May mummies and rainbows to be :) the wait is nearly over!

[nikkix86]

I had such a go at oh tonight maybe im hormonal but he came home from work with a face like thunder, he hates his job i keep telling him to look for another one and then every night im having to stare at the top of his head because hes too busy on his phone to socialise with me and the kids. I wouldnt mind but i havent seen him all day i feel like a house skivvy ive tidied and done tne washing up and cooked dinner etc and looked after the kids and put them to bed. He said my boys keep fighting so i told him to use his initiative while im doing dinner and get off his phone and play with them for the first time in 2 years. Sick of it today. All i am is a house skivvy and i may as well be a single mum because even tho they are not his kids he does nothing to help me with them so i made him get them ready for bed for a change so i could carry on with dinner

 

[Dovekie]

Not another phone problem. I've been arguing about this the last two days. Twice I've packed my bag to leave! Do you ever spend quality time together? I mentioned this to my boyfriend as we never do. He made some joke about how there's no way he wants to sit writing each other poems..?! We don't spend any time together talking and I'm worried because we still don't know each other that well. He won't listen to me anyway :/

I went to pregnancy yoga tonight - something a bit different!

Leigh, glad your little man is ok

 

[nikkix86]

Ive been arguing with oh about it for 2 years lol from the minute he walks in the door hes glued to his phone and today i just lost the plot. He said my kids dont respect him well how can you expect respect if you dont do anything with them. We get maybe a couple of hours in the evening when were in bed watching tv but thats it

 

[Dovekie]

I get shopping trips, cooking together and occasionally watching an episode of something together. Even then his phone is out a lot. He spends most of his time on his computer. He finally moved his computer from the main bedroom to the spare room a couple of days ago, then told me I'd ruined his life! I do worry about this once baby arrives. I just don't think he's grasped how different life will be. He doesn't expect his life to change.

 

[nikkix86]

Oh is on his phone through all of those lol if it goes off he has to check it im going to throw it at the wall soon

 

[Eryinera]

I can't complain about my oh but argos has just sent me into a major pregnancy rage. In the past 2 months I've gad 3 attempts at buying one of 9 different chest of drawers that tell me they are in stock until I go to pay for them so. I've just had at major pregnancy rage skitz out brought loads stuff on ebay lol and now I've officially got the besting urge. As soon as uve finished my crumpets and coffee crazy pregnant lady begins. Lol

 

[snowbee]

Everything I've tried to buy recently has been a total pain. Either out of stock or arrives broken or not the right thing. Why can't people do anything right I'm fed up of returning things!

I'm exhausted today, getting out of bed was a real struggle. It is my oh birthday today too and we are out tonight. Will have to try and last out until tomorrow for my early night!

 

[snowbee]

Nikki and Dovekie I'm sorry your men are idiots. Do you think they are in denial about what is happening? Maybe it needs to me more real for them and once baby is here they will pull their socks up?

 

[nikkix86]

Not good about the furniture ive been taking loads of stuff to the tip this morning.

Oh has realised how soon this is happening now i think but hoping he pulls his finger out when shes here and helps me out

 

[Dovekie]

I have almost thrown every piece of technology off the wall. Both times we've made up about it he tells me he's playing online all night (he's getting obsessed with Dungeons and Dragons now). Then he tells me he's buying a tablet! Snowbee, I think he doesn't realise how much our lives will change. I'm worried because he's not adjusting to me moving in, so how will he adjust to a baby 24/7? Will he leave it all to me?

I'm struggling to get out of bed now too. Moving around in bed is a pain.

 

[Eryinera]

I'm. Glad im not the only one who seems to be dealing with incompetent companies delivering the wrong or broken rings or just not delivering anything at all!

 

[nikkix86]

Getting in and out or bed and turning over is alot of effort at the moment lol

Ive just upset oh even more he wanted to lease a brand new car 250 pound a month, im not working at the moment and until my childminding gets going he will be supporting all of us on his wages and hes just worked out we cant afford it. Got about 200 a month spare but need to keep that for emergencies. Hes out for a drink tonight and probably staying at his mates it's probably a good thing after yesterday now ive shattered his dreams of a new car lol i told him for us to work it out though before he decides anything

 

[snowbee]

A new car is nice but not really essential. Hopefully he will realise that.

Hopefully it will suddenly hit him Dovekie. If he tries to leave it all to you then I would go out and leave him the baby for the day so he gets a reality hit. I'm fully expecting to be pretty much left to it but my oh works insane hours and I know he will try to spend time with little one when he can. He is freaking out about it though, worrying he hasn't got the time or money to keep us, so I know he is going to try hard.

