--x--December 2017 Snowflakes Thread--x--

[1sttimer]

Hey ladies! Sorry I've been quiet, I've been relocating office with my work (not ideal when supposedly 'taking it easy') so been offline for a couple of days unpacking boxes etc!

Sooooo glad to hear good news from you JoeyPops... this is music to my eyes! I knew your little bean was just having a spurt and kicking out some unwanted bits and pieces!

Lovely scan pic too leah! How reassuring too. I'm thinking about paying for a 16 week private scan as 20 weeks is sooo long to wait after 12 weeks.

Welcome to the forum Claire - Lulu and Leah are right. You'll get plenty of support on here as family/friends just don't get it I am totally with you on that one. I almost fell out with my sister this weekend over her dismissive attitude and she went through 7 years of IVF!!! Go figure!?

GF, have a fab holiday lovely...im not jealous at all sat freezing my arse off in an office full of boxes haha!

Had my 12 week scan, pic was lovely, so we've told all our friends and family now. It's really nice hearing the responses, everyone has been so sweet and excited for us it was lovely so feeling like I can relax and enjoy it a bit more now and hubby has def come round to that idea too! Hematoma still there...and now a little bit bigger so I'm spotting constantly but just decided to ignore it now. The sonographer didn't seem bothered by it so now I've hit 12 weeks it's time to just let it be I think! (She says until the next scare!)

Anyway, so glad to catch up on all this positivity. Glad the move went well Emma, totally with you on the progesterone front. I'm weaning off it as we speak. 13 weeks today and going from 2 every other day to 1 every other day from this week.

 

[Mel32]

Ive just been giving everything away after my current baby haha but im not worried. Its so easy to go and buy bundles of fb and packs of vests and babygrows, and i love dressing them in white anyway so i dont think ill spend much. I kept what was supposed to be a small selection of cute clothes but its actually quite big! But not bought a thing, defo want my scan first.

A couple of things that bugged me last time i can change like... Our baby monitor is more of a security camera so id like a decent sound one which doesnt rely on an app on my phone being on!

Whats everyone been buying?

Desperately don't want to go the double buggy route, so think ill use a carrier and buggy or something like that. I remember a lot of tiredness and back ache after baby number 1 from carrier at first but think that was just in the early recovery time.

Also Fiiiinally have booking in tomorrow!!! And then 2 weeks till my first scan.

 

[Mel32]

Sorry cross post 1st timer i think. Hope you didn't work too hard relocating. Have you had a private scan before? Keep thinking i want one but then wouldnt tell people till 12 weeks anyway so i feel like its a waste of money i cant really spare.

 

[MrsS15]

Hi ladies,

Need to sit and have a read through properly to catch up with you all. Not having a good couple of days, got another weeks sick line from the GP. I was hoping to go back to work this week but I can barely get myself dressed let alone do a night shift I'm trying to sip a cup a soup to get some fluids in!

Glad all these scans are happening and everyone is starting to feel better as we head towards tri2. Can't wait till we're all there xxx

 

[Lulu90]

Mel - I literally haven't kept anything from Luca. He's not long stopped using his highchair so I've stored that away and his pram now he's in a stroller but that's it. I'm definitely not getting a double buggy! Tried him with the buggy board and I refuse to buy one they're awful. He loved it but you have to walk with legs apart and I refuse!

I've literally bought so many white babygrows, vests and hats, muslins, swaddle sleeping bags, bath support, nappies, gro egg, blankets, a few bottles (planning to breast feed) and a bouncer xx

 

[MrsS15]

I bought a £3 baby vest saying I love mummy and daddy and was really proud of myself you've got loads karleigh xx

 

[Lulu90]

I know lovely, I have a problem.

I've already picked out the car seat and bed side crib too, but waiting until nearer 30 weeks to get those xx

 

[MrsS15]

My scan is a week on wednesday then we're definitely going to start picking bits and pieces up gradually so it isn't one big expense! I can't wait to start getting everything prepared for baby. I'm hoping by then I'll feel so much better to be able to enjoy it xx

 

[Mumbear]

I've bought a big brother t shirt for when we announce but haven't bought anything babywise and probably won't until we decide if we're finding out the gender, I dreamt it was a boy last night but they took him out check it was a boy decided he was too early and put him back - needless to say I did not sleep well last night.

I'm going back to work tomorrow, I'm not 100% but it's getting better everyday and I'm hungry all the time. I'm still battling with the do I quit do I stay conundrum - my end date would be mid July if I left but mat leave would start October burn I'm not sure I can stand to be there during that time although it's not long it's the busiest time

2 weeks today until my scan, I'll be about 12w 5 days buy then

 

[claireyt]

First day back at work today and I feel dreadful. After a week off my clothes are uncomfortable and my desk chair was the worst thing I have ever sat on!! People who I hadn't told also started to pick up on my pregnancy as a bump is appearing! Am going to spend the evening wrapped up on the sofa in my massive pregnancy pillow!!

 

[Joeypops]

Glad you are feeling a bit better Mumbear, I hope work goes well for you tomorrow. That's crap you are feeling rubbish still MrsS, you are having a really tough time, really hoping it improves for you soon. Are you going to treat yourself to some maternity clothes Claire? Sounds like you need them!

After saying I was feeling better yesterday, it hit me again last night and today has not been a good day. Luckily I was really quiet at work so was able to spend most of the day at home.

