****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

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GG we usually have a double blanket each lol, hubby like feather and I like normal, we're always fighting for covers, I like being wrapped up heh. Atm we only have 1 cos be too much on the bed if we put dd in with us don't wanna smother her.
I keep wanting to cook a pie, no clue how I bought the pastry but no clue what to put in it so it's just in the freezer (Im no good in the kitchen, I burn frozen pizzas soo yeah. I can't even make gravy just ends up like water no idea why hubby does that haha).
Will be starting dd on lunch soon luckily just have to steam/boil veggies

I will do a recipe for you. Pies are super easy. Xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

It's pretty frustrating when everyone wants their say in naming the baby too haha I feel like I can't please anyone already xx

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And this is why we are not telling anyone in the family what name we have picked. I cannot be bothered dealing with 'oh...really? And why not this or that?'

omg the iconic "oh....". my mum is so passive aggressive if she doesnt like something or isn't happy she'll be like "...oh...." then a big pause then she'll be like..."i just thought you were going to do x y or z but its okay" and its like ITS CLEARLY NOT OKAY AND TAKE YOUR OH AND SHOVE IT haha its the tone , it instantly enrages me haha xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

Just say sorry don't like that, please stop giving me names as I will be choosing myself. My mum is not a nightmare in the slightest, but I've asked her to stop suggesting names to me cos I don't like any of them haha.

Well I threw up out the car window whilst driving to work today.. feel incredibly sick still and looking very pasty. Everyone at work (besides my manager) is concerned about me and think I should go home, but I although I really want to, I kind of don't because I feel she'll go mental about it x

That's really messed up. The manager legally can't freak out. I know they can verbally be grumpy and get on like a dick but u can whistle blow on them. Now you've informed them you are pregnant you are protected against any discrimination and they just have to suck it up for any pregnancy related illness! I know it doesn't make for a nice atmosphere but your manager already sounds like a dick xx

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She is a dick, honestly I'm already looking into my rights etc. because I feel I am being treated unfairly. On one website I read that pregnancy discrimination also covers you if your work is starting to be scrutinised, questions and faults found - which they have been doing with me since I said I was pregnant. They are blaming me for the work not being done, moaning at me about complaints they have received. Everything is all my fault to them, when it isn't - I was off for a pregnancy related illness and they didn't cover me, I was expected to come back in and be bollocked about work not being done when I wasn't here to do it.

Last week when I had my antenatal appointments (which they asked for proof of, which they never normally do - although I've read they are entitled to do that), my manager apparently was moaning that I was off AGAIN and that I was so far behind with my work!!
A) I'm entitled to that time off
B) I'm behind because my work wasn't covered for almost 4 weeks
C) FUCK OFF!!

Someone is meant to be starting in Feb to help out, but I guarantee now that they will give her other jobs to do and she won't end up helping me out at all.

I'm fed up of being blamed for being behind. I'm fed up of feeling bad if I'm ill and really can't come in. I'm fed up of thinking I was getting more maternity pay and I'm not. I'm fed up of feeling like I'm being treated unfairly. I'm just fed up of all of it.

But I'm still coming in, doing my best and I swear if they moan at me one more time I will just lose it haha.

(sorry for my rant, bet you wish you never asked) x

Don't be sorry at all, I dont regret asking at all! it's good for u to vent and I am sure I dont need to say that we are all here for you!

It is a ridiculous position they are putting you in! I hate how people can't see how unreasonable they are being or maybe they can but just don't care cuz they think they can! Well that's easy fixed when you bring in your pregnancy rights!!Im really glad you are looking into your rights, dont let them bully or push you around! they will be the ones who lose out on a great worker if they drive you away!

I don't even know how you manage to keep it together so much, you've had such a hard time with your ear infections and other illnesses and that's the last thing you need on top of all that!

xxx

 

[LuckyLaura]

Morning ladies. Managed to get a couple of hours sleep on the sofa this morning. Really awful nights sleep. Dan is a radiator in bed, I'm the total opposite so we have our own single duvets on the bed. We tried the split duvets that you can have thicker or thinner on either side. They always end up with a cold bit in the middle, lol. So, we've done done with our own duvets this winter. Both had great sleep. Now my bump is bigger, I'm support. The pregnancy pillow is back in the box as I just can't use it at night. It's fine for a nap, but after about 30 minutes, gives me awful neck ache. It also sticks out of the duvet which means I get fucking cold drafts. Was in tears of frustration last night as I tried normal pillows, cushions, rolled up towels, the lot. Either super uncomfortable or stupid cold drafts.

