**** November 2012 Mummies **** (everyone welcome)

[Kellybean]

Mrswoody, I'm sorry your having a bad day. You don't need a reason, it just happens I hope it doesn't last, you just feel guilty, especially when lo is so bubbly or happy as you feel like you should be too. It's horrid.

Self burping! Never looked at it like that hahs

 

[Kellybean]

Even though I slept 11-8 and only got up for half an hour to express I'm totally exhausted and have an awful headache hope I'm not coming down with something! Xx

You will probably find this is because you DID sleep. :s

 

[CARNAT22]

It's def because you've just got home mrswoody, it's the same as having holiday blues when you've been on holiday?

I'd be lost without my family and friends (in particular my sister and my MIL) as they've been so useful in the early days... I am still learning to be a Mummy but it's handy to have people close by to talk to.

I haven't joined any baby groups as I am a bit shy (believe it or not ) and also James isn't brilliant when out of his comfort zone. Plus if I am honest I am so self conscious that I bottle feed.

I think the downside of having family close by is that I probably won't make such an effort to socialise with other Mum's?

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[Wilson28]

afternoon girls, well went for my 6wk check up and had a smear well i cried the room down, it was agony when she inserted the speculum well it was agony and i sobbed for her to stop, she said it looks red raw anyone else had this xx

 

[CARNAT22]

I gave James an extra oz in his last feed as an experiment to see if I can get him to go 4 hours between feeds. 4.5 hours later he is having nap number 2 since Midday

So looks like 6oz feeds are the way forward?

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[mrswoody]

thank you ladies. Mummy hood is tough!

kelly..madison gives some good burps but not on the boobie! sounds like self winding or maybe your little man just likes a good burp

 

[mrswoody]

Nat..don't worry about what people think about bottle feeding James. Some other ladies were bottle feeding and I didn't think twice about whether it was booby juice or formula and at the end of the day it's noone elses business? I too can be quite shy so I had to try extra hard to talk to people :/

I'd recommended Baby Sensory though really stimulating for LO.

Wilson..I had a letter through for mine but I'm sure you are meant to wait 12weeks post delivery?

 

[Kellybean]

I haven't had one yet! Waiting for a letter.

Shy about bottle feeding? Good lord, why? I'm shy about bf! So I bottle feed in public as I find it tricky not to show nipple and I'm very very shy.

I'm too shy to go to groups but I'm going to have to snap out of it, I'm the only one in my friendship group to have a baby. My sil is 5 months pregnant but...I don't get on with her v well. I need mummy friends, just not good in new and strange environment!

 

[sallybee]

My sister said it would make me feel worse, its all I've been craving for 6 weeks and it makes me feel like crap lol!

Nat... I bottle feed and 99% of people will assume its formula, not that I care since there's clearly nothing wrong with Cathy. The 1% who know its EBM will wonder why I don't just breastfeed (and I'm scared to go to the bfing group cos of this). You just have to not worry about what other people will think as their opinions really don't matter you did what was best for your son xx sorry if that didn't make sense xx

 

[sallybee]

I wish we all lived close by then I wouldn't be worried about going to groups xx

 

[CARNAT22]

Thanks ladies, there is so much reverse snobbery about FF'ing (so I've heard anyway) that it makes me apprehensive to join groups. Damned if you do and damned if you don't hey??

Were you due a smear Wilson?

My sister had a raw cervix not that long ago, for her though it was the brand of pill she was on.

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[Wilson28]

i was due in october so while i was going today to have another swab to see if i still have a womb infection so she asked if i was due a smear and i said yes, so she did, is it common to still be very sore 6wks after delivery?? worrys me with cervicsl cancer xx

 

[sallybee]

My BIL and SIL seem to get really defensive about ff even though I am not in your face about EBF at all they have asked me why I don't just formula feed and then tried to put my breast milk in the microwave (I did get upset at that one.)

What do you mean by reverse snobbery? On saying that I am the only person I know who has bf'd for longer than a couple of days and am considered a bit weird xx

 

[CARNAT22]

I mean that it's frowned upon to FF in the baby groups in my area and Mum's look down on you if you do!

5 years ago it was the other way round

My sis and both SIL's all FF, my close friends with kiddies both breast fed. I've been 'exposed' to both sides of the coin....

