****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[KHTW]

Congrats Sarah!! Boyish skull but who knows! Do you have a preference? 9th March is not too far away x

 

[Shepherdess]

as that's a lovely scan picture Sarah congrats!

good luck Enya, I can't believe the gender scans are starting! 3 weeks until I have mine

 

[PeanutButter]

My gender scan is in 2 weeks really wish I went for next week now ha impatient!!
I kinda want a girl for my daughter, but when I thought about it I kinda wanna go and do mommy and daughter days and spoil her be harder with 2 of them, so that makes me want a boy, also my hubby wants a boy. I really wanted a girl before thinking about it but now I really don't care lol.

 

[_GG_]

Morning ladies...or afternoon. I feel very mean now as so many of you are having a horrid day, but I feel great. Slept until 11. Sun is shining. Off to the pub in 15 as have a chap coming in to do some deep cleaning for me for a few hours. J can cope with the daily cleaning, but the weekly and monthly jobs of pulling units out to deep clean behind, no chance!

Hope you all feel better soon.

Shan, call your gp. It's not normal to be that out of breath and if it is asthma related, better to get on top of it now xx

 

[Shanivy]

Thanks everyone. Still feeling the same so I will do tomorrow.

Sarah congrats on your scan! Looks like baby was caught mid wriggle lol, lovely pic. Updated your date Xx

Enya how exciting I'm saying girl lol can't wait to see your scan! Xx

 

[Shanivy]

My gender scan is in 2 weeks really wish I went for next week now ha impatient!!
I kinda want a girl for my daughter, but when I thought about it I kinda wanna go and do mommy and daughter days and spoil her be harder with 2 of them, so that makes me want a boy, also my hubby wants a boy. I really wanted a girl before thinking about it but now I really don't care lol.

I had the same thoughts as you with having another girl. Now I don't know haha. Hope your flu is easing a bit xx

 

[Shanivy]

They haven't even interviewed for anyone yet, so will be at least a month before someone is employed if you take into account usual one month's notice at previous jobs!

I have absolutely no chance of getting this work done and I am made to feel like it's my fault, when actually if they had cover like any normal place then this wouldn't be a problem!!

Plus to top it all off, my nausea is back with a vengeance x

Jem that's ridiculous. Easier said than done but do what you can that's all you can do. They sound pretty shitty to work for tbh xx

 

[JemRose]

They haven't even interviewed for anyone yet, so will be at least a month before someone is employed if you take into account usual one month's notice at previous jobs!

I have absolutely no chance of getting this work done and I am made to feel like it's my fault, when actually if they had cover like any normal place then this wouldn't be a problem!!

Plus to top it all off, my nausea is back with a vengeance x

Jem that's ridiculous. Easier said than done but do what you can that's all you can do. They sound pretty shitty to work for tbh xx

It's the NHS Shan, anything they can do to save money .. even if it means treating their employees like shit

 

[Shepherdess]

My gender scan is in 2 weeks really wish I went for next week now ha impatient!!
I kinda want a girl for my daughter, but when I thought about it I kinda wanna go and do mommy and daughter days and spoil her be harder with 2 of them, so that makes me want a boy, also my hubby wants a boy. I really wanted a girl before thinking about it but now I really don't care lol.

I've had the exact same thought process as this. itd be hard to spend time one on one who two girls as theyd both want to come and it'd be harder to get them to take turns

husband would love a boy to

 

[Shanivy]

My gender scan is in 2 weeks really wish I went for next week now ha impatient!!
I kinda want a girl for my daughter, but when I thought about it I kinda wanna go and do mommy and daughter days and spoil her be harder with 2 of them, so that makes me want a boy, also my hubby wants a boy. I really wanted a girl before thinking about it but now I really don't care lol.

I've had the exact same thought process as this. itd be hard to spend time one on one who two girls as theyd both want to come and it'd be harder to get them to take turns

husband would love a boy to

Right? I just said this too lol. I'd kind of want dd to be my only girl so she can keep something for herself. But then again 2 sisters would be lovely. So different having a second child!

I had a little mental breakdown last night giving her a bath of how much I'm going to miss with her in the beginning. She's had my complete attention for everything since the day she was born. So it's going to be difficult missing bedtime story for example because I'm feeding the baby, not playing in her room with her because the baby needs me etc. Splitting time I'm worried about for both of them. Does that sound stupid? Xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Definitely not stupid! I completely agree. My daughter will never know what it's like to be on her own which makes me kinda sad.
My main panic atm is if i have to stay in the hospital for a week again I've never been without her, and I'm really worrying about when my husband has to be with in my labour. My MIL will not look after her in our house and will want her in her own house, (over an hour away). My mom will be with us in labour. We don't have anyone else really. MIL already on about having her while I'm in labour and said when I'm recovering (I'm having her back as soon as I'm out!!!!) idc how shit I am. But fx I dont bleed out again, and only send a day in there.

 

[JemRose]

PB I would tell MIL to do one!! She is trying to tell you how your daughter should be looked after and she can just piss off in my opinion.

