****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[Shepherdess]

Those of you breastfeeding, do you think this would actually be helpful or nonsense?

https://infantino.com/products/elevate-adjustable-nursing-pillow

I used my pregnancy pillow to and it was a god send

 

[Shanivy]

Definitely getting a nursing pillow just wondered if the different highs on that adjustable one would be useful or just a faff about xx

 

[JemRose]

Sorry ladies for this TMI information about to come, but my grandparents have been relentless today with sending abuse etc. I've been ignoring it but it's really upset me.
Just after crying I suddenly got really sharp stomach pains and then needed the toilet but couldn't go. Eventually when I did go my BM was like water and I keep getting the stomach pain and needing to go but struggling and then watery again. Do you think I have a bug or could this be my bodies reaction to the stress and upset? Can't remember the last time I was like this so bit worried and confused x

 

[Shepherdess]

that sounds like a bug to me Jem but could be stress. when my ibs is really bad due to stress it's (sorry if this is too much) not like water

 

[_GG_]

Sorry ladies for this TMI information about to come, but my grandparents have been relentless today with sending abuse etc. I've been ignoring it but it's really upset me.
Just after crying I suddenly got really sharp stomach pains and then needed the toilet but couldn't go. Eventually when I did go my BM was like water and I keep getting the stomach pain and needing to go but struggling and then watery again. Do you think I have a bug or could this be my bodies reaction to the stress and upset? Can't remember the last time I was like this so bit worried and confused x

That is stress....no doubt about it. It is a physical manifestation of your mental turmoil.

Your grandparents...fuck them off right now. Blocks don't have to be permanent, so block them and refuse any contact before this starts to affect your baby.

Pretend I'm your doctor....I'm telling you to drink lots of water as you need to be very careful you don't get dehydrated and loose stools is one of the quickest ways to suffer dehydration....and remove the cause of it all now.

Like I always say...you are the advocates for your baby boy. You need to put you and him first and do not let anyone change your mind.

Xxx

 

[_GG_]

that sounds like a bug to me Jem but could be stress. when my ibs is really bad due to stress it's (sorry if this is too much) not like water

Depends on stress levels with me but I generally get a good few other symptoms with a bug as well.

 

[JemRose]

Thank you. It's stopped now. Lasted about half an hour. I guess it was stress.
I'm really concerned that being upset can cause my body to react like that and I'm worried about the effect it will have on baby.

I am ignoring all their messages but I can't block numbers on my phone I don't think x

 

[JaneyJan]

Sorry ladies for this TMI information about to come, but my grandparents have been relentless today with sending abuse etc. I've been ignoring it but it's really upset me.
Just after crying I suddenly got really sharp stomach pains and then needed the toilet but couldn't go. Eventually when I did go my BM was like water and I keep getting the stomach pain and needing to go but struggling and then watery again. Do you think I have a bug or could this be my bodies reaction to the stress and upset? Can't remember the last time I was like this so bit worried and confused x

Have you been constipated before this diarrhoea started? If so, it could be a bit of overflow and you're still a bit constipated, but more than likely it's as the girls say, a bit of stress and poorly tummy, you get the urge to go, because of the pain but it's all still quite high up and you've got to wait for it to arrive essentially.

You might have eaten something a bit dodgy. Usually will feel better within 24 hours. (If it's the latter)

 

[JaneyJan]

Jem maybe you need to go on a little retreat for a few days? Sounds like you're nearing the end of your emotional rope. That's what I try to do sometimes.
You know, is there anywhere you can go to get away from the negativity and just rest, unplug, switch off, treat yourself, do things you enjoy and that matter to you, meditate and think about your baby... Where you can recuperate and just build up some of your reserves again before coming back to all this stress and strain?

Maybe this weekend you can block everything/everyone else out and just on resting, emotionally, physically and spiritually? Or if not, plan in some time to get some quality rest?

 

[_GG_]

Jem, you might have to get used to the runs with stress. Some women just have it as a reaction. My mum is terrible and I'm following suit. I remember my older sister being hours late home and my mum would on and off the loo like a yo yo until she heard from her or she came home.
Any genuine stress or serious worry does it to her. Takes a lot more stress for me and generally with me it's worry more than stress as I don't get stressed easily but it is horrible when it happens.

 

[_GG_]

Well, I got to the pub at 11.50 and didn't get home til 10.40. Put hay out with Dan and sorted other horses and dogs with him, now finally in bed hoping for more sleep than last night. Will catch up on everything tomorrow but fear it will be busier due to two rugby matches lol. Feeling good though and not only is baby doing the riverdance in me...but I felt one kick with my hand on my belly....through the placenta so well happy about that.

