****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[JemRose]

Ladies, I'm starting to worry as I really haven't felt baby this week. Nothing substantial and nothing I can decipher between wind or a kick. I have midwife Monday so will mention it then. But I'm so worried as really haven't felt him!
Do you think it could be that baby has moved up and as I have anterior placenta (which they told me was high up) that now baby is higher up might be placenta height so that's why I can't feel anything? Only think rationalising my thoughts right now. I was feeling him so well before x

 

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Ladies, I'm starting to worry as I really haven't felt baby this week. Nothing substantial and nothing I can decipher between wind or a kick. I have midwife Monday so will mention it then. But I'm so worried as really haven't felt him!
Do you think it could be that baby has moved up and as I have anterior placenta (which they told me was high up) that now baby is higher up might be placenta height so that's why I can't feel anything? Only think rationalising my thoughts right now. I was feeling him so well before x

Any one over 24 weeks can call and get checked out if you stop feeling baby but yes, it could be the placenta. I'd try the midwife number tomorriw morning...if not, NHS direct. Xx

 

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I should add, it's still early in terms of movement tracking though so please try not to worry. A simple change in position can hugely affect what you feel. For a few days last week, my baby must have turned as all feelings were minor and felt muffled. Now back to normal big feelings. Xx

 

[JemRose]

I also read that around 24 weeks baby sleeps a lot as getting ready for a growth spurt x

 

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I also read that around 24 weeks baby sleeps a lot as getting ready for a growth spurt x

Tell that to mine, lol. Actually, mine is a night owl...sleeps pretty much all day aside the odd ransom movement so you could be on to something there.

 

[LuckyLaura]

Im so sorry to hear you're having such an upsetting time GG, I saw your post about the wee horse I can't imagine how difficult it is to break the news to people who have already lost someone they love to now know another part of her is leaving in a way.

I really hope you are rested up since last night a bit and I'm sure you will definitely get this figured out for your birth plan once and for all it's far away still so there's plenty of time to nail it down xx

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[Shepherdess]

Ladies, I'm starting to worry as I really haven't felt baby this week. Nothing substantial and nothing I can decipher between wind or a kick. I have midwife Monday so will mention it then. But I'm so worried as really haven't felt him!
Do you think it could be that baby has moved up and as I have anterior placenta (which they told me was high up) that now baby is higher up might be placenta height so that's why I can't feel anything? Only think rationalising my thoughts right now. I was feeling him so well before x

Jem if youre really worried go in and get checked out, you won't be wasting anyone's time. I have said in previous posts that my baby doesn't have a regular pattern of movement yet but it hasn't yet worried me enough to go in. I just think she's sleepy and often gets into a position where I don't feel her

 

[LuckyLaura]

After seeing the post about baby name drama by beccyboo I'm really stressed out now I've been trying to ignore the fact my mum hates the name we've chosen. Next baby she definitely won't be told names

It's not just that she hates it but that she's constantly hounding me about it. She says it's too common but wants sophia which is in the top 10 most popular names ffs lol like that's much more common than ours which is like in last 70s of top 100 she text me last night saying she thought it was chavvy and common and sophia is much better makes me angry people think this is okay! X

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[Shepherdess]

morning ladies

Laura I get how you feel, you know its your choice but its so hard not to hear the opinions of others. my mum is constantly trying to influence my name choice even though ive already told her I've got it picked and don't want any suggestions. this week she insisted I told her and made me feel guilty so I did then instantly went "well what about xxx?" shes also adamant I should name the baby after her which just isn't happening. my first name choice is a shortened version of my nanas name, I love the short version on its own but my husband doesn't agree, however he quite likes the longer version but I cant call her that as my mum would be devastated if I called my baby after my nana and not her. which technically I wouldn't be it would be a coincidence but she doesn't see that and is already trying to make me feel very guilty. luckily ive got another name I love. ive also always insisted I wouldn't name by baby after her because then id feel bad on MIL but my mum keeps insisting shes more important anyway and looks after DD way more so I should be putting her first. argh sorry you've got me started haha

ive got a bit confused and lost reading your posts yesterday GG, I hope youre feeling a little better this morning? try not to think about the C-sec stuff too much this weekend and wait to see your midwife. just remember theres still loads of time to get this all sorted

I've just had the best nights sleep in ages and DD slept through until 7! amazing. currently eating our eggs and soldiers, still snotty but feeling much better. although I think ill still wear a panty liner today for the danger sneezes haha

below (hopefully) are the blanket and hat I have made for baby. I'm so happy with them. DD1 is now saying "will you make me another blanket now you've finished babys?" no rest for the wicked haha

anyone got any nice weekend plans?

