--x--December 2017 Snowflakes Thread--x--

[MrsS15]

Yeah I think it does need to be done before then so maybe query with your midwife? You should be fine though as it would have been picked up in your first pregnancy if it was an issue!

We won't be finding out the sex as hubby is so against it. I'm happy for a surprise or to find out so I'm just going with hubby! We had a surprise the first time and it was amazing. Neither of us have a preference though which I like, our son says he'd like a sister but I think he's thinking she'll annoy him less than a brother think he's in for a rude awakening haha! Every family member (especially in laws) are telling me how much they want a girl. I'm feeling quite a lot of pressure from them now and I hate that when hubby and I aren't fussed! Xx

 

[Mel32]

I totally admire you for not finding out!! In theory id love the surprise but dno if i could cope not knowing ... either way my husband wants to know because he thinks its more practical so i don't have a choice.

Thats so funny your son wants a sister specifically, i imagine he'll get a little shock to the system whichever way it goes haha!

Thats annoying having pressure from other people, ive only told one person so far apart from husband and baby. Keeping it quiet, actually tempted to see how long it takes for someone to get the guts to ask if im pregnant due to weight gain, so cruel! I was terrified to tell people last time. Just let family spread it, i was too scared to phone and tell family even... Cant explain why, i dont know, just nervous so i text most of them and freaked out waiting for Responses��

 

[MrsS15]

I remember at times it was really difficult and frustrating not knowing but I'll hold onto how amazing the surprise was when he came out. Hopefully that'll keep me going! I totally understand why people find out. It's so much more practical!

I actually think my boy is scared of sharing his mummy, he's the biggest mummies boy out. My hubby keeps saying if we have a girl then he'll get a daddies girl and Lu seems quite happy with this

Unfortunately most close family knew early with this one because it was ivf and after a couple of years of trying unsuccessfully they knew something was wrong. I'm quite glad we told them as it's given me extra support. I had 2 early losses and it was so hard to tell family I was pregnant and lost it so we opted to be open this time. Thankfully it all seems to be going well though! We'll do a social media announcement later in the pregnancy for the rest of the world I like your idea of letting people guess haha. I think I'm going to be so much bigger this time!! Xx

 

[Joeypops]

After a stressful couple of days, we had our scan this morning and everything is perfect! They have put me forward 5 days to 11+2 so maybe little bean had just been having a growth spurt. So relieved right now. Not long at all to wait until the next scan either, will be interesting to see what my due date turns out to be then.

It's been quiet again here, hopefully that means you are all doing well x

 

[claireyt]

Hi all,

I am new to all of this but have been searching the internet high and low for support and a reliable forum! I am now 13w6 pregnant and due on 1st December. I had a scan last week and saw our beautiful baby. However, I went through a miscarriage in December I lost at 10w, this pregnancy was a shock having needed 2 years of treatment to conceive our first. I am finding it so hard to relax, and enjoy my pregnancy I feel like I am waiting for something to happen. I'm getting scared of telling people and don't want to look at buying things. All I want to do is chill and have confidence that things might be ok.

 

[Lulu90]

Hi Claireyt, congratulations, you're not too far ahead of me, I'm 12+4 and feeling the exact same as you. I've been experiencing some bleeding and have had multiple scans and baby is absolutely perfect but it doesn't stop you worrying does it. I know it's easy for me to say this but just chip away at that wall and try to start enjoying your pregnancy, it's so beautiful and you won't want to look back and think oh well there wasn't 1 day where I was fully happy! Being on here is a great support. You can talk about your concern and your anxiety and we all try and give the best advice we can. You're a strong mama and although it may not feel like it, time really does fly. You're in your 2nd trimester now, that's a milestone xx

 

[MrsS15]

So pleased for you joey, you must feel a million times better. Won't be long till your 12 week either and you'll get extra reassurance! I think we have some naughty December babies, I don't think many of us have had it straightforward so far!

Hi Claire and welcome to PF! Congratulations on your little one. I really know how you feel, I had 2 early miscarriages and needed ivf for this little one. I spent the early weeks crying quite a lot, I was terrified every day I'd lose it, every cramp gave me a melt down. I'm 10 weeks now and everything seems to be going great, I'm still very anxious but I've had severe sickness which although awful, has kept me reassured to a point. Lulu is absolutely right though, this is so precious and we don't want to look back on it thinking we didn't enjoy it. You're at such a milestone now, try and believe this baby will be in your arms by the end of the year xxx

 

[Lulu90]

Had another small bleed this morning. Went straight to EPU, they did a scan straight away, baby was kicking away but in a very awkward position. Like, the top of its head was facing my stomach and the legs to my back. Saw the heartbeat though. They put it down to a hormonal bleed and it's nothing to worry about. I'm to relax today apparently, fat chance of that when I have a hyper toddler xx

 

[Mumbear]

So happy for you joey, do you know when your 12 week scan is? Welcome Claire, this is a great place for support and I think you might be the first in second tri - exciting!!!

*whispers* I don't want to jinx anything guys but I've not really felt bad today! Few bouts of nausea throughout the day so far but I've eaten and it's gone which is a first. Slightly worried that it's going but I'm trying to be positive and I'm sure 9/10weeks the placenta starts taking on more or have I made that up?

Actually the only time I felt really bad is when I had my blood taken - bonus of needing so many vials is it takes them a long time to write on them all which is good because I went very sick and dizzy (not unusual when I'm pregnant)

Hope you're all enjoying the sun!!!

