****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[Fela]

Hi everyone
It’s all a bit mad on this end... so impressed the babies room is ready Amy, we are no where near.. the ceiling in the second bedroom was cracked and we were worried about asbestos - we got it tested and sure enough! So on Monday we’re having the whole bloody ceiling removed and replaced! Then the bathroom is being ripped out. It’s going to look like a building site when I’m dying to just get things sorted..! 70-odd days until I finish work and it’s still all hands on the deck - I need to find someone to hand things off to... and my back has started to hurt, not my lower back, my middle back over my ribs on one side! Has anyone had this? Is it down to boobs? Do I perhaps need to get a maternity bra? They’ve hugely increased in size but my back measurement has only gone up a little..

 

[LuckyLaura]

Hey everyone. Sorry to hear about the infection JemRose. And sorry to everyone bowled over by a cold. I've been dying with a cold for the past few days and woke up worse today so hopefully just stay in bed hehe

I did have my rescan yesterday however which was good. Got some hilarious scan photos! Can't believe them actually!

I feel like she knew we were looking so looked back hahaha xx

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[_GG_]

Oh my goodness Laura, that's hilarious. They look so odd straight on like that don't they, lol. Glad you got some good pics xx

 

[KHTW]

Haha Laura, great material for happy 18 birthday card lol x

 

[KHTW]

I hope you are feeling better today Jem, at least you know what it was x

 

[KHTW]

27 weeks today! Off to 3rd trimester I go

 

[malagueta]

Fantastic pic Laura! Haha.

Jem, glad the doctors have been able to work out it was an infection and you're getting something for it.

Wow, Fela, sounds like lots of work! We're also in the middle of re-doing our new house so will be starting painting next week.

Well done on getting baby's room ready, Amy! You're very organised. Once we get the house painted we're hoping to make more headway with that.

Maria, good luck for your MRI when it comes round.

Happy 3rd trimester to many of you! Can't wait to join you in the 3rd trimester section.

 

[JemRose]

Feel like fucking shit.

Sorry for the bluntness, but that's the only way I can describe it. At work as not worth the drama with OH. He's been a cock about me being ill AGAIN. I'm honestly so down, can't stop crying, don't want to talk to anyone and on the verge of moving out cos I'm fucking done.

Hope everyone else is okay x

 

[_GG_]

Feel like fucking shit.

Sorry for the bluntness, but that's the only way I can describe it. At work as not worth the drama with OH. He's been a cock about me being ill AGAIN. I'm honestly so down, can't stop crying, don't want to talk to anyone and on the verge of moving out cos I'm fucking done.

Hope everyone else is okay x

You do what you need to do to get yourself through this. I really hope the meds can sort you out soon as you don't need all this and illness. Never be sorry for being honest here. xxx

 

[Shanivy]

Feel like fucking shit.

Sorry for the bluntness, but that's the only way I can describe it. At work as not worth the drama with OH. He's been a cock about me being ill AGAIN. I'm honestly so down, can't stop crying, don't want to talk to anyone and on the verge of moving out cos I'm fucking done.

Hope everyone else is okay x

Fuck sake Jem you deserve him to be pandering to you when you come in right now! Taking the load off and helping you. It's not easy being pregnant, it's not easy working full time and being pregnant, it's hell being sick, working full time AND being pregnant. And you don't have to apologise

You, and only you, are the reason HIS baby is cooking safely and happily right now. Do what you've gotta do because you don't deserve anything less than great when it comes to your oh. I wish I could slap some sense into him I swear. Hugs hun xx

 

[JemRose]

Just can't stop crying today. Everything is too much. I feel so ill with this infection. I argued with OH yesterday and I threw my phone across the room which is now broken and unusable, so I'm going to have to get a new phone which is another expense I don't need.

OH has really really upset me with how he was yesterday. I didn't get home from the doctors until 6pm. He had tidied when he came home from work, then had a go at me because he had to tidy when I'd been home and he's fed up of doing it all. I see his point, but with my SPD I'm really struggling to do much, also I was off ill yesterday. (De ja vu anyone? Distinctly remember this happening at the beginning of the pregnancy also when I was ill and he went crazy because I hadn't tidied up whilst off work ill. He said he's annoyed and fed up. Then I threw my phone across the room and cried for ages. He hasn't spoken to me since, but said whenever he brings it up I cry and I need to grow up.

He went to football and I was so upset, I messaged my friend (who is his best friend's wife) and she immediately knew something was up and came straight over. Was lovely, but I don't like to moan about him as I feel bad to give him a bad impression as he isn't bad usually he just has his moments.

