*July 2018 Mummies*

[Shanivy]

Thanks KHTW & Shan It actually helps a lot to have someone to talk to about this. I don't want to talk about it to my husband too much cuz he will just get really worried and he hates seeing me upset. Just feeling mega low about it all which isn't helped by the fact I can't sleep decently one single night, I'm peeing 101 times per night and can't get comfortable so I'm really overtired and everything seems worse when you're overtired.

Between the ridiculous extreme can't-move sickness until 18 weeks, the never-ending nausea, constant 3 or 4 day long headaches, then all the abdominal pain from the fibroid to the point I could barely sit never mind walk, the millions of colds and coughs, now reduced movement and GD...being told off for not eating enough, not drinking enough...being told baby is showing small in 3 different scans... I feel like a complete ingrate and I am so happy I am capable of being pregnant, and that it happened but I just want her out safely and this nightmare over. I feel like I can't relax until the birth is over and she's safe.

That did kinda make me laugh Shan that you had to pretend you hadn't forgotten, just bringing the schoolbag to the park haha I did have a lightbulb moment there where I was like "ahhh, that's why my dad is on the sofa and not at work" I had wondered what he was doing here hahaha xx

I know how you feel hun. It's a shame some women can have a fabulous pregnancy and others just can't. As someone who did have a fabulous pregnancy with DD and didn't get why everyone wasn't loving pregnancy, I've definitely learned the hard way second time around. Same for sleeping. Right now it's my cough making me cough so much I'm sick. Or I piss myself a little (yay) Otherwise it's my back or hips or just plain uncomfortableness. At least we're in the final stretch now though.

Haha I was mortified. At first I was like why is the lollipop lady not here...okay. Not much kids around...well it's always like that at 8.15...went to cut through the doctors to nursery...why is still it shut OH FUCK. Haha. Must have been loads of cars driving past knowing rightly too. Xx

It's good that you've at least had the experience of a fabulous pregnancy the first time. I do feel happy for anyone who is breezing through it and I wouldn't wish struggles on them but I'd just love a few weeks of peace hahaha

I'm kinda relieved you said that, I've come close to peeing myself a few times lately when I sneeze or cough or wake up in the night with little to no warning I need to pee haha I feel like my body is going through all these weird changes and some of them are making me feel really unattractive.

Sorry if TMI but last night I noticed this tiny little wet dot on my pj top and then realised it was right where my nipple was and then I was like OMG AM I LEAKING. I have never felt so gross to have to go into the bedroom where my husband was with this leaky boob. Also when we have sex I am pretty much thinking 24/7 "please don't do anything weird" to my body haha

Im sorry to laugh but I still find that hilarious, that's totally something I would do and at least Ivy got to play at the park nice and early haha xx

She's already told my neighbours I took her to nursery by accident and then we went to the park cause it was closed. Fking kids lol.

I got through my last pregnancy with no bladder issues. Apparently my pelvic floor isn't what I though it wasn't this time around haha. Ohhh and yes I leaked a lot with Ivy. I wore breast pads before she was oven born This time it's disappeared though. OH finds it totally weird when he sees huge baby movements or feels body Rats. But leaking nipples apparently fascinate him and he has no issue with. Men.

As to your other post. That's exactly how I feel. Like it's the situation making me feel this way. If the rest of my pregnancy was sickness/cold/ illness/cough/chest infection free etc I think I'd perk up by the time I had her. It just feels like months and months of never feeling good that just takes its toll. And then all my plans of spending these last months with Ivy arent happening which makes me feel guilt. And I feel stupid because other people have actual problems and complications with their pregnancies (like you) and here I am moaning over nothing really Xx

 

[Shanivy]

I'd join a FB group, as long as was a secret group. Don't want people knowing I use PF x

Same hun. How are you feeling now btw? Xx

 

[Shanivy]

Sorry you're still feeling rubbish Shan. There's no harm in asking for an induction at 38 I guess? You never know, maybe they'll give you one! And I laughed at you forgetting about May Day and being in the park at 9am. That's very keen, haha! Pre-natal depression exists though so may be worth speaking to someone at your next appointment.

