May 2018 Mummies Trimester 3!

[holli]

Im been boring I’m not having a baby shower I can’t stand been the centre of attention makes me feel uneasy and very uncomfortable, both me and lane have said if we get married it will be just us and his Mum and dad as witnesses Cos I can’t deal with any attention like that on my birthday I go out with lane so I don’t have to see any one lol

 

[miguelita426]

Im been boring I’m not having a baby shower I can’t stand been the centre of attention makes me feel uneasy and very uncomfortable, both me and lane have said if we get married it will be just us and his Mum and dad as witnesses Cos I can’t deal with any attention like that on my birthday I go out with lane so I don’t have to see any one lol

Nothing wrong with that. I'm not much for being the center of attention either but I will put all that aside for this one day. I can't wait to celebrate with all my family and friends. But when the boyfriend and I do get married we've already discussed it would be very small. Like courthouse (justice of the peace) small lol with just a few friends/family as witnesses. This baby shower is probably the biggest thing we will ever be apart of. lol

So will you just be getting all the baby items yourselves? I hope some family has pitched in to help on some of the bigger ticket items.

 

[GBLiz]

yeah i've never had a baby shower. Maybe it would be different if i was in a tight girly gang of friends or something but its not something i or anyone i know has ever done....

 

[GBLiz]

its more usual over here for people to buy you a gift after the baby is born, but its not like you expect people to provide baby items for you.....

i get most of my stuff free or from online second hand sites or charity shops so there really isnt much expense. i think i probably only spent £100 tops on my last baby. I dont find babies expensive at all, people are always needing space and are glad to find a home for their unwanted baby items

 

[miguelita426]

its more usual over here for people to buy you a gift after the baby is born, but its not like you expect people to provide baby items for you.....

i get most of my stuff free or from online second hand sites or charity shops so there really isnt much expense. i think i probably only spent £100 tops on my last baby. I dont find babies expensive at all, people are always needing space and are glad to find a home for their unwanted baby items

I see, so it's different here in the United States. A majority of people have baby showers. Not usually for multiple children, but definitely for the first one. It's not only about the gifts it more of a celebration. I don't know, maybe we like to party for just about anything lol so I guess it's the culture here. Either way I'm looking forward to it. Doesn't cost me anything and the costs are taken care of by my cousin and close friends. I just have to get dolled up and show up with my partner for the event.

 

[miguelita426]

its more usual over here for people to buy you a gift after the baby is born, but its not like you expect people to provide baby items for you.....

i get most of my stuff free or from online second hand sites or charity shops so there really isn't much expense. i think i probably only spent £100 tops on my last baby. I don't find babies expensive at all, people are always needing space and are glad to find a home for their unwanted baby items

That's great!

This is my first baby so everything seems expensive to me. From the car seat, stroller, figuring out what to buy baby so he can sleep in. Only thing free is breast milk lol I plan on attempting to do that at least. I have a few articles of clothing for baby but everyone keeps telling me to stop shopping. They say I will receive everything at the baby shower. Whatever I don't I can pick it up after. So I've listened. I have just been nesting and creating space for all the bigger items to fit. I cleared out the closet in my living room just for baby. I live in a small one bedroom apartment so space is really limited. Trying to maximize every corner possible. We are saving and working on our credits so we hope to find a home next year.

 

[miguelita426]

I hope it's okay that I'm here on your forum even though I live in US. I wasn't able to find an interactive forum to join that's based in the US. I like reading what other pregnant women are going through to try and relate.

 

[miguelita426]

Is anyone exercising or keeping active during their pregnancy or throughout the remaining bits?

I just recently started prenatal yoga and I love it. Went to my fourth class last night. I think it will help keep away any big pains and aches. I just started experiencing back pain last week. No fun! It's intermittent and I think the cause is my work area and being pregnant. I sit at a desk the majority of the day. I'm a school nurse. So this kind of nursing doesn't require a lot of activity like bedside nursing. The yoga is helping a lot! It's also fun to be around a lot of other pregnant women that are at different stages. I have since recruited two friends to join me. I will go at least once a week until it's time to deliver this baby. There was a lady that was 40 weeks + 5 days in my class last Sunday. She was overdue and willing to try anything to get the baby to come. I believe by now she has had the baby because she was due to be induced the following Wednesday if baby didn't come on it's own.

