****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[Shanivy]

Where do you all stand on grandparents having baby to stay? I went shopping with my mum today and we don’t tend to see eye to eye on anything much and she was talking about how they were going to put some chairs in the spare room for reading but now she’s putting a bed in the spare room for the baby for when it comes to stay and I was like well you know it’ll be a long time before it’s in a bed - like 18 months meaning you could still have chairs and she almost cried...

Am I being mean but she has quite a vicious dog, and lots of health problem including an eating disorder, back pain that
Sometimes she can’t get out of bed and can’t drive very far even on good days,, insomnia has affected her memory so she has to set reminders to take all her tablets and is majorly forgetful even in conversations, and loses her balance a lot... she suffers so bad from anxiety she doesn’t go shopping alone and can’t have friends or family over. I don’t feel comfortable leaving my baby with her even for a few hours let alone over night and I don’t really see why the baby would come and stay with her in the first few months anyway but I don’t know how to approach that with them? I imagined it would
Go to stay when it was much older (and less fragile!)

Your baby your rules hun

Dd still hasn't ever stayed anyone's overnight. I left home at 16 and my mum lives in omagh, me in Scotland so that's obvious because when we go see her or she stays here, I'm always with Dd. She also takes tablets and sleeping tablets so I get how you feel about that part. My mum wouldn't get to have dd or this baby overnight if she lived here with her medication. She's said she wouldn't feel comfortable with it either

But my mil hasn't ever had her. They take her places all the time, and mind her, visit constantly etc but never overnight yet. Just how it's been. And if your mum has health issues and a dog like that it's easy to see how you'd be a little reluctant to give your new baby to her overnight. Then if your breastfeeding, sleep routines etc it's hard to figure all that stuff.

She had children she should understand the protectiveness. Just tell her it's your first baby and obviously she will be able to see and bond with him/her when she's over, or you visit. But that you haven't even thought about baby being away from you yet. Baby will only want you for the first months anyway. And that there wil be so much to learn and so many routines to figure out that you can revisit the conversation when baby is a bit older. Xx

 

[Shanivy]

Just said to OH "I'm supposed to be in the glowing stage, am not glowing at all am I?"
OH *blank stare* "Uh.." Cheers love

MEN!!! I wouldn't even bother asking lol x

Still I know he can lie his ass off, wouldn't have hurt haha xx

 

[KHTW]

Just said to OH "I'm supposed to be in the glowing stage, am not glowing at all am I?"
OH *blank stare* "Uh.." Cheers love

MEN!!! I wouldn't even bother asking lol x

Still I know he can lie his ass off, wouldn't have hurt haha xx

Lol! They just don't think like we do

 

[KHTW]

Remember when I said that OH suggested we use tesco baby event to stock up on nappies? Well we now have nearly 1000 nappies between size 1-2-3

 

[Katybaby87]

Hanks for all your experiences. The breastfeeding and sleep routine one is useful to avoid a confrontation about it right now but stops her getting her expectations up

Have you found any clumps yet jemrose?

 

[Shepherdess]

haha KHTW that's a lot of nappies. as soon as I finish sorting our wardrobes I'll be buying a few packs. but not that many haha

I'm sure aldi baby event starts this week ladies of anyone is interested. I personallu love their wipes so will stick up on those

 

[Katybaby87]

That was autocorrect hahaha meant to say flumps!!

 

[Katybaby87]

haha KHTW that's a lot of nappies. as soon as I finish sorting our wardrobes I'll be buying a few packs. but not that many haha

I'm sure aldi baby event starts this week ladies of anyone is interested. I personallu love their wipes so will stick up on those

Yes I saw this! Tesco are doing one too but I think different stuff is going down on different days

 

[Shepherdess]

haha KHTW that's a lot of nappies. as soon as I finish sorting our wardrobes I'll be buying a few packs. but not that many haha

I'm sure aldi baby event starts this week ladies of anyone is interested. I personallu love their wipes so will stick up on those

Yes I saw this! Tesco are doing one too but I think different stuff is going down on different days

I had a look at th Tesco one but didn't buy anything. the pampers were a good offer but I don't use pampers

they also had tommee tippee bottles but I know from last pregnancy I got them cheaper at aldi

 

[KHTW]

We use Aldi wipes too but for a newborn I will be using cotton wool and warm water for the little butt water wipes for face etc. DD hated any kind of wipes on her butt and would scream blue murder but warm water and cotton was ok.

We only ever used pampers. Tried aldi once but were not happy with them.

