June mummies loss thread

[millielaura]

Saw my friends newborn baby last night. He's adorable! I want one sooo bad!
I've had tons of af symptoms today so was really worried my cycles were gonna mess up to every 2 weeks again like what happened last year. But this eve had lots of ewcm so fingers crossed I am gonna ov soon again! I'm so lucky that I haven't had any long drawn out losses where I'm waiting weeks for a neg etc. Our 2 year mark ttc is christmas day. I want another bfp before christmas so bad xxx

 

[russellmuscle]

I was actually really surprised how fast my body bounced back after a MC.

After Jackson I healed quickly but obviously you cant compare a full blown labour to a MC at 6w.

I MC on 15/09/2015 and had already stopped bleeding and had a negative result by the end of September. 8th October I got my coil out and shortly after had my first proper cycle on 11/10/2015.

This will only be my second month trying but Im on my third cycle. So Im not over stressing yet, but ideally, I want a BFP on Xmas day as thats when I can test, providing all appears on schedule, OV etc.

xxxx

 

[BunnyN]

I dont really like testing on a specific day because I get my hopes up too much. I go for ridiculously early testing and so I'm expecting a BFN and like that I break myself in slowly. Or maybe those are just the excuses of a POAS addict, lol.

My bleeding has almost stopped and my hcg is super low already so I think things are going the right direction cycle wise. I think its going to take a bit longer to get my body built up again though. Did bloods Monday and my haemoglobin was only 7.9 :/.

 

[sjenkins1756]

Hi ladies,
Just wanted you to all know I read through your posts and I think of you all the time, don’t know if you remember I said my friend lost her baby and we was pregnant the same time. We talk every day and she’s struggling. Hope you all find happiness in the end xxxxx

 

[BunnyN]

Thanks for looking in on us sjenkins. It is kind of you to think of us.

 

[Eryinera]

That's nice of you. Maybe suggest she joins us on here if she wants to talk with others going through the same thing x

I'm the same as you bunny start early expect the bfn get used to squinting and ease myself into it but then yea you saw the picture I took of my hpts lmao! P.'s. Now got 40 in the post after discovering my old ones were more sensitive than my new ones I'm trying to get the old ones again.... but maybe that's an excuse too lmao.

I'll be testing this month even though there is zero chance as oh hasn't concluded in the right place lol that's how much of an addict I am lmao.

 

[Louloubelle84]

I too am a poas addict. And my insane testing has already started again even though we are just 'seeing how things go' till the new year.

I of course am still peeing on anything I can this month. Even though.i try to keep my obsession from OH.

It's 4 weeks since my erpc next Tuesday and I'm expecting AF around that time. Of course I was secretly hoping to be one of those lucky ladies that concieve the very next month after a mc but it would seem AF is.iminent. got achy lower back and feeling a bit crampy on and off. Plus a million negative hpt..... even tried a few opk too for the hell of it!haha. I'm not even sure if /when I ovulated this month. Even though I say to everyone we are chilling out for the next few months secretly I'm still obsessed with it!!!

Hope we all get a bfp before crimbo!!! X

 

[Eryinera]

Oh I've been a secret stick pee-er fir years and kept it from oh I've just kept a stats in my "womanly" box lol I'm sure he's clueless even if he find's them I doubt he'd know I would use them or what have you lol. Pee sticks anonymous lol.

 

[Louloubelle84]

Lol!! It's true, my oh would not have a clue either!

Desperately wanted a bfp this month and feeling pretty peed off tbh that af is seemingly on her way.

It's interesting that you ladies mention your hormone levels and blood test etc. Not once we're my bloods taken or any hormone levels tested. Not even before mc was confirmed but I had been bleeding and spotting. Where did you all get your bloods done? Did you ask for them to be done? Or were they offered to you? X

 

[russellmuscle]

I got a scan first because in my case I had a coil when I concieved so was at risk for ectopic. Because they couldnt see anything they did bloods which came back as pregnant 5-6 weeks. Another scan was performed and bloods 48h apart to confirm definite mc. I went to my own nurse at like 2w later and asked for bloods to make sure my hcg dropped and she did them no bother. They were negative. So EPU did mine at first then my practice nurse. I wanted to know for mysekf that everything had passed and there were no lingering hormones so no infection risk and I could TTC again.

EPU tend to do bloods if you are before 7w because they usually dont scan before that unless ectopic risk.

xxxx

 

[snowbee]

My last mc I had bloods and scans to confirm at the EPU. I didn't ask I was just told to go there and have them done. This time I've not had them done as I didn't go to the EPU as I knew what was coming and it was over much quicker and less painfully than the last time, I was just told to do pregnancy tests until negative and if they didn't go negative in a certain time to go back for scans and bloods then.