He came home and we were very distant, but his friend (her husband) then came over and we were all talking. We were talking about moving houses and if we had bidded on any. We said no as waiting for the right house as it is where we will be for the foreseeable future. He then piped up "we won't be having anymore children after this. It's been the worst experience of my life. I haven't had one happy day since she got pregnant. I'm really unhappy and I never want to go through this again. She has been ill almost constantly since October and I'm fed up of it. I will love the baby, but it's not worth it and there won't be anymore".

He went to bed without saying goodnight, he woke up this morning without saying good morning. I dropped him to work and he just left. No nothing from him. I'm going to my mums after work as I don't want to face him at the moment. I'm an emotional wreck tbh.

Honestly, I'm heartbroken by what he said last night and I don't know what to do. I feel angry that he thinks it's him that is suffering. I feel like a failure for being ill and unable to do much and making him so unhappy. I feel devastated that things have gone this way. I don't even know what to say to him because he's so stubborn, and I can't be bothered to wait around until he decides to not be annoyed at me anymore.

Sorry to go on x

 

[KHTW]

Feel like fucking shit.

Sorry for the bluntness, but that's the only way I can describe it. At work as not worth the drama with OH. He's been a cock about me being ill AGAIN. I'm honestly so down, can't stop crying, don't want to talk to anyone and on the verge of moving out cos I'm fucking done.

Hope everyone else is okay x

I second everything GG and Shan said. How dares he being this way towards you when you are ill and pregnant!!! I would help with the slapping if I lived closer. Sending hugs

 

[MariaIsabella]

Just can't stop crying today. Everything is too much. I feel so ill with this infection. I argued with OH yesterday and I threw my phone across the room which is now broken and unusable, so I'm going to have to get a new phone which is another expense I don't need.

OH has really really upset me with how he was yesterday. I didn't get home from the doctors until 6pm. He had tidied when he came home from work, then had a go at me because he had to tidy when I'd been home and he's fed up of doing it all. I see his point, but with my SPD I'm really struggling to do much, also I was off ill yesterday. (De ja vu anyone? Distinctly remember this happening at the beginning of the pregnancy also when I was ill and he went crazy because I hadn't tidied up whilst off work ill. He said he's annoyed and fed up. Then I threw my phone across the room and cried for ages. He hasn't spoken to me since, but said whenever he brings it up I cry and I need to grow up.

He went to football and I was so upset, I messaged my friend (who is his best friend's wife) and she immediately knew something was up and came straight over. Was lovely, but I don't like to moan about him as I feel bad to give him a bad impression as he isn't bad usually he just has his moments.

He came home and we were very distant, but his friend (her husband) then came over and we were all talking. We were talking about moving houses and if we had bidded on any. We said no as waiting for the right house as it is where we will be for the foreseeable future. He then piped up "we won't be having anymore children after this. It's been the worst experience of my life. I haven't had one happy day since she got pregnant. I'm really unhappy and I never want to go through this again. She has been ill almost constantly since October and I'm fed up of it. I will love the baby, but it's not worth it and there won't be anymore".

He went to bed without saying goodnight, he woke up this morning without saying good morning. I dropped him to work and he just left. No nothing from him. I'm going to my mums after work as I don't want to face him at the moment. I'm an emotional wreck tbh.

Honestly, I'm heartbroken by what he said last night and I don't know what to do. I feel angry that he thinks it's him that is suffering. I feel like a failure for being ill and unable to do much and making him so unhappy. I feel devastated that things have gone this way. I don't even know what to say to him because he's so stubborn, and I can't be bothered to wait around until he decides to not be annoyed at me anymore.

Sorry to go on x

Don't know all the background of course but OMG this sounds horrendous! I would not be able to cope. How can he be so insensitive? Makes me so angry to read this post. Men don't understand what we have to go though emotionally and physically. We are growing a human being and its not easy!

I cant complain though since my DH has been very caring and helpful and I don't know what I would do if he reacted like yours. Think its good if you speak to friends and family and perhaps try to stay away from him until things calm down. Then perhaps try to speak to him calmly and explain your feelings. I think therapy could be good as well and have been thinking me and DH should have some since we have had some nasty arguments in the past.

Take care of yourself and the baby and try to stay calm if you can. Sending lots of hugs xxx

 

[KHTW]

Just read your second post Jem.

