The december mummies club!

[positivity :)]

Thanks g78lett0

Hey everyone, had my 16 week midwife appointment today even though I am 17 weeks!
Blood pressure is fine, weight is 8 stone, I've put some on!
Urine sample was clear, uterus position is perfect and baby's heartbeat is strong

I had a blood test done also (AGAIN!) for downs syndrome. I asked about my other blood test results as I haven't had them yet from the blood test 2-3 weeks ago!! She said I will get the results in the post but if there was a problem they would have notified the midwives of it which they haven't so I think all is well with that!

Got my next midwife appointment at 25 weeks and then every 3 weeks after that.

Bought some baby clothes and toiletries with my OH after the appointment, which was lovely Brilliant day!
xxx

glad it went well hunxx

 

[pinkyprincess]

I'm glad you've said that pos as that bothered me! It's such a hard choice to make to have the test let alone deciding what do if god forbid the results were bad!

 

[positivity :)]

i understand why people would not want the test, but i also think its an entirely personal choice, im sure a choice which is never made easily, it does carry risks, who would want to go into that without thinking it through?

its stressful, scary and painful, feeling guilt (although i dont think the comment above directly insinuates there should be) really doesn't help at all.

xxx

 

[pinkyprincess]

Agreed!

 

[Dee83]

i understand why people would not want the test, but i also think its an entirely personal choice, im sure a choice which is never made easily, it does carry risks, who would want to go into that without thinking it through?

its stressful, scary and painful, feeling guilt (although i dont think the comment above directly insinuates there should be) really doesn't help at all.

xxx

Hear Hear. xxx

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Girls, I think what she meant was me not being bothered if my child has downs syndrome or not as I would just continue with the pregnancy and not bother with any more tests if I was told I am at risk.

I think she meant that because once people are told they are at risk, they tend to debate whether or not to end the pregnancy. Where as my opinion and belief is: what will be will be, I'm happy with whatever God decided for us. xxx

 

[positivity :)]

hi tiff

thing is, either way it is a personal choice. even if she did mean u saying you would choose to go ahead with the pregnancy anyway.

im prob being sensitive as i had the test today and it carries an element of guilt with it. xxxx

 

[pinkyprincess]

I (personally) would've kept it as my nanny worked with young adults with downs but due to our circumstances we decided it would be better on the child if we didn't as we wouldn't be able to care for it in a way it would need to be at the moment. Luckily tho we never had to physically make that choice as he was ok but getting that far was hard enough. I know 'terminating' may be easy to say but it's not that easy to go through and can be emotionally scarring. It's not just about a simple yes and no answer!

 

[Dee83]

I totally understand and appreciate your view. It does depend on peoples personal circumstances aswell as their opinions. I can only talk about myself here but for me having Multiple Sclerosis, which can be a very disabling disease, i would not be able to cope with having a child with special needs. If God hadn't so kindly blessed me with such a cruel disease then i would feel very different about being able to cope with a child with Downs. I think that people just need to be more open to other peoples views as they're not always as clear cut as you think. xxx

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Of course it's personal choice, but I'm pretty sure that's what she meant! No need to get upset as I don't think she intended for that to happen. xxx

 

[domestichuman]

So I just got back from a two week holiday to visit the UK which was absolutely lovely, and we have now submitted my official visa application to be a permanent resident in the UK! (For those who didn't know, I am Canadian but currently living in America with my English husband!). My OH starts his new job in England on the 1st August and I really hope we hear back by then. I am so nervous! I just want to get over there and transfer my ante-natal care so I can feel less stressed about everything. So please send me some good "immigration" vibes that they process our paperwork quickly and don't reject me! I hope he doesn't have to go over first without me, that would be horrible

 

[pinkyprincess]

I think you need to remember tiff that not everyone has happy easy pregnancies!

 

[pinkyprincess]

Domestic my south African friends (both married neither british) are both citizens! Think they had to pass a test tho! Good luck!

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Nobody has an easy and happy pregnancy 24/7.

 

[MrsK07]

I'm glad you've said that pos as that bothered me! It's such a hard choice to make to have the test let alone deciding what do if god forbid the results were bad!

Hi ladies, I wondered if you guys know that the triple test (blood test usually carried out at 16 weeks) actually shows the risk of other syndromes too, not just Down's syndrome? Edwards syndrome and Patau's. Both of those syndromes are not compatible with life. It really really saddens me that you all seem to be concentrating on the results for Down's syndrome - a syndrome which is entirely compatible with life and yet seems to have this old-age image of being something to be frightened of?

I am mum to a 1 year old daughter who has Down's syndrome. I would urge you to please be in possession of all the facts before you make decisions that you might later regret. I am fully in support of freedom of choice for a mother and family, but I hope you might please have a bit of a look in to a more "modern" life that our kids now have. Look up "future of down's" on a search engine - you will find a site which might help to dispell some of the old myths. If you have any questions, anything at all that you would like to know then please, please get in touch.

Congrats on all the pregnacies - I am currently ttc #3 and it's just not going to plan!!

 

[pinkyprincess]

Mrs k I also said that I would want to keep the baby! Unfortunately life wouldn't have allowed for that for me especially as the only support I'd have who lives near me (other than my OH) is disabled! Lucky we haven't been put in that situation! And I shouldn't have to explain that to people!
My little brother has special needs and he is the most gorgeous thing in the world and my mum and my nanny have worked with people with special needs so I am in no way naive to the caring that's needed for these children.
I do not understand why having a test (which does test for all chromosomal abnormalities) is so controversial and why it's ok for people to slate women who have made this personal choice to use the wonders of science to help with their pregnancy and plan for the future!

I'm not going to get any further involved in these discussions as they are upsetting and as I know that OH and I have made the right choices for us and our baby and we will continue to do that!

 

[domestichuman]

Well to lighten the mood in our month thread, and perhaps to change to subject, MY VISA GOT APPROVED!!!! I am officially going to be living in the UK as of the end of July. I can't wait, I am a bit drained on being in America at the moment and am dying for a more calming atmosphere to finish off cooking this baby Tonight I am going to celebrate! With a very large ice cream sundae

 

[pinkyprincess]

Well to lighten the mood in our month thread, and perhaps to change to subject, MY VISA GOT APPROVED!!!! I am officially going to be living in the UK as of the end of July. I can't wait, I am a bit drained on being in America at the moment and am dying for a more calming atmosphere to finish off cooking this baby Tonight I am going to celebrate! With a very large ice cream sundae

WOOOOOO! Congratulations!!!

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Pregnancy hormones are just raging and some things people say on this thread will be taken the wrong way by others.

Congratulations on your visa domestic xxx

 

[MamaBee]

Hi MrsMc im team pink