**** November 2012 Mummies **** (everyone welcome)

[Little_angel]

Aww so cute!

 

[missyeovil]

L_A - out for a run? I'm actually jealous. I'm desperate to start doing some proper exercise (my P.E. teacher would definitely not believe that one!) but gotta wait at least till I get my 6 week check, which I doubt will be till at least 7 weeks at this rate xx

 

[Little_angel]

I was naughty I didn't wait for my check. I've had my check now and all is fine though. I know my body pretty well and just decided to take it easy and listen to it. I've been itching to get back out there since I had to quit.

I'm hoping to be back to running at least 3 miles at a reasonable pace (currently doing run/walk to get my fitness back) by mid feb when we go on my running club's training week.

It's a great idea to do some exercise - it makes me feel so much more energetic. I ran round doing chores this afternoon too and got loads done. My PE teacher would laugh too if she heard I run!

Today we're really testing the "sleep breeds sleep" thing. J has had several long naps today - I've had to wake him up twice! Just hope he doesn't stay awake all night. He's currently been asleep since 8 and I will dream feed him at 11 if he stays like that.

 

[CARNAT22]

Well James has zonked out after his last feed of the day (36oz's in total - a record!!)

I managed to get him to go 5 hours between feeds earlier by taking him out in the pram, had I not done that he'd have probably had 40 + oz's!

James nap's great when we're out or when he is being held, he also goes down every night just fine so I just need to work on getting him to nap well at home during the day.

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[sholou_uk]

I was naughty I didn't wait for my check. I've had my check now and all is fine though. I know my body pretty well and just decided to take it easy and listen to it. I've been itching to get back out there since I had to quit.

I'm hoping to be back to running at least 3 miles at a reasonable pace (currently doing run/walk to get my fitness back) by mid feb when we go on my running club's training week.

It's a great idea to do some exercise - it makes me feel so much more energetic. I ran round doing chores this afternoon too and got loads done. My PE teacher would laugh too if she heard I run!

Today we're really testing the "sleep breeds sleep" thing. J has had several long naps today - I've had to wake him up twice! Just hope he doesn't stay awake all night. He's currently been asleep since 8 and I will dream feed him at 11 if he stays like that.

Goodness knows when my check will be they said it will be sent to me. I know my body well enough to know I am fine and can start exercising now. I keep thinking I need to go to the gym but am so lazy and not done it yet!

 

[CARNAT22]

My baby is two months old today where has the time gone??

This time on the 14th November I was physically wrecked, but so in love with my little 7 hour old baby!!

I can't believe he is now a little person with his own likes and dislikes... He has just learnt to use his right hand and now whacks himself in the face

I hate exercising in any way, shape or form.

I don't mind walking and I am trying to get out for a brisk walk everyday (it also helps James sleep) but I find it easier to lose weight by watching what I eat?

I have my postnatal check tomorrow, along with James's check and his jabs. I am still undecided about contraception?? Do I go back on the pill??

James had a lovely sleep last night - he went down from 9.15pm - 4.45am and then back down from 5am - 7.30am. He'd also had a big poo overnight.... This has been the third night in a row he's had a massive poo so I am thrilled!

I stopped the Infacol several days ago so I am hoping his constipation is a thing of the past.

Snow is predicted here a little later so we're going to run out for supplies after he's had a feed and been changed.

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[Sammyxo]

aw yay to your bub being 2 months Carnat, time does fly by!!!

i'm definitely going on contraception lol i couldnt cope with any more right now although OH keeps bringing it up! he has triplets on his side too, argh!!

ugh been up all night as Sebastian has been super clingy. OH was meant to help but he was getting stressed cos he was tired and i didnt want it to upset the babies so i've taken over. Feel like kicking him in the head to wake him up

 

[Kellybean]

I'm sorry ladies, but I need to vent!

I have had a shite weekend. (Please excuse language but I'm very rattled)

Friday night someone smashed into my car and nothing is missing, so I think it was pointless vandalism.
My pram broke as I carried it down my stairs Saturday morning to go for a walk, so I went to a garage round the corner of my house and randomly asked if any of the fellas could fix it (springs had come loose, bless them, they did). Didn't even charge me, I think the fact that they knew about my car also, heled.

Had builders round, they took the piss. Turned up late and bullshitted me about my toilet and bath (they were 'finding' jobs even though we had agreed on a quote) my dad was supposed to be with me but he had been called into work, so I called my uncle who is a plumber in Portsmouth and relayed the issue, he confirmed it was a load of bollox, so I relayed this to them and they became nasty and I became worried so I backed down and grabbed M and went into my lobby and called policeman who was dealing with my car (I also know him so good luck there) and he came (I didn't expect him to, he pretended he was coming about my car, he chatted with them and they were finishing at that time, he had written a receipt that was more than the quote (and had done less than they were intending) and when I queried they immediately back tracked and charged me a little less than the quote, 'honest mistake' they said.