As for the missing out on time with your 1st child and worrying they won't ever know what it's like to be on their own - I have 3 siblings and we are all really really close in age, we never knew life on our own either. I think if you don't know it then you don't mind. And I would say it's not a bad thing as from a young age your child will know what it's like to share. My mum said that she loved her first child so much she couldn't understand how she could love another that much, and she said she just did. You will love each child just as much as the rest and find the time to spend with them equally. Don't panic ladies, things will just fit into place x

 

[Shanivy]

Why can't she mind her at your house and make it easier for you? Fx you don't either PB hopefully your post natal care with be a bit better now with your history xx

I'm worried about ending up in hospital too. I've never spent a night without dd but I'm sure that bothers me more than her. She's almost 4 (omfg) so for me it's all about her not feeling replaced. Im trying to include her in everything. we're going to pick out prams today, if I feel better and I'm taking her. I'm going to let her pick as much baby stuff as is possible too.

We're also taking her to this place where you paint and glaze clay animals eventually so she can make the baby a present for the hospital. Then the baby will have a present for her too. Honestly I think she'll be wonderful with him or her. But she's a mummies girl too.

And I want this baby so much but I've no idea what having 2 children is going to be like! All I remember from dd is that her newborn stage was so busy and I was with her 24/7. And people do it all the time but I'm still nervous. It's sort of like a chapter of our mummy daughter life is over too. Which sounds dramatic but hey I love my daughter lol

 

[Shanivy]

PB I would tell MIL to do one!! She is trying to tell you how your daughter should be looked after and she can just piss off in my opinion.

As for the missing out on time with your 1st child and worrying they won't ever know what it's like to be on their own - I have 3 siblings and we are all really really close in age, we never knew life on our own either. I think if you don't know it then you don't mind. And I would say it's not a bad thing as from a young age your child will know what it's like to share. My mum said that she loved her first child so much she couldn't understand how she could love another that much, and she said she just did. You will love each child just as much as the rest and find the time to spend with them equally. Don't panic ladies, things will just fit into place x

What your mum said is so true lol. I know I'll love this one the same but you do wonder how you can love another person like your 1st.

That's helpful Jem. My brother and I have a five year gap so I mostly remember life with him, than without him. Christmas, holidays, rainy days were always much more fun with each other. When we didn't try to kill each other. So I know it's more my problem that DDs problem tbh xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Yes my MIL is abit full on at times. Sometimes I feel like she's trying to be mum when we go round, and doesn't like it when I even hold her at there house (idc I do what I want). But boxing day we went round and everyone was eating i didn't want anything so MIL tries to put dd in car seat and have her next to her (dd was grumpy) I said I'm not eating I'll have her, she was like no I was putting her next to me (why so she can just cry?) I said no I'll have her. Even hubby said they were treating me like shit and didn't want me to be there that day. I said they've treated me like that since the day she was born. He was like oh. FIL stood there and went on about how grumpy I was (oh I'm sorry I'm not happy 24/7! She bought a crib before dd was born for when she sleeps over. I was like OK... But she's never staying at an age she'll need a crib :/
She's 'accidentally' called herself mum to her, and is trying to get her to say gran before mom and dad blah

 

[KHTW]

Dear Lord, we all seem to be having the same thoughts!!

I honestly don't care if this one is a boy or a girl. I think OH would like a boy but he will never admit that. If this one is a girl, they will simply have to take turns when it comes to 1/1 time. And it will be up to me to make them both feel like they are my special girls!

I am worried about having to stay in hospital for longer (was in for 1 week before DD was born due to BP). I have never left her overnight, ever. I hope that is not going to be the case.

I am an only child so have really no idea how it must feel to share parent with a brother or sister. Thank God newborns sleep a lot so that should leave quality time with DD. I don't need to eat, or sleep, or wash right? I will be stuck at home for a while

 

[JemRose]

About to walk to out of work and never fucking come back. So angry and upset. I'm sat here blotchy, snivelling and sobbing. Got a shitty message from a doctor with the wording:

"referrals dictated 19th dec. still waiting to be typed. can you clear the decks re dictation - giving dictation priority each day over queries and tasks moving forwards."

I have been to work 3 days from 22nd December to now - therefore obviously the work hasn't been done because I haven't been here and nobody covers me!!!! Obviously I am doing the work in date order as priority I am not an idiot and know how to do my job. I am so so angry, my colleague is fuming and I'm just sat here crying just wanting to go home. I've had enough, I really have

 

[Enya5589]

Its a BOY ��

 

[Shanivy]

Aw Jem. I can't say anything I pretty much walked out and didn't come back from work. If OH didn't have such a good wage though I couldn't have so I know that's not really a solution.

You should have cover when you're sick. Is it just you for reception? I know nothing about reception work though, but my doctors have always had one than one person? Sounds like they're taking the piss tbh! Xx

 

[JemRose]

Its a BOY ��

Oh Enya that's amazing congrats