****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

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Jem, put those thoughts out of your mind. PB is right...baby doesn't give a shit so no worries. We are buying pretty much everything second hand as well. Even the lovely pram set we've picked out. Just pointless spending a shed load of money when we can buy things at literally hundreds of pounds less. Don't beat yourself up about it...absolutely no point.

Laura, that sounds so very scary. Write down all of the questions you have so that you can't forget them when you go back. I really hope this is a short term thing and there's a way to manage the pain. Xx

 

[Shanivy]

Can't sleep. Hip is killing me. I'm going to cut something off I swear just to get a decent sleep

Jem good for you that you got some serious bargains. Baby really doesn't care. Take it from someone who's already done it, do you know how much stuff I bought brand new and regretted? Used my baby changing table for about 4 months and then it was useless. Moses basket lasted a few weeks and she grew out of it. Sooo many clothes brand new from Next with the labels still on because she grew past them. Useless. Expensive bouncer she hated with an absolute passion and got it about 3 times no joke. And such a waste of money. Babies grow so ridiculously fast that 2nd hand is usually near perfect anyway. It really is gutting buying a £130 swing and selling it for £30 4 months later

This time I got a few things from other people. I'm buying a second hand sling. I seriously considering cold water sterilising this time with the Milton steriliser since I'm breastfeeding fx. It's so much cheaper. And I've been looking a some things on eBay. There are next sleepsuits and clothes with their labels on for almost nothing. Plus DDs clothes that are still good will be being recycled. I swear if I see a second hand bargain I'll be snapping it up. It doesn't matter if everything is brand new, babies need so little. It's us that buy all the expensive crap. He won't care at all if he's in a £20 second hand Moses basket or a £100 brand new one. He'll still be sick all over it lol don't even worry hun xx

 

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Snap Shan. Bloody annoying isn't it!
Hope you manage to get some sleep soon. Xx

 

[Amy207]

Baby was very active as always she had her legs in the way turning her back to us but as soon as they got the image and said it’s a girl she literally turned round snuggled into me and went to sleep didn’t move at all......

 

[Amy207]

Baby was very active as always she had her legs in the way turning her back to us but as soon as they got the image and said it’s a girl she literally turned round snuggled into me and went to sleep didn’t move at all......

When she snuggled in... love you can see her nose.

 

[Shepherdess]

great pics Amy!

honestly Jem don't worry about buying second hand and stop worrying about what your sister is doing. it's great you're saving money. my baby will be in hand me downs forever and even for DD we bought loads second hand. even now at Xmas I buy a lot of her toys second hand and save my money for family days out.

a baby is not going to notice and tbh neither will anyone if you didn't tell them but if I'd been saving a fortune I'd be glad to tell people

 

[JemRose]

Thank you everyone, you've definitely put my mind at ease. Hopefully the money we save can go towards a new car

Amy love those pics you got a shy little girl there xx

 

[Amy207]

Thank you everyone, you've definitely put my mind at ease. Hopefully the money we save can go towards a new car

Amy love those pics you got a shy little girl there xx

A lot of our things are second hand but you know what matters the most which can’t be bought is the love you give to your little one and that’s all that matters. Screw what anyone else thinks!!

Thanks all for the comments, she’s shy but also a pain in the bum... just like me... oops!

 

[PeanutButter]

Great pics amy
Weve decided to start viewing houses might be ages till we find one but anothet step forward to buying our own house. Yay. Also earnt 100 quid selling stuff from the loft, and found a money box full of pennys counted em all up 20 quid aha wtf.
Hope everyone had a good weekend x

 

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How exciting PB. Xx

Lovely pics Amy xx

Jem, I really hope this comes across the way I want it to, but I really think you would benefit from talking to someone. Never ever stop coming on here to vent your frustrations as we all do, but you remind me so much if a much younger me and I hate the thought that being so easily affected by the actions/words/lives of others is hampering your enjoyment of your pregnancy.
Honestly, I used to be a very different person. Things came to head and I went to see a private psychologist which literally changed my life.
Please remember that you are judging the warts and all version of your life against the perfect public version of other peoples lives. With the money you save on baby Things, perhaps go and see someone and help yourself become a person who can be totally unaffected by what your sister, dad or anyone else says or does.
I'll put a link at the bottom to someone local to you who I think could really make a positive difference to you as counsellors just don't always cut it. This guy has the right experience and honestly, it could well be the best thing you'll ever do.
It's hard to pay someone to talk, but it's a small investment in your whole future happiness.

I only say this because I doubt very much that your sister or dad spend even a fraction of the time thinking about your life as you do thinking about theirs.

I remember how that feels and I always felt like the black sheep of the family, like the one that always needed help or would never be able to cope properly the truth was actually the total opposite but it took some intervention with me deciding to see a psychologist for me to realise that. Genuinely life changing.
Obviously up to you and please don't see this as anything other than a desire to help you be happier and more secure in yourself and your life. Xx

https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/erik-laux

 

[JemRose]

Thank you GG, to be honest I've known for ages that I need to talk to someone but I always put it off. I know I have some issues going on up there and I just try to ignore it, but really I just torture myself with things that really don't need to be thought about.

Thank you so much for your advice x

 

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Thank you GG, to be honest I've known for ages that I need to talk to someone but I always put it off. I know I have some issues going on up there and I just try to ignore it, but really I just torture myself with things that really don't need to be thought about.