Bottles def dr browns. TT did not work for us either. Still need to get that and a few dummies and that's us sorted x

 

[_GG_]

Just sat down as Dan came back and ordered me to go and rest bless him. He's currently doing the last of the washing up for me.

Re- staying at grandparents...well, neither Dan or I have a problem with my parents having our baby...even as a baby so long as not bf. His parents though, not a chance. Father with a drink problem who didn't show any fucking reaction at all when we told them we were pregnant and MIL who neither of us trust even a smidge...because she's proven so many times that she will disregard what we say and do as she wants. She's also not physically up to it. If anything happened, I don't want to think of my child at risk while waiting for her to get up. We'll also never stay in their house with the baby unless their dogs are kept away from it at all times. They are unruly, shitty little terrier who think they own the house. I will never even trust my own dogs, let alone theirs. I also have no problem telling her all of that in case she asks. We can't leave them alone in our house with our dogs...last time we did, it resulted in her meddling and our Jack Russell ending up on an A road, national speed limit in front of cars doing emergency braking.

You do what you're comfortable with and it honestly doesn't matter how others feel. YOU need to be, HAVE to be 100% happy to leave your baby with anyone. Xxx

 

[Shanivy]

Remember when I said that OH suggested we use tesco baby event to stock up on nappies? Well we now have nearly 1000 nappies between size 1-2-3

Haha! Men I swear. That's ridiculous but actually awesome all at the same time! Xx

 

[Shanivy]

Same with aldi wipes I loved them too. I bought boxes and boxes of boots sensitive wipes when they were on offer pregnant with dd. They were great. Huggies are so crap.. so wet and they just fall apart? Did the Cotton thing at first too

GG Jesus I'd say that's a given, with all we've heard about them! Xx

 

[JemRose]

I would personally have baby round to stay at my mums but it's different for everyone x

Nope no flumps yet, so sad!!

 

[JemRose]

Think you'll all appreciate this picture I found!! View attachment 76551
I'm definitely waiting for the glowing to happen lol

 

[_GG_]

I would personally have baby round to stay at my mums but it's different for everyone x

Nope no flumps yet, so sad!!

Love the "glowing" picture. lol

Re: the flumps...prepare yourself to be absolutely devastated if you eventually find them, go to pick them up and then your body tells you that in no uncertain terms...if you open them, you will want to throw up. I still get that sometimes despite the nausea being long gone.

 

[_GG_]

Same with aldi wipes I loved them too. I bought boxes and boxes of boots sensitive wipes when they were on offer pregnant with dd. They were great. Huggies are so crap.. so wet and they just fall apart? Did the Cotton thing at first too

GG Jesus I'd say that's a given, with all we've heard about them! Xx

Well, after the almost 10 years of wildly inappropriate questioning over when we would be actually having a child and how we were now her only hope of a grandchild blah blah...anyone want to guess how many times she's been in touch with either of us to see how we or baby are doing?

 

[Shanivy]

Same with aldi wipes I loved them too. I bought boxes and boxes of boots sensitive wipes when they were on offer pregnant with dd. They were great. Huggies are so crap.. so wet and they just fall apart? Did the Cotton thing at first too

GG Jesus I'd say that's a given, with all we've heard about them! Xx

Well, after the almost 10 years of wildly inappropriate questioning over when we would be actually having a child and how we were now her only hope of a grandchild blah blah...anyone want to guess how many times she's been in touch with either of us to see how we or baby are doing?

Unsurprising. Though some people suddenly are all over you when the baby arrives. Fx it's not them! Xx

 

[Shanivy]

God I'm having the worst morning.

Been up and dressed since just after 4.30. And DDs getting ready for nursery but I am so breathless! After five minutes of doing something. Had to sit again and I'm seriously condsidering her not going in this morning because I don't know if I can walk her in right now. Which sounds so ridiculously lazy and which I'm sure OH wouldn't be happy about. Or understand. But seriously I was never like this before with dd. My bloods at 13 weeks assumingly came back normal wtf?!?

 

[Shepherdess]

I'm a bit like you shanivy. yesterday in was griping silage in the sheep shed and had to stop for a breather after 10 mins. I definitely didn't sufferlike this with DD either. 2nd pregnancies are sso different. Do you walk to nursery? is it just breathlessness or are you getting light headed to? if so make sure you're eating and drinking plenty

I had a bit of low blood sugar in tri1 and midwife said to eat a bit more, which at the time was easier said then done when vomiting lots but I'm ok now