I'm sorry I know you think you've explored all avenues but I must again express how much you should NOT do controlled crying. I know I've said all this before to you, but it's not just a case of 'some people are against it' but the evidence that controlled crying damages brain development is overwhelming. Please do not make this your nightly routine.
I'm not just someone saying I don't agree with it, I've actually done postgraduate research projects on it, and there are colleagues I can put you in touch with who have PhDs in this area, one of whom has studied it for the last 23 years. Please please please discontinue this new routine straight away!! I know each to their own and all that but you were against it for a reason, please don't give in xx
wss ^^ Your lo will sleep through in their own time! Surely sleepless nights are better than risking the increased chance of behavioural and attachment difficulties for the rest of their life! Very few 2 year olds dont sleep through the night...
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My 2 year old doesn't sleep through the night.
Didn't you lo just turn 1? So how do you know very few 2 year old dont sleep through the night?
I thought this was a support forum? I know some threads are highly emotive but telling someone they should and should not in such a forceful way I don't feel is very helpful, maybe there would be a better way to word things? We all have different views on parenting but that doesn't mean that I have the right to tell someone else how to bring up their children.
You have to do what you feel is right as a parent and if you feel that you are physically and mentally exhausted because of getting no sleep then controlled crying for a few nights will be better in the long run than the alternative x as long as the baby is safe and you recognise when that cry goes beyond controlled crying then I say go for it x I have three children and probably do a lot of things other mums don't agree with, you are always going to get people who don't agree with you no matter what you do, as long as you know in your heart that what you are doing is in the best interest of your children, then you don't need to justify that to anyone x
I thought this was a support forum? I know some threads are highly emotive but telling someone they should and should not in such a forceful way I don't feel is very helpful, maybe there would be a better way to word things? We all have different views on parenting but that doesn't mean that I have the right to tell someone else how to bring up their children.
You have to do what you feel is right as a parent and if you feel that you are physically and mentally exhausted because of getting no sleep then controlled crying for a few nights will be better in the long run than the alternative x as long as the baby is safe and you recognise when that cry goes beyond controlled crying then I say go for it x I have three children and probably do a lot of things other mums don't agree with, you are always going to get people who don't agree with you no matter what you do, as long as you know in your heart that what you are doing is in the best interest of your children, then you don't need to justify that to anyone x
We all have different views on parenting but that doesn't mean that I have the right to tell someone else how to bring up their children.
Leesey - these studies. Either your own or others. Are they based on long periods of crying? Ie more than 5-10mins?
I am just interested as we now leave Freya for a minute or 2 before we go to her. Just to see if she will sort herself out. we can usually tell by the type of cry if she really needs us or not
I am not sure what the definition of controlled crying is. If its leaving baby to cry for 30mins or so then I would not be surprised of long term mental damage x
Well done!! Hopefully tonight will be easier!
We did cc when my eldest was 18 months and being a right pest and it just took one night/ 20 mins. Best thing ever!! Actually less crying than carrying her round/rocking her/ settling her
And my parents did it on me, when after a year I would still only sleep in my mums arms, day and night. I only wish they did it sooner and I have no 'difficulties' whatsoever.