Laura, sorry you're having such a rough time, but as someone said before (my brain is mush) GD is manageable and Google is not your friend at times like this! See what the diabetic team say at your appointment. Sometimes I think midwives and doctor's aren't very sensitive at getting their point across either and they all seem like they're getting on at you. You're doing your best and you've not had the easiest pregnancy so I'd say you're doing as well as you can! Almost three quarters of the way there.

Well I just got back from my first antenatal class. I had a printout with all my appointments, saying the class started at 11:30, welllll nope, it started at 10:30. So why the fuck does the printout say every class at 11:30? "Don't pay attention to the paper thing, your midwife must have written it down elsewhere for you" I was told. Great. And I've seen my midwife once at my first ever appointment, every other appointment here has then been with a different doctor/consultant/obstetrician/nurse/whoever and I've never had the same person twice. So I missed the first hour and apparently classes are two hours long here, and I'm meant to attend them all and can't pick and choose. Who has time to go to 10 antenatal classes that are 2 hours long each??

Re Facebook group, I'd be fine either on here or Facebook.

Thanks hun. I don't really want to be medically induced, I think it's just my mood making me say that. Honestly Mala we must have been at the park for closer to half 8 with th me trying to hide her schoolbag it was ridiculous haha

What a joke about that class! I've never known anyone say "oh the time on this says half 11 but I bet they mean half 10 I'll go early just incase!" why do you have to go to them though? If it helps mine were a load of rubbish and I only went to one xx

 

[KHTW]

I'd join a FB group, as long as was a secret group. Don't want people knowing I use PF x

Yes of course, it would be a privet group - can't imagine otherwise! x

 

[malagueta]

Thanks hun. I don't really want to be medically induced, I think it's just my mood making me say that. Honestly Mala we must have been at the park for closer to half 8 with th me trying to hide her schoolbag it was ridiculous haha

What a joke about that class! I've never known anyone say "oh the time on this says half 11 but I bet they mean half 10 I'll go early just incase!" why do you have to go to them though? If it helps mine were a load of rubbish and I only went to one xx

I have no idea why you can't sign up for certain ones here. Today's one (or the hour I was there) seemed a total waste of time as it was all about stretches that I know about already from having Googled/looked on YouTube.

One thing I've started stressing about is clothes. I cannot find a list anywhere that says what baby clothes you need for a newborn without there being a million and one things that seem not that important. Or one list will say one thing and then another will be like, no that's a load of rubbish.

 

[Shanivy]

I'd join a FB group, as long as was a secret group. Don't want people knowing I use PF x

Yes of course, it would be a privet group - can't imagine otherwise! x

Haha imagine the posts about leaking nipples and how many stitches we had all over a public Facebook group xx

 

[Shanivy]

Thanks hun. I don't really want to be medically induced, I think it's just my mood making me say that. Honestly Mala we must have been at the park for closer to half 8 with th me trying to hide her schoolbag it was ridiculous haha

What a joke about that class! I've never known anyone say "oh the time on this says half 11 but I bet they mean half 10 I'll go early just incase!" why do you have to go to them though? If it helps mine were a load of rubbish and I only went to one xx

I have no idea why you can't sign up for certain ones here. Today's one (or the hour I was there) seemed a total waste of time as it was all about stretches that I know about already from having Googled/looked on YouTube.

One thing I've started stressing about is clothes. I cannot find a list anywhere that says what baby clothes you need for a newborn without there being a million and one things that seem not that important. Or one list will say one thing and then another will be like, no that's a load of rubbish.

I've struggled a little having a summer baby this time compared to my winter baby. But don't stress too much over it. 2nd time here and I still think wtf. All I can do is tell you what I've done

Reallly the basics are just vests, and sleep suits. It's all personal preference. I don't buy much newborn but I like the up to one month size. I've bought short sleeve vests in each size from up to 1 month, up to 3-6 months.

