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June mummies loss thread
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I thought I'd start another thread, http://www.pregnancyforum.co.uk/trying-to-conceive/484097-ttc-after-loss.html#post4354363,for those of us who are TTC again to catch up. It would be nice to see you there snowbee, and any of the other girls are welcome. I have lost track of PF recently so I dont really know who else is TTC.
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Hi ladies, just wondering if anyone is left here who hasn't fallen pg again? This was my last chance to fall pg before my due date so I'm pretty gutted it hasn't happened. It is now also my final round of clomid, so if this doesn't work for us then we are back to trying naturally.
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He wasn't too helpful though he said because of my age (30) and my first pregnancy in 2008 went fine with no complications bar bleeding on and off there is probably nothing wrong. Yet at least three other doctors have told me there probably is. So who knows.
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I've already had the scans, I was told to expect yet more blood tests. I don't know whether I want them to find a problem or not! Ridiculous isn't it.
I'm so sad my due date is approaching, then I got an invite to go and make 'baby stuff' for a friend who is due any minute on my actual due date. I've not decided what to do yet. None of them know.
I'm so sad my due date is approaching, then I got an invite to go and make 'baby stuff' for a friend who is due any minute on my actual due date. I've not decided what to do yet. None of them know.
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Feeling Meh. Due date was the 6th June so fast approaching. Lost another one since then (in May) and my dad. Feeling a bit crappy today.
Got a colleagues baby shower on Friday and my cousins due date has been moved to the bloody 6th June now. *sigh*.
My mum and I are going to release some balloons on Monday. One for the baby and one for my dad as it is their wedding anniversary on the 7th. We will tie them together and write a note each and let them go.
Is anyone else going to do anything to mark their due date?
Hope you are all doing OK. I thought I was, but this evening I'm finding it a bit hard. I really had hoped I would have another bfp by my due date and that this one would be a keeper.
Got a colleagues baby shower on Friday and my cousins due date has been moved to the bloody 6th June now. *sigh*.
My mum and I are going to release some balloons on Monday. One for the baby and one for my dad as it is their wedding anniversary on the 7th. We will tie them together and write a note each and let them go.
Is anyone else going to do anything to mark their due date?
Hope you are all doing OK. I thought I was, but this evening I'm finding it a bit hard. I really had hoped I would have another bfp by my due date and that this one would be a keeper.
I'm sorry Loulou, it is so hard isn't it. I've not really thought about what to do, I've still not decided if I'm going to make a baby present for my friend on my due date or not. I like your balloon idea. I've thought that I would like a piece of jewelry, maybe a ring, with the birthstones that my babies should have had, but I've not ordered it yet as I was hoping to add another stone to it of our take home baby. This due date is particularly bad for us as this baby was due on the 2nd, which is also the date I lost our first baby two years ago. I can't believe that it has been two years already and I'm still going through this nightmare without out take home baby.
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Oh snowbee I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you. The 2nd will be a tough day I'm sure but just have faith that one day you will get your take home baby.
The jewellery idea is very beautiful, I do like that.
It's tough being around pregnant ladies, well I know I find it tough. Does your friend know how you are feeling and what you have been through? Xx
The jewellery idea is very beautiful, I do like that.
It's tough being around pregnant ladies, well I know I find it tough. Does your friend know how you are feeling and what you have been through? Xx
No none of them know and I feel like I would be making things awkward if I told them. They are a new ish group of friends so we aren't that close yet and I don't want to push them away. Apart from the one who has just had the baby most of the others don't want children either. Gosh it is hard to know what to do and who to talk to isn't it. Have you confided in many people? So far I've only told one friend and she is going through her own hell at the moment with a very nasty divorce so I can't say anything to her right now.
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I feel bad that I didnt have a date as such to celebrate.
I was 5w when I lost baby in September, so would have been due probably June time.
I lost baby before I actually knew what was going on and by the time I did know there was no dates to go by as baby had left.
I hope you all manage to do something nice to mark your EDDs. Sorry to hear about your dad too Lou.
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I was 5w when I lost baby in September, so would have been due probably June time.
I lost baby before I actually knew what was going on and by the time I did know there was no dates to go by as baby had left.
I hope you all manage to do something nice to mark your EDDs. Sorry to hear about your dad too Lou.
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Yeah I understand what you mean if they are a new group of friends. It's difficult for people to understand if they have not been through it themselves.
I am usually quite a private person however I found that telling my three best friends really helped. Although they have not experienced a loss themselves, they do have children and I think on some level they could relate to how I was feeling. My partner was not too supportive really (he doesn't like to show emotions and doesn't like to see me cry etc) so I bottled it up which made it worse. When I spoke to my friends about it I found it really helped and without their support I would have been in a worse place mentally. Already my BFF has messaged me checking I'm ok this week bless her.
I am usually quite a private person however I found that telling my three best friends really helped. Although they have not experienced a loss themselves, they do have children and I think on some level they could relate to how I was feeling. My partner was not too supportive really (he doesn't like to show emotions and doesn't like to see me cry etc) so I bottled it up which made it worse. When I spoke to my friends about it I found it really helped and without their support I would have been in a worse place mentally. Already my BFF has messaged me checking I'm ok this week bless her.
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Thanks RM. It's nice that you have your new Lil bubs to focus on and of course your little dude too. I was really hoping I would be preggo before my due date but it wasn't meant to be.
Your pregnancy seems to be flying by! No.2 will be here before you know it!
Your pregnancy seems to be flying by! No.2 will be here before you know it!
Lou- so sorry you have had another loss to deal with. Dealing with one loss after another must be so hard. The baloon idea is lovely.
Maybe you could choose a date that is around the right time and use that as your due date. It is normal for babies to be born between two weeks before and two weeks after their due date so its not like its an exact thing anyway.
Maybe you could choose a date that is around the right time and use that as your due date. It is normal for babies to be born between two weeks before and two weeks after their due date so its not like its an exact thing anyway.
Well it is here. I really really need to decide if I'm going to this wretched baby stuff making party tonight. I just can't decide what to do for the best.
I'm now on my last clomid cycle and I think I may be ovulating, so fingers crossed that June might be third time lucky...
I'm now on my last clomid cycle and I think I may be ovulating, so fingers crossed that June might be third time lucky...
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Sending you a big hug snowbee, I hope today hasn't been too rough for you.
You should do what's best for you tonight. If you are not feeling up to it then give it a miss. Even if you go it's not really taking your mind off it either more like rubbing salt in the wound.
Fingers crossed this is your month. Xxx
You should do what's best for you tonight. If you are not feeling up to it then give it a miss. Even if you go it's not really taking your mind off it either more like rubbing salt in the wound.
Fingers crossed this is your month. Xxx
Honestly I dont think I could bring myself to go in your position but do what feels right. Just dont push yourself if you dont feel up to it. Another time its the kind of thing you might feel that you need to face but this week it is all a bit too raw unless it actually feels like the right thing to be doing.
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Thanks ladies. I told myself to man up and go, so I did. I think I did a reasonable job of being perky although it was hard to do when surrounded by baby stuff. I think I will give actually going and seeing the baby a miss though, I think that is a step too far for me at the moment.
