****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[KHTW]

Just added 3 packs of baby nappies to my weekly shop order, hubby insist we should stock up (again...men!) x

I wish I was more organised lol. May start doing this myself!! Xx

I suppose it make sense, especially if on sale x

 

[Shanivy]

Just added 3 packs of baby nappies to my weekly shop order, hubby insist we should stock up (again...men!) x

I wish I was more organised lol. May start doing this myself!! Xx

I suppose it make sense, especially if on sale x

Men can be useful.... sometimes haha! Xx

 

[JemRose]

Been to doctor who insisted that my eyelid isn't swollen and my eyes are symmetrical, they definitely are not. Basically dismissed all my problems saying I just had a headache that could be related to the ear infection I had. I asked for a sick note so I could back it up with work and he said they don't back date sick notes so he'll give me one for today (it literally just says headache on it) and that I'll be better by Monday and can go back to work so he won't sign me off.

Well thank you very much for your shitty help mate. Be great explaining that one to OH yes basically the doctor thinks nothing is wrong and I just have a headache...

 

[_GG_]

Been to doctor who insisted that my eyelid isn't swollen and my eyes are symmetrical, they definitely are not. Basically dismissed all my problems saying I just had a headache that could be related to the ear infection I had. I asked for a sick note so I could back it up with work and he said they don't back date sick notes so he'll give me one for today (it literally just says headache on it) and that I'll be better by Monday and can go back to work so he won't sign me off.

Well thank you very much for your shitty help mate. Be great explaining that one to OH yes basically the doctor thinks nothing is wrong and I just have a headache...

Well I'd have offered him an appointment at Specsavers, lol. Seriously, you don't have to accept what you think is poor service. Call the surgery back and ask for a second opinion with a different gp.

 

[Shanivy]

Been to doctor who insisted that my eyelid isn't swollen and my eyes are symmetrical, they definitely are not. Basically dismissed all my problems saying I just had a headache that could be related to the ear infection I had. I asked for a sick note so I could back it up with work and he said they don't back date sick notes so he'll give me one for today (it literally just says headache on it) and that I'll be better by Monday and can go back to work so he won't sign me off.

Well thank you very much for your shitty help mate. Be great explaining that one to OH yes basically the doctor thinks nothing is wrong and I just have a headache...

Well I'd have offered him an appointment at Specsavers, lol. Seriously, you don't have to accept what you think is poor service. Call the surgery back and ask for a second opinion with a different gp.

Yeah I'd be very bloody surprised if what you've been describing the past week is a headache. I'd go for a 2nd opinion too. I would have said Um I know what my own fucking face looks like normally thanks. He sounds useless xx

 

[JemRose]

Sent a picture of my eye to my mum and it honestly looks like the elephant man or something haha. I'm so bored of seeing doctors I'm just gonna try and sleep off the headache and ignore the world for the weekend lol x

 

[LuckyLaura]

Hey everyone Im a bit early to be over on this thread but since the other one has kinda faded away, hope you don't mind if I come across early!

I just read through like 30 pages of posts! Jemrose I really hope you are feeling better, the GP sounds like a joke and not taking it seriously at all- I defo wouldnt be telling your OH the doctor thinks its just a headache when your OH finally seems to have come around to supporting you and understanding that youre not just lazy and trying to chill at home off work.

I had a GP a while back who was most unconcerned about health which confused me as youd really think a doctor would be. My mum fosters and I was going to see the GP about these pins and needles id been getting in my back and id taken the male twin my mum fosters with me cuz we were worried he had tonsilitis. The doctor completely dismissed both of us, said the guy was fine blah blah wouldn't want to give antibiotics as it would be overkill. Like 2 days later we had him at A&E and he was being given penicillin and could barely breathe his throat was closing over. GPs seem to think they are the end all be all but they're only human and they can be completely wrong. I learnt that from my time in India too where the doctors there are either fabulous or really really scary.

I can see some ladies are beginning to think of purchases for their wee one I think me and OH got ahead of ourselves but we used the Jan sales and xmas sales wisely and we have a silver cross travel system and car seat with isofix base, and also the tommee tippee perfect prep and their steriliser kit so between the two have quite a few bottles too- I think as first time parents we reckon if we have safe transport to bring the baby home and can feed it then we can't be doing that badly? I also have my preganncy pillow which has been nicknamed the snake

I've been quite absent from this forum as ive been so poorly, been on a sick line from work and its until the 17th cuz I can barely function without throwing up everywhere and the GP is worried about me not eating or drinking ever. Ive tried ginger biscuits, rochester ginger drink, anti sickness tablets- 2 types, anti sickness bands, eating little and often, plain food, and hydrating as much as I can. Then there were the protein and ketone traces in my urinalysis which was concerning.

