******August 2014 mummies******

[mum2b410]

Glad it went better than anticipated Lottie! Annoying about the wait but that's the thing with gbs isn't it- have to be checked at the right time! Here's hoping its all clear and u get to b at home!!

Mummy_midwife- all the best in completing that tonight! And hoping that once u get past the weekend life resumes a bit more normality for u again! We miss u on here!

Can't believe I'm saying goodbye to tri 2 tonight!!..... Been an up and down trimester for me what with the bleeding fiasco between 15-18 weeks and then the high of finding out the gender and 20 week scan to then the braxton hicks scare this week!! I'm hoping tri 3 might b more plain sailing- but I doubt it!!!..... Will def still b in here regularly til we r all over in tri 3 together xxx

 

[Mummy_midwife]

Aw GBS don't like it for many reasons! Hope it all clears lottielou

Thanks mum2b, I am hoping I will get back to normal soon !

It sure has been quite a trimester for you, but the 3rd is the fun one- albeit with all the discomforts it brings- but is the time to get ready and do all the practical things !!!! Congratulations on the milestone hun, I hope I will get to tri 3, I will be absolutely over the moon if I can join you all there! Thanks for starting the thread xxxx

 

[mum2b410]

U will be there hun- I'm sure if it! Got your seat ready and waiting!..... Saw your bump pic too- amazing!!

 

[Mummy_midwife]

Thanks, too big though hun, I think I need a belt soon to support the weight :/ I so hope I will join you there, please do keep a seat warm and enjoy the last bit of the ride xxxx

 

[Lanny1981]

Thanks for starting the tri 3 thread mum2b 1 I am in there with you from Tuesday.
Mummy midwife 1 good luck with getting your work done.

I've just txt my tutor and asked for the morning off ( tomoz is my 11hr day) & she said yeah thts fine, I dnt think I would last all day so high praise to all you guys still working .

Had a very emotionally draining day today so maybe thts why I feel pants - it was my friends funeral today .
Not been sleeping well last couple of weeks as my lower back /left hip area are in agony, - but knew they would as tore all the ligaments in my left leg when I was 18, and tore the ligaments in both ankles on many occasions so just put it down to ligaments being weak and moving etc.

On the plus side when I got home today OH had started on the back garden - it's a mammoth task our garden is 100ft long and 48ft wide, and had done all the housework including washing etc.

 

[Mummy_midwife]

Aw bless you Lanny, how sore it sounds with all your ligaments good of your oh to do all the work at the house, I would love mine to tackle the back garden , he has bought a shed to be put up over a year ago so we could get more stuff out the house, but he won't put it up nor will he pay for anyone to do it grrrrrrr lucky you
Sorry bout your friend, so sad

I managed to finish my work tonight yay now tomorrow starting on something else boooo!

Got cakes, balloons, banners and 2 mini cans of coke for kids ( they are only allowed fizzy juice on birthdays and christmas) all ready downstairs for the double birthday tomorrow , both DH and DD will be celebrating their joint birthday , can't wait for DD's face in the morning.

Xxxx

 

[Happy84]

Morning ladies
Need some advice & just to vent. at the beginning of my pregnancy I was moved to a different setting at work as 1 of the children carried a serious pregnancy threatening condition. I've been there 2 mths now & I really hate it. It's making me miserable. I've been feeling so so low & stressed because of it. I keep breaking down to my partner, I just want to sleep when I get home, I'm not eating properly. Every day is a huge struggle to get thru there. My partners told me he doesn't want me to go bk there as my health & pregnancy are more important. I'm ringing in sick today & want to schedule a meeting with my area managers. I don't kno what they can do for me, but I don't want to go bk there. I'm really worried about the whole thing & what they'll say. Does anyone kno how long you can be off sick for before your maternity leave automatically kicks in? Is it 4wks? Anyone have any advice?x

 

[mum2b410]

Mummy_midwife- well done for getting it done in time! I hope today goes well!

Lanny- sorry you've had such a tough day yesterday. Funerals r hard at the best of times I am suffering with hip pain too- u have my complete sympathy!

