Chart Stalkers May 2008

Hia ladies

Im really sorry that you are having such a tough time of it. I just wish there was something I could do. I understand why you might want some time out but I didnt want any of you to go off for a break without me having a chance to wish you all the luck in the world.

I think Chartstalkers are amazing; dedicated, passionate and so caring towards each other. I know we will make fantastic mums because we want it so badly but it is just so unfair that some have to wait longer than others. :(

I hope you dont mind me writing this because I am lucky enough to have had my BFP recently but I just wanted to tell you all that you are always in my thoughts and that I am sending lots of babydust to everyone on here :hug:
 
We started TTC in Oct 2006 with Nov being my first BFN. I kinda ruled out the 1st few months having been on the pill for 9 years. I fell pg in Sept 2007 but then m/c at 6weeks and 6days.

I think I don't have a problem falling pg as every other month I get all the symptoms that I had when 1st pg and I didn't know, but they stop as soon as I start spotting. My LP is really worrying me but my doc doesn't want to know about my charts.

I had 2 CDday 21 blood tests done. The 1st one sugeested I hadn't ov'd because my progesterone was so low, but FF showed I clearly did. The second on was around 50so mid range. I've tried to tell the doc but no go, he just keeps telling me to be patient. I've got another blood test form but don't want to delay starting the progesterone cream I ordered so will leave it for now. I don't know what else I can do. I'd love to go private but can't afford it. I just want to know everything is ok. I have private medical insurance, where you pay for the treatment and they reimburse you. DH says to ring them to see if they'll cover it. If I knew everything was fine I would be happy to just wait.

Now I have this pain in my RHS all the time, like OV pains, I'm wondering if I should just fake the pain level go to A& E and let them give me an ultrasound!!!! :wall: :wall: :wall:

Sorry to rant but I don't know what else to do. My body post M/C is definitely different but I can't get my GP to take me seriously.
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my doc was interested in the charts, but not at all bothered about the luteal phase of 11 days (spotting on the 10th). He reckons that when I get pg (love the 'when'!), it won't be an issue, on the grounds that when the egg is fertilised, the body produces a hormone called EPF (early pregnancy factor) and that this is what stops the lining being shed until the blastocyst implants and HCG takes over. So he doesn't believe in 'luteal phase defect' - unless it's incredibly short, like 3 or 4 days. He thinks anything over a week is normal. Don't know if that reassures you?

I think you need to push with your doctor. Or change doctors. You've been trying well over a year and you're 32... I'm 32 this summer, which is another reason why my doc told me to go back in 3 months if we haven't conceived.

Ok, a stupid question, but have you ruled out endometriosis?

btw - I was led to understand that progesterone in 50s is excellent. Anything over 15 suggests ovulation, albeit weak/poor quality; >30 is normal/ideal/what they want to see (hence some doctors will view <30>50 is excellent. So progesterone might not be the problem?
 
That sounds reassuring. I thought about Endo but I don't have enough symptoms to think serously about it. I dunno. Maybe I just need a break and a rethink. Thanks for the info.

By the sound of it my doc doesn't know that much about fertility. Will try one of the others in the practice and see what they say.
 
Trudy I dont know if you could do what we did but our doctor referred us to see the infertility specialist privately - we had a 10 minute consultation and he immediately referred us back to the NHS. Now it doesnt sit too comfortably with me that we were able to pay £150 to "jump" the waiting list but in our circumstances it was definately the "right" thing to do.

On a personal note - AF is just like normal - I just hope this means my cycles are going to get back to normal now!! :D
 
Sending lots of hugs and babydust to all my chatstalker friends :hug: :hug: :hug:

We will all get there in the end :pray:
Love you all and hope this weekend is a good one xxx
 
Thanks for all the hugs and advice guys. I might do what you suggest ROM. £150 isn't too bad. It's just if I have to have all the tests it'd soon mount up. Once I know everything is fine, then I'll be resigned to the fact I have to wait.

