**** • May 2016 Mamas • ****

[sarahlouise86]

Last minute guesses...got my gender scan on Sunday

 

[jenni16]

I'm rubbish at guessing lol but I think boy (which probably means girl!)
What are you thinking/feeling this time? Xx

 

[sarahlouise86]

Not sure really,don't have a feeling this time xx

 

[bobkat]

Hi ladies,

Sorry I've not been posting for a while, I have been dropping in to catch up with you all and hope we're all getting used to life in tri 2. I've been really busy the past couple of weeks, parents evenings amd Xmas concert rehearsals at school, then the actual concerts, plus seeing family and having rehearsals for the Xmas concerts I'm singing in with my singing group, and travelling to Birmingham for my degree graduation ceremony on Wednesday. I think this morning is the longest I've sat on my sofa in ages! Its all been enjoyable tho, if tiring, just got work Xmas do tonight, 3 more carol concerts and then I'm having a loooooong sleep.

Been feeling baby move more often now and can even feel it kicking from the outside occasionally now too but every time I get oh to feel baby hides again! 19 weeks today! Scan in 2 and a half weeks which seems ages but I know it'll go quick.

Had some good news yesterday, a friend I used to work with is due a month after me so we will be mat leave buddies! We had a bit of a chuckle about what would have happened if she still worked at my school, our HoDepaetment is a bit of a harridan and it would have been great to see her face when she realised 2 of us would need leave at the same time.

How is everyone else doing? What gossip have I missed?

 

[jenni16]

Wow you have been busy! Definitely deserve a nice long sleep after all that, just in time for the business of Christmas

I don't see much of my friends lately, we're all just far too busy. But this week, I've had 5 friends arrange to meet up in the week before Christmas. I'm looking forward to it but there's so much I need to do, I don't know how I'm going to fit it all in!
I'm thinking about braving the shops in a bit to try and finish my Xmas shopping. Then I'm planning to get crafty this afternoon and start making a few presents for family
Hoping to finally get the tree up later too! I wonder how long it will last before Oscar attacks it?!
Xxx

 

[andreatav]

Well oh has come home from work to find our cellar flooded in about a foot of water, I've been helping him lug buckets up and down stairs, a friend has called and said he has 2 pumps so hopefully it'll be empty soon. Sure me carrying huge buckets of water at 19 weeks isn't safe! Feel so deflated that everything is wrecked. Luckily nothing too meaningful and just tools.xx

 

[bobkat]

Oh my goodness Andrea, how awful, hope the damage isn't too bad and you didn't overdo it. What caused it?

We put our tree up yesterday too Jenni, Freddie loves it, we going to make some paper decorations today to go on the little tree in his room. Starting to feel xmassy now.

Had work Xmas do last night, really nice meal but went home after that as had that horrible feeling when you are the only sober one there, especially when they all went to the pub after. Needed an early night anyway as this time of year is just knackering, I don't know how people 30weeks plus can cope with it.

1st Xmas concert of 3 this pm, singing a solo and woken up with sore throat and runny nose, typical, hopefully it is just morning stuffiness and it will clear for later.

Good luck for your scan today Sarahlouise, have you got any instincts about girl or boy?

 

[jenni16]

Oh no Andrea! Lucky you know someone with pumps, hope that's helped you out


We never did get the tree up yesterday. Rich went away with work Friday, he was meant to be back the same day but is still there now :-/ I'm getting so fed up with him being away so much. He's only been home Monday and Thursday nights this week but even then he wasn't back until late then was off early in the morning, so Oscar hasn't seen him all week again. The last month, he's been 'home' but had at least one night away each week. Before that, he was working down in London every week for three months which was hell, God knows how I managed to get pregnant �� haha
We've been saying for at least a year that he needs to look for a new job. He never used to be away, maybe once a month or so? It seems to be since we've had Oscar that he's never here. I often joke that he asks to be sent away to get some peace.....! But he seems totally reluctant to do anything about getting a new job, or at least speaking to his boss to try and sort something out so he's not away so much. I've told him God knows how many times that this can't go on, he might aswell just move out and leave me on my own, as that's how I feel most of the time - like I'm on my own and I'm really worried about how I'm going to cope when baby comes along too.


Gosh, sorry that turned into a bit of a pity party!


Hope you're all enjoying your Sunday


Good luck with your scan today Sarahlouise, can't wait to hear


Xx

 

[andreatav]

Well we live next to a park at the bottom of a hill, but it's never flooded before. We think that there must a river or overflow that runs under the house and maybe that burst and flooded our cellar,next doors cellar and probably rest of street (they were all out last night, no cars on street) just need it to dry out so can start the clean up process,I'm gonna clean living room and kitchen, I put towel down when people were lugging buckets thru so hopefully it int too messy, but it gonna go over with floor wipes.
Oh I love the xmas feeling when you start decorating the tree! Had ours up a week now.
Once your oh has taken his paternity leave could he not look for another job? I know it's not much help for now.