 

[PeanutButter]

Jem its a stress poop, i get it when im stressed or worried. Heh a worry poop.
You need to fk people being horrible off. It wont get better when baby comes actually itll probably be worse. So get rid now. Dont wanna be dealing with all this and a newborn x

 

[Shanivy]

Jem hope you're feeling a little better

I'd agree it was probably stress or tbh more like anxiety. When I used to have my anxiety attacks, one of the symptoms was the runs. When you get extremely anxious (like with a panic attack) your fight or flight mode kicks in, it can cause the body to think it needs to empty your bowels to help with the fight or flight. It used to make me feel better when it happened because I could convince myself it was just a panic attack and I wasn't dying then.

So baby will be fine, but put simply you definitely need to get any negative toxic people out of your life. Your body is telling you that you have enough on your plate, without the extra emotional strain. Block, ignore, move on. Hugs xx

 

[Shanivy]

GG that's pretty great you got to feel baby with your hand! Fx for Dan to feel it too in the next few weeks, I bet he can't wait for that Xx

Pretty stressful start to my morning. Dd woke up in a fuming temper and has pretty much cried/threw an attitude about anything and everything since she woke up. So it's going to be one of those days, goodbye relaxing Saturday I planned for. I was going to go baby shopping but if she stays this way it would probably be as much fun as getting a wisdom tooth out so...no lol

 

[Shepherdess]

GG that's pretty great you got to feel baby with your hand! Fx for Dan to feel it too in the next few weeks, I bet he can't wait for that Xx

Pretty stressful start to my morning. Dd woke up in a fuming temper and has pretty much cried/threw an attitude about anything and everything since she woke up. So it's going to be one of those days, goodbye relaxing Saturday I planned for. I was going to go baby shopping but if she stays this way it would probably be as much fun as getting a wisdom tooth out so...no lol

oh no shanivy not again, did you take her to the drs with her last temp? I hope she get a over it soon, stick a Disney DVD on!

it's a beautiful morning here! DD and I have to take one of the dog's to the vet's this morning then I'm hoping husband might be able to take an hour or two off so we can all take the puppy for a walk.

after getting back from DD's art class at 3 yesterday husband told me his parents were coming over for tea so I had a mad panic tidy which at the time was a pain but now I've got a nice tidy house and can just play with DD today. think we might bake a carrot cake I've been craving one all week. have a nice weekend ladies

 

[_GG_]

GG that's pretty great you got to feel baby with your hand! Fx for Dan to feel it too in the next few weeks, I bet he can't wait for that Xx

Pretty stressful start to my morning. Dd woke up in a fuming temper and has pretty much cried/threw an attitude about anything and everything since she woke up. So it's going to be one of those days, goodbye relaxing Saturday I planned for. I was going to go baby shopping but if she stays this way it would probably be as much fun as getting a wisdom tooth out so...no lol

Oh bless her. It's still early, maybe a duvet morning can mean a better afternoon xxx

 

[Shanivy]

Oh no not a temp. Just temper and in a furiously bad mood. It's worse lol. She isn't tired and slept from 7.30 last night so it's going to one of those days.

I've decided we're going out so hopefully she gets out of this insane mood. Lol I hate panic tidying, OHs parent text me all the time to say they're in their way and lately there's been a lot of times where I'm running about the house getting a 10 minute panic tidy in haha. Xx

Have a great weekend ladies xx

 

[_GG_]

Oh no not a temp. Just temper and in a furiously bad mood. It's worse lol. She isn't tired and slept from 7.30 last night so it's going to one of those days.

I've decided we're going out so hopefully she gets out of this insane mood. Lol I hate panic tidying, OHs parent text me all the time to say they're in their way and lately there's been a lot of times where I'm running about the house getting a 10 minute panic tidy in haha. Xx

Have a great weekend ladies xx

Ah, phew...glad we misread, lol. Panic tidying is often the only tidying I do, lol.

In laws get told we are both working (but until the pub, that meant always working from home for me) so not to arrive before 6pm. Last time they stayed, they arrived at 3.30. Dan was home, MIL said she thought he was supposed to be working in her usual tone and he said he was...and was just about to go on a conference call.
Dan asked why they were so early and she said the traffic was really good. I couldn't help myself. I said, I'm not surprised...we're only 2 hours away and it's 2.5 hours before you were supposed to arrive. You shouldn't have even left yet let alone arrived. Did you expect a detour through Scotland?
Dan laughed, I laughed, FIL laughed and MIL made up some crap about want I g to beat the traffic....by 5 fucking hours!!!

 

[JemRose]

Thanks everyone I'm definitely loads better now and completely agree with taking an emotional break from everything. Which I would if they just left me the fuck alone haha. I do feel better today.

Shan I read the replies to that temper message and thought I was going crazy cos I was sure you hadn't said temperature haha. I hope it's not something in the air as I'm off to see my niece in a minute to look after her for an hour and she can have one hell of a temper!

21 weeks today

 

[JemRose]

GG you have the patience of a Saint with those in laws!