****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[KHTW]

Good luck with the scan PB!

I want winter GONE too! x

 

[KHTW]

So........ even tho I am tired as heck today I am also super happy BECAUSE.... It seems that DD has finally bought the story about dummy fairy!! I read this book to her every day and yesterday she read it with Grandad who was babysitting for us together with Granny. After they left she asked for her dummy and I told her that the dummy fairy took them all away for a little baby that was crying and needed it, and that she is a big girl and will get a present from the dummy fairly when she comes back. I repeated that every time she asked and she was ok with it! Even went to sleep without her beloved 'do-do'. She woke up a few times but there was no tears, just a bit of a moaning and mummy cuddle seemed enough to settle her. I really hope this is it!! She is staying with granny and grandad today also so I hope they will be persuasive enough! And mummy is off to a toy shop after work to buy her a present form the dummy fairy

 

[Shepherdess]

morning all

sorry to say but I've heard winter is making a big comeback next week :'(

we've had 2 lovely days here though, DD and I have walked miles with the puppy. they've been my favourite kind of days, you need layers but it's not freezing just really fresh.

sorry you had a bad night GG, I did to with DD waking up loads, it takes me so long to get back to sleep and makes me so grumpy. got art club with DD tpday which will cheer me up

 

[Shepherdess]

So........ even tho I am tired as heck today I am also super happy BECAUSE.... It seems that DD has finally bought the story about dummy fairy!! I read this book to her every day and yesterday she read it with Grandad who was babysitting for us together with Granny. After they left she asked for her dummy and I told her that the dummy fairy took them all away for a little baby that was crying and needed it, and that she is a big girl and will get a present from the dummy fairly when she comes back. I repeated that every time she asked and she was ok with it! Even went to sleep without her beloved 'do-do'. She woke up a few times but there was no tears, just a bit of a moaning and mummy cuddle seemed enough to settle her. I really hope this is it!! She is staying with granny and grandad today also so I hope they will be persuasive enough! And mummy is off to a toy shop after work to buy her a present form the dummy fairy

this is great KHTW, my DD still has hers at night time and there is no getting rid of it. she knows all the stories about the dummy fairy and says she wants to get rid for a present but then come bedtime changes her mind. oh keeps telling me to deal with the 2/3 nights of pain and just take them but shes such a good girl and has no other little "needs" so I'm not pushing her

 

[KHTW]

So........ even tho I am tired as heck today I am also super happy BECAUSE.... It seems that DD has finally bought the story about dummy fairy!! I read this book to her every day and yesterday she read it with Grandad who was babysitting for us together with Granny. After they left she asked for her dummy and I told her that the dummy fairy took them all away for a little baby that was crying and needed it, and that she is a big girl and will get a present from the dummy fairly when she comes back. I repeated that every time she asked and she was ok with it! Even went to sleep without her beloved 'do-do'. She woke up a few times but there was no tears, just a bit of a moaning and mummy cuddle seemed enough to settle her. I really hope this is it!! She is staying with granny and grandad today also so I hope they will be persuasive enough! And mummy is off to a toy shop after work to buy her a present form the dummy fairy

this is great KHTW, my DD still has hers at night time and there is no getting rid of it. she knows all the stories about the dummy fairy and says she wants to get rid for a present but then come bedtime changes her mind. oh keeps telling me to deal with the 2/3 nights of pain and just take them but shes such a good girl and has no other little "needs" so I'm not pushing her

I am with you on this, and would not take it away knowing well that it will cause her upset. I said to MIL that if she is crying and in distress because she wants her dummy, to give it to her. There is right time for everything x

 

[PeanutButter]

I had my dummy till really late, then my mom and dad ran out or lost them one day and i screamed (i actually remember it) but the next day i was so proud and told everyone i could i slept withoit one then never had it again ahaa.
Ill give my dd it as long as she wants really doesnt bother me.

 

[KHTW]

I had my dummy till really late, then my mom and dad ran out or lost them one day and i screamed (i actually remember it) but the next day i was so proud and told everyone i could i slept withoit one then never had it again ahaa.
Ill give my dd it as long as she wants really doesnt bother me.

I was the same and ended up with braces age 26!! That was not fun...

You are saying that now but once they turn 2 or 3 they look funny with a dummy in their mouth. I mean it's ok if they only need it to sleep but my DD would take it everywhere! And God forbid you couldn't find it... meltdown guaranteed x

 

[PeanutButter]

Mine only really wants it to sleep atm tbf, or when shes in the pram. I dont mind if she looks weird with it, i mean i try when shes 3 1/2 cos shell be going nursery and stuff but until then meh lol.
At 26?! My teeth would be petfect its jusy becauae i used to put basically the whole bottom part aswell in my mouth my bottom teeth are slighty crooked, top ones straighy nothing wrong woth them

 

[PeanutButter]

Arghhh. Just had a rant at someone on high risk section... Pfttt made me so angry. Some people omg.

 

[Shepherdess]

I've seen that post PB but I didn't bring myself to reply, stupid person.

I'm lucky my DD has only used her dummy at bedtime since turning 1 but one of my pet hates is seeing photos of kids with dummies in. I don't wsnt to push her to get rid but I worry about her teeth as oh and I both had horrendous teeth as kids (not dummy related) so teeth will always be a big thing for me

 

[_GG_]

I just replied...a much nicer response than the one I almost posted at 3am.

