****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[Shepherdess]

haha yeah shanivy is right I should technically be in the June mum's. although I'm sure some of your babies will come before mine. my ticker isslightly wrong. I'm 18+6 today I think and I'll be 19+6 when I get my scan I think haha

yes shanivy I do worry about jealousy or maybe not so much jealousy but DD feeling left out. she's so used to one to one time and she's not great in groups. yesterday we were with her cousin who is about to turn one, he stands but you have to hold on to him and I noticed when I was holding him she'd just kind of go and sit a few feet away doing her own thing, but once I let go she'd run over to me. she also gets funny when I pick her up from my mum's, she'll say "nana and me are playing right now you go and sit" or "mummys here nana you go make tea" she's just used to spending her time with one person

how do you think Ivy will be on the jealousy front?

 

[Shepherdess]

oh and love that Ivy has picked paw patrol names. thankfully my DDs favourite programme is Peter rabbit so it's Lily and Benjamin for us. a bit more normal haha

 

[KHTW]

We are massive fans of Bing (when I say we I mean DD, I hate this bloody show), so we may end up with Pando or CoCo!!

DD is super jealous of me! If she sees me holding another child she goes mental. She will cry and try to pull the child away from me. HOWEVER as soon as that child is gone, so is she!!! It worries me a lot x

 

[Shepherdess]

We are massive fans of Bing (when I say we I mean DD, I hate this bloody show), so we may end up with Pando or CoCo!!

DD is super jealous of me! If she sees me holding another child she goes mental. She will cry and try to pull the child away from me. HOWEVER as soon as that child is gone, so is she!!! It worries me a lot x

mine was like that this time last year, she'd be like "put the baby on the floor and cuddle me".

is your DD in nursery at all?

 

[KHTW]

We are massive fans of Bing (when I say we I mean DD, I hate this bloody show), so we may end up with Pando or CoCo!!

DD is super jealous of me! If she sees me holding another child she goes mental. She will cry and try to pull the child away from me. HOWEVER as soon as that child is gone, so is she!!! It worries me a lot x

mine was like that this time last year, she'd be like "put the baby on the floor and cuddle me".

is your DD in nursery at all?

Hoping this is a stage... No, she stays with Daddy until 3pm and then with me. She is super sociable and goes to groups and runs away from you to play no problem. She is also OK staying with Granny and Grandad when we go out. Just the site of me holding another child makes her act crazy x

 

[JemRose]

One of my nieces is like that (although she will probs not get a brother or sister any time soon).

But when her mum holds another baby she's like ummm that's my mum or mum can you get off that baby you're my mum.

Same with my mum (nanny), if any of her cousins are there and nanny or granddad holds one of them she gets so stroppy and is like no, that's my nanny or granddad.

Quite funny in a way, but her mum is single and don't think she has any plans on any further babies, but my niece does have very jealous tendencies. Apparently even in nursery, if there is a girl younger than her she will be mean to them (even tiny babies) she just gets so jealous. She's only 2 and such an attitude!

 

[KHTW]

2 year olds are funny creatures really. It is a difficult age with tantrums and attitude but at the same time they are getting so clever at this age, they are really fun to be around x

 

[Shanivy]

Hm Shep I honestly don't know with Ivy. She's at the age where I think she's so excited but then once it wears off could be jealous. Which is probably going to be my fault. I'm not sure how she'll be when she wants me to play or give her attention but I'm like I can't I have to etc etc for the baby. I'm trying to get her involved in everything I can right now . I guess it's all about balance but it stands to reason that baby will get more of my attention at first for obvious reasons. I'll just have to figure it out.

But I know for a fact she'll she jealous with my father in law. She's a grandads girl. He held her 9 month old cousin last Xmas for a sec and when he tried to go to dd, she wouldn't even look at him. He's 70 but he gets down on the ground and plays, gets up on the climbing frames and slides at the park with her, throws her around her garden etc. So I know she'll struggle sharing him lol. Xx

KHTW Hopefully she'll not be that way with the baby if she sees it as her baby too and not some strangers taking her mummy. You just never know though what way they'll be.

Oh and I hate Bing! He's a little shit. Plus he talks in baby talk which used to drive me nuts cause dd would copy him "I blowded the bubbles" "I hideded in the cupboard" ahh fuck sake speak properly lol xx

 

[Shanivy]

Mine never had one temper tantrum when she was 2. She was still good as gold until she became a threenager. Then omfg that was a whole other ball game haha! Xx

 

[Shepherdess]

Mine never had one temper tantrum when she was 2. She was still good as gold until she became a threenager. Then omfg that was a whole other ball game haha! Xx

haha I'm expecting this! mine has been a dream mood wise she rarely gets angry but I know it'll come at some point

 

[Shanivy]

Mine never had one temper tantrum when she was 2. She was still good as gold until she became a threenager. Then omfg that was a whole other ball game haha! Xx

haha I'm expecting this! mine has been a dream mood wise she rarely gets angry but I know it'll come at some point

lol I was like what terrible twos? Then she hit 3 and I was like ohhhhhhh haha xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Apparently I'm having a boy and girl according to that link lmao. I bought baking soda, just haven't got round to doing it since we was on about it ages ago lol. We have 2 names picked for each cos I got excited last night and made hubby stay up choosing lool.
Got my consultant appointment today at 2
Gender scan isn't until 7:15pm tomorrow so basically gotta wait the whole day anyway lol.

