*July 2018 Mummies*

[Shanivy]

Mala oh my goodness 9lb imagine that!. That's so great you get an extra scan hun too Xx

Quite excited. Got a phone call that my pram is coming in next week I can't wait. I actually forgot all about a pram lol. I've not even seen it in the colour I picked, only a sample which is a bit nuts. And got a text this evening about my baby box saying should be delivered in the next few weeks. KHTW have you heard about yours yet?

I feel like I'm starting to finish up the baby prep now

 

[Shepherdess]

Hi all

I hope you're all well!

Jem how are you feeling now? Has what did your oh think of what the midwife said?

Exciting times for you Shanivy getting organised!

My DD was so cute this afternoon. I was putting the covers bk onto my baby car seat and along with husband we started talking about when baby comes and what will happen, DD suddenly looks panicked and shouts "I've got to go.." I asked why and she said "I can't wear this to meet the baby o need to find some different clothes" I shouted after her that she wasn't coming today and then she came back with an outfit and said "I know she's not coming today but this is what I want to wear when I meet her so I better just try it all on to make sure it looks good", melted my heart

Kicks are so high up now, I swear this baby already weighs 12lbs haha she feels huge

 

[Kholl]

I’m thread crashing to encourage you, Jem, to file a complaint... my youngest was 8 days late and 9 pounds exactly. When the hospital pediatrician came to check her, she was horrific; she insulted me for not being induced earlier, saying I put my baby’s life at risk for “allowing” her to go to 42 weeks (um, I wasn’t even 42 weeks, I had her at 41+1 and was being closely monitored the whole time). She venomously criticized me for being “anti-vaccine” because I chose to get hep B with our preferred pediatrician (along with all her other routine vaccines... I am not even anti-vaccine whatsoever I just wanted to delay hep b, and only by a few weeks!). She was insulting and horrible and I wept after she left. It took me an entire year to file the complaint because it was so upsetting and I didn’t want to think about/re-live it. But I finally did and I wish I’d done it sooner. I was a third-time mama so it didn’t get to me like it might have if it had been my first baby... in that case it would have destroyed me. I couldn’t imagine any first-time moms dealing with such a horrible doctor and I knew I had to speak up for all of them, and for all those sweet babies out there.

This is only the beginning of your life as your child’s advocate. You will model strength and speaking truth, with dignity and respect for yourself, your child, and other people. One day your child will need to have the internal compass to lead him in the right direction, towards what is good and righteous, and that internal strength and confidence and resolve begin with you. Even in uterine, you can influence him with that energy. When you speak the truth, especially when it’s terrifying and feels like the hardest thing in the world, you build strength for your entire family. And all of us women stand behind you.

 

[Kholl]

And to everyone here, congratulations. I am so excited for all of you!

 

[JemRose]

Thank you so much Kholl. I really appreciate your encouragement and thank you for sharing your story with us, I'm sorry you had to go through that!

I have filed a complaint now and thank you so much to everyone for their support x

 

[JaneyJan]

Thank you so much Kholl. I really appreciate your encouragement and thank you for sharing your story with us, I'm sorry you had to go through that!

I have filed a complaint now and thank you so much to everyone for their support x

Yayyy well done Jem! This makes me so happy. She'll be confronted with her behaviour now. And definitely will have to think twice before she does anything like this again. Sorry you've had so many issues during this pregnancy. Your baby will, I hope, make it all feel worthwhile! You'll be meeting baby soon!

 

[Shanivy]

Hi all

I hope you're all well!

Jem how are you feeling now? Has what did your oh think of what the midwife said?

Exciting times for you Shanivy getting organised!

My DD was so cute this afternoon. I was putting the covers bk onto my baby car seat and along with husband we started talking about when baby comes and what will happen, DD suddenly looks panicked and shouts "I've got to go.." I asked why and she said "I can't wear this to meet the baby o need to find some different clothes" I shouted after her that she wasn't coming today and then she came back with an outfit and said "I know she's not coming today but this is what I want to wear when I meet her so I better just try it all on to make sure it looks good", melted my heart

Kicks are so high up now, I swear this baby already weighs 12lbs haha she feels huge

That is the cutest thing I've ever heard! She's picked out an outfit lol. Aw she's going to be a fab big sister xx

 

[Shanivy]

Thank you so much Kholl. I really appreciate your encouragement and thank you for sharing your story with us, I'm sorry you had to go through that!

