May mummies and rainbows to be :) the wait is nearly over!

[lisey]

Mayday, I would finish earlier too if I could. I don't get annual leave as work in a school bit if I did, I would do the same.
I have loads of clothes and prob too many blankets. I am a shopaholic though so it has just transferred from buying for me, to the baby.
Sainsburys have 25% off all clothing at the moment and they have nice sleepsuits and vests if you want to stock up. I have ordered a few bits and quality is nice xx

 

[Mayday17]

Ooh will go an have a look! I love Sainsbury's stuff, always end up with at least an outfit or 2 for my daughter when I go in there food shopping lol . Thanks x

 

[nikkix86]

He extended by half an hoir but i picked him up at 12:30 so wasnt foo bad! He was going to get the train home later but the last train was at 12. Shes been putting all pics of them 2 up on fb tho which has annoyed me but i said id try and trust him so i haven't said anything lol

Up way too early this morning lol

 

[lisey]

Do you think she is doing it on purpose Nikki? To annoy you? Is it pics of just them or group pics? Xx

 

[Mayday17]

Do any of you ladies know of any cheaper versions of the chicco next to me crib ? I really fancy one but there a bit pricey given the time I have left and what we still need to buy xx

 

[Emily0505]

I'm sure I've seen ads on Facebook for a company that let's you rent a bednest for however long. They use new mattresses etc or you could get a second hand one and buy a new mattress for it?

XX

 

[nikkix86]

Theres both pics of just him that shes taken, group ones and ones of them two together its probably harmless but after everything i find it a bit disrespectful

 

[lisey]

It prob is harmless. I think the fact that she is posting them shows it is likely innocent. If there was something going on, then I would imagine she would avoid bringing attention to it? Could be wrong but that's how I would see it xx

 

[nikkix86]

You might be right hun ive never let him go out drinking with her before so was a test for me aswell

 

[nikkix86]

But now hes been messaging her all day which is really getting on my nerves

 

[Rachel82]

What? What is he messaging her about? Sorry Nikki, I don't want this to sound horrible but he sounds emotionally manipulative. You have every right to expect your OH to not text other girls but he's clever and makes it seem like you're the crazy one for having a prob with it. Also, keeping you on tenterhooks not knowing if he's gonna be in a good mood and loving or whether he's gonna be pretty much ignoring you and treating you horribly. That's emotional manipulation!

 

[lisey]

I do agree with Rachel on that. The texting is not ok. I wouldn't mind if my OH text a female friend occasionally but not all the time and if he was messaging someone he knew I had a problem with, he would be gone.
Does he let you see the messages? Xx

 

[nikkix86]

No he only messages her back when im not there because he doesn't want me to know he's messaging her because he knows i will kick off. His excuse is that ges allowed female friends

 

[lisey]

Of course he is allowed female friends but there are boundaries, esp if he knows you are not happy about it. You should come first. Innocent or not, it's not fair on you xx

 

[nikkix86]

He thinks im some sort of bunny boiler control freak who tells him who he can and cannot talk to

 

[lisey]

You're not at all. How would he be if was the other way around? Xx

 

[nikkix86]

He said he wouldnt care but unless i put him in that situation i dont know im not like that tho. I have a couple of male friends but i dont message them constantly. He knows about my anxiety and trust issues and tells me i should deal with my issues go to counselling etc because its all in my head

 

[lisey]

He sounds lovely!! I do understand what it's like to have trust issues, I was the same for years after my cheating ex and you can read into things more but I would be the same as you, I wouldn't like it at all and I trust my OH 100%. He wouldn't do it though, if I was uncomfortable with something then he would stop, not tell me I was paranoid. In my opinion, it's just a deflection tactic when they do that. My ex always used to call me 'paranoid' and it was 'my problem' etc. He was actually cheating though so wasn't in my head at all. I knew though, deep down xx

 

[nikkix86]

Yeah my ex was abusive to me and cheated several times he said the same things. My oh has no time for my issues anymore just says its draining for him having to reassure me all the time and that i need to deal with them. He talks to this girl about me and my issues and she gives him advice. Last year he told her we argue all the time and when i asked him he denied it

 

[nikkix86]

Thing is i am starting to think its me and its all in my head its making me feel awful