 

[JemRose]

Haha PB maybe there's 2 in there

Yeah I keep forgetting to do the baking soda thing too.

I think I've had a couple light kicks today. I've been feeling something (I think) the past week, but not been sure. Today I'm almost positive it was little tiny kicks! But it all happens so quickly and takes me by surprise before I can stop and think was it or wasn't it, then it doesn't happen again for ages

 

[KHTW]

Oh and I hate Bing! He's a little shit. Plus he talks in baby talk which used to drive me nuts cause dd would copy him "I blowded the bubbles" "I hideded in the cupboard" ahh fuck sake speak properly lol xx

OMG! I was just telling hubby yesterday that if I here DD say hided once more I am banning this show! Bing is a whiny little shit! x

 

[Shanivy]

Oh and I hate Bing! He's a little shit. Plus he talks in baby talk which used to drive me nuts cause dd would copy him "I blowded the bubbles" "I hideded in the cupboard" ahh fuck sake speak properly lol xx

OMG! I was just telling hubby yesterday that if I here DD say hided once more I am banning this show! Bing is a whiny little shit! x

lol DDs watching it right now eating lunch. I'm ready to disconnect my tv lol. He's being whiny right now. Don't even get me started on what the hell his mum and dad are xx

 

[Shanivy]

Ooh PB not long at all. Same mine is at 6 on Wednesday so the whole day will drag for me too lol. Good luck for appointment today xx

Aw Jem if you think you're feeling baby it probably is! Exciting!! Xx

 

[_GG_]

Hello ladies....agh, so much to catch up on, lol.

I thought facebook more for just a social thing as we all seem to be getting to know eachother. I think this place is perfect for keeping this conversation going as not everyone is on facebook and it's annoying keeping up with two threads, lol.

I'm there if anyone wants to find me, lol.

Have a mountain of housework to do today but have so far done the sum total of fuck all.

MIL posted again last night as Dan reminded her that we call the bump Sausage. Well, he does, I don't really call it anything other than baby. She posted a reply this morning that she liked peanuts, then she sent him a private message saying,

"Son, I love you, but this is my grandchild and our baby together so you don't get to make all the decisions, I'm your mum, I say the bump is called Peanut. Sausage is a horrible name."

So...I may come across as inflexible and unkind when it comes to her, but that right there is what we have to deal with. It't not light hearted, it's not tongue in cheek. She believes she has the ultimate say.

I have no idea how I will cope when the baby is actually here.

 

[JemRose]

our baby together?
what the actual fuck?????????
GG I would go absolutely batshit at her for that, ummmm no it's not OUR baby, it is not yours at all. You did not participate in making it, you do not have a say in anything.

I can't cope with that haha, I think I'm a bit hysterical over things today but I am laughing so hard at it. Is she deluded?

 

[Shanivy]

Hello ladies....agh, so much to catch up on, lol.

I thought facebook more for just a social thing as we all seem to be getting to know eachother. I think this place is perfect for keeping this conversation going as not everyone is on facebook and it's annoying keeping up with two threads, lol.

I'm there if anyone wants to find me, lol.

Have a mountain of housework to do today but have so far done the sum total of fuck all.

MIL posted again last night as Dan reminded her that we call the bump Sausage. Well, he does, I don't really call it anything other than baby. She posted a reply this morning that she liked peanuts, then she sent him a private message saying,

"Son, I love you, but this is my grandchild and our baby together so you don't get to make all the decisions, I'm your mum, I say the bump is called Peanut. Sausage is a horrible name."

So...I may come across as inflexible and unkind when it comes to her, but that right there is what we have to deal with. It't not light hearted, it's not tongue in cheek. She believes she has the ultimate say.

I have no idea how I will cope when the baby is actually here.

Oh my actual fuck GG is the woman for real? I don't have any nice advice to be honest.

My reply to that wouldn't be nice. It would be to her face along the lines of Excuse me but I'm this baby's mother and it's really got nothing to do with you. Do not fucking tell me what to do with my own child again. Guess you doesn't actually get to make the decisions ever? That would be you Granny. Ffs

I get that it's a little issue but I totally understand how that would bother you!! And to message your husband about it by himself would piss me off

My mil is a little like that. But the worst she's done is to tell me my £800 choice of pram needs to suit her needs for when I go back to work so she'd like to pick it. Because she maybe might have to push it at some point. Aye right enough. But yours is ridiculous poor Dan too! Xx

EDIT: actually my only advice would be do not, under any circumstances, let that bloody woman ruin your pregnancy with her constant shit! Especially after everything you've been through to get here. You can't get it back. The last thing you need is to spend it stressing over her stupid, nonsensical, attention seeking, whatthefuck behaviour xx

 

[JemRose]

Shan I feel like we have the same vocab "actual fuck" hahaha