Ok I will tell. What's been bothering me for a few weeks, but last few days has made me emotional
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This is my first pregnancy, I'm 33. I chose to marry someone at 25 knowing he had had the snip, that was fine. We split 2 yrs ago & are now divorce but still spk to each other - he's the only person who genuinely seems happy that I'm pregnant by my new partner - how weird.
My mum n sisters don't seem interested in my pregnancy. my younger sis (31) had a baby 9 wks ago and has a 4yr old. Everything revolves around my sis, she's just moved in next door to my mum, my mum does her washing, mums house is full of her stuff etc etc. I moved out in December, and moved n with Oh, now I haven't been able move my belongings I only have a Punto but I'm being moaned at by all 3 sisters and my mum about moving my stuff and have had no offers to help.
When my sis announced her pregnancy everyone bent over backwards to help her, take her hospital, scans etc (she can drive) I've had no offers - I've moved 6 miles away.
She was told not to stretch, or lift anything etc. yet I'm expected hump boxess up n down the stairs and keep being told your not ill just pregnant.
OH doesn't seem interested, I feel I can't get excited about anything or share this new experience with him because he already has a child and so has been there done that. I can't shop for anything because I'm told I can have everything off my sis. OH brought a pram and I didn't get to pick it. OH mum keeps saying it best be a boy as do friends of the family ( I have 4 sister & 4 nieces), but I'm not finding out.
I just look like I've gained all the weight I lost and feel minging and unattractive, as nothing fits, I've not felt the baby move, my midwife has retired so god knows who I've got now.
The nursery (spare room) needs doing, wallpaper to be stripped, and new stuff hung and painted, the house doesn't have any carpets ( we have a huge rug in the living room).
Everyone keeps telling me m baby will be huge and LOng ( m 5ft 8 and OH is 7ft 1)
I'm petrified of how I will be in labour.
And I'm generally feeling useless !!!!!
There it is, everything that's bothering me, sad, silly and childish I know !!!!
If its any help I think most men don't get that excited about baby during the pregnancy part- my OH is just in love with our boy and so focused on him and although me and bubs r important (especially when we had the bleeding- he stepped up then) its not the same and I know he won't get that excited or involved as such until bubs is here! ..... Its hard for u coz its your first and so unknown and u have no one around u to share that 'first time' experience with!...... Could u join a class like aquanatal or yoga or nct and meet some other new mums to be? U could share stuff with them and they will b all excited like u want to be! If money is an issue children's centres often run free mum to b groups!..... As for the body issues I can relate a bit......I had only just lost all my pregnancy weight just before I got pregnant again and its so hard that now the weight has piled on and I don't dare get on the scales :-/ U kinda have to go with it and go with what your body needs- in the end you will b able to lose it again hun- u have done it once- u CAN do it again!
