• May 2016 Mummies •

[jenni16]

I still haven't given an actual date for starting Mat leave yet....I asked my manager what holiday I'd got left and was going to work it around that, she hasn't got back to me so I haven't bothered. She's only just given me back the forms I need to send off to claim for maternity allowance after lots of pestering so they can wait. Plus they're never there for me to speak to anyway so what can I do! I've had enough of the place, can't wait to leave now! Xxx

 

[jenni16]

That's just reminded me to fill out the rest of the forms - she's filled all the dates in wrong!!! I don't even know what she's done, none of the dates she's out make any sense. Can I change it do you think it have I got to ask her to do it again?

 

[Jojo84]

Well spoke to deputy thismorning and said I couldn't go in due to feeling like routine was trying to shave the bond off my pubic bone or something and all the BH I had. I was really anxious so she rang manager who was mortified and said it had slipped her mind so I have holiday from next week then onto mat leave after that. I'm now done with work until jan 2017

 

[Eaw123]

I wish I finishing soon. Totally had enough. I'm booked to leave in 7 weeks time

 

[jenni16]

Fab news Jojo

I've just seen a post on the chats page on Facebook for our town, my 'stepmum' has shared a post about a woman trying to find her dad. Quite ironic when she's one of the reasons I've never had anything to do with my own dad....so tempted to comment on it but no idea what to say without sounding like a total bitch haha. Any ideas? Xxx

 

[Emmam1982]

I'm on sick leave bit wish I was still at work as it made the time go quicker although a 12 hour shift would kill me now I think.
Hope everyone's getting on ok....crazy to think that it's March this week x

 

[Jojo84]

My son is 2 on Thursday... I can't believe it! Where does the time go?

 

[andreatav]

So sorry for your losses. Never an easy thing emotionally, and with your hormones I'm sure your all over the place.
I've been at my parents for the weekend and just come home. I'm really upset, it's the first time I've seen them in roughly 8 weeks and leaving was so hard, I had such a nice time and I'm now seriously wanting to move back to Scarborough(live in Leeds, good 90min drive and roughly 75miles) I miss my family, but my OH, won't consider moving, his Dad isn't in the greatest of health but he has lots of family that help him out. And there's his job, he won't consider a job transfer either. Do you think it's just my hormones making me feel like this, I'm just worrying that I'll struggle as well when lo is born.xx

 

[Jojo84]

I think it's your hormones and also mature worry about having a baby. It makes you want to be close to people in case you feel like you can't cope, but you WILL cope and it will be fine

 

[andreatav]

I just can't stop crying. I FaceTime them about 3 times a week. My OH has just gone out with his mate for a bit. I just want him here to cuddle me and reassure me that everything will be ok and we'll be fine and we'll cope etc. xx

 

[jenni16]

These hormones have a lot to answer for! And worrying about our babies and how we'll cope with such a big change in our lives, we've all been there and it's hard! I've been stressing loads the last few weeks, worrying about how I'll cope with two under two, especially with Rich being away sooo much lately, we're lucky if he's home one night in the week at the minute! I'm just so desperate to move to be closer to family who can (hopefully!) help us out a bit. I'm stressing about moving, so keep thinking maybe we should leave it for a bit, but then I think of how we really need more space, and what if I end up having a c-section and not being able to drive for 6 weeks+, if we move back home at least family are nearby and I can walk most places unlike here. We're only half an hour away from 'home' but even that feels too far when you just want to pop out quickly and see someone, so I really feel for you being so far away from your family. Like Jojo said, you will be fine yes, it would be nicer and probably easier being nearer family, but you're not all that far away really, and they're only on the end of the phone if you need someone to talk to. But if you really do want to move, just keep on at your partner and let him know how much it means to you. At the end of the day, you'll be the one at home with baby needing the support so he needs to be willing to make some changes to try and make it all a bit easier on you.