ROM - glad AF is back to normal. Once she's out the door you can start BDing like there's no tomorrow!!!! :lol:
 
Good Morning Fellow Chartstalkers!

Well AF is here. She came during the night. I had a work function/party yesterday afternoon/evening and everyone was drinking, and I couldn't. It was so boring not to have even one beer knowing that AF would 99% for sure show up today but being worried about that 1% chance that she might not. I can't say I was in the head space to enjoy it. And there was karaoke (Latin style) and I really don't like the music here, so that annoyed me even more! They are into this style called Vallenato. It is accordian, drums and guitar. I hate it. Not a fan of the accordian. It is very odd that in Latin America the accordian achieved such heights of fame. There's a story about some German that immigrated here at the turn of the 20th century and brought his accordian out and somehow got them all hooked. It's only big on the Colombian and Venezuelan Caribbean coast.

Anyway, so this wasn't my month after all. Turns out my body likes the 15 day LP better than the 12. So if I forget ladies, you'll have to remind me that I am banned from testing from now on until 16DPO.

I'm ok with it as I had my depressed day yesterday. For the first time really, DH was completely let down that it was a BFN. He said he couldn't work yesterday once he saw the temp drop and so spent the day cleaning out all the drawers and cupboards in the apartment. Bless! He doensn't want to stop trying, even for a few months, as now he realises how much he wants a baby. He wants to push on with the clomid to give us more of a chance. I think the doc will up the dose now as he didn't seem very impressed with my 1 follicle last month. So I guess as long as I'm here I might as well take advantage of the reduced cost to have fertility treatment and the fact that I am already in it. Once I get home I have no idea how this kind of thing would work, and what they would have me do.

I have one more month here before we leave for the UK. We leave on the 15th of June. So that's one more cycle I can do on the clomid and hormones. Then for the trip I am away for another month and so will talk to the doc about what to do for that cycle if the next doesn't work. I imagine that if he monitors me with ultrasound again this month and everything looks fine, then I could just go ahead and take the meds without monitoring for the third month. I don't have PCOS so seem less likely to develop cysts on clomid.

Oh ladies, so sorry to rant and go on. Just thinking out loud (on electronic paper???) and you're the lucky ones I am sharing with :rotfl:

Kitty, we leave to return to Oz on the 19th of August. Once we get back from Europe I have 5 weeks here and DH 4 weeks. He is staying on after me to go to a conference in Vienna. We have friends here the whole time though as from next week so that might make it all more difficult.

Sorry again to go on. I hope you are all enjoying your weekend. Is the weather still good? I hope not too good, as I want it to be nice for my trip in June. So please don't use up all of your British sunshine before then!

Hope you Ov soon Loola and catch that eggie! :hug:

Trudy, Kitty's doc seems to know what he's talking about. I like the advice and knowledge he shares with her, and she in turn with us, so you are probably fine. Your attitude is nice an positive, and like you said, you got pregnant before so you will again. It is just a matter of time :hug:

Kitty, glad it went well and you are happy with the plan to wait a few more months. It sounds the most sensible and logical course of action in your case. Plus you've been out of action trying for a few months so even though it is coming up to a year now (? is that right) you haven't had that many chances. Hopefully your cycle will be normal again this next one.

Hi to Polly, ROM and anyone else I missed. :wave:
 
Sookie - so sorry AF got you hun :hug:

No sign of ovulation at all for me. Ive had the creamiest CM Ive ever had today and all OPKs definitely negative. Its a good job really as I have a friend staying with us for the next few days so couldnt get any BDing done anyway. I wonder if it will have happened by next Weds trip to the Dr? :think: Im not stressed in the slightest, in fact Im the most chilled out Ive felt in years at the moment. Ive realised that there is no need to have a baby immediately, we can wait as long as it takes. I still want to find out if there is a problem with either of our fertility now though of course.