Oh and could it get worse? Yes!

pIL come round for first night away from M, they didn't listen properly to my instructions ("dear, we have raised 4 children") yes but not MINE!

I insisted she stuck to the routine and apply cream for eczema.

That night I was expressing and felt a lump under my nipple, very sore. It was turning red so I think I have a blocked milk duct.

Sunday...they had rearranged my bedroom! I was furious, how dare they. It was not a sensible lay out, the reason it was a certain way is because I have a bad back and needed things a certain way, then seen she had not used any cream (it hadn't moved) and he was looking red in the face...well I flipped out...big time. I was furious and irrational. I demanded they put it all back and screamed at mil that she has no right to decide what is best for my baby and I tolerate her ways it's about time she tolerated mine. I cried my eyes out, my FIL was very sorry and just tried to hug me, I was beyond consoling, I wanted them gone.

I then get a phone call from my husband saying that my mil thinks I am not coping so worrying him who can't do anything to help me and worries enough (he is in the uk so receives calls now!) and she has fibbed. I don't think she realises y I was so angry!

I haven't been on here as I have just been to upset to write about it.

I have been bullied, criticised, patronised and humiliated and just drained.

But on a plus...M laughed this morning, proper laughter.
He grabbed his rattle and is shaking it and putting in his mouth, and wobbling on his belly, before if you put him on his belly he would scream. So I just think of that and it cheers me.

Sorry, rant over.

 

[CARNAT22]

Oh Kelly, it never rains but it pours hey??

Sounds like you've had a pig of a weekend!

However it's a new week now so lets hope all your crap is out of the way

Your MIL will understand it was just a bad time hun, no-one thinks you can't cope (silly her calling your hubby though)

Yay for proper giggling.. James isn't quite there yet! He has discovered his fists though and likes to punch himself in the face

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[mrswoody]

hugs kelly..so sorry to hear about your terrible few days. It really is out of line for your MIL to rearrange your room and not to follow your routine. M is her grandson so surely she should act in his best interests also. My inlaws can be hard work sometimes too and so far I have managed to hold my tongue a lot and it is really hard to do.
She really shouldn't be blabbing to your oh saying your not coping, it's not easy being a forces couple as it is and it's harder when oh is away and you have the LO to look after. She should have been a bit more considerate.

I honestly think some men think us women button up the back when it comes to manly things, building work, plumbing, car maintenance etc I had a similar situation with my car where I knew they were fobbing me off so I confronted them and they got so defensive about it all they were refusing to take payment by debit card because they thought I would cancel the payment though my bank! Madness..

At least M is giving you big smiles and laughs! They can always know how to cheer up their mummies when they need it. Have lots of cuddles with him xx

We had baby group today so did some massage and talked about breastfeeding, which is a bit of an inconsiderate topic considering there were mummies their who ff so couldn't really join in? We came home and M slept from 11-3!! She's not napped like that in the day for a while so I took advantage and also snoozed as I was pooped! Everyone was a lot more chatty this week which was great so hopefully we can stay in contact o meet etc after the group finishes.

My friend has invited me to London for the day soon with her mum and auntie. It's a Monday and I would be taking Madison with me. I would be in 2 minds whether to take the pram or use my baby carrier? Pram would probably be more comfy for M? They are thinking about going to a Maitenee show of Bobdyguard, so not sure I would be able to do this, M would probably sleep through it but it will no doubt be too loud. I could just shop for the few hours they are at the show? Decisions!

Hope your all having a good Monday! x

 

[missyeovil]

Aw Kelly that sounds like the weekend from hell! I hope you are feeling a lot better now with lots of cuddles and smiles from M

I actually meant to ask you about his eczema...when it started was it very obvious that that is what it was? I ask because Aela has what is almost like a rash on her face, which looks very similar to the way my eczema starts up. My mum reckons its just a wee milk rash that's she's scratched and made worse but I'm not sure. Meant to have the HV coming tomorrow but she's not got back to me, so if she doesn't I'll maybe run her to the docs but was just wondering how M's started?

mrswoody - Sounds like massage really worked for M! I'm meant to be going to a massage group next week so hoping it chills Aela out and she enjoys it Also looking forward to meeting a couple of my friend's babies! xx

 

[CARNAT22]

The first question I am asked by any Mum I have met since having James is if I breast feed or not.

Is that how we define Mummies these days?

I met two new Mum's recently and both of their eyes glazed over as soon as I said I FF.

