***** May 2015 Mummies to be *****

[blueeyes34]

I seem to have missed lots on here.......Think I have caught up with everything....

Elliott my OH hasn't come to appointments with me, he's terrible with hospitals and the only time he has come with me was when I had the 2nd miscarriage (he was out of the country when I had the first). Sometimes I wish he would come to appointments with me, especially the scans, but then I also know how he changes from a totally normal relaxed person to a total stress head in hospitals, and that's no good for me.

I'm not very hairy anyway, but come to think of it I haven't done my legs for ages and there's hardly anything there, so maybe some truth in it

OBEM - haven't watched this and wondering whether I should or not. Starting to get quite nervous about the birth now. Is it just me, or are you other first time mums feeling a bit worried about the un-known too?

Bigbee, I have started to wake in the night with cramp n my calf and have to stretch it to get rid of it. I woke up one night shouting ow ow ow (OH nearly had a heart attack thinking baby was coming) but I had such painful cramp. Think it's just part and parcel of tri 3 isn't it?

Durham, it sounds like you have plans in place if baby should come whilst you are away from home, so why not. I guess it depends how you feel on the day to.

Cers123 I cried at water coming through our ceiling and seem to be a lot more sensitive about anything thats said lately, so maybe a bit hormonal here too.

Hoep everyone has a good day. I have antenatal class again tonight xx

 

[cers123]

Durham i know what u mean i dont have the patience for my poor baby and hes a handfull and i crack up easy and then cry cos i was a bitch.

Aww blue eyes r u serious thats awful i would most definitely be crying to xxx

 

[buttonbear]

Haha Durham I'd love that too no wonder she does

blueeyes I may have had laboured beforw but I still feel anxious as it's the unknown when things will start etc and how things will go xx

 

[Orion]

For those of you suffering with cramp, have you tried having a glass of milk and a banana before bed? I don't know why it works but I do it every night and no cramp yet.

 

[blueeyes34]

Buttonbear not that I'm happy to hear you are anxious, but happy to hear that it's totally normal to be worried about it My worries (maybe the same as everyone) main one that baby is healthy and delivered safely, but also, ripping or being cut, will I be able to cope with the pain, when will it start (don't want to be driving home along from work for example), will the delivery be straight forward. These are the things at the moment that keep whizzing through my head.


Oh Orion I think I'll try that, often walking up in the night hungry, so it may kill two birds with one stone (odd saying isn't it?!)

Cers - yes annoying true. Plumber has now fixed the leak that he made, but whilst doing it, spilt a whole bucket of water through the floorboards, so made even more mess!! Hoping it will dry without leaving marks as we only had the lounge ceiling re plastered and painted last summer.

I'm struggling to get motivated at work today, so tired and feet are already swollen. In the last week, they have been swelling of an evening but seem to have started early today xx

 

[caseysmummy11]

Morning ladies, the hormones definitely have got me atm I snap and get annoyed over the silliest things and im usually very laid back, I shouted at my little boy for mixing his play doh the other day then cried when I realised it's not that big of deal, I also cry when mu little boy is asleep in bed at how cute he looks cuddled up in his blanket, he still looks like a baby when he sleeps.
I've not had calf cramps but I woke up shouting as I had cramp in my lower bump 2 nights ago when I turned on my side, was awful, my legs feel twitchy when I get into bed though which is annoying as I feel like I can't get them comfy.

Sounds like you've planned things out Durham. I hope all goes well and darcy has a lovely time!

Glad your plumber fixed your leak blueeyes and fingers crossed your left mark free!

Im also nervous about babies birth too, more so about going into labour naturally before csection as need to make a plan for my son, we know who he will be staying with but think me and oh need to discuss a proper plan for if he's in bed and a back up just incase. Also nervous about the csection and the recovery and how long we will be in hospital for. I think it's completely normal to worry about it all though.

My skin on my left hand side of my tummy feels really stretched today, I've got 2 new stretch marks down the side but it's really tender and almost painful when baby a is moving around today. Im going to try and get some house work done whilst my little boy is at nursery today, just need the motivation to clean my grill out!!! Wish me luck. Xxx

 

[Mayflower85]

I am not anxious about the birth (yet!) but after watching last night's OBEM it does have me wondering about how I'll deal with the pain!

 

[Orion]

I'm trying not to focus on the birth. Yes it'll be painful. But as long as baby and I come through it ok, then the pain will have been worth it. If it was that bad there wouldn't be so many people who have more than 1 child, and the pain will be forgotten.

As my midwife said - every contraction brings you one step closer to baby arriving, so be prepared but also try not to focus on the pain and focus on meeting baby instead.