I've just made a mess. I have been taking the tiles off the bathroom wall ready for the builders on Monday and the whole wall is rotten and has fallen down... Whoops! I knew it wouldn't be salvageable and would need redoing as it has leaked since we moved in 7 years ago... Good thing we are doing it now before the ceiling below gives in too. I'm having a minor panic this is going to cost more than I've budgeted in labour but fingers crossed they can crack on with it.

 

[Eryinera]

Oh wow! That sounds crazy snowbee! My front room has cost more than I anticipated but now it's 85% I can that it's worth it and it will last lot longer too hopefully. Thankfully I'm saving money on some other jobs. And I finallllly got my chest of drawers and in the right colour without settling too.

Lol its crazy what thoughts go through mens heads when babies are due especially if it's their first. My oh had some crazy ideas with our first but your fellas are taking it to the extreme lol. I think as women nest men have a minor breakdown or midlife crises! "We're about to have a new baby. ...I must buy a new car!"

 

[kabuk1]

Anyone else feeling like their stomach is going to burst? I feel like I'm constantly full, like I've eaten a holiday meal. I still feel hungry, but that leaves me feeling like I'm going to burst.

Nikki, I hear ya. Moving and readjusting in bed is definitely becoming more difficult. He's got to be growing again because my stomach is painful at the moment, serious stretching pains. Then when you get the gas or constipation pains to add to that, it makes things that much worse.

I really feel bad for those with men trouble. It's a real shame. Hopefully once your little one arrives they'll shape up. I feel so lucky every time I hear your stories.

Snowbee, my dw works crazy hours too. She is anxious excited about the arrival of our little man. She's an only child with not much experience with kids, especially babies, and being 2nd in charge at her company it very demanding. She really wants to find a way to have a better work-life balance so she can be home more, but it will be hard. They are a small company in their second year and growing rapidly. She's hoping that she can get things stabilised by the time he's about 9 months when she'll start to try for number 2. She's more worried about than I am, but she is making time, taking 2 weeks holiday and 2 weeks parental leave for the first month after his arrival. Then she'll take some time as well to go to the US with us for a month, although she will be working for some of that.

 

[snowbee]

That is great that she can take that initial time off. Like you say hopefully it will all settle down, it can be very hard going with new ventures to begin with. We have a slight issue in that my oh might not be able to take any time off at all depending when baby arrives. I'm not too concerned, we will have to deal with it if it happens and have a back up plan. He usually works 7am-9ish pm. Every day. He doesn't get weekends off and we usually have 10 days off in Jan and then a couple of three day breaks in the rest of the year. I don't think it will matter too much with a small baby as I'm expecting them to be awake while he is here, it will be trickier when they get a bit older but we will work something out I'm sure.

I'm struggling to turn over in bed. I woke up for a wee and couldn't get out of bed! I was stuck on my back haha. Was debating waking my oh up to help me when I managed to flip over the edge of the bed! I've also noticed I'm finding getting out of chairs is starting to be tricky when I'm tired. My bump seems very full and tight at the moment, although it does still change when baby moves into other positions. I did wonder if I was going to explode the other night after I had eaten a rather large tea!

 

[nikkix86]

Oh has gone out till tomorrow so im going to have a nice long bath soon and relax lol

 

[Dovekie]

Yes, relax tonight - make the most of it! My bf is playing games until late, so it's Netflix and chill for me and baby

Getting out of the bath is a struggle. My bump is tight and shiny. Baby has been awake most of the day. He usually sleeps when I walk around, but today my belly has been twitching and things poking out as I walked. He's been hiccuping a lot too. He's still up!

 

[missyeovil]

Sorry some of you are still having man troubles my DH is quite bad for being on his phone but if I tell him to stop and listen to me or something he will. He doesn't really get any Internet at work most of the time so he tends to binge a bit when he gets home.

I am severely struggling with heartburn again. I'm think because I've been ill im swallowing more mucus and saliva (sorry tmi) and not eating much and its upsetting my stomach a bit. I'm taking ranitidine but after eating practically nothing yesterday I was awake from 4am till 6am with heartburn, so had some gaviscon as well which immediately made me throw up. Had some toast this morning too which had me in so much pain I went and threw it up too. Have also just realised that my breastbone I think, in the middle of my boobs is sore to touch. Wondering if my bra is too tight but I had myself measured in mothercare in January and they said this size would do me till the end of pregnancy. I haven't put on excess weight or anything so I dunno but I cannot go another 7 weeks of this. Im miserable with it x

 

[Dovekie]

That doesn't sound very nice I've only had mild heartburn so far and haven't had to take anything for it. I'm struggling to sleep too though. My hips get so sore. I'm toss and turn until I can't take any more and then I'm up between 2 and 4. I'm seeing an osteopath in a couple of weeks.