May mummies and rainbows to be :) the wait is nearly over!

[missyeovil]

I was talking to my midwife about my mental health too. I got postnatal depression the last time and tbh I've never fully got over it so I have been struggling quite a lot with it the last couple of months. Obviously I am in a totally different situation to you but I am most likely getting anti depressants prescribed that I can take as soon as baby comes. I personally should probably be on then now but not happy to for obvious reasons. You really need to be prepared for how gard it can hit you, having a baby, and if your parents are going to be able to support you better than your boyfriend then I agree that you should seriously consider going to stay with them for a bit.
The first time round I didn't have PND but the baby blues hit me day 3 and I cried all day and felt utterly useless. But everyone was on very high alert for me to get PND because of my history but I had loads of support from my mum as well my partner and my gp told me having that baby might've been the best thing I ever did with regards to ny mental health! It goes both ways after having a baby but if you can choose to make life easier for yourself before the hormones hit, I definitely would. Xx

 

[Emily0505]

I had PND after I had my son. Really hoping that I don't get it this time round as it was horrible.

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[nikkix86]

sounds like alot of us have been through it. you need to do what you think is best hun x

 

[Eryinera]

Just as a counter experience I was warned I'd probably get PND after my son due to my history of depression and sorry to say self harm. But I didn't. It was a totally magical experience for me and I didn't get the 3 day crash either so it's nit 100% but be warned x

 

[Emily0505]

I'm hoping for a totally different experience this time round! I had Cam via ventous, we were in hospital for nearly a week as he was in NNU, I was a totes emosh wreck and then got PND after! Would like to avoid all that this time please!! Just a nice water birth, quick discharge from hospital and happy smiles all round! Lol!

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[nikkix86]

i was fine with my second despite my awful c section experience i was still allowed out after 24 hours ish and didnt get the baby blues with him but i did with my first so hoping im the same this time as i also suffer with depression and anxiety

 

[kabuk1]

Dov, the baby and you come first, so if that means you have more support at home, then it sounds like the best option.

I hope no one here has to suffer the blues or PND. I don't know anyone personally who has gone through it. I'm aware and have read about labour and post labour expectations and concerns, but I try not to think about it. I'm focusing on the wonderful dreams I'm having (lots of us welcoming our son into this world and the first few months of life) and how I'll have a good portion of my body back (being able to bend over and put my shoes on without having the wind knocked out of me.

 

[lisey]

I didn't get PND after my son but I know I am likely someone at risk of getting it as I have suffered with depression and anxiety on and off for years and years. I think they will be watching for it on health visitor appointments. I am very aware when I am dipping though so I think I will spot it and OH knows the signs for me too xx

 

[lisey]

Is anybody else experiencing periody type pains? I have had them on and off for a few days. I wonder if it's her engaging? Xx

 

[Eryinera]

I am lisey I've been having them for a while especially in the mornings and when I'm lay down.
My bump has dropped so I think it could get engaging signs! !

Not the best photos but you can sorta see the drop. (Excuse my knickers lol its clearer in different tops it happened yesterday lol)

 

[lisey]

Glad I am not the only one. I thought it must be normal at this stage. I can't tell if my bump has dropped yet, my skin at top of bump is very sore like it was when bump with son had dropped but I don't think it looks lower xx

 

[nikkix86]

ive been having period pains for weeks not sure what they are!

 

[nikkix86]

my boobs have just started leaking! think it freaked oh out lol

 

[Dovekie]

Did you get antenatal depression Ery? Is that also why they thought you might get PD?

I'm at my parents. I can't take the sadness I feel with my boyfriend at the moment. I just felt unloved and unheard. Maybe it's not the end but it looks like I'll be staying here until after the birth, at least. I felt so guilty leaving, typically!

 

[lisey]

I haven't had leakage yet. I would have thought I would by now.
Leigh, try not to feel guilty, you are doing what's best for you and baby. You need support and if your boyfriend isn't able to provide that then you have made the right decision. I am sure you will get lots of love and support from your parents xx

 

[Eryinera]

You're doing what's best hun x parents nearby can be so helpful in the first few weeks. I had depression diagnosed in high school byva therapist but I has been self harming from around the age of 8 or 9. It got discovered when I was 14 but my doctor refused to admit it. I'm mostly fine now occasionally I have a bad turn. I had a set back during out ttc journey when hubby wanted to give up. But we're now both glad he changed his mind x

 

[Emily0505]

Ery bump certainly looks like it's dropped. I think my little girly has moved down a bit as I'm not breathless like I was plus I'm getting these low down pains.

Nikki my boobs haven't leaked much - I've had the odd bit in my bra I've noticed but not even enough to need a breast pad. I get colostrum coming out if I give them a squeeze though! It makes me hopeful that they might actually work this time round!

Dovekie don't feel guilty about your decision. If your boyfriend can't give you the level of support that you need then you've done the right thing by moving in with your parents. It doesn't have to be a forever thing and perhaps it'll be the wake up call that your boyfriend needs to realise that you need more from him than he's been giving you recently.

I had the most lovely dream about my baby girl last night. She was here and dressed all pretty in pink and napping in her cot! I was bf her from one side and expressing from the other and had loads of milk coming out. It was just amazing! I was also trying to get my childhood pet cat back from a rescue centre and with the guys from Jaws hunting the shark which was less fun and actually quite scary but the baby bit was just lovely

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[nikkix86]

that was the first time they haven't leaked since but it was quite a bit on the sheets lol im so ill ive caught another cold the last one i had for 3 weeks so hoping it doesnt last that long again had to be in half term aswell! lisey your so close to 37 weeks! thats my next milestone lol

every night i keep thinking im going into labour lol my bh are getting worse and more painful. i barely slept last night between coughing fits and 3 toilet trips!

 

[snowbee]

Ery that does look like your bump has dropped. Mine seems to be sticking even further out now lol.

My boobs have been leaking a little bit for months now, I'm wearing pads but it is only a tiny bit and to be fair I could get away without but as I'm still in my normal (expensive) bra I don't want to spoil it. No change in size at all. I've gambled with nursing bra sizing and have two ready and waiting.

Dovekie don't feel guilty, you need to do what you think is right. Like Emily said it doesn't mean it is the end of things and it may even help your oh to come to terms with having a baby.

I also had my first dream about actually having a baby here, we were in the hospital and my husband was trying to figure out how to put him in the pram. I didn't actually see him though.

Nearly all my carpets and floors are back down! Woohoo! I can start to put the house back together now and actually get ready. Still got a huge amount of sorting out to do but as long as I prioritise a lot of it can wait. I really need to sort out my clothes and wardrobe but I assume I need to wait a while to see what I want to keep and get rid of, so that is one job delayed for the time being anyway!

 

[Leighwiltshire]

my boobs started leaking around week 30 - not all the time just occasional and when i squeeze haha it freaks the OH out and it did with me too in the beginning as i wasnt expecting it until he was here.

i read somewhere that if your having a boy you leak earlier than if you are expecting a girl.

i had a dream he was born on the 22nd at 5.13am i dont know which month it was tho!

Dovekie you are doing the right thing! and if i had to make the decision or if im in a predicament with him again i would leave in an instant! you and baby come first! xxx