**** November 2012 Mummies **** (everyone welcome)

[CARNAT22]

I don't sing to him when he has a tizzy, I actually feel very overwhelmed when he screams as it always comes from nowhere?? He doesn't moan or whimper beforehand, he just screams.

It upsets and frightens me and I think that makes him worse?

OH is brilliant at soothing him, I kind of clam up??

I am fine when I know he is going to be upset, for example when he is waiting for a bottle or when I am getting him out of the bath I know he is going to yell so I am ready to calm him down but tonight he went from chilled out to being a red faced, screaming baby in seconds and I was thrown. It really knocks my confidence. I try rocking him, whispering in his ears, stroking him etc and he just gets more upset...

Luckily it's very rare now that he has a screaming fit out of the blue... He did eventually settle but I felt like a complete faliure!

As for pram wars and feeding snobbery - makes me embarrassed to be in the same "club" as the people that perpetuate this behaviour!

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[Wilson28]

oohh kelly i couldnt have kept my cool, i would have offerd her some milk for her coffee, lol, ive not bf in public however i have in front of family n friends, just wap them out, i always find a mothercare around his feeds and chill out with him in there ) im debating if to introduce ff as the last night feed to let him sleep longer??? what do u think xx

 

[Kellybean]

Oh I WISH I could leave my pram down in the communal lobby. I live in the third floor and I nearly cry every time I have to lob it up and down the blooming stairs...I'm pathetic about stair excersise no I was bending down to get some bargain toothpaste and a woman just shoved my boy with her hands to get her buggy past, I apologised then thought WHY DID I APPOL. She just walked on without acknowledging my apology, she didn't need to shove him, she really shoved! Grrrr. I have manners. Heyho, get over it Kelly.

 

[sallybee]

I should add it was an empty pram lol.

Oh Nat I feel like that sometimes, I'm still very self-conscious of looking like an idiot even when its only me and her, especially when she's crying. It's partly why I'm afraid of going to groups. I also hate changing her nappy, dressing/undressing her or feeding her in front of anyone! Xx

 

[Robyn_mcl]

afternoon girls, well went for my 6wk check up and had a smear well i cried the room down, it was agony when she inserted the speculum well it was agony and i sobbed for her to stop, she said it looks red raw anyone else had this xx

I had my 6 week check up today too (at 8 weeks) & I'm due a smear too but the nurse said its too soon to so this after birth?? & will write to me in around 4 Weeks?
X

 

[Kellybean]

Wilson you mention ff at night feeds yesterday. I spoke to my hubby tonight for an HOUR (such a treat we usually only have half hour) so I was able to talk to him about it and he said one of the men he works with wife's had her second baby and swears by night time feeding! (Ff) so I'm glad I mentioned it, so I think if he doesn't go to sleep on this feed atm (bfeeding as I type) ill give him some formula, only have a small carton left tried to put him down half ago but he creamed at me. I would try it Amanda, it's worth a try!

 

[Kellybean]

Carnat! Does he set off like that often?

 

[Kellybean]

Right I think M is sleeping now, so I'm off to the land of nod ( I hope ) so good luck ladies and no doubt ill be up again soon. Xx

 

[mrswoody]

Nat..why is it babies play up once daddy leaves? It's hard not to loose your confidence when something like that happens but you are a fab mummy so keep it up M has been very clingy and needy today and hasn't slept properly since 1ish, she has battled sleep and hasn't gone longer than 20minutes without waking up! As I speak I'm trying to get her down, oh is better at getting her to sleep than I am.

Kelly..shocking to hear what that lady said about you bf in public! I wouldn't have held back either. I bf a lot in public now I found the best way was to just get on with it, oh helped me the first time but I can manage on my own now. A lot of places will have a bf friendly sign up so I feel better doing it these places, I just look forward to the day someone says something to me!
However, I did have a grown man, in his 50s or so, physically push my pram out the way in a shop and barge past. I was so annoyed I actually turned to him apologised then said you only had to say excuse me and he was like "you shouldn't be in the way like that" well this got my back right up, my poor dad wasn't too pleased either. I just left the shop feeling really angry and upset, do people forget manners at a certain age?

I tried introducing formula at night but he hasn't stopped her wanting more milk :/ not sure what else to try ths end, she sleeps well at the minute so I'm it going to keep with the bottle if only so my nips get a rest and oh can feed her

 

[Wilson28]

well i have onw wide awake monkey, power napped now awake and we have an early start tomoz xx

 

[sallybee]

Try not to talk to him or stimulate him and put him back down Wilson quick! My little lady is waking up, uh oh xx

 

[Wilson28]

he was asleep woke up n cried, currently put him on his changing mat in the nursery snd hes jibbering away to himself, moving his hands n legs. tried the dummy n boobie to sooth, nope spits them out and cries, i need sleep xx

 

[sallybee]

not sure what to suggest, Cathy is quite settled and wakes up and generally goes back to sleep after her feed, however she is jabbering to herself in her basket lol we're still up though. She's going in her own room when my baby monitor arrives

Hope you get some rest Wilson hun xx

 

[Wilson28]

thanks hun, hes normally goes down before 11. hed very unsettled tonight xx

 

[Wilson28]

finally asleep but now ive got to transfer him to moses basket lol xx

 

[Wilson28]

transfere complete lol cx

 

[sallybee]

Woohoo go you xx

 

[sallybee]

Cathy is asleep in our room and we are both in bed but OH just will not shut up, he seems to think I enjoy talking when I have to get up at 3am to express... Think we should upgrade to a 3 bedroom flat so I can have my own room lol! Xx

 

[sazz]

First feed of the night and Toby made it too 4 hours between a feed. Yey. But I woke up at 12 daft thing thinking he'll wake up any minute. X

 

[Kellybean]

Ugh....bing! WIDE AWKE BABY....

Shocked me awake, normally he has a dance and chat to himself and it gradually wakes me, not this morning. I wondered what the hell the noise was, wailing at full crescendo. I hope this feed won't take too long, very tired tonight. Troublesome little fella.

5weeks and their own room already? I wish I had the courage to do that...but I can't, not yet.