 

[MrsS15]

Gosh karleigh that must be so stressful. Impossible to relax too! I'm glad they scanned you straight away, sounds like they're looking after you. Fingers crossed that's the last time you have any problems! Xx

 

[MrsS15]

So glad for you Nicki, I so hope this is you turning a big corner and you can start to enjoy pregnancy. I'm getting a few hours here and there when I feel like I can slightly function but still vomiting every day with pretty constant nausea. A few people have said their symptoms eased at 10 weeks because of the placenta so that's sounding positive for you! Glad you got your bloods done too, another thing to tick off xx

 

[claireyt]

Thank you so much for your kind words, hearing those reassuring words does make me feel better. My family are very supportive but sometimes I don't think they get it!

Fingers crossed for everyone, sorry to hear about people suffering bleeds and the anxiety related to this.

As for being in the second trimester that is confusing me as much as anything one book says it's over 12 weeks another says 14! No wonder we don't know if we're coming or going!!

 

[Joeypops]

Welcome Claire! You are in good company here, I think most of us have suffered a loss and/or complications. My first miscarriage was in Dec too (also discovered at 10 weeks) so I understand your anxiety. Someone posted this on another thread which has helped me a bit, hopefully it will you too https://datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer.php Have you considered a Doppler so you can listen to the heartbeat at home? I'm thinking about getting one although I worry it might make me worse if I can't find it immediately!

My next scan is on the 12th but I'm feeling loads better after this morning. They said the cramps are totally normal and not to worry about them but to call straight back if there is any more bleeding.

Sorry to hear you had another scare Karleigh, glad you got scanned quickly and all is well. Also pleased people seem to be starting to feel better. Bizarrely my nausea has got worse since hitting 10 weeks (or maybe later, I'm confused with my dates now) and I'm throwing up daily but hopefully it won't be for much longer

 

[claireyt]

Joeypops - I really hope things continue to improve for you and that you have positive news on the 12th.

I have considered a Doppler but like you I think I would panic every time I couldn't find it. I was also reading an article on the Tommys website which says they're not recommended as they cause unnecessary anxiety. Will give it a think and maybe mention it to the midwife at the next appointment.

 

[MrsS15]

My mum, sister, mil and sil have all had losses and still at times I didn't find them very understanding but I know they were trying. Speaking to the girls on here makes such a difference. At the beginning when I was a nervous wreck even my husband couldn't fully understand why I was so on edge, despite us losing two together. It's so hard to really find people who get where you're coming from. Stick with us Claire and we'll get through this together!

Joey, really crap you've not long started with the sickness but hopefully that means it'll be short lived. And this little baby behaves from now on!

I think most midwives don't recommend a Doppler as they cause so much unnecessary stress. I think to have one you need to be very open minded and accept you might not always find it this early on and reign in any panic. One of the lovely girls on here is posting her Doppler to me and while I'd love to find a heartbeat, I'm aware I might not and will take it with a pinch of salt! Xx

 

[MrsS15]

We paid for a wee extra scan tonight just to help settle my anxieties. It was amazing, the difference from 8 weeks to 10 is amazing. It was a proper little baby, heart beating away, moving its arms and stretching out its legs. We were just amazed, I feel so happy right now. She's dated me at 10+1 (DD 27th of December) don't know if it's change at 12 week scan though! Xx

 

[Joeypops]

Aww congratulations, it's such a magical moment! Did you get a picture​?

 

[JoeyClare]

Leah, glad the sickness is occasionally easing up and that your scan went well! Last time I saw mine, it was a blob with a flicker, so looking forward to seeing he/she look like a little baby!

Karleigh, lovely scan! Sorry baby is giving you a bit of a fright with the bleeding. It's good that your epu seem to be quite good with checking things out.

Welcome to the forum Claire!

Joeypops, glad that your scan went well and the bleeding and cramps were just baby making space.

I've just returned from some time in the Lakes with my family. My grandparents know about baby now. Ideally I would like to have waited till 12 week scan, but I'm so obviously pregnant and the next time I see them I'll be 19-20 weeks! So my friend also knows as we're going to his wedding in Sept and I'm also going to a Steps concert with him (at the start of December!!) and my cousin. Hubby's family still don't know. 8 days till my scan. 11+2 today. I'm feeling so nervous. I've had no bleeding/pain that's not normal stretching since 6 weeks and saw the heartbeat at 7, but still find myself worrying!

 

[MrsS15]

Yeah got a disc with 5 pics. She showed us in 4d too which was amazing!

I feel like quite a lot of people know now but I'm starting to relax about it, I'm not feeling as nervous! I'm glad you haven't had any more bleeding or issues joeyclare, hopefully you'll start to feel a bit more relaxed soon. We're all so close to 12 weeks so hopefully we'll feel all round better once we enter tri2! Hope you enjoyed the lakes and some time away xx

 

[Mumbear]

Awww we are due date buddies, I'm the 27th too at the moment. I jinxed it about my sickness felt pretty bad this evening but still not as bad as it has been so I'm still hoping it's easing off.

Joey did you have a nice break? I've never been to the lakes before but always wanted go.

We found out today that hubs mother has told people (family) we're pregnant again so I'm flipping fuming - for a start not her news to share we wanted to tell them, now I feel guilty we didn't tell them and for god sake I've had 4 miscarriages over the years just because we had a successful pregnancy last time doesn't mean this one will be and we've not seen the baby since 6 week.