Sleepsuits in each size, again up to 3-6 months. I also bought some rompers and sleeveless vests just incase it is actually hot. A few cardigans. I do have a outfits and clothes but most of them are probably not going to be worn to be honest what actual clothes you buy is really up to you. Socks, which are always a nightmare and fall off anyway. And I bought summer hats which I'm not sure I need but bought anyway. I bought a light coat. Tonnes of bibs and muslins xx

 

[KHTW]

I'd join a FB group, as long as was a secret group. Don't want people knowing I use PF x

Yes of course, it would be a privet group - can't imagine otherwise! x

Haha imagine the posts about leaking nipples and how many stitches we had all over a public Facebook group xx

ahaaahah stop!! I can't think about it

 

[KHTW]

Thanks hun. I don't really want to be medically induced, I think it's just my mood making me say that. Honestly Mala we must have been at the park for closer to half 8 with th me trying to hide her schoolbag it was ridiculous haha

What a joke about that class! I've never known anyone say "oh the time on this says half 11 but I bet they mean half 10 I'll go early just incase!" why do you have to go to them though? If it helps mine were a load of rubbish and I only went to one xx

I have no idea why you can't sign up for certain ones here. Today's one (or the hour I was there) seemed a total waste of time as it was all about stretches that I know about already from having Googled/looked on YouTube.

One thing I've started stressing about is clothes. I cannot find a list anywhere that says what baby clothes you need for a newborn without there being a million and one things that seem not that important. Or one list will say one thing and then another will be like, no that's a load of rubbish.

Mala, no matter which list you go with, you will never get it right! As long as you have the basics you will be fine x

 

[malagueta]

Thanks Shan and KH. I've got loads of muslins already and started buying bibs. I have a 5-pack set of 0-3 months vest things and that's it. Feeling so unprepared haha so thanks for the advice. I think I'll just go for loads of vests and sleepsuits that are sleeveless for the first 3 months as temperatures here can reach 40 degrees in summer (yuck) and get a few with longer sleeves and legs just in case. We got married at the end of September two years ago and even then it was 30 degrees. Some baby clothes can seem overly fussy and in such hot temperatures I can't imagine anything worse than a stiff dress or something. Hadn't thought about cardigans though so thanks!

I'm sitting here laughing about leaking nipples on Facebook too. Haha, not what I want the whole world to know!

 

[KHTW]

Thanks Shan and KH. I've got loads of muslins already and started buying bibs. I have a 5-pack set of 0-3 months vest things and that's it. Feeling so unprepared haha so thanks for the advice. I think I'll just go for loads of vests and sleepsuits that are sleeveless for the first 3 months as temperatures here can reach 40 degrees in summer (yuck) and get a few with longer sleeves and legs just in case. We got married at the end of September two years ago and even then it was 30 degrees. Some baby clothes can seem overly fussy and in such hot temperatures I can't imagine anything worse than a stiff dress or something. Hadn't thought about cardigans though so thanks!

I'm sitting here laughing about leaking nipples on Facebook too. Haha, not what I want the whole world to know!

Oh gosh that hot?!?! In that case definitely go for loads of short sleeves and rompers. And loose clothes so maybe best starting with 0-3 right away x

 

[LuckyLaura]

Just had the hardest shower of my life haha I have no idea even why. It was just horrendously tiring and I was struggling to even stand at one point. I'm now sitting on the floor pretending to get dry haha

Had a major melt down earlier and cried my eyes out in the car outside a shop with my husband and babbled like a mad person and he's on a mission to basically wait on me hand and foot into submission now til I stop turning into a spontaneous fountain haha

I'm not even big or have a massive bump but I'm finding it horrendous to do the most basic things and moving is exhausting haha xx

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[PeanutButter]

I'd join a FB group, as long as was a secret group. Don't want people knowing I use PF x

Same hun. How are you feeling now btw? Xx

Stomach pain has stopped, getting lots of pressure down below still, think he's moving down, ahhh can't believe it's time for them to start doing this!! Also weeing so so so much more so another sign he's going. So excited.