NEVER FEEL BAD FOR BEING UNWELL!!!! You are pregnant and your immune system is not what it used to be before. I really don't know what your OH's problem is?!?! Does he think that life is full of sugar, rainbows and happy days?!?!?! Does he think that once the baby is here you or the little one will never get a cold or infection? Does he think you will always be full of energy and never moan or be unhappy. What world does he live in? Honestly I am shocked x

 

[MariaIsabella]

Thanks for the support ladies. I will update after my MRI next week!

Laura that is such a cute photo! As you say its like baby knows its being watched

I haven't had my belly measured yet.. Perhaps I should but no one has asked. Should I contact midwife? Having so many scans/MRI's though so not concerned about the growth of the baby.

Sorry TMI but have had an itch down there for a week or so. Went to GP and got some thrush cream but not sure its helping. No discharge though so not sure what it is. Anyone has had this happening?

Another TMI and question to you ladies who already has another baby. I find it hard not to accidently pee myself a little when coughing and sneezing!! Is this normal? lol

xx

 

[KHTW]

Another TMI and question to you ladies who already has another baby. I find it hard not to accidently pee myself a little when coughing and sneezing!! Is this normal? lol

xx

Sadly, yup this is normal. Happened to me and others I know.
Good luck with the MRI, will be waiting to see an update x

 

[JemRose]

Just read your second post Jem.

NEVER FEEL BAD FOR BEING UNWELL!!!! You are pregnant and your immune system is not what it used to be before. I really don't know what your OH's problem is?!?! Does he think that life is full of sugar, rainbows and happy days?!?!?! Does he think that once the baby is here you or the little one will never get a cold or infection? Does he think you will always be full of energy and never moan or be unhappy. What world does he live in? Honestly I am shocked x

He thinks he's having a really tough time throughout the pregnancy. He obviously has no sympathy, empathy or understanding of what I'm going through. He's an absolute idiot, there is no explanation for him right now! x

 

[JemRose]

Thanks for the support ladies. I will update after my MRI next week!

Laura that is such a cute photo! As you say its like baby knows its being watched

I haven't had my belly measured yet.. Perhaps I should but no one has asked. Should I contact midwife? Having so many scans/MRI's though so not concerned about the growth of the baby.

Sorry TMI but have had an itch down there for a week or so. Went to GP and got some thrush cream but not sure its helping. No discharge though so not sure what it is. Anyone has had this happening?

Another TMI and question to you ladies who already has another baby. I find it hard not to accidently pee myself a little when coughing and sneezing!! Is this normal? lol

xx

Think they start it from 26 weeks. But not sure if they only do mine cos of high BMI and being medium risk x

 

[KHTW]

Just read your second post Jem.

NEVER FEEL BAD FOR BEING UNWELL!!!! You are pregnant and your immune system is not what it used to be before. I really don't know what your OH's problem is?!?! Does he think that life is full of sugar, rainbows and happy days?!?!?! Does he think that once the baby is here you or the little one will never get a cold or infection? Does he think you will always be full of energy and never moan or be unhappy. What world does he live in? Honestly I am shocked x

He thinks he's having a really tough time throughout the pregnancy. He obviously has no sympathy, empathy or understanding of what I'm going through. He's an absolute idiot, there is no explanation for him right now! x

I really feel for you hun. You should print out all of our replies and show to him! Honestly... there is no excuse for his behavior.

 

[Fela]

Oh Jem I’m so annoyed for you! I think it’s probably a good idea to keep your distance until you’ve both had a chance to calm down - it’ll be better for you mentally and it may give him a chance to reflect on his levels of douchebaggery.

I’m not having half the bad few days that you are but I’ve been thinking recently that, as everyone has said, pregnancy is no bed of roses and it can be hard when you are struggling with illness of pain because you can feel like you are letting people down by not being quite the person you were before. I know this is something I’ve struggled with recently, worrying I’m not pulling my weight at work and so on. But at those moments it’s your OH’s job to tell you that you are allowed to struggle and it is his job to back you up. It’s obviously going to be hard for them occasionally if you are both working hard and he feels he’s doing more than he usually does, but we’ve always tried to see ourselves as a team and sometimes there are times when one team mate has to carry the other for a while and it’s tough but it’s worth it. I’d tell him that you appreciate that he’s doing more than his usual at the moment but that you need him to fill in for you for now, that being pregnant is tough on you both but that he shouldn’t fool himself into thinking that it’s anywhere near as tough for him as it is for you. And tell him how heartbroken you were to have him say what he said in front of friends.... that’s what I’d do anyway. Most importantly take care of yourself- I never realised how tough being pregnant was going to be and you need to put self care at the top of your priority list or you’ll exhaust yourself!