****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[Shanivy]

Stupid cat finally came in. He's ginger and white but he's came home completely black, obviously under cars instead of just coming home. Council let us know at 7.40 schools were off. We leave at 8 for nursery but she wasn't going anyway. I imagine people who had work and childcare arrangements to sort were furious. Sorry if this whole post is very rambling but I'm so tired and dd is past napping these days unfortunately.

Full blizzard on and off outside lol, maybe be the most snow I've seen. OH went to work at 4.30 this morning wearing Ivy's scarf around his mouth because he couldn't find his lol. I have a pic but I'm not allowed to show anyone haha

Thanks for ideas ie downstairs. Those poodle pods look perfect but I think the cat would get on it with her :/ Suppose I could sell him (kidding)

PB that's awful did you manage to get the pipes sorted? Xx

Shep sounds good to me. £16 on raspberries you mad woman lol. At least it's a decent craving. Ive not really had any that I can think of in a while. Im over food tbh. With DD it was dairylea dunker jumbo tubes, could have a multipack in one sitting. Can't stand them now but dd loves them lol, and just had to text oH to bring toilet roll as we've half a roll too and reading that made me check the cupboard haha xx

View from my garden. Hills all around my house but can't see them in the snow. If my plants weren't dead before they are now lol. Stay safe any of you out in it today

 

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Oooh Shan. That is a decent dumping of snow isn't it. Glad you're tucked up warm inside. Xx

 

[Shepherdess]

im so glad your cats back inside shanivy. id be so worried about an animal being out in this

and I love dairylea jumbo tubes! they don't do my heartburn any good though

heres the snow at ours. cars are from the kitchen window, don't think the cars will be out for a while and then theres the garden, its hard to tell but theres 2 rungs of the fence buried now.

also just watched a poor little bird snuggling the side of our bird house on the wall. the little door is totally blocked up with snow

 

[PeanutButter]

Ohh i wouldnt let my cat out! There was cat prints over our car this morn, big ginger cat tries to make babies with out cat when shes calling ugh. Hope hes ok tho aha.
Shan that a awful lot of snow! Ive never sene this much snow in our garden, but i live in the midlands aha tbh theres a good 10cm, news just said feel like -11 at 3pm ahhhh. Idk wjats going on with pipes, ita just our bathroom i dont understand, hubby will have to deal wirh it.
Worried about the wind taking off with my fences atm, theyre going crazy.
My boobs are absolutly killing me!!! Havnt felt this since engorgment ughhh

 

[Shanivy]

Shep what a view you've got! Lol I used to eat jumbo tubes with a bottle of Gaviscon beside me. Xx

GG surely nobody would be out to the pub, though I'm not sure what it's like there but you might get a night off for once xx

PB mine have been getting shooting pains lately. Everyone's boobs are starting crap haha. I'm not sure about the pipes I think if they're in the walls you have to just try putting the heating on high and seeing if it melts it? I think. xx

I've no idea where the cat got to but he was dying to go out last night, even while it was snowing. He doesn't have a litter tray so I can't keep him in anyway. Thought he'd be out and in. Was worried he'd actually freeze last night though! He's dead asleep now, not even attempted to clean himself off, so he's fine just stupid.

 

[KHTW]

GG just stay at home, you have a very valid excuse lol x

Shan, I'd be giving my cat a bath (well... shower really)!!! x

Harry and DD are great friends. He is super patient with her. When myself and OH get scratched and bitten for basically nothing, she gets away with murder! But I think he may pack his bags and move out when baby 2 comes home!
(Some old pics attached).

 

[JaneyJan]

Everyone's snowed under then? It's snowing a storm here in Leeds too... Everyone's off work except for us hospitals it feels like!!
Hope you all have lovely days and don't freeze...
Guys I had a really scary day yesterday at work. We were having a really stressful shift, and I was just finishing off and doing some writing when all of a sudden I lost vision in my right eye. Or, you could say, in half of my vision field from that eye. My vision became really blurry and I couldn't see properly unless I really focused and couldn't see anything to my far right. I felt really scared and as a nurse it takes quite a bit to scare me, it was how sudden it just changed. I sat still for a while and 20 minutes later I got my peripheral vision back but my eyes were really blurry still. I thought it could be related to high blood pressure, especially as my day had been stressful.. (although my blood pressure is usually normal) I decided to ring the midwife as soon as I finished work but obvs, they're not working at that time 8:30pm, so called maternity assessment unit... They said I'm probably just overtired and exhausted and just to keep an eye on it. I have been feeling super tired but already on like an amber warning with sickness cuz I've been off 5 times in the last 12 months... Mostly when I've been pregnant and only for a day or two.

It's better this morning but still blurrier than normal. But thank God, I can see everything. I also weighed myself and I've lost another lb in the last few days, taking me down to my lowest weight since I've been pregnant and now lost 6kg (almost a stone). I don't know whether any of this should be making me worry, especially the fact that on my days off, all I can seem to do is sleep?