At my 12 week booking appointment they put me on aspirin and are worried about baby size, which I was feeling much more reassured about after talking to a friend of mine from uni who has 3 children and had been told the same but she says they cant really get an accurate reading of the size at 11 weeks which was what I was when they took the reading. She said she was told that with all her 3 but when she went to the next scan they all measured fine.

For food im really struggling. I miss pate as thats one thing i can always eat, like I dont have many foods I could live on but pate and tuna are two which i cant eat and with tuna ive been told to limit to once a week. So at the end of all the nausea and sickness, exhaustion to the point i can barely move and then being told to eat more im really struggling to find food i can even stomach to think of never mind to actually put in my face and then the crucial part, to keep in there!

Sorry for the long post, just been feeling really down and crying all the time. Ive been almost bed bound for days and i think its getting to me- don't even feel human anymore!

xx

 

[JemRose]

Oh Laura honestly that all sounds so horrible and scary. I feel like I got off lightly now with the nausea I had. I'm surprised they haven't tried to put you on a drip or something to make sure you're getting fluids and nutrition etc! The baby might just be small at the min cos you're so ill and can't eat? I don't know much about it.
My friend has hyperemesis and I know she's really struggling and been in and out of hospital.
I really feel for you Laura I hope you get better soon, the baby at the end will be worth it xxxx

 

[LuckyLaura]

Oh Laura honestly that all sounds so horrible and scary. I feel like I got off lightly now with the nausea I had. I'm surprised they haven't tried to put you on a drip or something to make sure you're getting fluids and nutrition etc! The baby might just be small at the min cos you're so ill and can't eat? I don't know much about it.
My friend has hyperemesis and I know she's really struggling and been in and out of hospital.
I really feel for you Laura I hope you get better soon, the baby at the end will be worth it xxxx

They have been monitoring it and my GP has said that if it gets worse or if my urinalysis gets worse they might have to consider sending me to the hospital but if i could try to eat more and ensure I'm drinking lots then I might just avoid it. My GP is amazing, he's known me all my life and he knows I'm rarely ill and if I am then he takes every little thing I say very seriously which is really helpful and reassuring.

I've also been having a lot of cramps and pains...they worried me a lot at the start but then I realised in the midst of all this I've become quite constipated and I now think maybe they're related to that rather than the baby. I still get aches and twinges tho down in my uterus which definitely are where the baby is but I had my scan on the 8th Jan and they said everything looks normal and healthy apart from they're worried that the baby might start to fall into the lower end of sizes for it's gestational age if that makes sense. I guess they must have a range of sizes considered normal for the stage of pregnancy I am at and it must be at the lower end of the range.

They also said my blood pressure was high and with the traces of protein in my urinalysis and that I've never had high blood pressure before, plus it's been checked 3 times since start of Dec and been fine, I guess they're cautious about pre-eclampsia? But I thought that would happen later in the pregnancy if at all? Seems very early to have so many issues Feel like my body isn't all that healthy I guess.

I forgot to add, Shanivy, that my due date is still 25th July as I had calculated myself At the scan they confirmed it of course it might change but so far it's stayed constant. xx

 

[Shanivy]

Hey Laura I've added you in

Jeez that's a lot to deal with! I have blood pressure issues too and I get how it's worrying. Better to be safe than sorry you could go to your next appointment and all could be fine. Sounds like you're very stressed with all of this to deal with. Which I imagine doesn't help blood pressure. If it's been checked before then I'd guess you're more likely to have it from the stress. Fx. It's great you have a good doctor though. Makes all the difference

My sickness was bad this time. Still throwing up now but feeling more human. But hopefully in a week or two it starts to ease up. It's hard to feel normal in first trimester. Some women like you definitely get it worse than others. I have no appetite whatsoever right now after weeks of nausea and sickness and it's frustrating. With the hormones, sickness and issues it's easy to get down. I'm sorry you feel like that. If it gets really bad mention it to your midwife but hopefully once 2nd tri kicks in you'll feel better

Wow sounds like you're well prepared lol.

Cramps are normal though they can be worrying. Mine have been worse 2nd time around because the muscles heal after 1st preg and break again with 2nd . Fun stuff. And in early preg it's hard to tell where they're actually coming from. Until you go to the bathroom and realise ohh right yeah definitely constipation lol. Try prune juice for that honestly I swear by it. If not get a stool softener from the pharmacy, midwife or doc. Pharmacy are great for help with pregnancy meds.