 

[GBLiz]

I hope it's okay that I'm here on your forum even though I live in US. I wasn't able to find an interactive forum to join that's based in the US. I like reading what other pregnant women are going through to try and relate.

of course it doesnt matter where you're from! Its interesting to hear how things differ.

 

[claire_louise9]

I hope it's okay that I'm here on your forum even though I live in US. I wasn't able to find an interactive forum to join that's based in the US. I like reading what other pregnant women are going through to try and relate.

Of course it okay the more the merrier x we also have a private facebook group that some or ladies in the may group have joined. If you would like too just pm me and I can add you too x

 

[ChloeNat]

I hope it's okay that I'm here on your forum even though I live in US. I wasn't able to find an interactive forum to join that's based in the US. I like reading what other pregnant women are going through to try and relate.

I'm currently in Canada! I did have my first two in the UK and used this forum then. I moved here 2 years ago, but you're right there aren't many interactive ones in America.

 

[holli]

Im been boring I’m not having a baby shower I can’t stand been the centre of attention makes me feel uneasy and very uncomfortable, both me and lane have said if we get married it will be just us and his Mum and dad as witnesses Cos I can’t deal with any attention like that on my birthday I go out with lane so I don’t have to see any one lol

Nothing wrong with that. I'm not much for being the center of attention either but I will put all that aside for this one day. I can't wait to celebrate with all my family and friends. But when the boyfriend and I do get married we've already discussed it would be very small. Like courthouse (justice of the peace) small lol with just a few friends/family as witnesses. This baby shower is probably the biggest thing we will ever be apart of. lol

So will you just be getting all the baby items yourselves? I hope some family has pitched in to help on some of the bigger ticket items.

We’ve got loads of clothes from mothercare in the sale, the in laws have bought our 3 in 1 prom, my Auntie has bought us a Moses basket and got quite a few friends wanting to buy stuff we haven’t bought big items yet like cot changing table ect as we are moving house so will get them when we move so it’s less to pack xx

 

[miguelita426]

Im been boring I’m not having a baby shower I can’t stand been the centre of attention makes me feel uneasy and very uncomfortable, both me and lane have said if we get married it will be just us and his Mum and dad as witnesses Cos I can’t deal with any attention like that on my birthday I go out with lane so I don’t have to see any one lol

Nothing wrong with that. I'm not much for being the center of attention either but I will put all that aside for this one day. I can't wait to celebrate with all my family and friends. But when the boyfriend and I do get married we've already discussed it would be very small. Like courthouse (justice of the peace) small lol with just a few friends/family as witnesses. This baby shower is probably the biggest thing we will ever be apart of. lol

So will you just be getting all the baby items yourselves? I hope some family has pitched in to help on some of the bigger ticket items.

We’ve got loads of clothes from mothercare in the sale, the in laws have bought our 3 in 1 prom, my Auntie has bought us a Moses basket and got quite a few friends wanting to buy stuff we haven’t bought big items yet like cot changing table ect as we are moving house so will get them when we move so it’s less to pack xx

Oh nice! You're getting everything overtime and that's smart to wait till you move before getting the bigger items, so you don't have to move them twice. You're due right before me I believe. I feel like it's so close yet far away lol

 

[holli]

Im been boring I’m not having a baby shower I can’t stand been the centre of attention makes me feel uneasy and very uncomfortable, both me and lane have said if we get married it will be just us and his Mum and dad as witnesses Cos I can’t deal with any attention like that on my birthday I go out with lane so I don’t have to see any one lol

Nothing wrong with that. I'm not much for being the center of attention either but I will put all that aside for this one day. I can't wait to celebrate with all my family and friends. But when the boyfriend and I do get married we've already discussed it would be very small. Like courthouse (justice of the peace) small lol with just a few friends/family as witnesses. This baby shower is probably the biggest thing we will ever be apart of. lol

So will you just be getting all the baby items yourselves? I hope some family has pitched in to help on some of the bigger ticket items.

