yes, well, we were making up for lost time. I have vestibulodynia, and have spent much of the past ten years being shuttled from one consultant to another, being given anaesthetic gels, antidepressants to suppress the neervous system so I wouldn't feel pain, biopsies and goodness knows what else. We'd only bd'ed four times in the past decade before last month, when I was getting desperate!
At one point, we were told that if we wanted to conceive naturally, I'd have to have a local anaesthetic late afternoon to 'knock the bits out' and then try that night. DH didn't really like that idea, and I wasn't too keen either.
Finding out about my cycle, and charting, has really helped - seems everything's much less painful during the fertile time, though I wouldn't say it's pleasurable yet, plus we used pre-seed for the first time this month and that's made a massive difference to what I can tolerate. DH has been making the most of it!
This is a bit TMI, and it's not something I'm used to talking about
, but I really hope that if someone else puts 'vestibulodynia' in the search engine, they'll get some hope from this - I couldn't find anything positive anywhere. If - WHEN! - I get my BFP, I'll do a full post somewhere to raise awareness and say what helps me. I know there must be others out there wondering if they can ever have kids because they can't even BD, and you feel like such a failure. I spent our wedding night crying because I couldn't work out why DH had married me. So - that's why I don't want to get too excited, it would be a bloomin' miracle if we managed to conceive this cycle, but I'm keeping my fingers crossed, and hope this helps someone else to be optimistic if they find it! (and they're very welcome to PM me).
Kitty
My ideal temping time is 6 - I woke up just before 2, then just before 4, decided that on less than 2 hrs sleep there was no point testing at 4, it would be the same prob at 6 anyway, rolled over, and woke again at... 5. Knowing I was too awake to get an hour in before the alarm went, I tested at 5 and got 36.54 deg C. Around 5:45, I drifted off again, woke up at 6:20, and temped at 36.64. I've gone with the earlier temp, as it was a longer and more solid block of sleep - but the later temp would have looked better!
Hurrah, sounds like it could all be solved by Christmas and you could make a new year baby! unless it solves itself before then 
for the past couple of days
) and finally at 6
0, but what a difference a bit of sleep makes!
Anyway, he's put a bottle of champagne in the fridge for when AF turns up, so I guess that's worth looking forward to 
as she runs off to search tww.com