This is our first baby so we need to buy everything and don't know where to start. We have quite a lot of work to do on the house beforehand so need to focus on that before we go crazy!

Does anyone else live in Scotland? The baby boxes look great, I'll definitely be registering for mine!

 

[claireyt]

Glad you are feeling a bit better Mumbear, I hope work goes well for you tomorrow. That's crap you are feeling rubbish still MrsS, you are having a really tough time, really hoping it improves for you soon. Are you going to treat yourself to some maternity clothes Claire? Sounds like you need them!

After saying I was feeling better yesterday, it hit me again last night and today has not been a good day. Luckily I was really quiet at work so was able to spend most of the day at home.

This is our first baby so we need to buy everything and don't know where to start. We have quite a lot of work to do on the house beforehand so need to focus on that before we go crazy!

Does anyone else live in Scotland? The baby boxes look great, I'll definitely be registering for mine!

Sorry to hear you haven't had a great day, everything seems so overwhelming at the moment. I can relate to that it's our first baby too and I ended up in tears in Mothercare because I just struggled to comprehend everything we need to get!

Trying to avoid 'official' maternity clothes at the moment went to Asda on my way home and got some tops a couple of sizes bigger!

 

[Mel32]

Great minds think alike mumbear, still looking for a nice but small enough big brother t-shirt for our messages to family! Unless i come up with another idea!

Sorry so many of you feeling ill. I hate even my bit of nausea. Although it should seem minor the weight gain is getting me down because i know I'll get weighed tomorrow and it's all food, cant be baby! I think someone will guess before we tell people as this belly isn't really like me!!

And for first timers... Dont be overwhelmed, all the stuff comes together, the way i thought about it is you are never usually too far from a supermarket that sells almost anything you could need and some are open 24\7 too! And often people buy so so many gifts, i didnt want to presume but i chose not to overdo it and if we didnt get many gifts just buy what we need. There wasnt a week went by for 2 months after his birth that we didnt get 2 or more gifts trickling in its so nice how generous people are!

I'm in scotland, didnt know you had to register for a box so thanks for letting me know! They look so good and clothes i think fairly neutral so not necessarily screaming 'this was in the freebie box'. Its a nice idea, some people must really really need it too.

 

[Joeypops]

That's a good way of thinking about things Mel, a supermarket is never far away! Once we've had the 12 week scan we will start making a list. I think your midwife should keep you right with the baby boxes but I read the other day that you can register for one with your midwife from sometime in June. They are rolling them out from august so we will have loads of time.

My expanding belly is getting me down a bit too, I feel huge already. I've bought some baggy tops which cover things a bit and make me feel a bit more comfortable. I bet your weight gain is way more noticeable to you than anyone else, so try not to focus on it too much. You'll have a lovely bump to be proud of in no time!

Apologies for the rant, but we have told both sets of parents so the mum's are asking how I am quite a lot and whenever I say crap they always say good. My hubbie is slightly more sympathetic but has said the same a few times and my midwife also said she was pleased I feel rubbish. I know it's a good sign and I'd obviously take it over miscarrying any day, but is it wrong to want a little bit of sympathy?!

 

[CLL94]

Hi ladies I've started a tri 2 thread could you all let me know your due date so I can add them to the new thread I'll look on the front page too but didn't know if any had changed since this thread started xxx

 

[Mel32]

Thanks joey though my husband did say i look noticeably meatier :wall2. However he said i suit it Haha. Y midwife wanted me to remind her of the weight she had just taken and i told her totally wrong just realised when looking at a bmi chart i told her im nearly a stone heavier than i am 😂 because of working in kg and just relaying the wrong number to her. I want to correct it but im sure ill get to that weight soon enough...haha. Though maybe it should be right for consultant led stuff.

I think you deserve sympathy joey... Thats a bit rubbish of everyone .

Cll94 thanks, could you pop me in for 29th dec? Thanks xx

 

[Joeypops]

I know everyone means well when they say it, they are trying to reassure me so I shouldn't moan!

Noticeably meatier?! They sure know the right words to say! I get confused with my weight in kg too, never measure it that way myself. It's worth changing it with your midwife though as they will be wanting to keep track of your gain unfortunately!

Thanks for starting the 2nd tri thread, things are getting exciting now! I'll join once I've had my scan as my last one got me confused with my due date.

 

[JoeyClare]

Cll94- I'm 19th December unless it changes when I have my scan on Friday. 3 days to go!

 

[MrsS15]

Hi ladies,

Thanks for starting the tri2 thread, I'm not sure of due date yet as it's changed a few times. Got my 12 week scan a week today so will update when I've had that!

I've been told my grampa doesn't have long left. He's been in hospital a couple of weeks but he's been deteriorating rather than getting better. I'm absolutely heartbroken, he's like a dad to me we're so close. I got told yesterday while at my husbands uncles funeral. I'm still being so sick and struggling to eat each day, feel like I'm really struggling now with the upset of this. It's not helping to give me any appetite anyway! Sorry for the doom and gloom ladies. I've waited so long for this pregnancy and it's just been such a bad start

I need to read back and catch up with you all properly xx

 

[Joeypops]

Big hugs for you Leah, it's never easy losing someone close but will be extra difficult just now with you already going through a tough time. Be kind to yourself x