Washed all babies clothes today, they seem so tiny lol. Was gonna do Hosp bag but cba lol.

 

[LuckyLaura]

I'd join a FB group, as long as was a secret group. Don't want people knowing I use PF x

Same hun. How are you feeling now btw? Xx

Stomach pain has stopped, getting lots of pressure down below still, think he's moving down, ahhh can't believe it's time for them to start doing this!! Also weeing so so so much more so another sign he's going. So excited.

Washed all babies clothes today, they seem so tiny lol. Was gonna do Hosp bag but cba lol.

ooh that is exciting if he is moving down! I don't even think I would recognise if my baby was moving down as I am so inexperienced at this whole thing haha

There is still loads of time to throw a hospital bag together but well done on washing all the clothes hehe I haven't washed anything yet but going to start thinking about it soon xx

 

[_GG_]

Hey everyone.

PB, this one is moving down as well and KH, it did it whilst I was in the shower. Most uncomfortable shower of my life. I struggled so much to clean my bits because I couldn't bend properly to reach...so much pressure at my pubic bone. I had to lie down on the floor of the shower just to reach myself for a good wash, then getting up again was fucking hilarious.

Mala, that's some serious heat so I'd agree to go a size up if you can to keep things loose on baby. I've bought a very small selection of clothes for baby, honestly, because in 30 minutes of needing anything, Dan could run out and buy whatever we need.

Laura, vent away. It sounds like you've had an absolutely shit few days so totally deserve to feel fucking sorry for yourself. The GD will be manageable but fucking ignore the crap about not eating/drinking enough. You know you are so trust yourself.

Shan, only weeks left to go now...I have dealt with depression about 15 years ago and got myself through it by seeing psychologist a few times. Never went on meds and never needed anything else. It was a blip in life and was sorted by just talking it out. Try it...nothing to lose.

Re: facebook group, I'm in. If you don't like facebook, you can literally just accept a friend request off the people in this group and be added to a closed group. You actually only need to be "friends" with one person so you can be added to the group, you can then have zero facebook friends, but be in the closed group and post normally in there.

Other option is a whatsapp group but that gets really hard with more than a few people as would be worse than on here for catching up.

 

[LuckyLaura]

Random question; has anyone used a baby carrier? If so which ones?

I am looking at the babybjorn carrier one but it's so expensive that even though it gets amazing reviews Im still struggling to justify the price haha

I am also trying to find a baby monitor with movement sensor and a moses basket stand- full scale research mode here haha xx

 

[KHTW]

Random question; has anyone used a baby carrier? If so which ones?

I am looking at the babybjorn carrier one but it's so expensive that even though it gets amazing reviews Im still struggling to justify the price haha

I am also trying to find a baby monitor with movement sensor and a moses basket stand- full scale research mode here haha xx

Got 2nd hand closecaboo wrap, they get good reviews but will see. Never used one with DD so this will be a new thing for me.
We have an Angelcare video monitor and mat - best thing we ever bought! X

 

[KHTW]

Baby is so active now. Just got a major blow to the bladder... least favourite type of kicks! Can't believe I will be kissing those little legs in a few weeks! x

 

[_GG_]

Sorry for the tmi, but fucks sake this third trimester is annoying. Been sat on the loo with the runs for an hour. Stupidly didn't bring my dressing gown so freezing cold now and don't want to wake Dan up as he has an early morning.
Went to bed feeling fine, just a touch of heartburn. Started to feel a bit off...had some cramping and knew I needed the loo. Pissed off as I've had lower back pain really kick in today and a very early morning so really wanted a good nights sleep. I have so much wind in me it's unreal and feel super bloated but haven't eaten anything out of the norm to cause that or the runs.

Please tell me that the next 6/7 weeks will fly by!

 

[KHTW]

GG, the next 6-7 weeks will fly by xxxx

How are you this morning??