I wish I was feeling a bit better now, fed up of feeling like a zombie still!

In happier news, my scan is in 6 days and I CANNOT WAIT.

 

[Shanivy]

GG just stay at home, you have a very valid excuse lol x

Shan, I'd be giving my cat a bath (well... shower really)!!! x

Harry and DD are great friends. He is super patient with her. When myself and OH get scratched and bitten for basically nothing, she gets away with murder! But I think he may pack his bags and move out when baby 2 comes home!
(Some old pics attached).

Lol omg that's so cute! Is she trying to colour him? His face is a picture. He looks like "oh ffs okay". Haha.

Gonna have to shower him but not until oH comes home lol. Everyone told me not to get a cat with a kid but Dexter is super chilled too, he puts up with a lot. That pic is from the day we first got him, dd woke from her nap and was like omfg what is this thing lol. And an old one of them napping together in our old flat. He's stupid but great
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I'm worried about how he'll be with the baby though. He like to cuddle constantly and sleeps on DDs bed, may have to keep him downstairs at night so he doesn't try climbing in with the baby and accidentally smother her :/ xx

 

[Shanivy]

Also DDs ears are pieced in these. Just though I'd mention they were actually done "as a surprise" without me knowing when she 11 months by her gran and I almost killed her xx

 

[Shanivy]

Everyone's snowed under then? It's snowing a storm here in Leeds too... Everyone's off work except for us hospitals it feels like!!
Hope you all have lovely days and don't freeze...
Guys I had a really scary day yesterday at work. We were having a really stressful shift, and I was just finishing off and doing some writing when all of a sudden I lost vision in my right eye. Or, you could say, in half of my vision field from that eye. My vision became really blurry and I couldn't see properly unless I really focused and couldn't see anything to my far right. I felt really scared and as a nurse it takes quite a bit to scare me, it was how sudden it just changed. I sat still for a while and 20 minutes later I got my peripheral vision back but my eyes were really blurry still. I thought it could be related to high blood pressure, especially as my day had been stressful.. (although my blood pressure is usually normal) I decided to ring the midwife as soon as I finished work but obvs, they're not working at that time 8:30pm, so called maternity assessment unit... They said I'm probably just overtired and exhausted and just to keep an eye on it. I have been feeling super tired but already on like an amber warning with sickness cuz I've been off 5 times in the last 12 months... Mostly when I've been pregnant and only for a day or two.

It's better this morning but still blurrier than normal. But thank God, I can see everything. I also weighed myself and I've lost another lb in the last few days, taking me down to my lowest weight since I've been pregnant and now lost 6kg (almost a stone). I don't know whether any of this should be making me worry, especially the fact that on my days off, all I can seem to do is sleep?

I wish I was feeling a bit better now, fed up of feeling like a zombie still!

In happier news, my scan is in 6 days and I CANNOT WAIT.

Sounds like you've had a rough time of it hun. Definitely have that checked out though. Can you get someone to check your bp at work? You may just be pushing youself too hard. I imagine your job is pretty full on at the best of times, without being pregnant.

I'd not worry too much about the weight at the minute, though just make sure you are actually eating enough. Illness from pregnancy can't be used against you for any disciplinary action though so check that too. I hope you feel better soon.

Do you have any time you can take off to give yourself rest? Or it may be worth seeing the midwife or doctor for a bit of sick leave before you completely burn yourself out. I'd assume you have some serious stamina being a nurse so if you're feeling it, you must be doing too much at the min. Hugs lovely take care of yourself . Hopefully these 6 days fly in! xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Also DDs ears are pieced in these. Just though I'd mention they were actually done "as a surprise" without me knowing when she 11 months by her gran and I almost killed her xx

What the fuck. I would have killed her. If my mom or mil did that id tell them theyre never looking agter her again. My mom wouldnt because both mine and my moms ears react really bad to anything in them. But mil got sils eara done at some stupid age. She asked if i was gwtting them done, fk off.

 

[KHTW]

Also DDs ears are pieced in these. Just though I'd mention they were actually done "as a surprise" without me knowing when she 11 months by her gran and I almost killed her xx

What the fuck. I would have killed her. If my mom or mil did that id tell them theyre never looking agter her again. My mom wouldnt because both mine and my moms ears react really bad to anything in them. But mil got sils eara done at some stupid age. She asked if i was gwtting them done, fk off.

This!!! OMG! I would go absolutely mental

Your cat is so cute. And look at him sleeping with DD! Harry is not a cuddly cat at all, never had been. We adopted him from Cats Protection as adult cat so never got the chance to 'raise' him x

 

[Shanivy]

Also DDs ears are pieced in these. Just though I'd mention they were actually done "as a surprise" without me knowing when she 11 months by her gran and I almost killed her xx

What the fuck. I would have killed her. If my mom or mil did that id tell them theyre never looking agter her again. My mom wouldnt because both mine and my moms ears react really bad to anything in them. But mil got sils eara done at some stupid age. She asked if i was gwtting them done, fk off.

