****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

Thank you everyone, you're so supportive and I think I just keep putting a downer here all the time :(

JaneyJan love your trailing thought to noodles, my brain does that a lot too haha.

GG you sound like you're having a wonderful morning, that is amazing news that baby is doing so well and you got to see so much. At least you have some pics for Dan and he gets to see for himself too in a few weeks :D x
 
We all love happy news! But honestly if I was that big brother or sister I would be pissed having to share my birthday lol x

haha it'll be an expensive Time for the parents. I cant decide whether joint parties are a good thing or bad thing

anyone else in a nesting mood? I can't really do much in the bedrooms until I know the baby's sex so I've sorted a load of books for the charity shop and started painting my living room skirting board. suddenly I feel like I want the house all in order. I've got bags of energy to so actively stopping myself from going to homebase and buying paint to redecorate the whole living room

Me!! Suddenly all I can see is mess and junk WHEREVER I look. Im also trying to feed the husband thoughts like... Du you really need this? Let's get rid of all this junk.... You don't even use this anymore..mm also think I'm not going to buy much until the 20 week scan at the start of march... But yeah I want to get rid of so much stuff. Also we have a lodger living in the room I want us to share with the baby for sleeping and then turn our current bedroom into the nursery so basically ... There is a lot to arrange. He doesn't move out until may.
 
We all love happy news! But honestly if I was that big brother or sister I would be pissed having to share my birthday lol x

haha it'll be an expensive Time for the parents. I cant decide whether joint parties are a good thing or bad thing

anyone else in a nesting mood? I can't really do much in the bedrooms until I know the baby's sex so I've sorted a load of books for the charity shop and started painting my living room skirting board. suddenly I feel like I want the house all in order. I've got bags of energy to so actively stopping myself from going to homebase and buying paint to redecorate the whole living room

God no. All three of us are after Xmas/January birthdays. Any more January birthdays and I'd be bankrupt for the rest of the year lol

You're like a Duracell bunny Shep, I wish I had some of your energy right now lol. We're in the middle of decorating now so I don't think I feel like nesting. Could be because a lot is getting done at the minute.

But I am starting to get very frustrated and impatient at getting things done asap. And starting the nursery. I made a list, and some of the things I wrote down, OH was like "Seriously that's what's bothering you?" Like my stairs bannister needs repainted and I cant see how it doesn't bother him! Lol xx
 
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I'll do my quick rant here and you can all ignore if you like haha.

So when I applied for this job (medical secretary), I applied for 3 others jobs at the time. I had just moved further away from my current place of work so needed somewhere closer to home. I loved my old job but the travelling was too much.

Anyway, I must have an impressive CV and interview skills as I got all 3 of the jobs I went for. I then had to weigh up the best options for me. I picked this job because they understood my ambition and the fact that I wanted to climb the career ladder into a GP Practice Manager or similar role and not just be a secretary forever. I have a very ambitious mind and I hate to be stuck doing the same thing for too long. They understood that and played on that.

I took the job here because I was offered that after 6 months to a year they would review my job and start training me up to be Practice Manager, well take off some of the workload from the current Practice Manager, therefore giving me vital experience to eventually take on the job, or go somewhere else where that job is advertised. They also said they would review my pay every 6 months. I thought, wow this is amazing, they are going to actually help me get my foot in the door.

Today, I come into work and I'm told by my colleague (she's lovely and more than aware of my ambitions). That she has out of the blue been offered a desk in the managers office, with more pay and to take on some of the Practice Manager's workload ... Hold on a second, isn't that exactly what I was offered when I took the job?! Isn't that the exact reason why I took the job here and not the other 2?? Hmmm... THINK SO!!!

My colleague said she wasn't really given much choice, she doesn't wanna sit in the manger's office or take on the extra stress (she is 57 and wants an easy work life I think). But the extra money would help her. She said sorry to me because she knew that's the exact reason why I came here and there's been no secret about that. She also said that nobody else knows this and she's told me out of courtesy, but it is a secret at the moment.

So I can't help but think that because I'm going maternity leave, they have decided to give that job to someone else. When I was promised that when I came to work here. I haven't got it in writing, have checked over my contract. In my contract also it says a yearly pay review!!! I'm so angry!! You don't realise discrepancies in your contract until you need the information!

I will NOT be coming back here after my maternity leave. I am happy to sit in Tesco for a while (done it before and actually loved it) for the money after my maternity pay is up, until a job comes up that I want.

Everything I joined this place for has been a lie. I thought I was an NHS employee, hence why I moved here whilst TTC because I thought I'd get the NHS Maternity Pay - turns out I don't. I came here on the promise of furthering my career and now I'm pregnant this has been given to someone else.

I hate this place, I am so angry and I can't even say anything yet because I'm not even supposed to know!!!

OH is actually on board and told me I'm not coming back here after maternity because they've shown me no loyalty and their word means nothing. "fuck them" so he says. So I will literally fuck them and their stupid fucking job, when I pretend I'm coming back and then hand my notice in.

