****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[PeanutButter]

We have literaly zero names for either gender atm. I really like Evie for a girl, but hubby said sounds like a Pokemon name :/ so that's a nope. We had Scarlett picked out for years and years so that was easy aha.
The reason I hate family suggesting names is because both sides are the type that if we use a name they've suggested will go around saying they've named our baby! Which will annoy me. Lol.
Hope it goes smoothly for you gg.
Shep my husband would never agree to let me name the baby! Ohhh how I wish. He likes classics like Harry etc. But think they're abit boring!

 

[JemRose]

Coming up with a name we both agree on is impossible. We have a name for a girl for definite. But boys, no idea and we don't like anything haha. OH likes Reggie, which I do think is really cute so maybe it will be that. I like Isaac but OH doesn't!

 

[Shanivy]

No boys names here at all! We have a boy list but we go back and forward. Like it one minute hate it the next.

Pretty sure it's a boy too haha xx

 

[Enya5589]

We have had names picked for weeks haha! We had a girls name b4 i got pregnant then I demanded we picked a boys so we weren’t tempting fate! 2 more sleeps and we should know which name we will be using eeeeek! Xx

 

[Shepherdess]

aw yay Enya how exciting for you!

Jemrose sorry youre feeling a bit down. why is your mum moving? as for weekends, have you started a nursery? or maybe go for some nice walks?

husband was a legend tonight and fetched me home that ham and pineapple pizza I've craved since early pregnancy. it was amazing! I also made myself a ginger beer mojito as a tasty treat since he is heading out on the drink. I mentioned ginger yesterday for heartburn and actually since drink two of those tonight it's no where near as bad. I'm quite tired tonight so heading to bed soon. hoping for a nice family day tomorrow depending on ohs hangover, a walk would be nice and I've got some lamb out of the freezer

 

[JemRose]

My mum has no reason to move lol.
And no unfortunately we're in a one bed flat so can't start anything until we manage to get somewhere else.
I don't know, just this weekend feel so down and bored of everything, but can't make my mind up on what to do or eat or what film to watch or anything. OH is wound up cos I can't make my mind up and I'm miserable, don't blame him really. But wish he would just say right cheer up we're going to do this.
Haha hope OH isn't too hungover for you tomorrow then shepherdess x

 

[_GG_]

Jem...your mum moving to your sisters town screams to me that she thinks her sister needs her more than you do. It may not seem like it, but it's a massive unspoken compliment to be subconsciously known as the strong one that can cope. She'll still be there for you, but I'm guessing your sister won't do nearly as well without her close by. My sister is a very strong woman but if she hasn't had out parents in the next village, she wouldn't have had a second child as she wouldn't cope and she's said that. I left home at 16 and have always done my own thing. My mum is there the moment I need her but she doesn't automatically offer help because I'm always just fine getting on with my life. Other relationship with my sister is that she's a babysitter. Her relationship with me is we're friends.

I can however totally understand how it can feel very very hurtful. Maybe have a chat to her about it.

I'm just home from the pub. Was a busy night so only started peeling spuds for roasties at 10.30. Now just home and about to cook myself some food. Then I'll be doing pigs in blankets and Yorkshire puddings til about 2am, then back up at 6 to get to the pub and get the meats in the oven. Thank god for Monday's off and I will probably sleep all evening tomorrow, lol.

 

[_GG_]

Oh...and properly felt the baby move this evening. I meant against the stainless steel table in work and baby didn't like it. Really quick flip like sensation. I did it again after 20 minutes and the same thing happened. Poor babba...probably so pissed off with me as I did it another 3 times just to prove to myself I wasn't making it up. It's also made me much more confident about the other flutters I feel occasionally. Baby was so active at the scan though. The women did say I'd probably be in for a bit of a beating and kicking this pregnancy, lol

 

[JemRose]

Yeah I guess so GG. Nice to have the rationality of everyone on here to reassure my silly brain lol.
That's amazing you've started to feel movements, I think I have but baby wasn't very active on the scan so guess I've just got a sleepy baby who doesn't move too much haha x