Regarding dummies, I never had one, my sister did and it affected her teeth and caused my mum no end of trouble. So, I never got one. Will play it be ear with this little one but I'll be mindful not to overuse it rely on them if possible.

 

[Shepherdess]

I didnt want DD to have one but I caved after 4/5 weeks of colic and husband asking me to give her one and it did make a difference. they're also supposed to help prevent sids so for that reason I'll give one on a nighttime. I don't know why I'm so anal about them DD has been so good with hers I just don't like them

 

[PeanutButter]

DD wanted to suck on my boob ALL the time and it waa such a nkce break and stopped her crying until next feed. She also had such bad reflux and helped with thay a little. Its so hard to to use it as a go to.

My little sister never had a dummy, her teeth are worse than all pf us that did. She had to have them all pulled out they were so fked. Her adult ones are coming in now they arw better still not as good as ours. So i think alot of people blame dummies when the teeth wpuld have been horrible anyway.

 

[malagueta]

I'm not sure what my thoughts are on dummies. As a first-time mum I've got no idea how things will go when baby gets here so I'm leaving my options open. I got a dummy in a Tommee Tippee pack so I have one if we feel the need to try. I do hate seeing a dummy on a child who's clearly way too old for one though. My niece was still using one at 5 years old.

Neither I nor my two brothers ever had a dummy when we were younger. Two of us ended up with braces and one brother has the most perfect teeth I've ever seen so I'm not sure how much dummies affect teeth in the long run.

 

[JemRose]

Sorry I've been so quiet and not really been on here much. Having a really tough time with my dad's side of the family at the minute. Even though I said to him I want nothing to do with him anymore. My grandparents have got themselves involved. I sent a long message explaining my reasoning behind it all and they've got all shitty with me saying I have a serious problem and need to get myself sorted out ...

UM.. my problem is that your son tossed me aside at 2 weeks old and wanted fuck all to do with me.

Just want them all to leave me alone, I'm so depressed and down about it all. I've even said about 15 times I don't want to discuss this anymore, it's causing too much stress and I need to focus on my pregnancy. But they won't leave it. I just want to run away and hide, I really can't handle it. This is why I keep my head down and keep quiet about my dad, because when I do stick up for myself I'm the bad one!

 

[Shanivy]

I replied a few day ago to that high risk post and never even noticed the abortion line at first. I wondered how none of you had saw it. People are fucking ridiculous if you're 300lb before you get pregnant you know the damn chances of sections. I hope they're trolling

KHTW that's so great about the dummy! Hopefully she forgets about it quickly!! Xx

With dd we didn't buy dummies but I got two with my tommee tippee set and the health visitor gave her it because she thought she may have colic. Ivy was obsessed with her dummy. They stopped making them and changed the design. She wouldn't take any other dummy, even the newer tommee tippee ones, and the only place I could get them was b&m! So I stocked up every so often. Eventually when she was 1, we lost the last one & I just though "fuck it". One night of crying and that was that. The bottle was way harder to take off her! Holy Christ!! She used to take milk to bed and I only got it off her when she was two 1/2. Santa took it

PB Ivy has a slight overbite that means she may need braces when she's older. I always worried about the bottle and dummy wrecking her teeth. But her dentist said hers is nothing to do with them at all. So I'd agree hun . Not sure what I'm doing this time xx

 

[Shanivy]

Ah Jem. If your grandparents are a negative influence in your life and you don't want to be involved in talking about all of this with them, then just don't.

If theyre messaging on Facebook, block them. Via text, block their numbers. Your dad is a piece of shit in my opinion who hasn't bothered with you or your baby and doesn't deserve your time. You and your baby deserve a lot more. And you certainly don't need drama or stress from anyone else right now. If they're getting nasty you just don't even need to bother. I'd not even respond if you've made your point and reasoning clear. If he was my son and your were my granddaughter I'd be horrified at how he's been. You and baby are the only ones who matter, don't let anyone stress you and affect your pregnancy xx

 

[Shanivy]

I didnt want DD to have one but I caved after 4/5 weeks of colic and husband asking me to give her one and it did make a difference. they're also supposed to help prevent sids so for that reason I'll give one on a nighttime. I don't know why I'm so anal about them DD has been so good with hers I just don't like them

I didn't either and I'd not want this baby to have one. I dislike them so much. But I'm not going to stress this time of it happens as dd was the same with the colic. But..It drives me nuts seeing a 4/5 year old with a dummy. OH has a work friend who's son is still in nappies with a bottle and dummy's at 4, and he goes to primary school with Ivy in September. Literally all my pet hates in one xx

 

[KHTW]

Dummies can be great (i.e they reduce risk of cot death) but only and only if you manage to take them away early (I think they recommend bottles to be gone by 1 year old and dummies shortly after). The older the child is the more difficult it is to get them away. I have been trying since after DD turned 18 months!!!

My MIL texted saying DD is fine and when she mentions dummy she only says that it went to a little baby. Please God pleeaaase let it last

 

[KHTW]

Jem, just ignore them all. You can't be forced to see and speak to people you don't want to x