Loads of people here think it's not a big deal honestly. She had her and asked could get get Ivy jewellery as a surprise. I'm like okay? Fucking Claire's I swear. I cried over it I was so mad. One of the absolute worst fights me and OH have ever had was over that. Shes been asking for them done now I'm like yeah in the summer maybe. Hopefully she'll forget bout it lol xx

 

[Shanivy]

Also DDs ears are pieced in these. Just though I'd mention they were actually done "as a surprise" without me knowing when she 11 months by her gran and I almost killed her xx

What the fuck. I would have killed her. If my mom or mil did that id tell them theyre never looking agter her again. My mom wouldnt because both mine and my moms ears react really bad to anything in them. But mil got sils eara done at some stupid age. She asked if i was gwtting them done, fk off.

This!!! OMG! I would go absolutely mental

Your cat is so cute. And look at him sleeping with DD! Harry is not a cuddly cat at all, never had been. We adopted him from Cats Protection as adult cat so never got the chance to 'raise' him x

I know! I swear nobody believes me she actually did it without my permission but she's sort of used to be like " well it's fine she's my grandchild so" to everything. Had to nip that in the bud pretty damn quick.

Ah that's fab you adopted him. He looks so happy with dd though, in a pestered sort of way haha xx

 

[KHTW]

Also DDs ears are pieced in these. Just though I'd mention they were actually done "as a surprise" without me knowing when she 11 months by her gran and I almost killed her xx

What the fuck. I would have killed her. If my mom or mil did that id tell them theyre never looking agter her again. My mom wouldnt because both mine and my moms ears react really bad to anything in them. But mil got sils eara done at some stupid age. She asked if i was gwtting them done, fk off.

Loads of people here think it's not a big deal honestly. She had her and asked could get get Ivy jewellery as a surprise. I'm like okay? Fucking Claire's I swear. I cried over it I was so mad. One of the absolute worst fights me and OH have ever had was over that. Shes been asking for them done now I'm like yeah in the summer maybe. Hopefully she'll forget bout it lol xx

I mean I would not object to my 4 year (even 3 year old) asking, if it was HER asking. But 11 months?! To me it is crazy, just unnecessary pain and discomfort. But yeah everyone is entitled to their own opinions x

 

[Shepherdess]

I would have been furious if anyone pierced my child's ears! I rarely bother wearing earrings (or any jewellery actaully) but when I wear earringsDD does ask if she can one day but I think iI'll try and put her off until she's 7/8.

 

[Shanivy]

Excuse me while I print all of this for my mil lol xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Shan my mil says that my grandchild soo... How did you sort that out?
I would honestly never forgive her, and i wouldnt take dd round for a long time. Actually getting angry thinking about it.
I personally think its ugly on kids. If dd wants them when shes older ill let her but ugh no. Id take them out ans put plasters on her ears

 

[PeanutButter]

Omg, ive just realised... At the end of this month most of us will be in the third tri!!!

 

[Shanivy]

PB sorry long post! Well to be honest I lost my shit so badly that she got the point very bluntly.

I honestly said very close to "Let me make this very clear. Just because your son is her dad, does NOT mean you can make any decisions for me. She is MY daughter, I will always come before you. I decide what she can get done, what she can eat and drink (she was giving her coke?! At 11 months Arghhhh!) Stop saying "she's my grandchild so..." That means nothing to me. She's my baby.. I decide who she gets to see and if you can't follow basic rules then I can't trust you to ever have her." I said I wouldn't let my own mum do anything like that either.

I also told her that she was causing serious problems between me and oh because he didn't agree with her, but still felt like he had to defend her. I said that all she would do is split us up and I'd end up going back to Belfast (we wouldn't have but still it was a good threat) When we argued over the earrings everything she used to do came out and I was literally like "oh and another thing" lol. Then I kicked her out and me and oh had the worst fight of our relationship.

I also had to get OH to realise that if she overstepped, it was his mother and he needed to show that we both thought she was out of line. Not just "oh Shan overreacting again, but my son thinks it's okay so" He'd tell me how mad he was about something but never really properly confront her about it. Said he was a grown man and didn't like arguing with his mum. He realised though that he had to start, especially the way she was with me, like it didn't matter I was the mum because the dad was her boy.

I had to really try to build a relationship with her tbh. In the last two year it's been hard work but I did it for Ivy. Anything she did I don't think was malicious, just very fucking stupid . Now I just tell her straight otherwise I'd seeth over it. I know how you feel but I couldn't go through it all again with this baby. But we do have a decent relationship now though, I even let her come with us to a scan this time because she'd never ever been to one, and she cried xx