On the sofa, I can't move onto my belly which is good, it naturally holds me in a position with my back supported and bump supported by pure design. Dan is away tonight with work so I will try the bed with pillows and a big duvet and see how I get on with that...but god help anyone that pisses me off today

In fact, Jem, send your manager to Me, I could quite easily put the fear of god and all damnation in her at the moment.

Just ugh.

Hope you're all okay. Jem, go home...fuck em!

sounds like a horrendous nights sleep! I literally cant live without my pregnancy pillow, what type did you get? I got a long snake one so its not a fully body one so i use my normal pillows cuz i didnt like using it for my head. maybe try a different type? Sounds horrendous xx

 

[Shanivy]

Just say sorry don't like that, please stop giving me names as I will be choosing myself. My mum is not a nightmare in the slightest, but I've asked her to stop suggesting names to me cos I don't like any of them haha.

Well I threw up out the car window whilst driving to work today.. feel incredibly sick still and looking very pasty. Everyone at work (besides my manager) is concerned about me and think I should go home, but I although I really want to, I kind of don't because I feel she'll go mental about it x

That's really messed up. The manager legally can't freak out. I know they can verbally be grumpy and get on like a dick but u can whistle blow on them. Now you've informed them you are pregnant you are protected against any discrimination and they just have to suck it up for any pregnancy related illness! I know it doesn't make for a nice atmosphere but your manager already sounds like a dick xx

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I'm telling you Jem that Risk assessment was a piece of shit too. Pregnancy illness is classed separate from illness and you definitely can't be dismissed or given any sort of warning etc from it.


She is a dick, honestly I'm already looking into my rights etc. because I feel I am being treated unfairly. On one website I read that pregnancy discrimination also covers you if your work is starting to be scrutinised, questions and faults found - which they have been doing with me since I said I was pregnant. They are blaming me for the work not being done, moaning at me about complaints they have received. Everything is all my fault to them, when it isn't - I was off for a pregnancy related illness and they didn't cover me, I was expected to come back in and be bollocked about work not being done when I wasn't here to do it.

Last week when I had my antenatal appointments (which they asked for proof of, which they never normally do - although I've read they are entitled to do that), my manager apparently was moaning that I was off AGAIN and that I was so far behind with my work!!
A) I'm entitled to that time off
B) I'm behind because my work wasn't covered for almost 4 weeks
C) FUCK OFF!!

Someone is meant to be starting in Feb to help out, but I guarantee now that they will give her other jobs to do and she won't end up helping me out at all.

I'm fed up of being blamed for being behind. I'm fed up of feeling bad if I'm ill and really can't come in. I'm fed up of thinking I was getting more maternity pay and I'm not. I'm fed up of feeling like I'm being treated unfairly. I'm just fed up of all of it.

But I'm still coming in, doing my best and I swear if they moan at me one more time I will just lose it haha.

(sorry for my rant, bet you wish you never asked) x

I'm telling you Jem that Risk assessment was a piece of shit too. Especially the stress part. Pregnancy illness is classed separate from illness and you definitely can't be dismissed or given any sort of warning etc from it. Don't let them walk all over you. Check your rights too, im sorry they are teating you so poorly. I would get legal advice to be honest xx

 

[Shanivy]

PB good luck for your scan today eek!!! Baby will either be a boy or girl by tonight haha. I read through but I maybe missed it. How did consultant go ? Xx

 

[JemRose]

Thank you Laura, I'm definitely cursed with bad luck, wonder if I was Hitler in my previous life lol.

Yeah Shan I might get some advice tbh, I can ring the ACAS team who my midwife told me to talk to if I feel I need help xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

oooh pb! How exciting!!! xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

Thank you Laura, I'm definitely cursed with bad luck, wonder if I was Hitler in my previous life lol.

Yeah Shan I might get some advice tbh, I can ring the ACAS team who my midwife told me to talk to if I feel I need help xx

I swear I must have been a kitten-kicker in a previous life haha everything seems to go wrong but we just have to battle on! xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

Also sorry for all my posting today

OFFICIALLY 15 WEEKS TODAY YAAAAAAAAAAY xx

 

[JemRose]

Yay happy 15 weeks!! Seemed not so long ago you were worrying about being an imposter in tri 2 and now you're a firm member

 

[KHTW]

Happy 15 weeks!