I've had my SIL criticised (by an older woman in a coffee shop) for not breastfeeding and one of my friends was asked to put her boob away in a restaurant (by another customer!)

As I say you can't win hey?

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[sazz]

It seems no matter which way you feed there's always someone who has an issue with it. Just got to remember as long as baby is happy and healthy, who cares what other opinions people have.

I'm pretty shy about meeting people. I'm a little sociably awkward. Gonna try some groups and there are some local mums here but I find it hard as its always the over the fence invite for a brew and I feel funny just knocking on there door going hi I'm here for that brew.

Today I have a grumpy tired boy. He keeps having short feeds falling asleep then waking up hungry. He's only just making 1.5hrs between feeds. Hoping he sleeps a little longer tonight.

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[sazz]

Ah Wilson. Hugs. I'm due a smear but I'm still a bit bruised so doc said in march I can have the smear and coil placed in as a one. When I had to go and book it though because its army docs and I knew all of the lads who were sat in ear shot I had to use a bit of code to tell the receptionist what to book, but luckily she's ace and went "ah so lady MOT then" brilliant . X

 

[CARNAT22]

Does anyone else notice a certain time of day when LO is more 'difficult' than normal???

James always gets quite fussy from about 6pm onwards?

Today has been horrible though. The moment OH went out (it's his cousin's Birthday so he has popped to the local for a few pints!) James has screamed blue murder.

I had already started cooking dinner so I had him sat in his chair and I was seeing to him in-between trying not to burn the food.

He wouldn't take his dummy, picking him up didn't work. I didn't get a chance to eat as James was hysterical by now so I quickly dunked him in the bath and fed him. He'd worked himself up into such a tizzy that he wouldn't even feed to begin with

He's now in his crib but he's fretful and restless... I am frazzled and quite upset. He never behaves like this when OH is here to comfort him.

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[Wilson28]

do u sing softly to him nat?? also do u start to unwind him on yr own before nap time?

i sit with arthur and sing, esp you are my sunshine, and wiggle tonuges at him, and softly touch his cheekys, he does get more restless more sleepy he is, have you got sky tv? xx

 

[Kellybean]

Oh nat that's distressing to read let alone dealing with it...I haven't YET had uncontrollable crying. He cries but I manage to calm him down by singing, hugging or FOOD!

And I know exactly how you feel about dealing with crying baby, cooking and that battle...that's everyday for me but...I have FINALLY after 71/2 weeks found a SUPERMUMS way of doing it all.

On ff and bf when in public I ff (expressing is not going well) at home bf...my sil is 5 months preggers and she started bad mouthing formula...she didn't know I fed M on it...I got so angry at her and pointed out that its bloody hard work bfeeding and it took a lot of will power to keep at it and she may look at formula as a god send if she struggles! I thought it was just her being a milk snob, I didn't know just how rude ppl can be about it.

I also bf with my hubby in a cafe (he's my shield....only do it with a human shield otherwise I feel like everyone is looking at me pls I find it difficult at least he can hold my wrap) over Xmas and Ann old woman had the audacity to tell me I was putting her off her coffee...I just stared at her and told her to move somewhere else...took a lot of will power not to squirt milk at her or use expletives...my hubby get very irate, his jaw was twitching. That's obviously put me off doing it in public again now.

It's such a pity that since becoming pregnant and now having my baby that you discover a new world and this new world also houses snobs, bitches, b@$£&?>%, witches and opinionated two faced 'people'. I thought mothers would stick together but the don't....there is even pushchair wars! I discovered that today in lidl....apparently we don't say 'excuse me' we shove prams out of the way! Silly me...

 

[sallybee]

Jeez Kelly thats awful have to admit though that its one of the reasons I express but yeah its a whole minefield I thought it would be all mummies together but there is so much snobbery! Have to admit I am guilty of shoving a pram out of the way but its a girl that lives in my building, we don't have a lift in here so we got a ground floor flat knowing we would have the pram - and they are more expensive! She lives on the 3rd floor and leaves her buggy in the stairwell meaning I can't get past with mine, not to mention its a fire exit and therefore its a health and safety issue wouldn't care but there is a space outside our flat just through a door 5m away that we have said she can keep her pram in! Xx