Not really very helpful but welcome to 2nd tri and feel free to moan about it all to us xx

 

[KHTW]

Welcome Laura! x

Sorry to hear you still struggle with food, honestly this is one of the worst pregnancy symptoms. I hope you can find some more foods that you enjoy and try to eat more of them. I know it is nearly impossible to force yourself to eat but you have to eat xx It sounds like they are keeping an eye on you so that's good!

And well done for using sales to your advantage and buying all the stuff you did. It costs a fortune but is also great fun haha X

 

[PeanutButter]

Jem, get a second opinion. He should be taking it more seriously since your pregnant, what a dick.

Just got back from the Drs, had to call my husband from work to come pick is up from there cos I couldn't stand without feeling faint. Dr said it was the flu! She said dd seems OK need to give her water if she still refuses milk, and keep an eye on her over the weekend. Need rest and fluids. Joys.

 

[KHTW]

Oh PB, I was hoping it wasn't the flu! Definitely get as much rest as possible and look after yourself and DD

 

[KHTW]

To those who are considering buying next to me type crib; This one is on sale.

https://www.groupon.co.uk/deals/kin...MImMaMm7zS2AIVyuMbCh2EjATlEAQYASABEgJNXPD_BwE

 

[LuckyLaura]

Thanks everyone.. It feels better already to have ranted it out here altho I'm always concious of coming across super negative. I swear I actually wanted this pregnancy haha

I've been super stressed out due to all of this and then family drama cuz my family are nuts, the fact we are squashed with no space into one bedroom and my husband worries me a lot. He's really stressed out at the moment and he keeps not telling me things so as not to stress me but I know somethings up and it stresses me more cuz my imagination goes wild. He was getting racist grief in work for over a week before he told me about it and trying to deal with it alone (been resolved now and the guy is gone) I woke today at 4.30am this morning to pee and he was awake just lying in bed he's always exhausted. I think he's feeling like he's not providing for us cuz we are in a financial mess and we don't have our own place. He keeps talking about getting a second job in the evening but we would see so little of each other I just don't know what to do cuz he's such a sweetheart and I hate seeing him beating himself up he'd told me before he'd ruined my life cuz if I'd just found a UK guy I wouldn't have had to go through all the immigration disaster high court shit for 2 years and we wouldn't be in debt up to our eyeballs... I'd rather have him tho he's the best xx

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[KHTW]

Laura as long as you guys have each other and support one another through all this, you'll be fine. Try talking to him, he may open up x

 

[Shanivy]

Jem, get a second opinion. He should be taking it more seriously since your pregnant, what a dick.

Just got back from the Drs, had to call my husband from work to come pick is up from there cos I couldn't stand without feeling faint. Dr said it was the flu! She said dd seems OK need to give her water if she still refuses milk, and keep an eye on her over the weekend. Need rest and fluids. Joys.

Ah shit just what you need!! Was hoping it was something else. Glad dd seems okay with it I have everything crossed it passes quickly for you. I'm sure you'll take stellar care of dd but don't forget to take care of yourself PB . xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

Laura as long as you guys have each other and support one another through all this, you'll be fine. Try talking to him, he may open up x

I've tried everything haha asking him, hinting, talking about how stressful things are in general to try open up the topic and make sure he knows he doesn't have to deal with it alone,mostly I just try to non stop reassure him that things are better -than he thinks and it's all going to be okay. I constantly show him the amazing financial progress we make. I like to tell him when things are paid off and gone cuz he relaxes a wee while. We've blasted through more than half of our immense debt in the past 6 months and we aren't having to borrow more so the only way is down! Haha xx

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[Shanivy]

To those who are considering buying next to me type crib; This one is on sale.

https://www.groupon.co.uk/deals/kin...MImMaMm7zS2AIVyuMbCh2EjATlEAQYASABEgJNXPD_BwE

I'm going for the Jane side sleep but that's one great deal!

Tommee tippee complete steriliser set also going on sale for £60 in toysrus right now

 

[LuckyLaura]

Jem, get a second opinion. He should be taking it more seriously since your pregnant, what a dick.

Just got back from the Drs, had to call my husband from work to come pick is up from there cos I couldn't stand without feeling faint. Dr said it was the flu! She said dd seems OK need to give her water if she still refuses milk, and keep an eye on her over the weekend. Need rest and fluids. Joys.

I'm sorry to hear that you have the flu! Really hope u feel better soon xx

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