****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[Shanivy]

PB poor thing hopefully just a dodgy tummy and not a bug coming on. At least she's feeding fine though..Nothing worse than when they have runs but won't take any liquids either and youre like come onnnnn. Fx it passes quick! Xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Shan, i swear most stores think only average size get pregnant! Honestly, hard to find stuff for me aswell. Asda have nice stuff in online atm. Im big and tall and its a piss take. I bought a bigger size pair of jeggings, and the legs are too small both length and width but the belly is massive.. Like how ?? Cant wait for summer, have loads of dresses i wore with dd so comfy theyre not even materity tgeyre cheap from primark but stretchy.
Have a bath try and have a chill x

 

[KHTW]

Fela your dad sounds really sweet. He will love this little baby so much, this already shows.
Argh doing house up is just the worst!! Glad we are past that stage. Best of luck, hope you get it done quick and stress free x

Shan, sounds like a pretty shit day. I hate clothes shopping. 9/10 they don't fit!! x

PB, buying a house in a hurry would be bad. I hope he can at least give you proper notice! Hope DD feels better soon. As long as she takes formula xx

 

[_GG_]

Ugh...the only problem with hardly ever coming down with anything is that when I actually do, it really does a Chuck Norris roundhouse kick in my face.

So, my night has consisted of not being able to breathe through my nose at all but but struggling to breath through my mouth without either coughing or having phlegm in my throat making me constantly need to clear it. Dan has to be up at 6 so I've given up trying to sleep in bed and have come into the front room. Have nothing in the house that is safe for me to take. Ugh.

Oh well, I'll get over this quickly enough. Will just take it easy for a few days.

Hope you're all doing okay xx

 

[Shanivy]

Hope you feel better soon GG, nothing worse than a cold or illness on top of being pregnant xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

Hey everyone I've been awol again because Ive been in actually so much pain for the past few days I can't function.

I have no idea why but I got these muscle pains low on my stomach on Saturday and thought I'd just been overdoing it. But I had to go out and do some things, they were worse Sunday so I tried to rest up and they did improve... Yesterday was horrific and this morning I'm even worse. No sleep since Friday night really and my head is banging.

I'm really worried now. The midwife I spoke to yesterday seemed to peg it down to ligaments stretching but Ive gotten to the stage where I can't actually move or walk... Or breathe. I'm in agony. That kind that you have to stop and just breathe through it ringing Dr today and not the midwifes cuz they aren't helpful x

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[LuckyLaura]

Also I barely moved yesterday and if anything it's worse

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[Shanivy]

Laura if you're worried or in that much pain definitely get an appointment. If it eases your worry the midwives I'm sure wouldn't leave you if it was anything serious. Ligament pain can be extremely painful though. And it's easier to pull a muscle when pregnant too which hurts so much. I pulled the muscles under my bump pregnant with dd lifting my nephew and it was awful for a few days. I hope it eases for you soon xx

My hips are killing me :/. Must have overdid it yesterday so it's going to be so interesting walking Ivy to nursery this morning. I bought a bump band yesterday but it's pretty rubbish. Walking like Im 40 weeks pregnant /shit myself lol. Beautiful

Even me and OH managed to have an argument this morning at 5am! I got up with him because I couldnt sleep. And I was moaning about the pain and he was like "You're still pretty early on in your pregnancy to be moaning his much are you not? It can't be that bad" and I was pretty much like go fuck yourself.

So yeah all sunshine and rainbows here. How is everyone else? PB how is dd today?

 

[malagueta]

Morning ladies. Hope you all enjoyed your weekends. I've been feeling pretty sorry for myself since Saturday with a cold. OH keeps offering me paracetamol, which I swear is the world's worst invention. Doesn't do anything.

Ouch, Laura. Sounds really painful. I hope the doctors can offer you some better advice.

Hope you feel better soon GG. And that your hips aren't too painful today Shan. Take it easy if you can.

Fela, your dad sounds lovely and excited about the new arrival. My dad is in the same boat and I'd felt he was a bit noncommittal about the baby as my mum isn't around but then the other day he called to announce he's booked his flights to see me once baby is born so he can be the first one and beat all my other family members here haha.

24 weeks today for me!

 

[PeanutButter]

Feel better gg.

Shan, men dont have a clue do they :/ its not like your growing a whole other human or anything

Happy v day mala

Dd still has poops but still eating fine, think may have been something not agreeing with her belly.
Well we had to sleep on the sofas last night, we seem to have a ladybird infestation ... Saw a few on the wall getting into bed then bout half hour later hubby jumped up cos there was some on his arm, and i started yelling there in his back ahaa. But yeah there was loads in our bedroom. My job today is gonna move the bed and furniture down stairs into the spare room, so have to take dds crib apart and put it back up and move all the crap outta spare room so fun day all round.