 

[JemRose]

Off to the midwife centre at 11.30. I've still felt nothing and it's been a few days now. Been trying all the tricks online and nothing.
They asked if I had tummy pain or bleeding and I said no, but now I remember this awful pain the other night in my left side but I can't remember if I've felt him since then or not. Really worrying

 

[Shanivy]

Shep those are so beautiful well done you! Time for DDs now lol. You could absolutely sell them though they're lovely Xx

Jem I'm sure everything is okay but always best to get checked. With dd and my anterior placenta they always told me to get checked if I was worried, especially because of the placenta making it tricky. I'm sure baby is fine though xx

So tired this morning. Finding sleeping so sore lately on my bump and my ribs. And it's freezing outside! But we're off to a kid dance party thing I booked and almost forgot about. All Ivy's favourite characters should be there Paw patrol etc, and they dance and sing....DD is going to to burst with excitement lol. Booked 3 tickets but OH had to work so I'm taking my MIL with us instead. See how good a daughter in law I am?

 

[PeanutButter]

GG sorry about your horse always heartbreaking when an animal has to be put to sleep.

Jem my baby went super quiet for a few days to. When they have a growth spurt they sleep more. Yhe midwife should check babies HB with a doppler today - which is what they do at the hospital before 28 weeks.
My pelvis is in absolute agony, walked into town yday. Hubby came and picked us up, my bum hurt so bad! This morning hobbled to the toilet because my vag was so sore
Also showing signs of GD like i did with DD. Not seeing mw till 14th april tho she needs to book my GTT :/

 

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Jem, let us know how you get on but I'm sure he's just tucked himself in to an awkward position. Fingers crossed your mind is put at ease


Laura, Dan and I were talking about this last night as we're going up to Manchester next Saturday for a family party. His mum has already been mentioning names and dropping not so subtle hints. We are solid that we tell anyone who asks that yes, we do have names but no...we're not telling anyone. I think your mum is being bang out of order. Maybe time to pull the line, "mum, you've made your point so any further mention is just hurting me now, is that what you want? To upset me?" Then just bloody ignore her but I know that's easier said than done.

I think Dans mum is starting to understand that every single decision we make is ours and we will not be influenced.
That said, she's still trying and likes to compare against my mum....so next time she says something loaded like, "you'd consider a preference from your own mum though" I shall reply, "My own mum doesn't tell me if she has preferences or not. She didn't make the baby and she's allowing us to enjoy making all of these decisions for our family on our own. Perhaps if you did the same, we'd be more inclined to include you".

Harsh, but she's too fucking difficult not to be blunt with.

Glad you had a better sleep Shep and Shan...that party sounds ace.

 

[Shanivy]

How did you get on Jem?

Party was interesting. Ivy had a blast when all the characters came out. Think she had a fan girl moment with the Paw Patrol haha. I'm wrecked though they made us do it all too. A lot of very, very cheesy dancing games etc. And at one point we had to throw ourselves down in the floor when the musical stops. I was like aye right no. She enjoyed herself so that's all that matters I guess lol. Away to lie in a dark quiet room for the rest of the day

My opinion on baby names. I have my name and I don't really care about anyone's opinion. With Ivy my gran outright told me she hated it "but it's your baby I guess" so this time I wasn't telling anyone. The constant barrage of "what about this name?" "I have her name" "What about this name?" was doing my head in so told MIL the baby's full name so she'd stop going on. She's pretty much told everyone even though I asked her not to but I don't really care. She's getting named what we chose regardless. Why people have to have an opinion on everything I don't know honestly.

PB god sounds terrible hun. No word on any physio or anything? I skipped mine last week with being ill so can't even say how helpful it is or not. I hope you don't end up with GD this time xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Haha sounds fun shan. Glad she enjoyed it

Oh i wouldnt care if someine said tgey didnt like our name (when we choose it). If they said they didnt id say well its a good job its our baby then. Were thinking about thr name connor but idk lmao.

Nope... Just take paractamol and use heat packs. Will tall to my midwife aboit it drs are useless. Yup constant thirst, dry mouth and tiredness how i was with dd abs they said was caused from GD. Ughhh cba i wanna eat normally. XD

 

[Shepherdess]

hope you've got on okay jemrose

shanivy that sounds like fun, you'll be shattered tonight but worth it if Ivy really enjoyed it

lazy day here, DD has been very grumpy which I'm assuming is part of her having a cold. although she had a good two hour sleep so i was able to do a good chunk of accounts work for the farm. I'm adamant this year all our end of year stuff and tax return stuff will be done by June so I don't need to worry

why is there nothing good on tv on Saturday night's. just scrolled through and there's nowt. luckily husband has caved and said I can choose a DVD later

 

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DVD night sounds awesome.