Thank you so much for your advice x

Don't put it off hun. Every day that you do, you're just hurting yourself more. Do it for you, nobody else and give yourself the freedom to be happy and enjoy your baby boy. You do deserve that. I know you'll probably think you don't sometimes, but trust me, you do. Xx

 

[Shanivy]

Jem speak to your midwife if you're feeling like you're having issues hun. Dont bottle it up especially now xx

Not much going on here. The thread is very quiet today! Have you all made a secret Facebook group and not told me lol. We're apparently due for at least 20 of snow here. In nearly march. What I wouldn't give for some bloody sunshine, this winter is kicking my ass. OH isn't doing too bad today though actually considering.

How is everyone today? Curious is anyone having a baby shower?

 

[PeanutButter]

Lol, ikno i was surprised not to aee thos thread when refreshing!
Its been snowing here on and off all day. Meant to get worse tonight.
My pelvis been palaying up last few days, couldnt get out the car yday lol.
Were not having a baby shower, no one would throw me one and of they did i have no friends to invite aha. Are you? X

 

[JemRose]

I just think I have a lot going on at the minute, I'm not really that concerned about my mood or anything.

Forecast snow here on Thursday, won't hold my breath as we hardly ever get snow in the South West - there has been tiny flurries of snow today though but nothing substantial!!

Baby keeps kicking today, feel it lightly but definitely know it's him

I'm having a baby shower, but simply because I threw my sister one when she was last pregnant (spent loads of money and lots of effort went into it). I announced my pregnancy to my sister by saying "you remember your amazing baby shower? Well looks like you'll have to return the favour!". Kind of wish I didn't say anything now cos I hate the attention being on me lol!! I can't imagine it will be any good though as she is now pregnant and we all know what she is like when things aren't about her

Hope everyone is okay today, very very quiet x

 

[PeanutButter]

Jem you could have a joint one? Be nice, id love to be pregnant with someone. Mine are first grankids on both sides. Kinda want the atrention off me.

 

[Shepherdess]

I've been quiet but just not got a lot to say... it's been so cold today and we're expecting to wake up to snow 20cm by the end of the week apparently

I felt and saw baby so much when I was 20 weeks but this last week she has been lying so I'm not getting as much. I think she's feet down with her back facing outwards as the kicks I am feeling are nowhere near the surface

I've said I don't want a baby shower but I know what my friends are like and I'll probably get a little one. I said I didn't want one last time but my best friend organised a big afternoon tea at mine and I had a great time. no emphasis on presents just games cake and a good catch up.

this time it's my birthday when I'm about 37 weeks which is also when husband is away abroad on a stag do so knowing my bestie she'll organise some sort of birthday/shower afternoon tea or curry, she's already dropped hints although I hope this one is just our group of 6 of us. I loved having the wider group last time but it feels so ott for a second baby

love PB's idea there Jemrose a joint one would be lovely

 

[Shanivy]

PB ahh I feel your pain hun. My hip is killing me today. I'm going to mention it at the physio, not sure if it's my pelvis or not but it burns like a fker lol. Did you get your physio sorted for yours? Can't remember. Nope we aren't having one. I couldn't be bothered with dd organising it and someone told me you're only supposed to have one with the first baby? I've only been to 2 baby showers in my life and they weren't for me lol. Had to get covered in toilet roll from head to toe I can't even remember why haha xx

Jem that's fab he's starting to really kick now. Hope you're feeling better in general though
Definitely have one. The Americans do it better than us, with a baby register so you can get things you need. If we did that I'd have one haha. "Silver cross pram" "Full nursery set" lol. I'm sure yours will be fab. I've seen pregnant women at baby showers and it doesn't take the attention off the person having it. Just lock her in the toilet if she gets annoying lol xx

 

[Shanivy]

I've been quiet but just not got a lot to say... it's been so cold today and we're expecting to wake up to snow 20cm by the end of the week apparently

I felt and saw baby so much when I was 20 weeks but this last week she has been lying so I'm not getting as much. I think she's feet down with her back facing outwards as the kicks I am feeling are nowhere near the surface

I've said I don't want a baby shower but I know what my friends are like and I'll probably get a little one. I said I didn't want one last time but my best friend organised a big afternoon tea at mine and I had a great time. no emphasis on presents just games cake and a good catch up.

this time it's my birthday when I'm about 37 weeks which is also when husband is away abroad on a stag do so knowing my bestie she'll organise some sort of birthday/shower afternoon tea or curry, she's already dropped hints although I hope this one is just our group of 6 of us. I loved having the wider group last time but it feels so ott for a second baby

love PB's idea there Jemrose a joint one would be lovely

Go for it especially if somebody else is doing all the work lol. Ive been getting so many of those kicks that feel super uncomfortable. Like on my cervix? It's nice to feel her but those ones are horrible tbh. Meant to reply to your chin hair post too. None on my face (as yet) but lovely black hairs appearing on my nipples :/ Jury's out as to whichever is worse haha. Mine was actually pointed out to me by OH though so...lol xx

 

[Shepherdess]

oh no! I've had one, just one dark nipple hair since being pregnant with DD. naughty but I pluck it. my husband has been really good about my face hairs telling me he can't see anything even when I shove my jaw in his face haha. the joys