 

[Shanivy]

Happy v day malagueta

PB what? What a weird infestation, though could be worse it could be fleas or something lol. We had a spider have babies on a bedroom light once. OH had to spend about 2 hours getting them all while I sat outside the door and cried about it haha. I'd take ladybirds all day lol. Hope dd starts to feel better soon but I'm glad to nothing worse than a bad tummy at least. Same sort of thing planned for us too. Spare room needs finished getting all the crap out to be decorated , I really can't be bothered at all xx

Hip pain easing a tad. Made it to nursery fine and early so had to wait in the foyer bit (because rain!) Someone came in with their nephew on his shoulders and omfg completely smacked his head off the metal beam in the front door. Had to do a little of my first aid waiting for nursery to buzz us in. I actually felt sick at how hard he hit his head poor thing, he even bled. His uncle came up to me afterwards to say thanks and that he was okay and the nurse had him :/ So all in all my morning wasn't that bad since dd made it to nursery happy and fine xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Lmao, apparantly lots of people are dealing with ladybirds. God when we move i refuse to have any plants!! Cant rip them out living in a rented house. Ughhhh i hate spiders, hubby is as bad as me with them to. I went to put my uggs on once and omg there was spidrr eggs attached to one boot, flug it at hubby and ran screaming through the house cos i touched it aha.

Omg poor boy. Bet the mom wont be happy, did he cry? Hopefully hes alright tho. Glad your feeling abit better to have you took any paracetemol for it? X

I think dd has been watching our.dogs too much.. She keeps sticking her tounge out and panting

 

[LuckyLaura]

I actually read all of these messages in stitches laughing haha awful to say it but the ladybirds and spider infestation stories are hilarious. That poor child tho but omg that uncle must be in so much trouble right now!

And PB your dd copying the dogs! Hahahaha

Ive got an emergency Dr appointment at 11. 45 and my mum offered to drive me and I accepted cuz I can barely move without being in so much pain.. Hopefully everything is fine but hopefully they can actually help cuz I can't live like this. It's been 3 days and I genuinely don't know how people with chronic pain cope. I can't cope I've cried so much x

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[JemRose]

Laura sounds horrible!

Shan have you been diagnosed with SPD as you sound like you're in as much pain as me honestly things just seem to be getting worse pain wise. Sometimes it's okay and then when it isn't - it really isn't!

Just after some advice as feeling really low.. TMI but before pregnancy OH and I had a really healthy sex life, in fact probably having sex at least once a day, if not more than once a day. I know at the beginning of the pregnancy I struggled cos I was so exhausted and lost all libido. But now, I'm fine to and I'm also worrying because we haven't for so long. OH doesn't seem to want to touch me or come near me, I try to initiate things and get nothing back from him. I had a breakdown about it yesterday (after spending an hour trying to shave myself, but I can't even fucking reach properly and can't see a thing so had a fit about that) and I said it's either that I haven't shaved properly, or you're seeing someone else because I don't understand why you don't want me anymore. He said it wasn't the reason, but never actually gave me the reason because I was in hysterics crying and sobbing about it.

I even on Sunday outright said to him "do you want to come and have sex?" and he said no. I was mortified. I can't keep trying to initiate it and get rejected and when I outright ask I also get rejected. After he said no he did give me a full body massage (first time ever) and it was lovely and out of character. But felt like he was making up for the fact he didn't want to have sex with me.

I just don't understand why he doesn't want me anymore I've done some reading and they say that men's libido can change to or they have fears about harming the baby or resentment issues towards their own mum so they view mothers in a different way and hence not feeling like having sex.

I just don't know what to do, I'm so down about it. I just feel like he doesn't want me anymore and I don't understand why. My mind doesn't handle things like this very well so it's either he has found someone else, or he isn't attracted to me anymore and doesn't want me any more (that's the only solutions my mind can handle).

Sorry to go on, but I'm just feeling worthless. He hasn't been horrible at all, just no sexual intimacy there

 

[Shanivy]

Ah Jem. I totally got get how you'd be feeling low. Honestly if he's saying no and making you feel bad he damn well better give you a fucking reason. Men do get weird sometimes with the thought of the baby and sex. The bloody irony. I can't speak for him. I can give you my experience with dd which was a little similar.