 

[Shepherdess]

I am going through a "I want to eat everything stage". yesterday I ate so much, by 2pm I said to myself "right once DD wakes up you can have one more snack before you get pizza later" I had bowl of porridge, half a packet of crisps, a homemade cupcake, a good few spoons of cake mix out of the bowl and 4 chicken nuggets before my pizza came. the pizza was amazing and I was gutted when I finished it

this morning I've woken up starving, had two slices of white toats with beans and a bit of bacon and I'm sat looking at my empty plate wondering what I can eat next haha.

I'm usually a great breakfast eater, one slice of wholemeal toast with avocado and scrambled egg keeps me going until 1130 but I am so hungry

 

[Shanivy]

Shepherdess lol that's some appetite, I wish I shared that unfortunately I think I'd be okay being drip fed right now lol xx

Jem GGs right chat to your mum and explain how you felt. You might feel better actually hearing from her. She might not even realise it bothers you. Xx

GG that's great news! I think I felt a kick like tap last night. Maybe the 3rd time I've felt something. If I were my first I'd Be doubtful but I'm sure I felt it just like dd. If you know you know xx

I've done nothing this morning. Everytime I stand up today I'm getting so breathless that I have to sit again. Literally every few minutes. I've eaten, not dehydrated ugh. It's frustrating the life out of me, I've a million things to do today

 

[KHTW]

Jem 20min awa is nothing hun, she or you can see each other no problem. I wouldn't read too much into her moving closer to your sister. Your sister will be having her 2nd right? She will need help a bit more, I think x

Shep I am the same, could eat and eat and eat! X

Went to cinema was OH last night, it was nice to get out and relax x

 

[JemRose]

Omg girls last night I could have cried. Went to tesco to look at sweets as for ages I know I've really wanted something but haven't been able to work out what. Stood there for a bit and spotted marshmallows, I don't like marshmallows, but then I realised OMG it's a flump marshmallow thing that I want, I was so excited I'd finally worked it out.... Fucking shop didn't sell them!!! I cried and I was so angry haha. My heart has hurt ever since because I haven't had one. I can't even explain how much I need one lol. I always wondered what a craving was like and I'm going to take a guess that this is a pregnancy craving haha! Still haven't had one and I'm so so so sad just writing this hahaha

 

[Shanivy]

Just said to OH "I'm supposed to be in the glowing stage, am not glowing at all am I?"
OH *blank stare* "Uh.." Cheers love

 

[Katybaby87]

Where do you all stand on grandparents having baby to stay? I went shopping with my mum today and we don’t tend to see eye to eye on anything much and she was talking about how they were going to put some chairs in the spare room for reading but now she’s putting a bed in the spare room for the baby for when it comes to stay and I was like well you know it’ll be a long time before it’s in a bed - like 18 months meaning you could still have chairs and she almost cried...

Am I being mean but she has quite a vicious dog, and lots of health problem including an eating disorder, back pain that
Sometimes she can’t get out of bed and can’t drive very far even on good days,, insomnia has affected her memory so she has to set reminders to take all her tablets and is majorly forgetful even in conversations, and loses her balance a lot... she suffers so bad from anxiety she doesn’t go shopping alone and can’t have friends or family over. I don’t feel comfortable leaving my baby with her even for a few hours let alone over night and I don’t really see why the baby would come and stay with her in the first few months anyway but I don’t know how to approach that with them? I imagined it would
Go to stay when it was much older (and less fragile!)

 

[Shepherdess]

Where do you all stand on grandparents having baby to stay? I went shopping with my mum today and we don’t tend to see eye to eye on anything much and she was talking about how they were going to put some chairs in the spare room for reading but now she’s putting a bed in the spare room for the baby for when it comes to stay and I was like well you know it’ll be a long time before it’s in a bed - like 18 months meaning you could still have chairs and she almost cried...