We’ve got loads of clothes from mothercare in the sale, the in laws have bought our 3 in 1 prom, my Auntie has bought us a Moses basket and got quite a few friends wanting to buy stuff we haven’t bought big items yet like cot changing table ect as we are moving house so will get them when we move so it’s less to pack xx

Oh nice! You're getting everything overtime and that's smart to wait till you move before getting the bigger items, so you don't have to move them twice. You're due right before me I believe. I feel like it's so close yet far away lol

30th April she’s due, i found the first tri was slow and dragged but now I think it’s flying by xx

 

[miguelita426]

Holli,

Yes, it's going by much faster than the first trimester. I found out I was pregnant the 3rd day of my missed period so I was 4 weeks along when it was confirmed by my doctor. I thought I would never make it out of the 1st trimester. But now I'm in the 3rd I cannot wait to meet my little bub! I'm sure we all can't wait to meet our little ones. I'm not nervous about delivery right now but I'm sure once the time starts getting really close like 35 plus weeks I will start to get anxious.

 

[holli]

Oh I’m with you on that I’ve got people telling me how painful it is I’m like thanks don’t sugar coat it or anything haha but they all said once Baby is out the pain goes and they all say they would do it again if they could I’m no good with pain at all like I can’t cope with period pains so god help me in labour I have the worst pain thresh hold so I will be so nervous when it’s closer to the time. I never thought I’d get pregnant never mind be in tri 3 I’ve had a real shitty pregnancy from day one there’s always something wrong but I love feeling her move and kick (will miss that loads when she’s here) and we will try for another later on as don’t want an only child if we are blessed to have another xx

 

[miguelita426]

Oh I’m with you on that I’ve got people telling me how painful it is I’m like thanks don’t sugar coat it or anything haha but they all said once Baby is out the pain goes and they all say they would do it again if they could I’m no good with pain at all like I can’t cope with period pains so god help me in labour I have the worst pain thresh hold so I will be so nervous when it’s closer to the time. I never thought I’d get pregnant never mind be in tri 3 I’ve had a real shitty pregnancy from day one there’s always something wrong but I love feeling her move and kick (will miss that loads when she’s here) and we will try for another later on as don’t want an only child if we are blessed to have another xx

Yes! same here, I've gotten horror stories usually from older moms. I'm clearly in lala land because it goes in one ear out the other while I smile lol I'm not sure how I will deal with the pain. I don't suffer from period cramps I also plan on going natural if the labor and delivery allows it. Hopefully all is well and no c-section. So I have no clue how I plan on doing that. But I'm not against the epidural. If I think I need it, I will get it. Sorry to hear about how you've felt in your pregnancy thus far but I'm glad it lifts your spirit when she moves and kicks. I love that feeling as well! I think it's the best part of pregnancy. I will also be trying for another one later on as well. I would love to have a sibling for my baby and I still want a baby girl

 

[holli]

Oh I’m with you on that I’ve got people telling me how painful it is I’m like thanks don’t sugar coat it or anything haha but they all said once Baby is out the pain goes and they all say they would do it again if they could I’m no good with pain at all like I can’t cope with period pains so god help me in labour I have the worst pain thresh hold so I will be so nervous when it’s closer to the time. I never thought I’d get pregnant never mind be in tri 3 I’ve had a real shitty pregnancy from day one there’s always something wrong but I love feeling her move and kick (will miss that loads when she’s here) and we will try for another later on as don’t want an only child if we are blessed to have another xx

Yes! same here, I've gotten horror stories usually from older moms. I'm clearly in lala land because it goes in one ear out the other while I smile lol I'm not sure how I will deal with the pain. I don't suffer from period cramps I also plan on going natural if the labor and delivery allows it. Hopefully all is well and no c-section. So I have no clue how I plan on doing that. But I'm not against the epidural. If I think I need it, I will get it. Sorry to hear about how you've felt in your pregnancy thus far but I'm glad it lifts your spirit when she moves and kicks. I love that feeling as well! I think it's the best part of pregnancy. I will also be trying for another one later on as well. I would love to have a sibling for my baby and I still want a baby girl