Sorry, I'm so so so sorry that I keep bringing shit on here. But you're all so helpful and I feel much better having just typed it out.

x
 
Jem... wait? They just offered her that position without advertising it internally?? It doesn't seem right or fair. Can't you approach them about it? But actually I guess there is no point since you are not planing on coming back there...

I am sorry they constantly put you in shit situations like this one!!!

REMEMBER ONLY FEW MORE MONTHS... x
 
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Oh Jem I'm so mad for you!

It's so so unfortunate you didn't get that in your contact as you'd probably have a case for discrimination. It does sounds like they've given your job to someone else because you got pregnant. But I realise that's not much help now. I'm so sorry hun.

If it were me I'd not go back either. I'm glad I quit with the shit I was taking. When baby comes I'll be taking something part time but not back into support work. Your work definitely haven't been supportive of your pregnancy either! Fuckers!

Your colleague is a bit of a dick by the way. At 57 if she doesn't want the job she knows you want, she shouldn't have bloody taken it. I'm sure she had a choice :roll:

Hugs Jem. Just think of the money before you do anything rash in anger. Your little baby will be here soon and you'll be out of there and then fuck them ! Good luck to two faced practice manager when you're out the door! xxx
 
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Shep I have no urge to do any sorting or decorating. In fact we decorated the whole house 4 years ago and don't really want to go through that again lol. Baby will eventually be sharing a room with DD and maybe when that time comes we will re-decorate it x
 
Oh and Jem I'd absolutely approach them about it too and ask why they have given your job to someone else! It's definitely discrimination. Never mind your woman who "told you as a courtesy". It will do your head in otherwise xx
 
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Oh and the other news is that the person they interviewed the other day has declined the job. They were going to interview another woman and she has cancelled the interview ...

GOOD LUCK to them when I leave hahaha
 
Jem...you're right. Fuck em. They don't deserve you. Xx
 
Aw Jem, so sorry to hear that. But I think you're right with the "fuck them" attitude if you're not going back after maternity leave. You've just got a few more months to get through then you'll be off and you can tell them to shove it afterwards. It's not worth the stress.

And here is the place to vent if you ever need to. Don't think bad of typing out a rant! We all need a rant sometimes.
 
I rant more than most I think!

But yeah I'm definitely going to come in, keep my head down, do my best and then leave and not think about it ever again :)

4 months and 7 days until I leave haha
 
I rant more than most I think!

But yeah I'm definitely going to come in, keep my head down, do my best and then leave and not think about it ever again :)

4 months and 7 days until I leave haha

That sounds like a good plan to me! June will be here before you know it! x
 
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So my sister has told me about a new old wives tale that I didn't know before.

She text me and asked me what my baby's heartbeat sounded like and I said like galloping horses. She said that hers sounds like a train and her son also sounded like a train.

She said that there is an old wives tale that if the heartbeat sounds like a train it's a boy and if it sounds like a horse it's a girl! I asked my friend who has had 2 boys (she initially thought I was losing the plot) but she said both her boys sounded like a train.

Very fun! What has everyone's heartbeats sounded like so far? Maybe we can match up this theory haha as so far it's been correct
 
So my sister has told me about a new old wives tale that I didn't know before.

She text me and asked me what my baby's heartbeat sounded like and I said like galloping horses. She said that hers sounds like a train and her son also sounded like a train.

She said that there is an old wives tale that if the heartbeat sounds like a train it's a boy and if it sounds like a horse it's a girl! I asked my friend who has had 2 boys (she initially thought I was losing the plot) but she said both her boys sounded like a train.

Very fun! What has everyone's heartbeats sounded like so far? Maybe we can match up this theory haha as so far it's been correct

I have heard about this one but I can't tell one sound from the other lol!!!!! x

I think DD's sounded faster tho than this one x
 
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I've never heard of it before and I'm glad tbh as I automatically thought horses when I heard the heartbeat and I think if I knew the trains or horses thing I would analyse it more lol x
 
So my sister has told me about a new old wives tale that I didn't know before.

She text me and asked me what my baby's heartbeat sounded like and I said like galloping horses. She said that hers sounds like a train and her son also sounded like a train.

She said that there is an old wives tale that if the heartbeat sounds like a train it's a boy and if it sounds like a horse it's a girl! I asked my friend who has had 2 boys (she initially thought I was losing the plot) but she said both her boys sounded like a train.

Very fun! What has everyone's heartbeats sounded like so far? Maybe we can match up this theory haha as so far it's been correct

This is lies. I basically had most old wives tales... Super sick with daughter none with this one. I'm clumsy and forgetful and just generally not with it, with my daughter I was like a normal person aha.
DD and this ones HB was exactly the same even same beats per min both 156.
This baby is alot more active to, feel like all the time, dd even at 30 weeks barely anything lol
 

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