mrs v
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Hi ladies
I hadn't replied as Im no expert on CC I just have my own views and experience. However I have listed a couple of my understandings below and I hope that Leesey will be able to come and provide some more information and indeed tell me if any of the below isn't correct!
- I understand that if a child is crying in a car / in your arms etc this isn't considered controlled crying as you are there with them and can offer support and comfort.
- CC is where a baby is left alone to cry with no comfort for increasing periods until they fall asleep.
- you don't need to necessarily pick the baby up to offer comfort when they cry, my LO wasn't always a fan of being taken out of her cot and preferred me to pat and shoosh her while she lay in the cot.
- Even advocates of CC don't recommend it for babies under 6 months and many are now saying 1 year
- One of my personal concerns is the fact that it's not a one off fix and for many parents they need to repeat the practice when a baby goes through a leap or sleep regression.
As many of the posts have said this is a very emotive subject and I find people tend to feel very strongly either way but I do echo the concerns of Leesey and from a personal experience my little girl learnt to self settle in her own time without any form on sleep training (not to say it was easy!) and I do believe that all babies can do this some just take longer than others.
I totally see what you are saying, but don't we as parents 'teach' our children? I am very lucky as lo was left for literally half hour and I'm not saying I would have continued with the technique if he would have cried for hours, but clearly it has worked for us. Again I am in no way advocating cc, however in my case little intervention has worked.
I think people are really interested to see the evidence so that they can make the decision themselves, I.e. types of families technique, I wonder about levels of deprivation, age of children, how many.
Appreciate your thoughts on the subject, as always its great to hear different opinions x