum can be strange. She has mental health problems which I try to support her with, she also is alcohol dependant and I think has a personality disorder. Her perception and thoughts and feelings are totally absurd most of the time and she can be set off into a spiral at the smallest of things. I find it exhausting but try to support her where I can. I guess really I should be grateful as I don't really want her around my little one if she is going through a depressive episode again, it find it hurtful that she won't talk to me about things. I just know her too well and it will never be a 'normal' mother daughter relationship.


Sorry about your house demaris. I really hope something does turn up better in the future for you. It's totally shit when everything seems to just fall apart so to speak. And I hope when you go back in two days that things go ok for you. I know you have had a lot going on but you seem to be dealing with it so well, much better than I would

Enjoy your takeaways girlies! I wish I could eat properly. I just feel so nauseous and my tummy hurts a lot so it's not pleasant eating! My work colleagues keep saying they think I've lost weight around my face and legs, probably the case as I'm struggling to eat properly.

I haven't gained any weight since 20 weeks or so. But did the same in my last pregnancy!

 

[GF91]

Girls, who do you ring when you have reduced movements? There's no Triage number in my notes only my midwives mobile which is non urgent?

 

[Demaris]

Girls, who do you ring when you have reduced movements? There's no Triage number in my notes only my midwives mobile which is non urgent?

At my hospital the triage is within the labour and delivery ward so maybe phone the switchboard and ask to be put through to that department. I'm sure if its not the right place they should be able to direct you. Hope all is well GF, hugs to you xx

 

[Sarah90]

I have to ring my delivery suite at the hospital. Can you go through switchboard at your hospital and go on to maternity? I never ring my midwife. It's a community number I have and they are never in the office and ring back about 5 hours later if you leave them a message. Never the same midwife you speak to either. Very annoying. She just told me always to call the delivery suite of any problems xx

 

[Nonabean]

Yeah, I just phoned my hospital and asked to be put through to labour ward xx

 

[Podpie]

I rang my GP and she gave me a number which turned out to be the postnatal ward, so I then was given another number for the day assessment unit and they asked me to come in.

 

[Nonabean]

Let us know how you get on Podpie. xx

 

[Cakey]

Oh Demaris I'm sorry it's horrible when you have something taken away from you but as Olya said, you might end up with something even better
Hope you and bubba are okay GF91.
I had absolutely the most terrible leg cramp this morning, I felt like my muscle was in a massive knot and so utterly painful I guess it's because of my job and standing all day, I can't wait until I go on my leave now! Xxx

 

[i.love]

GF I hope all is well? x

As to phone numbers, I just googled my hospital's contact numbers and there was a number for maternity ward.

 

[GF91]

Hi ladies- sorry delayed response! All ok, kind of! Babys movements have changed, she's absolutely fine it's just because I've been very stressed out the last week or so. Been told I need to take it easy but had a horrendous night sleep, just in general, up with a barking dog 4 times, & we had a row last night which I'm still fuming about. Apparently I don't make an effort anymore? By the time he gets in ive had a bath, make up free & in my PJs- which apparently isn't attractive. Also doesn't see why when I'm at home all day on my own I don't put any make up on & stay in my PJs? Thought that one was self explanatory? Bearing in mind I'm meant to be on bedrest, I'm still working, cleaning the house, doing all the washing, shopping, cook dinner every night, make him a packed lunch every morning, run around behind him getting things, tidying up, I even got out of bed in the middle of the night to make him cheese on toast and horlicks on Monday night. As you can imagine, I'm at breaking point today. To top it all off I've just been in our dressing room & it looks like a bombs hit it. I actually want to go back to my mums! Lol!

 

[i.love]

Oh sorry you are going through a rough couple of days GF! Hope it all calms down soon... x

 

[Niknaknoo]

GF, firstly glad baby is OK!
secondly, I'm sorry your OH isn't being very supportive. I really hope he soon realises that what you are going through is hard work and he should really be helping you out and supporting you.
Hang in there. xx

 

[Niknaknoo]

just had a read through all this mornings labour threads! its lovely! I'll have to get tapatalk on my phone so I can do one when the time comes! fingers crossed just under 6 weeks to go for me - 40 sleeps to go to due date!!!!

 

[Demaris]

Hi ladies- sorry delayed response! All ok, kind of! Babys movements have changed, she's absolutely fine it's just because I've been very stressed out the last week or so. Been told I need to take it easy but had a horrendous night sleep, just in general, up with a barking dog 4 times, & we had a row last night which I'm still fuming about. Apparently I don't make an effort anymore? By the time he gets in ive had a bath, make up free & in my PJs- which apparently isn't attractive. Also doesn't see why when I'm at home all day on my own I don't put any make up on & stay in my PJs? Thought that one was self explanatory? Bearing in mind I'm meant to be on bedrest, I'm still working, cleaning the house, doing all the washing, shopping, cook dinner every night, make him a packed lunch every morning, run around behind him getting things, tidying up, I even got out of bed in the middle of the night to make him cheese on toast and horlicks on Monday night. As you can imagine, I'm at breaking point today. To top it all off I've just been in our dressing room & it looks like a bombs hit it. I actually want to go back to my mums! Lol!

Ahh GF thats so unfair! How can he be so blinkered to your situation! Would it help to write a list of all the things you do during the day and stick it under his nose? I wish I could wave a magic wand for you and sort it all out, it must be so frustrating. Maybe going back to your mums for a few weeks of rest is the right thing to do? At least then he might start to get an idea of all that you do for him when he has to do them himself. Think of yourself and think of baby xx

 

[GF91]

Thanks for your support ladies. It's not been an easy road- & I feel totally alone as what few friends I had have totally disappeared since I became pregnant. It's difficult talking to my mum because she's my mum so she just gets angry with him which makes it worse.
Demaris- while a break would be lovely, if I left that would be it in his eyes it would be over. He's always said if you walk out that door don't come back because it'll be locked.
I'm not sure what I can do to make him see. I'm exhausted, & while I feel robbed of enjoying my pregnancy fully due to SPD what little excitement I had left he's dampened. X

 

[i.love]

Awww GF I think you two need to have a little talk at some point. Though I also think that maybe you should listen to what he says about PJs etc - maybe it's good that he tells you openly that he doesn't find this attractive? Better be aware of this, as the temptation to stay in PJs all day will be even bigger when the lo arrives. But of course this is absolutely no excuse for not appreciating your efforts! x