When I got pregnant with Ivy we went from having sex sometimes more than once a night to not at all for a while. First it was me feeling shitty then it was OH not feeling it. I offered him oral and he was up for it so I was like right what the fuck? He really really struggled with the thought of the baby being inside me at the same time. When she started to move around he was super freaked out about it. Especially if she kicked him or moved against his hand during. You'd think she electrocuted him. Once we started having sex a few times he got over it pretty damn quick. He's not felt that way this time. Men are pretty ridiculous sometimes about stuff like this.

But it's not going to be nice feeling like you're the reason (you're probably not !!) so he really needs to tell you what's going on in his head. It's probably something really pathetically male about the baby. If he's massaging you he's probably feeling stupid or guilty about it. But he needs to man up and fucking tell you and realise how he makes you feel. Plus you're a grown woman and deserve the respect of your partner not making you feel like shit over sex ffs Xx

 

[Shepherdess]

Afternoon ladies

Aw Jem I'm sorry you're feeling so rubbish. I think you need to calmly ask your oh outright why he's not wanting to be intimate with you, don't cry or get stressed though be very calm. You'll probably find he's just conserned about the baby or maybe just in general he's finding things overwhelming

You should also prepare yourself, it's highly likely that your sex life will go through loads of ups and downs over the next year or two. Prepregnancy my husband and I would have sex on average four times a week, weeks 4-14 this dramatically dropped to once or maybe twice due to my sickness.now my libido has come back but I am still tired but it's probably 3 times a week atm or twice. It's so important to communicate though. After my DD was born I was shattered and he was so busy working, this led to him not being able to help me as much as I'd have liked which turned into resentment and not wanting to have sex with him as I didn't feel loved. Eventually we spoke about it and things changed massively but he'd had no idea how bad I was feeling. Luckily this only went on for a few months but I think if we hadn't opened up there would have been real resentment there

Yuck PB I couldn't stand an infestation of any kind! I hate bugs in the house! Sorry you've been feeling sore Shanivy have you had physio yet?

Not much of an update from me. I'm tired, I've struggled to adjust to the clock change and still feel like I'm getting up too early

Generally well though, been trying to organise car seats which is an annoying minefield. My diet has changed loads, after craving all healthy nice fruit I'm now eating loads of biscuits and fish fingers. Still love milkshakes and craving sugar

 

[Shanivy]

PB haha dd sounds too cute and she's gonna teach all that weirdness/cuteness to her brother lol. You're in for it hun, I bet you get all those videos of them boosting each other to the sweet cupboard and helping each other out of their cots at night haha! Ew I cant be dealing with spiders at all especially pregnant. One ran over my head once. Had to have OH wash my hair over the shower while I sobbed in tears and he sobbed with laughter haha. *******. Xx

Ooh Laura hope all goes well at the dentist. Could be wisdom tooth maybe? I had my 1st one come through pregnant with dd and I didn't notice...Mine are moving now and sore now and again. Bongela in the fridge My dentist said gums are softer when pregnant. Hey at least its free right now, every cloud ! Fx lol xx

As to SPD Jem, midwife said it could be and re reffered me for physio. Hurts most when I go from sitting to standing or lying down to sitting etc. And walking is a bitch ugh. Xx

Got my iron tablets today. Levels were 94 so 3x day. Constipation here I come lol :/ No UTI to explain protein in urine but they said it wasn't loads so far. So need everything redone again at my 28 week to see if there's a change. This little girl is making me work for if honestly!

 

[PeanutButter]

Sex more than once a day... Well atm we are at once a week by time hubby is home ans dd goes to sleep im too tired, in the morning dd wakes up early for a bottle and wants to be in the middle of us.. Or were just too busy. Hoping itll change as babies get older. We did have a quickie when hubby was on dinner last week ahaa exciting as our life gets now.

Lmao shan, haha. When dd was a new born a spider ran up my arm and i flug it off somewhere and just left her in the room and got hubby to go get her aha. Mum of the year award right there.

Jem, my hubby was weord about having sex with me, cos i was in pain alot with spd ... Maybe he doesnt wanna hurt you. I can see how itll make you feel like shit tho. If i were you if just ask outright while your watching tv or something.
When dd was born we didnt touch each other for ages. Too tired etc. Finally started again around when dd was 6 weeks old.

Oh, at least thyre keeping an eye on you shan. Ughh the 3x a day iron tablets are annoying, i could never remember to taje the middle one.

 

[Shanivy]

Lmao PB six weeks...took us more like 12 haha. That magic wine though..xx

 

[Shepherdess]

Lmao PB six weeks...took us more like 12 haha. That magic wine though..xx

Haha I had a glass of wine at 4 weeks pp for husbands birthday and tried sex but it was painful after my episiotomy. I'd rushed myself. Sex got back to normal at about 15 weeks. I've said I won't be rushing myself this time