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[mrswoody]

Missyeovil..Madison loves massage she totally chills out when I do it. I try it at home too but always forget the moves! Something oh can get involved in too at home

Nat.. It really is bad that other women are like this towards ff. there is so much pressure on mums these days to bf I think we all should support each other. Ill always remember what someone said to me about feeding LO "when you look in the playground you won't know who was fed which way as long as they grow to be healthy it doesn't matter" totally true!

 

[Kellybean]

Aw Kelly that sounds like the weekend from hell! I hope you are feeling a lot better now with lots of cuddles and smiles from M

I actually meant to ask you about his eczema...when it started was it very obvious that that is what it was? I ask because Aela has what is almost like a rash on her face, which looks very similar to the way my eczema starts up. My mum reckons its just a wee milk rash that's she's scratched and made worse but I'm not sure. Meant to have the HV coming tomorrow but she's not got back to me, so if she doesn't I'll maybe run her to the docs but was just wondering how M's started?

mrswoody - Sounds like massage really worked for M! I'm meant to be going to a massage group next week so hoping it chills Aela out and she enjoys it Also looking forward to meeting a couple of my friend's babies! xx

His eczema started as what I thought were slobber and milk rash, I kind of ignored it, just washed it. Then I noticed it becoming inflamed and spreading to his forehead. I bought some cream (bepanthen, it's brilliant stuff) and it started clearing up nicely, I then took him to dr's as it went into his scalp and round his eyes and he kept hitting/rubbing them so I knew they were causing him pain, and it was eczema. I would go and get it checked as the cream has been working wonders (prescription).

Thank you all for your sympathy and kind words, I feel better having moaned

Carnat, he may be grabbing things but by no means does he have control, I have to monitor him as he has hit himself several times with plastic toys...ouch! He just looks very shocked, a few tears but mainly funny face expressions.

Yes, I met a lady on the bus today and she asked how I was feeding M I said bf and it was like it was then ok to at to me, I got a bit annoyed so I made a point of saying he also has formula.

Mrswoody thank you for your kind message and men are idiots, that's my motto. (Sorry hubby...well he is an idiot most days!)

Question ladies. When you talk to your lo how do you talk? I mean, do you have certain words or sounds you make?

I talk to him as I do things and then I make 'ba ba ba ba' or 'am am am ma' etc....I also say hello really enthusiastically and he seems to love it. Does anyone know if there are certain words/sounds that we should make?

 

[CARNAT22]

They say at this age we just need to respond to the sounds they make... So lots of praise and reciprication. It doesn't matter what we say LOL!

James is currently tucked up with Granny (MIL) grrr... bet he wont bloody sleep tonight now! He is due next feed in an hour so I want to bath him at about 8pm.

I have been making faces at OH and telling him (via mime) that she is HIS mother and if the baby doesn't sleep HE is dealing with him tonight

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[Wilson28]

hi ladies

rubbish day today, washing machine has broke, bills are coming in where do you find £350 after xmas grrrr
then to top it off my brother who bought my iphone now decides he doesnt want it and wants his money back great!!

sorry to hear about yr bad to kelly, i will reply to yr txt soon xx

how are u other ladies xx

 

[sazz]

Ah Kelly hugs. That sounds like a hell of a weekend. Poor you.

Wilson, that's a rubbish day.

T has been a grizzly bum all day and oh is getting him ready for bed giving me a little chill time. On the up side LO has been grabbing and holding stuff. But when I hold him at the mo he grabs my jumper so when I put him down I have to detach his hands bless.

I'm still trying to find local groups as I'm in an area where everything is 20 mins away by car and oh has the car for work. Gonna look into getting the bus.

 

[Little_angel]

Wow Kelly what a horrendous weekend! Your MIL sounds like a nightmare.

Nat - why are the people you've met so fixated on BF? I haven't had that experience at all. Nobody I've met seems particularly interested either way and I've even bottle fed at groups. It's a shame if you're put off meeting other mums.

 

[mrswoody]

lol @ Nat! I do those faces to OH I try to be discreet and he's like " What you saying.."doh!!! So I'm like never said anything! ha Hope James settles for you and MIL goes soon, bloomin Grannies can't get enough of them

sazz..ask your hv if they have any information on groups for you. netmums has a list of local groups as well. Some of the good groups are a good 30/45 minutes away for me so I've just going to stick to local ones.

Kelly..I usually talk in a higher pitched tone to Madison and she gives it the smiles. I'm sure I read in the wonder weeks book that they like high pitched sounds and to repeat sounds that they make to encourage them to do it again etc

wilson..tell your brother to sell it on himself, that's what I'd do. Always get a good price on ebay x

 

[sazz]

There seems to be 2 groups within walking distance, about 30 mins each way. So if the weather stays dry ish I can make my way there.

T has let me have 4hrs straight sleep. I feel alive at last. I won't hold my breath on this though as he could change back to every 2hrs again. Going to get me some more sleep whilst I can. X