****July 2018 Mummies - Tri 2****

[PeanutButter]

Mine seems forever away now aha. Yeah you can have from 16 weeks shan x

 

[JemRose]

Lol OH doesn't really wanna know the gender at all. I don't wanna do something without him. I might just bring it up again and said that I really want the early scan and see what he says x

 

[Shanivy]

Mine seems forever away now aha. Yeah you can have from 16 weeks shan x

Oh I know believe me hun haha, I just meant is enyas scan a private for 16 weeks or was her NHS really early. It's probably been said but I can't keep up lol.

I'm slowly convincing oH that a private one at 18 weeks would be a great idea. Our actual NHS one is 16th Feb (21 weeks) and it's his grans birthday/90th birthday party that day. He likes the idea of being able to tell her and everyone that night at the party better. I'm like nooo I'd rather know 3 weeks earlier thanks

How you feeling anyway?. Xx

 

[Shanivy]

Lol OH doesn't really wanna know the gender at all. I don't wanna do something without him. I might just bring it up again and said that I really want the early scan and see what he says x

I couldn't keep it a surprise. It must be the most amazing thing to do, but I'd convince myself it was one gender then be like wtf if it was the other lol. Why doesn't he want to? See what he says but if you want it I'd go for one without him lol. That sounds a little mean probably? xx

 

[JemRose]

Lol OH doesn't really wanna know the gender at all. I don't wanna do something without him. I might just bring it up again and said that I really want the early scan and see what he says x

I couldn't keep it a surprise. It must be the most amazing thing to do, but I'd convince myself it was one gender then be like wtf if it was the other lol. Why doesn't he want to? See what he says but if you want it I'd go for one without him lol. That sounds a little mean probably? xx

He's got really old parents (in their 80s) so he has quite old fashioned views on things and feels that we don't need to know. He's now come to the decision to find out with me, but he really doesn't want the early scan. I've spoken about it with him before but never ends nicely. I just would like him to want it with me but tbh I might just go on my own if he doesn't want to x

 

[Shanivy]

Lol OH doesn't really wanna know the gender at all. I don't wanna do something without him. I might just bring it up again and said that I really want the early scan and see what he says x

I couldn't keep it a surprise. It must be the most amazing thing to do, but I'd convince myself it was one gender then be like wtf if it was the other lol. Why doesn't he want to? See what he says but if you want it I'd go for one without him lol. That sounds a little mean probably? xx

He's got really old parents (in their 80s) so he has quite old fashioned views on things and feels that we don't need to know. He's now come to the decision to find out with me, but he really doesn't want the early scan. I've spoken about it with him before but never ends nicely. I just would like him to want it with me but tbh I might just go on my own if he doesn't want to x

Well at least he wants to find out. But if he does then why not go for the early scan? Man logic makes no sense! If it's something you really want Jem then he should really compromise since hes ultimately going to find out anyway. You're doing all the hard work, what's one scan a week or two early? I'd book it lol xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Oh lol, are you sure yours is at 21w mins on the 23rd I'll be 21+somthing.
My daughter only wants me but won't allow me to sit, I keep being sick and feeling faint. My pelvis is so sore and achy from the coughing hurts to move meh
Jem go for it x

 

[JemRose]

Exactly my reasoning but he says we can wait for NHS scan like everyone else does. Ugh. Might just not tell him and pretend I don't know and be shocked at the NHS scan hahaha

 

[_GG_]

Exactly my reasoning but he says we can wait for NHS scan like everyone else does. Ugh. Might just not tell him and pretend I don't know and be shocked at the NHS scan hahaha

I'd really caution against that. The relationship is on rocky ground and eggshells as it is. If there is one partner doing things behind another partners back, that's not a good sign.

I can't believe I'm about to do this, but I kind of think you need to respect his wishes as much as you want him to respect yours. Yes, it's your body, but the baby was made by both of you. Luckily, Dan and I agree with not wanting to find out but honestly, he's having to make so many adjustments to support me and will do moreso as I get bigger, I couldn't force something on him that he really didn't want and going behind his back...I could not warn against that enough. The truth ALWAYS comes out one day and when it comes to a baby, it's quite a serious secret.

Sorry Jem...I just really don't want you doing something that could trigger him or make things worse for you. We can easily make pregnancy all about us. Dad's can feel left out enough as it is so I do think we should be very mindful of how they feel.

 

[Shanivy]

Oh lol, are you sure yours is at 21w mins on the 23rd I'll be 21+somthing.
My daughter only wants me but won't allow me to sit, I keep being sick and feeling faint. My pelvis is so sore and achy from the coughing hurts to move meh
Jem go for it x

Just checked my ovia calendar for the weeks lol. I'm actually 20+2 on the 16th. Don't know what the hell ive been talking about lol.

Aw poor wee thing. It's hard when you're sick too and they just want their mummy. You're doing amazing though being ill with a baby and one on the way. You need a medal! Hopefully it's more of a bug, which is obviously shit too but better than flu! Xx

 

[_GG_]

Oh lol, are you sure yours is at 21w mins on the 23rd I'll be 21+somthing.
My daughter only wants me but won't allow me to sit, I keep being sick and feeling faint. My pelvis is so sore and achy from the coughing hurts to move meh
Jem go for it x

Just checked my ovia calendar for the weeks lol. I'm actually 20+2 on the 16th. Don't know what the hell ive been talking about lol.

Aw poor wee thing. It's hard when you're sick too and they just want their mummy. You're doing amazing though being ill with a baby and one on the way. You need a medal! Hopefully it's more of a bug, which is obviously shit too but better than flu! Xx

Call it baby brain, lol. I'm definitely suffering it from time to Time!