 

[Jessiecat]

Is it strange that i'm a little jealous of all those anxious about when labour will start etc? lol crazy isn't it. Spendind 3 weeks in hospital and having a section on a specific date is just too organised to me, I was really looking forward to having all the "is this it" symptoms that I didn't get to do with my son either. I'm ok with having a section now, I know it's not that important how baby comes out but I love the symptom spotting and i'll be so excited you all of you when we get a bit closer to the time

Is anyone else having an elective (I hate the word i'ts not like it's my choice!) section? Larlybelle? I know there are a couple of others with babies not yet head down but we all still have fingers crossed for you ladies.

Also I don't know if it's being anemic or just heavily pregnant but I went to bed at 9pm, got up at 8am after a reasonably ok night. Took my son to school and by 9.30 I couldn't keep my eyes open a minute longer so went back to bed and woke up at 12!! Why is my body needing this much sleep!!

On a more positive note, we have finished our nursery and my god it's cute even if I do say so myself

 

[buttonbear]

You will be amazed at how well your body CAN cope with the pain as long as you allow your body to do so, afterall it is designed too I had an episiotomy blueeyes and I had no pain relief minus a bit of gas and air but honestly you just forget the pain. You see your baby and it vanishes from your mind . I'm anxious but excited all in one. Well as long as she turns otherwise I will know when I give birth and be having a c-section lol.

Urg I think I am getting the cold again, just got over my last one, also think my little boy is too. Greeeaaattt!!

 

[buttonbear]

Pics Jessiecat!!! I could also sleep for weeks, if my body would let me lol

 

[caseysmummy11]

Orion you do have it spot on there, along with the pain is the excitement of bringing baby into the world and the pain is forgotten when you hold your baby. The best way to look at it is to take it as it comes.

Well shortly after my last post I went to the loo and (sorry tmi) there was a lot of greenish thick discharge, went to tell my oh I was ringing the hospital, rang the hospital and was waiting for a call back I went back to the loo and there was a lot more there, spike to midwife who says ive got to come in fora swab at 2, feeling quite panicky as im not sure what it is, poppedta pad on and haven't had much more but ive been sat down since, I've got no pain apart from tightness in bump when baby moves and the usual hip pain when I walk. Just need to try to relax now xxx

 

[caseysmummy11]

Jessiecat ill be having elective section at 36 weeks if not had them before due to their placenta being shared. Xxx

 

[Mayflower85]

I'm trying not to focus on the birth. Yes it'll be painful. But as long as baby and I come through it ok, then the pain will have been worth it. If it was that bad there wouldn't be so many people who have more than 1 child, and the pain will be forgotten.

As my midwife said - every contraction brings you one step closer to baby arriving, so be prepared but also try not to focus on the pain and focus on meeting baby instead.

I think this is why I am not anxious, baby has to come out some how so what's the point in worrying about it now. I know it's going to hurt, but if I worry and stress about it, it'll just hurt even more? I am actually looking forward to it in a way.

Hope everything is ok Caseysmummy, let us know what the hospital says!

 

[bigbee]

agree with all of you re delivering baby safely! as long as baba comes out unharmed, i don't care if i have to suffer HOWEVER, i am still anxious about the birth... BUT i do keep telling myself, that pain should start off very mild (hopefully), and then become stronger, so it shouldn't be such a shock to the system

re c-sections.... MW at the hospital thought the baby was head down last friday, which means they turned as baba was breech a couple of weeks ago. now i am feeling strong jabs in the ribs again, so not sure whether we are back to breech! will find out tomorrow at the MW appointment.

 

[blueeyes34]

Thanks ladies. I hope you don't mind me saying about being a bit nervous, I feel I can say it on here without being judged I guess like most I won't fully relax until she's safe in our arms. For some reason people seem to be telling me horror stories about birth lately, but just keep focusing on my mums and sisters experiences who all said the same as you, yes it hurts but every contraction is getting you closer to seeing your baby xx

 

[Orion]

It's totally understandable to feel anxious. We all do.

ETA: I've got my 2nd antenatal class tonight all about labour. I'm sure that'll freak me out

 

[blueeyes34]

Our last class was about labour Orion, and we talked about episiotomy, forceps deliveries and ventouse deliveries! xx

 

[Orion]

What freaks me out is my MIL telling me her horrific labour story almost every time we meet, even telling me to warn the midwife about how my hubby's shoulders got stuck etc as if I'm going to have the exact same experience.

Whereas my mum had 3 kids; 2 natural, 1 c section, and she has no horror stories about birth.

 

[Durhamchance]

Orion, I think I'd have to remind your mother in law that you're not giving birth to your husband! Every pregnancy and labour is different.

I'm not even thinking about it this time, what will be will be. And it's so true that you forget as soon as they place baby in your arms