Good luck SarahLouise. Xx

 

[jenni16]

Sounds a nightmare for you, and right before Christmas too :-/ I know it's not much conciliation, but at least it was just your cellar and not your main living areas.
I'd love him to look for something before then tbh, he's been 'looking' for at least the last 6 months but I've seen or heard nothing actually come of it. I've said that of course I'll help him, but he's got to make the first move and decide what he actually wants him to do. The tipping point for me was when he went back to work after his paternity leave with Oscar, and got sent away to Scotland for a week. We were devastated that he was missing a whole week when Oscar was only 2 weeks old. I can't let that happen again, and I know that it will if he's still in this job.
I still haven't heard when/if he'll be home today xx

 

[andreatav]

Yeah bit of a pain but like you said least it was only the cellar and only real damage was my OH'S tool box/tools and possibly the freezer but nothing too serious!
If he finds another job before you have this baby he won't get paternity pay will he? Just say to him that you'd prefer it if he didn't go away for after baby is born. Surely he missed Oscar too? Can he refuse to go away? Xx

 

[Emmam1982]

Whoop 20 weeks today...officially half way only 4 days till scan x

 

[jenni16]

I'm not sure, it's obviously something he'd have to discuss if he got any interviews, maybe just use holiday if possible as we're not planning on going away so wouldn't need any later in the year. Tbh I'd rather him go to work 9-5 straight away and know he'll be home at night, than potentially be the other end of the country for a whole week when lo is 2 weeks old.
He says he has no choice but to go. But the way I see it, going away was never something he agreed to when he took the job, it's something that only started happening in the last 18 months or so (he's been there 3 years) and surely he has to give permission/agree to going, especially at short notice. We're always having to miss/cancel/rearrange things last minute because he ends up getting sent away. Everyone else there seems to say 'no' far more than he ever does, which is never!!
Sorry, it's just really frustrating me at the minute (hormones don't help either!), but he just doesn't seem to see it. We always said when we first got together, that we would never allow work to get in the way of family or cause big arguments, we'd look for something else if it ever got to that. Unreasonable working hours/patterns has been the reason for so many break ups amongst our family and friends, I don't want it to happen to us too. I think he's forgotten that :-/
Xx

 

[Tigger87]

Oh Jenni that sucks not a lot you can do about it if he's not doing anything, but I'd be so upset. I don't think it's just hormones! My husband works in retail and ends up working late almost every night around Xmas - he's worked Xmas eve the last 2 years at least, and he'll probably do this one too. He won't say no! Bloody men.

Sorry to hear about your cellar Andrea at least not too much damage though xx

 

[sarahlouise86]

Hey quick update...it's a little girl!! Still in shock lol xx

 

[andreatav]

Woo! Another pink!

Yeah I'd be annoyed if james was working away a lot of the time. Hes got the chance of promotion soon and aid he may have to go away in April for some training and courses (not very happy incase baby comes early), if he doesnt go in april he'll have to wait till September, but it'll be a big pay increase and same hours he's doing atm. Xx

 

[jenni16]

Yay another pink

How far would he have to go for training? Would he be able to come back if you needed him? If it's just a quick trip away, I'd probably say it's worth it for the extra money and no extra hours, but then September isn't too long to wait either tough choice for you guys.
Xx

It wouldn't be so bad if we knew when he was going to be away. It's usually that he'll go into work as normal, home time comes and I don't hear anything, finally get through to him and he's like 'oh yeh, jobs not going well, I should be home tomorrow.' Wouldn't mind (so much!) if he rang me a bit earlier to tell me instead of me wondering where on earth he is. I never know what to do for tea - do my own, make something for him, wait for him? Urgh, men!!
He's on his way home now, should be back around 6, then he's promised he's straight up the loft getting the Xmas decs down! I've said if they're not up by this weekend, not to bother. Doesn't seem worth it for 10 days lol.
Xx

 

[andreatav]

I'm not sure where he'd have to go for training, he's off for a day training to Doncaster in January but said I'll go with him and meet up with my friend who lives there who's due 3 days after me.
Yeah I see what you mean would be a nightmare not knowing what time he's gonna be home. Why not cook something for the both of you and if he isn't coming back till the next day either freeze it or if he's just gonna be later than you fancy eating then just heat his meal up? Xx

 

[jenni16]

Might aswell make the most of the travelling lol. I often wish I could go with him and have a nice holiday while he works lol - Scotland, Ireland, Cornwall, Germany....!
Yeh that's what I usually do, but since being pregnant I just crash out as soon as Oscars in bed so often end up skipping tea altogether cos just can't be bothered to cook :-/ far from ideal I know. Xx

 

[babyslog]

Woop congrats again Sarah x