I'm still waiting for af to show, getting on for 9 weeks now Was hoping my body would play ball this time but it appears not. I was really hoping to get a BFP for Christmas but with no AF and no ov in sight it is looking unlikely. I just hope we can get another bfp and that it won't take as long this time.

 

[BunnyN]

I have done most of my care with an independent MW this time around. I dont think she usually suggests bloods being taken. In the begginging she said if bleeding stops within two to 3 weeks its safe to assume you are all good. If it takes longer or you are worried about something to get a scan to check the MC is complete. She just suggested bloods because I had a rather traumatic time physically and she wanted to check things were going the right direction. I just paid to do it at a small private lab which is quite easy to do here in Portugal but I think its a bit different in UK. It only cost me 22 euros. I'm thinking maybe it would actually save me money and eyesight from squinting at FRERs to get a betta test every month instead, lol.

I'm not in too much of a hurry for af to show because I'll probably have to wait 3 or 4 months to get my anemia sorted anyway.

 

[Eryinera]

I was under the care of the epu after my first and 2nd mc anyway. And as I lost the baby whilst in hospital anyway they seemed to do bloods and things as part of the course they said if after 3 weeks it was still positive hpt they would do bloods by default but I ended up getting them taken lots more as they needed my blood for other tests as well. I'm surprised they want me back again next week to be honest I went from 33000 to 37 in 3 weeks then 4 days later I was 16 now they want me 8 days after that

 

[Louloubelle84]

So it would seem if you have a natural miscarriage that is when they are more inclined to do bloods? Maybe because I had an erpc they didn't need to check my hormone levels?

I did ask my GP for a blood test to check my hormone levels and thyroid and they came back yesterday as all fine. I always used to have spotting about 5 days before my period was due which I read could be due to some type of hormone imbalance.

Have you ladies had your first period yet since mc?

Snowbee- do you just have to wait for af? No matter how long it takes? Or can they do something to induce ur af?

Xx

 

[snowbee]

This last week I've been taking northisterone to induce a bleed, stopped two days ago so in theory AF should have been here this morning, so why isn't she here damn it! Hoping she will rock up in the next couple of days, as if not they won't let me take the clomid this cycle as scans will fall at Christmas. Then I won't be able to take it Jan either as I'm away

 

[LyndseyB]

Snowbee I hope she turns up today, everything crossed!

I'm still bleeding slightly from mc so no proper period yet, got my bfn a few days ago though and started using OPK's yesterday (also made sure they were a bfn when I did the pg test) to see if I'll ovulate, got a faint line this morning so will do another when I get home and if I'm only spotting today then I'll be DTD tonight!!

Last night I dreamt that pf was a physical place (almost like a hospital) and we were all there taking our tests etc together, no matter how many times I woke up and tried to think of something else, I kept falling back asleep and getting my BFP over and over again I had about 5 good days, came back to work on Monday but had a very emotional day yesterday and it looks like today is going to be the same!

I hope everyone is doing OK and managing to ride this rollercoaster xx

 

[Eryinera]

Sorry your having a tough time snowbee and lyndsey. I've not had a yet either. My opk been neg for a while and I think a hpt would be beg as well but having bloods done on wed so I'm saving my tests lol (just in case I run out like) lmao riding the rollwrcoster OK. I'm just knuckling down and keeping busy. Which isn't hard atm with dons b day all these tests work my b day dentist and yule round the corner. Only 4 more pressies to but and about 15 to wrap woo hoo. Lol

 

[BunnyN]

I'm still bleeding slightly, more like spotting really, so it seem to be almost there. I'm still very anemic and ot very strong but that is just a case of time now.

I'm just trying to come to terms with getting back into some kind of normal daily routine. Between loosing the baby and almost dying we've been going through a different stage of grief, relief worry etc every day. Now that things are finally settling it feels like things are not so much day to day but are going to be week to week and month to month. Its nice to be getting back to some kind of normality but kind of strange too.

 

[BunnyN]

Lyndsey it does feel a bit like your dream, like we have all been trapped in that 'hospital' getting BFPs over and over, lol.

 

[LyndseyB]

Glad you are finding lots to keep you busy Eryinera, I hope you start to get some answers soon after all of these tests!

Yeah Bunny it will likely take you both a while to get back to proper normality, but certainly just take it easy and be kind to yourselves, you have been through a lot but you will come out the other side stronger than you were.

Me and hubby are going to book a couple of nights away in Jan in a nice lodge (further) up north, give ourselves a little stress-free break, I'm going to make sure there is a spa and get pampered (unless I'm magically pg by then..) xx