Happy- I remember the situation from when u first had problems with work and they couldn't decide if u were at risk or not!....... I think u r right to have a meeting and c what can b done! U have given it a good two months and if u aren't happy u need to say something- maybe there is an alternative? If u don't ask u don't know eh?..... I honestly don't know about the off sick time- I have a feeling its 4 weeks consecutively but I can't remember! Could u speak to your HR dept? Or us it in your works maternity policy? That's where I'd be looking.
At the end of the day as hard as us women find it hard to out ourselves first u r clearly not coping v well and u need to prioritise yours and the babies health!...... I was a bit like this in my job when I was pregnant with Ethan- I took annual leave where I could and left at 34 weeks. Hope u can get a plan sorted so u feel better! *hugs* xxx

 

[Happy84]

I'm struggling to work out what to do. If I take sick leave I think it'll affect my mat pay. Been debating being off sick & then taking mat leave as early as allowed which is may 25th. But it massively affects finances.

 

[mum2b410]

Its not an easy decision hun- but before u decide about whether to go off sick u need to speak to your manager to see if anything can be done- once u know that u can make a more informed choice xxx

 

[keeptrying14]

Hey girls hope ur all well. Sorry haven't been on in a few days. Bit of a sad situation today my friend is 3 months pregnant and went for her scan this morning. The gist of the txt was it's not good baby is really small had to have an internal done. I said did u see it on internal and she said yes with a heartbeat etc. does anyone know how small it has to be not to be able to see it on a normal ultrasound? Feel so sorry for her don't know what to say tbh xxx

 

[mum2b410]

Hi keeptrying- that's so sad :-/ Honestly I don't know! I would guess by about 8-9 weeks maybe it's visible with an external?? Maybe she is a month out in what she thought her dates were?? X

 

[keeptrying14]

She's def right on dates as she came off pill and got a bfp 4 weeks later. She sent me a pic and it looks like a baby but the face and head doesn't seem as defined as my one. Just feel really sad for her. They are sending her to the gyno next week for a scan. I just keep being positive saying it has a hb and things what else so u say. Anyway how r u doing mum2b? Xxx

 

[mum2b410]

Will keep fingers crossed for her too! I'm just helping a friend through her sixth miscarriage- v hard when u r pregnant yourself!..... I'm ok- OH being a bit of an are to me this morning but has now text me to apologise (which he usually doesn't do!) So feeling a bit better now!..... Had a busy day with 3 toddlers in my living room this morning and then Ethan and an 8 month old this afternoon! Now trying to cook dinner and will b on my own for bed time routine as OH works late Thursdays! Think I will collapse in a heap tonight!!

Hope u r ok? How's the sickness doing? Any signs of it going for good?? Xx

 

[keeptrying14]

It's really hard almost feel guilty don't u. Just hope it works out for her. 3 toddlers sounds full on! Bet ur exhausted! I take my hat of to any mummies who are pregnant and have a toddler to look after. I just about manage to look after myself at the mo lol. I'm ok thanks still being sick but only 2 times a day now so much better than it was, still get upset some days but u just have to deal with it really xx

 

[mum2b410]

Bless u- even twice a day is bad enough!!......Yes, feel guilty for sure! So hard! Hopefully your friend will be ok though xx

 

[mum2b410]

Posted my last bump pic in tri2 today......its a close up shot- I look huge! :-/

 

[keeptrying14]

Just seen amazing bump!! I still feel small but guess it's coz of sickness and coz it's my first maybe xx

 

[mum2b410]

I have put in too much weight hun- its def not all baby with me! Certainly show more earlier with second! Bet u by the end u will feel huge

 

[kanga86]

I thought they could only automatically start your maternity leave if you were off in the last 4 weeks of pregnancy so 36weeks onwards. Jemfox in the hg thread in pregnancy chat is signed off sick til 36weeks and then her mat leave is starting and she has hardly been in work her whole pregnancy. Hope you can come up with a solution with your manager happy xx