**********November 2015 mummies***********

[Ams1985]

Oh god K that's not what you need at all - when do you think you might hear from the solicitor??

 

[Emerald rose]

I have no idea what the possible outcomes could be right now. I'm in panic mode and i keep crying. Hormones are not helping
social service may have to be involved if the parents arn't here for the birth but as for everything else i have no idea

 

[Ams1985]

I know she said something about you waiting til nearer due date to have the baby (as if that's in your control!) but if it's likely to cause problems that she isn't here surely she will come? Please try not to think about it over the weekend, just relax as best you can and hopefully you'll get some good news soon x

 

[mylullaby]

Try not to panic Emerald - can see why you would, but it won't change the outcome. Seek legal advice and take it from there. Hopefully it won't be as bad as you think xx

 

[theshipscat]

I know it may sound silly bit I believe it will turn out fine because it's such a wonderful thing that you're doing. Hopefully her being a uk citizen will cancel out all the other rubbish. Xx

 

[PurpleCloud]

Oh Emerald, what a nightmare. You're doing such an amazing thing and you shouldn't have to face this stress. I hope the solicitor gets in contact soon so you can get some clarity on the situation. I wish I had something useful to say. We're here anytime you need to vent. Xx

 

[Quinn1979]

Emerald - how r u getting on any progress? Xxx

 

[mylullaby]

Can I just add that I think it's really fucking harsh of the person on your surrogacy group to make you feel bad about suggesting baby might come early. You can't stop a baby from coming early. They come when they want to - otherwise we wouldn't have premature babies would we?!! I think you're absolutely right to state the facts - that you have delivered early in the past, so another early arrival wouldn't be completely unexpected. You can only do your best - as you have been doing - to make sure they're armed with all the facts and offer your advice where it's required. Baby's parents have a responsibility to do everything in their power to be there for the birth (if that's what they want) or miss it if they choose not to act on the information you've given them.

Hope you have some reassurance from the solicitor this week Emerald. X

 

[theshipscat]

Can I just add that I think it's really fucking harsh of the person on your surrogacy group to make you feel bad about suggesting baby might come early. You can't stop a baby from coming early. They come when they want to - otherwise we wouldn't have premature babies would we?!! I think you're absolutely right to state the facts - that you have delivered early in the past, so another early arrival wouldn't be completely unexpected. You can only do your best - as you have been doing - to make sure they're armed with all the facts and offer your advice where it's required. Baby's parents have a responsibility to do everything in their power to be there for the birth (if that's what they want) or miss it if they choose not to act on the information you've given them.

Hope you have some reassurance from the solicitor this week Emerald. X

Well said! Yes!

 

[Emerald rose]

Not been a good weekend hardly slept because of the stress.
Got a skype appointment with the solicitor at 1 today. 10 mins of her time os £150 so hopefully get some answers from her.

Hope everyone is ok

 

[mylullaby]

Good luck for today. Maybe make a list of questions so you don't forget to ask? Hopefully they'll be able to reassure you and you can sleep a bit better from now on. X

 

[PurpleCloud]

How did it go Emerald?

How is everyone? I'm feeling like a ball. I'm only 5ft 2 and everything is swelling so I just feel round! Xx

 

[theshipscat]

I feel like an egg on stilts Ha ha xxxx

 

[Emerald rose]

We found out although the mum to be is a uk citizen not having lived here for 15 years she isnt able to apply for the parental order till they have lived here for 2 years so i will still have parental responsibility till they do. Baby will still live with them but they both have to stay here during that time. If they want to take baby out of the country i will have to do a signed statement saying i give my permission.
Loads of other complicated stuff but atleast we know now and they can start making plans to move here permanatly instead of the 6 months they had planned.

I feel like a beached whale.

 

[MrsS143]

Are they ok about moving here for that long?

 

[Emerald rose]

probably not. But they want a baby more

 

[PurpleCloud]

Glad you got some answers and hope you're feeling better about things. When are you speaking to he parents? I hope the rest of your pregnancy is easier and less stressful. Xx

 

[mylullaby]

It's not ideal but not completely unworkable either assuming they want their baby enough to stay here for 2 years. It's not that long in the grand scheme of things. You might face a few administrative issues in that time but hopefully not too many. And like purple said - really hope your pregnancy is less stressful now you have some answers xx

 

[theshipscat]

Glad you're getting somewhere lovely. Hope you can get some well deserved rest. X

 

[flisstebbs]

Would any November mummies like a Halloween themed maternity top? Its looking like I'll be a September mummy so no chance of me getting to wear it again!

Its a size 12-14 black long sleeved T with a pumpkin jewel transfer over the tummy bit. Good fun for over Halloween with a big bump (my last baby came 3 weeks after Halloween).

PM me if interested, would love someone to get some use out of it, as I only wore it a few times! None of the October mummies are interested! BTW, I'm not looking for money and happy to post it!