Think Im just going to start throwing caution to the wind. Not take any contraception, BD when we feel like it, no more charting etc. It will happen when its meant to happen :)
 
Hello All,

Sorry I haven't been on much been away this week training people in Essex so away from home & no access to a pc :(

Did take my temp everyday and have just inputted them on FF and it has put in that i ov'd this week on day 28 (Thursday). Wish I had put the info in when I got back on Friday night as we might have caught the egg if I had realised and we did some bd. But I have been busy tidying up as we have had builders in and they are finished so been dusting & hoovering like crazy!

Still I guess its good news as I can prepare better for next cycle and i'm going to try pre-seed as this seems to have worked for a lot of people recently.
 
just a quickie hope your all ok :hug: xxxxxxxx

sookie sorry af got you hun xxxxxxxxxx
 
Hi all.

:hug: :hug: :hug: to Sookie - I had hoped this was it for you.

So what's the clomid for, did they decide what the problem was? For some reason I thought you had PCOS, but clearly not. How frustrating for you.

I don't know about everyone else, but I'll miss the snippets of Colombian life! Are you going to stay with us when you return to Oz, or are you going to desert us for an Australian site? :shakehead: :evil: :lol:
 
Hello everybody! Well the run went great. Kitty I did it in 1h1min 31 secs, Dh did it in 1h2mins 41secs. I'm hooked gonna train for a half marathon next. It's shown me that if I stop focusing on TTC then I can have a great life. I'm going to continue temping as the knowledge it gives me is great. I'll go private just to make sure everything is ok then like Loola just take it a day at a time.

So sorry AF got you Sookie. I realy thought it was your month :hug: :hug:
Glad you're so positive and you too Loola. You're both right it will happen and until it does life is to be lived to the full.

Hope everyone else is ok.
 
Trudy, that's great! And brilliant that your DH did it too - how's he feeling?

My advice on half-marathons is pick an autumn one - you so do not want to be running 13 miles in August if there's a heatwave! But if you fancy a weekend away, a race that I've done a couple of times and really enjoyed is the Amsterdam half-marathon. It's in October and is a flat course (unsurprisingly). Use runnersworld.co.uk to find some events...

You're really putting me to shame. I've done virtually no exercise recently, I have so much work on! I've been building a website and forum for an academic society I belong to and it's proving quite time-consuming - I don't really know what I'm doing! But I'm determined that I will make time to go for a swim later.
 
:hug: sorry af got you sookie :hug:

trudy well done :clap: my dh is training for a mens 10k run in june :rotfl: it always makes me laugh as i never ever thought he would do it but he has actually been doing training every night bless him, he is just working himself up going for a run one night then on his bike the next and he actually seems alot happier and more energy than before. :oops: i must admit i have never had the energy to go for a run.
 
Hi Ladies,

I think that I have decided not to temp this month and see if it means that I am any less obsessive in the 2WW. I will still pop in to see you all though!

The ob/gyn has upped the dose of clomid to 100mg as he wants more follicles. Kitty, a hormone imbalance is the conclusion. Of course once I go home I will still be sticking around here. Although I might have to find an Aussie forum as well to cope with the time difference.

OK, off to work. Have a nice day everyone.
 
Morning everyone :wave:


Just a really quick one to say I lost another 3 lbs this week - did have a very bad food day on Friday (discovered my in-laws eat so much on a day out with them :) )

We are off to the fertility clinic at 1.30 pm today, not sure what will happen as obviously my long awaited AF turned up last week but I suspect they will do a load of blood tests etc. Dont see the actual consultant until Aug 4th so today is just with the nurses. Then we go and pick up Han - she has had her last exam and is off to Turkey on the 15th June to work for 6 months so it will be lovely to have her home for 3 weeks :D . I will let you know what happened tomorrow :D

Lots of love to you all - not got time to stalk as I have to fit 8 hours work into 4!!! Business is so busy I am meeting myself coming backwards :D
 
Well done with the diet ROM and good luck today :hug:
Hope they dont take too much blood - Owch!
 

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