Goodness, sorry that was so long!
Xxx

 

[jenni16]

We had our 4D scan this afternoon, baby decided to make us work for it as usual!! I've done a thread in tri 3 with some pics xxx

 

[andreatav]

Thanks jenni, we've had a bit of a falling out with regards to moving closer and he is adamant we won't be moving closer. Tbh I haven't got the energy atm to fight with him. Is anybody else paranoid/jealous, my oh went round to do an install on a guys car...the guy was away on holiday so he had to go to the guys Mrs house...he didn't tell me and slipped up last night, and for some reason I got really jealous asking if he fancied her and if he'd cheated!!! I have no idea why...I know he wouldn't cheat, but we aren't been sexually active(haven't been for at least 6 weeks, I just don't want to as I feel huge) so we fell out over that. :'(
Jenni if you can I'd move before baby arrives, I'm glad our move is out the way(didn't have much choice but hey ho!) as you'll have so much to do with a new born never mind packing for a move!!xx

 

[Emmam1982]

Can completely relate to the jealousy thing and the no sex drive...I just can't be bothered and feel like the size of a house.

I've just been in to work to drop my sick note in and I feel so excluded...I've gone from knowing everything about the pace to nothing. One of the seniors is proudly wearing a deputy manager badge which is my job.i understand I needed a replacement and she was an obvious choice but still it hurts. I really don't think il be able to go back there and I feel like I'm losing/list so many friends through everything that's happened and even though none of its my fault I feel like I've let people down. For example today I was told I look much better but that was because I had made the effort of putting make up on for the first time in weeks.

 

[Jojo84]

I've had such a busy day today!
Hubby took
Our son out so I could gut he livingroom but ligaments are shit so I didn't get it done as I would like to. Anyway has a strange day... Got a letter to at our rent is goi f down by 1% which is welcome (even if it is less than £4 a month) after tray I for a call from
Tax credits (I currently paying off overpayment they made to the time of £70 every 4 weeks!!) anyway they have taken a payment from me of £350 (due back tax) and my debt is now either going to be done after 2 months of £70 repayments or will be resided to around £28 a month until September so either way is much better than £70 a month
Feel a little less stressed now

 

[Ginger19]

Hey ladies, I keep up with you all but don't post very often!

Anyone else had any dizzy spells? I'm 30+6 and all bloods and BP came back normal from my last appointment. Had whooping cough vaccine on Fri and then 2 hours of dizziness Sat, absolutely fine on Sun, then staggering with dizziness again this morning. Finally just spoke to a GP on the phone who tells me to keep an eye overnight and come in tomorrow if no better but her bet is vertigo rather than anything baby related!

 

[jenni16]

I was planning on sorting the estate agents out this morning and getting on with doing bits to get the house ready for photos, none of that has happened yet....I woke up with the most ridiculous headache, felt like it was turning into a migraine. I brought Oscar downstairs for breakfast and my hand started to go really numb and hard to move, it travelled up my arm past my elbow, then my face started going numb too, all in my cheek, nose and even my mouth and tongue but only on the left side. It eased off within a few mins but it was scary. Anyone else had anything like this?
I haven't rang anyone yet because I'm waiting for the midwife to come for the 28wk home apt, she said between 10-12 and typically no sign of her yet....she's probably forgotten! MIL is panicking about my blood pressure, she said the same happened to her when she was pregnant with Rich and she ended up in hospital for 6 weeks before he was born :-/ I'm sure it's all nothing but will get mw to check me over when she gets here.
Then I've got to get ready for work again xxx

 

[Eaw123]

Even though I have submitted mat leave dates I still have two weeks to change my mind. I'm currently booked to leave 15th April but in tempted to go 2 weeks early and leave on 1st April. Even though I know I will bored I'm finding my work van very uncomfortable already. But I'm worried about going early due to money. It's so confusing but I feel ready to go!

 

[Jojo84]

I would go early... You think you will be bored but you won't, you'll nest and find plenty to do believe me!

I'm so glad I took early Maternity leave especially as my BH contractions are a killer this time and I'm getting rely tired (but can't sleep )

 

[Eaw123]

By Friday I'm shattered. I probably will go early but just a scary thought I guess as it really is the final countdown then