Jem...I really hope you're okay hun.

I'm currently hiding in the kitchen at the Pub, lol. Had a busy morning moving horses around, then a busy lunch service, back home, had a brew and spent the next to hours trying to get an in season mare away from two bloody stallions, so think lots of long legs kicking out in all directions. I obviously had to keep myself and baby safe, so it took a lot of thinking outside the box and I got her eventually. Moved her, back home, change, back to pub.

Absolutely packed due to rugby but thankfully nobody has ordered food yet, lol. Not that I don't want the business...I just really can't be arsed tonight, lol.

Baby was very good today though, helped me and Dan shift a big bale of haylage, lol. I'm feeling physically really well aside the usual pelvic shit.

Hope you all have a lovely evening. Xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

morning ladies

Laura I get how you feel, you know its your choice but its so hard not to hear the opinions of others. my mum is constantly trying to influence my name choice even though ive already told her I've got it picked and don't want any suggestions. this week she insisted I told her and made me feel guilty so I did then instantly went "well what about xxx?" shes also adamant I should name the baby after her which just isn't happening. my first name choice is a shortened version of my nanas name, I love the short version on its own but my husband doesn't agree, however he quite likes the longer version but I cant call her that as my mum would be devastated if I called my baby after my nana and not her. which technically I wouldn't be it would be a coincidence but she doesn't see that and is already trying to make me feel very guilty. luckily ive got another name I love. ive also always insisted I wouldn't name by baby after her because then id feel bad on MIL but my mum keeps insisting shes more important anyway and looks after DD way more so I should be putting her first. argh sorry you've got me started haha

ive got a bit confused and lost reading your posts yesterday GG, I hope youre feeling a little better this morning? try not to think about the C-sec stuff too much this weekend and wait to see your midwife. just remember theres still loads of time to get this all sorted

I've just had the best nights sleep in ages and DD slept through until 7! amazing. currently eating our eggs and soldiers, still snotty but feeling much better. although I think ill still wear a panty liner today for the danger sneezes haha

below (hopefully) are the blanket and hat I have made for baby. I'm so happy with them. DD1 is now saying "will you make me another blanket now you've finished babys?" no rest for the wicked haha

anyone got any nice weekend plans?

It is immensely hard isn't it? My mum does that too, guilts me and acts like its a personal insult that I haven't jumped for joy and immediately chosen the name she wants. The funny thing is Sophia was actually a name we were considering but hadn't mentioned to her after her reaction to our first considerations. My husband absolutely loved it but now cuz she has hounded us about it then its a 100% no!

I'm sorry your mum doesn't want to accept the name! I'm sure its lovely and your mum has already named her kids, its not her turn anymore hahaha One of the names we were considering is actually my aunts name which my mum was mega butthurt about but then also went ahead and told my aunt My aunt got super excited and we were just like...but ...we didn't decide yet haha I think my mum was hoping my aunt would be like no I want one of my own daughters to use my name but it backfired!

It's so hard trying to balance both families. Like you want them both to feel included and then if you name them a name from one side then you kinda feel like the other side will feel left out! I can't stand the whole mum vs MIL competition side haha my mum is just like that, are you sure we don't have the same mum?? If I even mention my MIL my mum instantly gets all sensitive and defensive and tries to 'beat' her. I know once this baby arrives she'll try to make sure she's the 'favourite' grandmother too.

Don't worry about getting started haha I literally could rant all day about my mother so I totally get it, feel free to vent xx

Also I absolutely love the hat and baby blanket- Stunning!! I'm attempting to knit a baby cardigan but I have one sleeve and had to ring my aunt (the same name one) and she was trying so hard bless her to instruct me over the phone haha xx

 

[JemRose]

Baby was fine. His heartbeat was a pain to find so think he was hiding!
140bpm so he's healthy and fine. So embarrassing that he started kicking and I could feel him and hear the kicks on the sonogram thing!! I went bright red and felt like a right idiot that he was kicking when I said I hadn't felt him for days. Which I genuinely hadn't! All okay which I'm so so happy with. Got told off for leaving it a few days without movement and told I need to be calling sooner if it happens again!

 

[JemRose]

As for the names thing. We're telling people our name, didn't think we would but once one person knows everyone knows haha. We've had a few "Ohhh that reminds me of"... As the name is reggie we get a lot of reggie Yates or Reggie kray. And I just say quite blunty well it's the name we've chosen and we love it, it's not your name or your child's name so doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks about it! Never normally like that but feel so strongly about people being twats about names, no matter what you choose you can't please everyone so just please yourselves