 

[JemRose]

I know GG I say these things but I never will go behind his back. I wish I didn't have to make compromises on what I want haha. I will have a chat with him again about it and say I would really like to do it and then see what he says, he may say well I don't want to know but you can do it if you want to. I'll still feel guilty to do it without him. So tough to decide x

 

[KHTW]

Exactly my reasoning but he says we can wait for NHS scan like everyone else does. Ugh. Might just not tell him and pretend I don't know and be shocked at the NHS scan hahaha

I'd really caution against that. The relationship is on rocky ground and eggshells as it is. If there is one partner doing things behind another partners back, that's not a good sign.

I can't believe I'm about to do this, but I kind of think you need to respect his wishes as much as you want him to respect yours. Yes, it's your body, but the baby was made by both of you. Luckily, Dan and I agree with not wanting to find out but honestly, he's having to make so many adjustments to support me and will do moreso as I get bigger, I couldn't force something on him that he really didn't want and going behind his back...I could not warn against that enough. The truth ALWAYS comes out one day and when it comes to a baby, it's quite a serious secret.

Sorry Jem...I just really don't want you doing something that could trigger him or make things worse for you. We can easily make pregnancy all about us. Dad's can feel left out enough as it is so I do think we should be very mindful of how they feel.

I don't know... I certainly would not keep it a secret BUT if we BOTH wanted to know the gender and I really wanted to know early I would book a scan and told OH about it, I would tell him that it is really important to me to find out early (you don't have to justify why!!) and he is welcome to come along. Here! This isn't lack of understanding or not respecting his wishes cause HE WANTS TO KNOW THE GENDER ANYWAY!

In your case Jem, I get the feeling he is only saying NO to exercise control over this relationship. Anyways, this is just my opinion x

 

[Shepherdess]

on the other side of the coin maybe he doesn't want to get an early scan to save £50 (or about that) for the sake of a couple of weeks wait. I don't agree with everything your oh does but on this occasion is it really worth the hassle?

I was a tiny bit tempted by an early scan but actually I'll be looking forward to spending the money on something else

 

[sarah1986]

I think im first for gender scan? Monday eeek! Not long at all!! Xx

Wow and I'm only just having my dating scan boooooo lol.

Hope it goes well xx

 

[Shanivy]

Exactly my reasoning but he says we can wait for NHS scan like everyone else does. Ugh. Might just not tell him and pretend I don't know and be shocked at the NHS scan hahaha

I'd really caution against that. The relationship is on rocky ground and eggshells as it is. If there is one partner doing things behind another partners back, that's not a good sign.

I can't believe I'm about to do this, but I kind of think you need to respect his wishes as much as you want him to respect yours. Yes, it's your body, but the baby was made by both of you. Luckily, Dan and I agree with not wanting to find out but honestly, he's having to make so many adjustments to support me and will do moreso as I get bigger, I couldn't force something on him that he really didn't want and going behind his back...I could not warn against that enough. The truth ALWAYS comes out one day and when it comes to a baby, it's quite a serious secret.

Sorry Jem...I just really don't want you doing something that could trigger him or make things worse for you. We can easily make pregnancy all about us. Dad's can feel left out enough as it is so I do think we should be very mindful of how they feel.

I don't know... I certainly would not keep it a secret BUT if we BOTH wanted to know the gender and I really wanted to know early I would book a scan and told OH about it, I would tell him that it is really important to me to find out early (you don't have to justify why!!) and he is welcome to come along. Here! This isn't lack of understanding or not respecting his wishes cause HE WANTS TO KNOW THE GENDER ANYWAY!

In your case Jem, I get the feeling he is only saying NO to exercise control over this relationship. Anyways, this is just my opinion x

This is exactly my thoughts on the situation, especially about the control aspect. Hence my opinion on booking a scan. I didn't want to get into it last night.. Jem ignore all of us and do what you feel is best anyway. Xx

 

[sarah1986]

This is the only reason why I asked about the perfect prep machine

https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/30915...ed-with-mould-and-claim-theyve-made-kids-ill/

I guess if you clean it properly these things wont happen.

I'm definately going to give breastfeeding ago thou, want the best for our baby, but if it doesnt happen then I will look into one of these. xx

 

[Shanivy]

I think im first for gender scan? Monday eeek! Not long at all!! Xx

Wow and I'm only just having my dating scan boooooo lol.

Hope it goes well xx

Aw no lol sorry Sarah! It will start to fly in after. Hopefully they give you your date straight away for your next one. Can't wait to see the little pic xx

 

[Shanivy]

This is the only reason why I asked about the perfect prep machine

https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/30915...ed-with-mould-and-claim-theyve-made-kids-ill/

I guess if you clean it properly these things wont happen.

I'm definately going to give breastfeeding ago thou, want the best for our baby, but if it doesnt happen then I will look into one of these. xx

I read about that after you mentioned it too. Wtf? I'm super paranoid so I'm not sure if id go for one now after reading about it, if we ended up on formula now. A lot of people said they'd never had any bother with it though? Xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Hubby really didn't wanna know the gender with dd, but he said after everything I went through (mcs, all super painful) he said I can do whatever I want lol. Then he said he was so glad we found out cos there's barely any gender neutral clothing and we could pain her room and get wardrobes and stuff. That's why he doesn't care this time round, we was gonna wait to the 20w scan to save money but I'm having private for my bday

Tried getting in the Drs this morning but nothing for tonight I cant walk there cos I'll pass out in the street, so hubby was gonna take me after work but can't. Ugh.
DD cough is much worse, her eyes are all puffy to, but she seems better in herself sat there babling away aha