 

[Shanivy]

Happy 15 weeks Laura. Did you book a private scan in the end? Xx

 

[PeanutButter]

PB good luck for your scan today eek!!! Baby will either be a boy or girl by tonight haha. I read through but I maybe missed it. How did consultant go ? Xx

It was OK nothing happened really, they said need another gtt at 28 weeks and they won't let me go past 40 weeks so that's good x

 

[LuckyLaura]

Yay happy 15 weeks!! Seemed not so long ago you were worrying about being an imposter in tri 2 and now you're a firm member

Yes I definitely don't feel like an imposter now! haha just until I can be an imposter in tri 3 hahha

Happy 15 weeks Laura. Did you book a private scan in the end? Xx

Thanks everyone im so excited to hit this milestone haha for me its a milestone anyway. I did book it yes, for next wed 7th feb and im super excited. Using babybond in belfast xx

 

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It always feels great to get to another week. I think they're all milestones.

I have 1 sleep and I'll be 18 weeks. Seems very surreal, lol.

Not doing so well today unfortunately. My car was down the pub and was going to hitch a ride with Dan on his way to work to pick it up bit it took 20 minutes to de-ice his car, mine was in a much more exposed place and Dan was already running late. So, I walked to the pub for lunch service. Haven't experienced pain like that I think ever. Got about 3/4 of the way there and it was like torture. My left leg felt like it weighed a ton and my left hip and groin were on fire. Walked into the pub, apologised to a couple waiting there but they were awesome. They offered me a lift into hospital but I declined and drove myself to the gp. Hospital appointment tomorrow. Probably have an MRI.

Why??? I can walk up the hill to the horses. Maybe it's because that's on soft ground and in little bursts rather than non stop on tarmac?

 

[LuckyLaura]

It always feels great to get to another week. I think they're all milestones.

I have 1 sleep and I'll be 18 weeks. Seems very surreal, lol.

Not doing so well today unfortunately. My car was down the pub and was going to hitch a ride with Dan on his way to work to pick it up bit it took 20 minutes to de-ice his car, mine was in a much more exposed place and Dan was already running late. So, I walked to the pub for lunch service. Haven't experienced pain like that I think ever. Got about 3/4 of the way there and it was like torture. My left leg felt like it weighed a ton and my left hip and groin were on fire. Walked into the pub, apologised to a couple waiting there but they were awesome. They offered me a lift into hospital but I declined and drove myself to the gp. Hospital appointment tomorrow. Probably have an MRI.

Why??? I can walk up the hill to the horses. Maybe it's because that's on soft ground and in little bursts rather than non stop on tarmac?

Oh god that sounds horrific. how are you feeling now? I hope you can get some rest xx

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[KHTW]

Oh god GG that sounds bad! Did the pain ease off a bit now? Glad you got an apptm so quick xx

 

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Pain started to disappear within 5 minutes of sitting down in the car thankfully.

I've noticed in the last week or two that my leg goes after just a few minutes of sitting or lying in certain positions. Also, used to be over 30 minutes of standing that triggered it, now it's just a few minutes.

Being up and moving randomly and slowly as I mooch around seems okay. Proper walking, standing fairly stationary or some sitting/lying positions just really set it off.

Worst is, everywhere and everyone says to lie on the left, not the back at all and not the right side for long periods. Lying on my back almost instantly sets my leg off. Lying on my left is okay for about 15 minutes, then it sets my leg off. Only way I can have no effect is to lie on my right side. Will speak to consultant about it on Thursday morning as I have a scheduled appointment Thursday morning.

I'm chilling on the sofa now.

 

[Shepherdess]

ouch GG that doesn't sound good. I hope you do get a scan quickly

I think the General consensus is don't lie on your back. that's the important one. as silly as it sounds due to the General "feng shui" in my bedroom I can't sleep on my left side so always sleep on my right, well when pregnant anyway, when I don't have a bump I'm on my front

well I don't know what's wrong with me, I've had another bout of violent diarrhea (sorry for the over share). I feel like I've had another sickness big but no one else in the house has suffered and 3 in 14 weeks seems ridiculous. I've been feeling so down about it today. poor DD has not had the attention she deserves the last few days with me either rushing to the toilet or unable to move without huge pain in my stomach. only upside is I've had proper kicks from baby letting me know she's ok

Good luck for your scan PB!