Wow massive fair play to you if you go natural with the labour, I will be having every thing they can give me haha I just hope the same I really don’t want a c section at all.
Do you have any names for your baby yet? we would love a boy after Willow to have one of each but obviously it doesn’t work that way and you get what you get but if we was lucky to have another baby if it was a girl I wouldn’t mind as they could be best friends I just don’t want her been an only child xx

 

[ChloeNat]

Oh I’m with you on that I’ve got people telling me how painful it is I’m like thanks don’t sugar coat it or anything haha but they all said once Baby is out the pain goes and they all say they would do it again if they could I’m no good with pain at all like I can’t cope with period pains so god help me in labour I have the worst pain thresh hold so I will be so nervous when it’s closer to the time. I never thought I’d get pregnant never mind be in tri 3 I’ve had a real shitty pregnancy from day one there’s always something wrong but I love feeling her move and kick (will miss that loads when she’s here) and we will try for another later on as don’t want an only child if we are blessed to have another xx

You'd be surprised how much your body can cope with at that time. I'm horrible with pain yet managed both of mine on only gas and air. My second was a shoulder dystocia birth (his shoulders got stuck after his head had been delivered) apparently it's the most painful birth you can have yet I was only on gas and air at the time. I actually don't think I was taking any then, I was concentrating more on pushing.

The contractions are actually more painful than the actual pushing part I think, as at that time your body is doing something against the contractions and it feels really good pushing against the pain. There's breaks inbetween each one as well which really helps. Mine were ontop of eachother at one point and I spent an hour in the shower with my husband rubbing my back without noticing the time going by.

 

[miguelita426]

Oh I’m with you on that I’ve got people telling me how painful it is I’m like thanks don’t sugar coat it or anything haha but they all said once Baby is out the pain goes and they all say they would do it again if they could I’m no good with pain at all like I can’t cope with period pains so god help me in labour I have the worst pain thresh hold so I will be so nervous when it’s closer to the time. I never thought I’d get pregnant never mind be in tri 3 I’ve had a real shitty pregnancy from day one there’s always something wrong but I love feeling her move and kick (will miss that loads when she’s here) and we will try for another later on as don’t want an only child if we are blessed to have another xx

Yes! same here, I've gotten horror stories usually from older moms. I'm clearly in lala land because it goes in one ear out the other while I smile lol I'm not sure how I will deal with the pain. I don't suffer from period cramps I also plan on going natural if the labor and delivery allows it. Hopefully all is well and no c-section. So I have no clue how I plan on doing that. But I'm not against the epidural. If I think I need it, I will get it. Sorry to hear about how you've felt in your pregnancy thus far but I'm glad it lifts your spirit when she moves and kicks. I love that feeling as well! I think it's the best part of pregnancy. I will also be trying for another one later on as well. I would love to have a sibling for my baby and I still want a baby girl

Wow massive fair play to you if you go natural with the labour, I will be having every thing they can give me haha I just hope the same I really don’t want a c section at all.
Do you have any names for your baby yet? we would love a boy after Willow to have one of each but obviously it doesn’t work that way and you get what you get but if we was lucky to have another baby if it was a girl I wouldn’t mind as they could be best friends I just don’t want her been an only child xx

Yes we have a name finally. I will tell you guys but we aren't announcing it to our family and friends until hes born. But my partner came up with the name and I grew to love it. His name is Daeson

Key word going to try lol Play it by ear and see how contractions and such feel. If I feel like I'm literally being ripped in two then bring on the pain medications or epidural lol I wanted a girl first and I was blessed with a boy, which is fine because like you I wanted at least one of each. So I hope the next baby is a little girl. But either way if it's another boy then Daeson will have a best friend to grow up with. Babies are blessings regardless. But I would like a mini me to dress up lol I'm one of 5 children so I definitely want my baby to have at least one sibling.