****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[Shanivy]

You are very lucky Jem. I can't wait for news of your scan

PB - I feel your pain. What an awful and ridiculous thing to say. Reminds me of MIL offering to buy a sofa bed for the nursery so that she has somewhere to stay and me and Dan instantly saying, "Yes, no problem if it's just you and no dogs, easy enough to bring the cot into our room while you're here, lol. She was not amused that he plan to sleep with the baby was foiled hahaha!

I can't believe we'll be 21 weeks tomorrow Shan. Where is this time going? I've just finished the new menu for the pub and about to go off shopping now to get the last of the bits I need for it. Feels good and I can properly advertise the place now that everything is running more smoothly.

Did absolutely bugger all yesterday and I feel so full of energy again today, it's fab. No idea how though, ended up having jumbo cod and chips last night at 9pm and I finished all fish and all chips, which is a lifetime first for me. I'm clearly taking nutrition really seriously! Haha.

Anyway...I have to say this as I hope I can be a fair and just person...MIL did call last night for the first time since we told them about the baby at Christmas. They all did sound very excited (about time) and were asking what they could buy to help us. In 10 years, it was the first conversation Dan has had with them in which nothing snidey, sarcastic or mean was said and when Dan put the phone down, he was in utter shock at having just had the first ever civil and even pleasant conversation with his family. Fingers crossed it becomes more regular...It was such a nice change seeing Dan happy after talking to them, not on the verge of tears.

Like they say, leopards don't usually change their spots, but my mum is so different with DD. She was honestly the worst mother ever, I hated her. We don''t have a mother daughter relationship even though she phones now every day almost. The only reason she sees DD with how she was is because she was mentally ill and unmedicated growing up. So I try to be understanding. But she changed with Ivy, like a second chance. Shes just learned to knit and knitted baby a blanket. And shes making Ivy a quilt thing so she "doesn't feel left out". You really never know. I hope for your sake they wise up a little

I actually cant believe its 21 weeks tomorrow! xx

 

[Shanivy]

Well boring day for me. I've done nothing today! Even ordering a takeaway for dinner cause I'm just not up to it. My back is easing though which is a good thing. A little sciatica in one leg but hopefully that pisses off too.

I'm realising that the amount of stress I've been feeling may be getting me more than just a little down. So many things going on with family and it feels like everyone comes to only me with their issues for help. Which is all good but lately its just a lot. My grandad had a stroke, my mum had one of her episodes last week and I had to call the police out to check she hadnt been an idiot since she lives in Omagh, and I live in Scotland. I had to lend my brother £200 because he couldn't afford his rent and told nobody and my father in law may have early onset dementia. I hate stress or drama and sometimes it all just comes piling up

When I thought my disk was going again I just though "are you fucking kidding me?" I hate moaning and I've deleted two posts so far for whining. I'm going to try giving myself a good kick though. xx

 

[KHTW]

Jem worrying is natural - that's what mother do - get used to it xx

Shan that sounds like a lot to have on your plate! It must be hard to be the one everyone counts on. I hope things get a bit more quiet for you now x

 

[_GG_]

Shan...don't delete any more posts. Honestly. We all deserve to have a place to vent and rant freely and it really is cathartic to do so.

Sounds like a genuinely shitty time and you totally deserve to feel sorry for yourself. Xx

 

[JemRose]

Oh shan sounds horrible. I'm so happy you gave up work so you don't have that on your shoulders too x

 

[_GG_]

So, looks like we're having a May wedding. £300 all in at the registry office and a bit of a party at the pub afterwards. Then we'll do a fake ceremony with my beautiful dress in September for all the family and friends that we won't be able to invite to this real one.

I'm so happy. I'm actually really glad I'll be huge by then because I'll definitely look like a pregnant bride, not just a fat one, lol

 

[Shanivy]

Thanks ladies it's so nice to have a judge free forum honestly. I'm okay now. OH has some neurology appointments too which I need to get through. Baby has been nice and active today, like a little reminder that I need to stop stressing and sort myself out for her xx

 

[Shepherdess]

please vent here shanivy it sounds like you have a lot on your plate. much better getting it out

last week (or maybe the week before) there was a discussion of growth spurts, I wonder if I'm having one. I've been super tired the lat few days and today I felt really swollen down below and tonight in the shower my nipples were really enlarged with big blue veins. all over my boobs has beenmore veiny but my nipples were freaky. I just wonder if I've suddenly had a boost of blood flow. don't remember this with DD

Good luck with your scan Jemrose! I hope it all goes well

aw wow GG that's fantastic! so happy for you

 

[Shanivy]

GG that's great news! A lovely spring wedding! We'll want to see pics of your dress so you'll need to update in September haha xx

 

[Shanivy]

Thanks Shep

I've been looking up growth spurts and countdowntopregnancy says one happens about 22 weeks, that would you right? So could well be hun. Also I'm swollen too :/ Not always though which is kind of weird? I'm not looking forward to my third trimester vagina this time honestly xx

 

[JemRose]

GG that's amazing congrats what an amazing year for you xx

 

[Shanivy]

Topic change but anyone considering trying hypnobirthing? I may give it a go.

 

[Shepherdess]

Topic change but anyone considering trying hypnobirthing? I may give it a go.

yes I'm definitely going to read up on it after my stressful time last time. I friend recently did it and had an amazing experience following a horrible first Labour. I just need to buy some books

 

[Shanivy]

Topic change but anyone considering trying hypnobirthing? I may give it a go.

yes I'm definitely going to read up on it after my stressful time last time. I friend recently did it and had an amazing experience following a horrible first Labour. I just need to buy some books

I've been googling. I think natal hypnotherapy suits me. Apparently that's the UK version? I dont know. I'd like a book and a cd too but I hate choosing stuff like this in case I buy the rubbish ones lol xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Oh lovely news gg
Lmao shan, i couldnt... I cant relax in pain no matter what id taught myself. Hubby told me to roll over so he could rub my bk i told him to fuck off even tho it woils have helpes xD

 

[KHTW]

Fantastic news GG! You will make a beautiful bride I am sure if it. Hope you will share some pics with us xx

Interesting re growth spurt... my belly expanded loads in the last week or and this week it feels super tight!

Hypnobirth emm no thanks. Epidural please. Epidural all the way! But seriousl hypnobirth sounds really relaxing and in-the-zone kinda experience so you should go for it! x

 

[KHTW]

OK so!! Just a minute ago baby kept kicking the same spot and I could feel it with my hand no problem THEN i looked down o my belly and I COULD SEE IT TOO!!! A tiny bulge going up and down on my tummy! Baby is being moving lads today x

 

[Shanivy]

LMAO PB I'd love to be your birthing partner! xx

KHTW lol you go for the epidural hun, whatever gets you through. Thats great about baby! Baby moves my stomach now and again the last few days. I tried videoing it last night but you cant make it out. I'm sure dd did NOT do anything like it this early what about your dd? xx

 

[KHTW]

I don't think it started this early with DD. This one is an early kicker for sure x

 

[PeanutButter]

Haha, shan hubby said i was funny but couldnt laugh cos id have ago at him. Heh i told him to record me a little this time.
Khtw im with you on the epi!! I had it at 6 cm hoping for abit longer this time wbu?
I cant see anuthing and wont till least 25weeks cos im fat but can feel him in my stomah occasionally.