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*March 2019 Testing Thread*

Sorry you are feeling so down Char :hug:

Do you know if your friend had been ttc for long? It might be that it took her while and could talk to you about it?

x
 
I am 35 too and also feeling the pressure of time. We have been ttc for 11months but part of me deep down believes the problem is with me.

I was ttc about 5 years ago with an ex with too but with no success.

I have been to the doctors but they were not that interested and pretty dismissive and this has made me reluctant to book more appointments. I had a look online this morning and am considering getting a fertility MOT for me and OH at a clinic, just to see what is going on and go from there.

We have decided we will try until I hit 37 and then be done with it and just enjoy ourselves as we are. As much as it is something I want, I don’t want it to become me and rule my life...self preservasion more than anything.

xx

As you're 35 your GP should be offering to run some tests for you, I think you should push for it rather than having to pay out yourself? x
 
Sorry you are feeling so down Char :hug:

Do you know if your friend had been ttc for long? It might be that it took her while and could talk to you about it?

x
No she didn't tell anyone that she was TTC so a bit like me really. She is suffering really bad with sickness atm so once she is better i am going to meet up with her for lunch and ask her situation properly x
 
No she didn't tell anyone that she was TTC so a bit like me really. She is suffering really bad with sickness atm so once she is better i am going to meet up with her for lunch and ask her situation properly x

Yeah that's quite normal, I didn't tell anyone either. Will be nice for you when you can meet up with her and have a chat.

Try to stay your happy and positive self, I know some days that must be hard, but you are like a little ray of sunshine on here, you always kept me going :) <3 x
 
Yeah that's quite normal, I didn't tell anyone either. Will be nice for you when you can meet up with her and have a chat.

Try to stay your happy and positive self, I know some days that must be hard, but you are like a little ray of sunshine on here, you always kept me going :) <3 x

Agreed. Char you are the most positive person I know <3 You’re allowed off days too of course :)
 
Hi not been in the test threads for about 7 months

We are 3 months away from our 2.5 year ttc anniversary for baby no 1 but to be honest we had Ben trying a bit before that too so it's probably 3 years already and about 30 cycles trying.. Who knows I've lost count. We decided to seek help at the 1 year of properly ttc and over the following 12 months we were tested and diagnosed with unexplained infertility

I won't know many of you now as everyone I knew has pretty much left these threads for obvious reasons.

I have my 1st embryo transfer tmrw from my 1st cycle of Ivf. So can you add me for 23rd March please.

Oh this is going to be the longest 10 days wait of my life Not sure how I will be able to do the test

I am still so sore from egg retrieval 4 days on. I have the fear of having to do all this again.

Sending everyone rainbows and baby dust x

Good luck Alexis, I’m testing that day too so hopefully it’s a lucky one!

Totally with you ladies on the jealousy. My friend told me she was pregnant a couple of months after my miscarriage and I worked out she would have conceived around that time. It was hard to take but I’m delighted for her, she’s had a tough time of it.
 
Yeah that's quite normal, I didn't tell anyone either. Will be nice for you when you can meet up with her and have a chat.

Try to stay your happy and positive self, I know some days that must be hard, but you are like a little ray of sunshine on here, you always kept me going :) <3 x

Agreed. Char you are the most positive person I know <3 You’re allowed off days too of course :)

Arrrrr @EmmaN27 & @SockVortex - Thank you so much, little things like your comments really makes me realise how lucky i am to have all you wonderful ladies <3 xx
 
10dpo took a test this morning and it’s negative. Completely negative, stark white. Feel like I’m out.
 