Am I being mean but she has quite a vicious dog, and lots of health problem including an eating disorder, back pain that
Sometimes she can’t get out of bed and can’t drive very far even on good days,, insomnia has affected her memory so she has to set reminders to take all her tablets and is majorly forgetful even in conversations, and loses her balance a lot... she suffers so bad from anxiety she doesn’t go shopping alone and can’t have friends or family over. I don’t feel comfortable leaving my baby with her even for a few hours let alone over night and I don’t really see why the baby would come and stay with her in the first few months anyway but I don’t know how to approach that with them? I imagined it would
Go to stay when it was much older (and less fragile!)

Katy you know best as far as leaving your baby with someone goes

I do think that grandchildren bring out the best in some people though. my mum suffers from fibromyalgia and depression and honestly DD has been the best thing for her. she really gives her some drive and motivation through something to look forward to. my mum and I have never been close and still aren't now but she adores DD. you know your mum best though and every situation and relationship is different

I didn't leave DD overnight until she was about 14m after I stopped breastfeeding. she's maybe had her overnight 7/8 Times and MIL has had her once. mainly because I don't leave her unless I really feel the need to. I am going to let her have her a few more times over the coming months so I can get a good night's sleep and so husband and I can have a few dates before baby comes. it'll be so much harder for us to get care for two

 

[Shepherdess]

will also add that sometimes you need to make rules and if they don't stick to them they don't have baby, no acceptions

 

[KHTW]

Omg girls last night I could have cried. Went to tesco to look at sweets as for ages I know I've really wanted something but haven't been able to work out what. Stood there for a bit and spotted marshmallows, I don't like marshmallows, but then I realised OMG it's a flump marshmallow thing that I want, I was so excited I'd finally worked it out.... Fucking shop didn't sell them!!! I cried and I was so angry haha. My heart has hurt ever since because I haven't had one. I can't even explain how much I need one lol. I always wondered what a craving was like and I'm going to take a guess that this is a pregnancy craving haha! Still haven't had one and I'm so so so sad just writing this hahaha

There must be a shop somewhere that has them, right?? It totally sounds like pregnancy crving! Hope you manage to get it x

 

[KHTW]

Just said to OH "I'm supposed to be in the glowing stage, am not glowing at all am I?"
OH *blank stare* "Uh.." Cheers love

MEN!!! I wouldn't even bother asking lol x

 

[KHTW]

Where do you all stand on grandparents having baby to stay? I went shopping with my mum today and we don’t tend to see eye to eye on anything much and she was talking about how they were going to put some chairs in the spare room for reading but now she’s putting a bed in the spare room for the baby for when it comes to stay and I was like well you know it’ll be a long time before it’s in a bed - like 18 months meaning you could still have chairs and she almost cried...

Am I being mean but she has quite a vicious dog, and lots of health problem including an eating disorder, back pain that
Sometimes she can’t get out of bed and can’t drive very far even on good days,, insomnia has affected her memory so she has to set reminders to take all her tablets and is majorly forgetful even in conversations, and loses her balance a lot... she suffers so bad from anxiety she doesn’t go shopping alone and can’t have friends or family over. I don’t feel comfortable leaving my baby with her even for a few hours let alone over night and I don’t really see why the baby would come and stay with her in the first few months anyway but I don’t know how to approach that with them? I imagined it would
Go to stay when it was much older (and less fragile!)

My mum lives abroad so that's that but in laws stay 20mim away. They come to our house and stay a few hours with DD (2 years) if we need to be out or just fancy dinner or cinema alone. She never stayed at their house (not that I would mind but we all agree that she is better staying in her house with her toys etc). They never had her overnight. They never asked and we never needed her to stay. They are lovely people and I would not object for her to stay BUT not when she was a baby for sure. Now when she is 2 that's ok.

If you have ANY reasons not to want to leave your baby with your mum then don't and tell her that. She can't force you... If she wants to spend time with the baby I am sure you will let her into your house? And of course... the dog stays home! X