@WinterWolf - I’d never stop being a supportive friend but i just think the closer the person is to you the harder it is to take the news. I know it will happen for us and it will happen when it’s meant to but I just want it NOW lol x


I totally agree Charlotte and I think you need to be open and honest about your feelings too. My absolute best friend told me she’s pregnant the month after my miscarriage last year. Our first (well her first, my 3rd) pregnancies we had our babies 12 days apart. It has absolutely killed me watching her pregnancy when I lost mine. And every milestone she hits reminds me of one I’ve lost. I agree about being a supportive friend but I think that’s got to work both ways. I felt sick talking about her pregnancy as first, it would literally make me sob (I know that sounds so dramatic) but I spoke about it with her and she understood and we’ve got through it. I think like you said it’s harder because we’re so close and because her dates are so close to mine. I’m strong...you’re strong...we just need to keep going BUT look after you first cause no one else will x
 
I totally agree Charlotte and I think you need to be open and honest about your feelings too. My absolute best friend told me she’s pregnant the month after my miscarriage last year. Our first (well her first, my 3rd) pregnancies we had our babies 12 days apart. It has absolutely killed me watching her pregnancy when I lost mine. And every milestone she hits reminds me of one I’ve lost. I agree about being a supportive friend but I think that’s got to work both ways. I felt sick talking about her pregnancy as first, it would literally make me sob (I know that sounds so dramatic) but I spoke about it with her and she understood and we’ve got through it. I think like you said it’s harder because we’re so close and because her dates are so close to mine. I’m strong...you’re strong...we just need to keep going BUT look after you first cause no one else will x
Very well said Rainbow <3
Hoping you tested too early and you still get your bfp this cycle hun xxx
 
@chattychar1990 i can’t really say anymore than what’s already been said but I completely get it. Every other persons BFP announcement of people I know leads me into a downward spiral and questioning what’s wrong with me and if I’m meant to be a mum or not. As I’ve had 2 MCs and my family and friends know about them I also feel like there’s a level of expectation too... no ones putting pressure on me except me so I know I’m just being stupid. I didn’t realise how hard the TTC journey would be, especially on an emotional level x
 
@chattychar1990 i can’t really say anymore than what’s already been said but I completely get it. Every other persons BFP announcement of people I know leads me into a downward spiral and questioning what’s wrong with me and if I’m meant to be a mum or not. As I’ve had 2 MCs and my family and friends know about them I also feel like there’s a level of expectation too... no ones putting pressure on me except me so I know I’m just being stupid. I didn’t realise how hard the TTC journey would be, especially on an emotional level x
Big hugs to you darling <3
We can get through this together xxx
 
Aww Char, it doesn't feel fair, I know.
When I was pregnant with my daughter, a friend of mine was pregnant with her son, we were due 3 days apart! This time, we were ttc again together, I had a chemical in October and she found out she was pregnant 2 weeks later. I felt so jealous even though I was happy for her, it felt like my body betrayed me. When I got pregnant again in December, we were so happy to be preggers together again. Then with the MMC she was very sad too and cried for my loss but I couldn't care less (at first). I didn't want her crying for me, she still had her baby growing in her belly and mine was decomposing.
I sound harsh but it's the truth.
I can give it a place now and can speak with her again. I think it's a normal reaction to be a bit resentful but at the end of the day, it's not her fault that it didn't work out how you wanted it to.

Your time will come Char, and it will come at the right time. I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason.x
 
Aww Char, it doesn't feel fair, I know.
When I was pregnant with my daughter, a friend of mine was pregnant with her son, we were due 3 days apart! This time, we were ttc again together, I had a chemical in October and she found out she was pregnant 2 weeks later. I felt so jealous even though I was happy for her, it felt like my body betrayed me. When I got pregnant again in December, we were so happy to be preggers together again. Then with the MMC she was very sad too and cried for my loss but I couldn't care less (at first). I didn't want her crying for me, she still had her baby growing in her belly and mine was decomposing.
I sound harsh but it's the truth.
I can give it a place now and can speak with her again. I think it's a normal reaction to be a bit resentful but at the end of the day, it's not her fault that it didn't work out how you wanted it to.

Your time will come Char, and it will come at the right time. I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason.x
Thank you for your kind words Kitana <3 xx
 
Ah yeah still might be to early! Hang on a little longer.
We are really close together I am Friday xx
I’m due Friday too... keep telling myself to wait until then to test but I really just want to know without seeing any BFN tests... x
 
I’m due Friday too... keep telling myself to wait until then to test but I really just want to know without seeing any BFN tests... x

Wait so you know for sure it’s accurate. I’m tired of BFN so I’m waiting! I’m going to try wait as long as the Monday! (As if that’ll happen hahaa)
 

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