I have filed a complaint now and thank you so much to everyone for their support x

Fab Jem, you deserve it. And to see another midwife too for a more positive birth plan xx

 

[Shanivy]

Currently trying to get myself ready. Laying in bed in a towel with wet hair so it's not going well. Have one of Ivy's groups this morning at nursery, a math play thing. Lasts from 9.15-11.15 and I'm dreading it, I'm so so sore today, I feel like someone is trying to break my hips in half.

I'm a terrible mum but I reaaally want to keep her off today :/ also have a bit of a dodgy stomach so I'm a bit nervous to go out somewhere this morning. Am I the only one really slow now in the mornings trying to get up, ready and dressed now?

 

[KHTW]

Hi all

I hope you're all well!

Jem how are you feeling now? Has what did your oh think of what the midwife said?

Exciting times for you Shanivy getting organised!

My DD was so cute this afternoon. I was putting the covers bk onto my baby car seat and along with husband we started talking about when baby comes and what will happen, DD suddenly looks panicked and shouts "I've got to go.." I asked why and she said "I can't wear this to meet the baby o need to find some different clothes" I shouted after her that she wasn't coming today and then she came back with an outfit and said "I know she's not coming today but this is what I want to wear when I meet her so I better just try it all on to make sure it looks good", melted my heart

Kicks are so high up now, I swear this baby already weighs 12lbs haha she feels huge

Happy 35 weeks!!!!!!! holly molly! 35?!!!

Your DD is so cute! She will totally be the best big sister and helper!

I sincerely hope your baby girl is not 12lbs lol x

 

[KHTW]

Thank you so much Kholl. I really appreciate your encouragement and thank you for sharing your story with us, I'm sorry you had to go through that!

I have filed a complaint now and thank you so much to everyone for their support x

Well done Jem! How does that make you feel? Hopefully lifts your spirit a bit? x

 

[KHTW]

Currently trying to get myself ready. Laying in bed in a towel with wet hair so it's not going well. Have one of Ivy's groups this morning at nursery, a math play thing. Lasts from 9.15-11.15 and I'm dreading it, I'm so so sore today, I feel like someone is trying to break my hips in half.

I'm a terrible mum but I reaaally want to keep her off today :/ also have a bit of a dodgy stomach so I'm a bit nervous to go out somewhere this morning. Am I the only one really slow now in the mornings trying to get up, ready and dressed now?

Keep her at home hun! If you think being out of the house will only make you miserable there is no point forcing yourself, Ivy will sense that too. I am sure she will be happy having a day in with her mummy so don't overthink this x

I also got a text last evening about baby box arriving in the next few weeks ( I bloody hope by few they mean like 2!!!)

 

[MoominGirl]

Another thread crasher here JemRose. You're absolutely doing the right thing putting in a complaint. You need to feel confident in the care provided by your midwife whether it's your first or your tenth baby. No one deserves to put up with her disrespectful attitude and if she's doing it to you, how many others is she doing it to? I think first time mums are particularly vulnerable as it's all new so much easier to dismiss her behaviour as 'normal'.

We had a difficult time TTC and the absolute lowest point out of everything we went through was our experience with the first NHS fertility consultant we saw. Her attitude and how we were treated was truly shocking and the emotional impact this had on me was so much that I was actually more traumatised by that experience than I was about failing to conceive. Should I have complained? Absolutely. Did I complain? No. I just couldn't deal with it at the time and it was easier to bury my head in the sand. I totally underestimated how much it would affect me (I'm normally pretty chilled and don't dwell on things) and it still haunts me even now. Now that we have fallen pregnant naturally, despite her aggressive claims that this was impossible, I will most certainly be sending that letter once baby is finally here. I feel it will be far more powerful when we actually have our happy ending. I hope by doing it, I will finally get the closure I've needed the whole time.

I'm so glad you've been braver than I was and you've stepped up now. Hope you get a new midwife soon and the standard of care you deserve.

 

[JaneyJan]

Currently trying to get myself ready. Laying in bed in a towel with wet hair so it's not going well. Have one of Ivy's groups this morning at nursery, a math play thing. Lasts from 9.15-11.15 and I'm dreading it, I'm so so sore today, I feel like someone is trying to break my hips in half.

I'm a terrible mum but I reaaally want to keep her off today :/ also have a bit of a dodgy stomach so I'm a bit nervous to go out somewhere this morning. Am I the only one really slow now in the mornings trying to get up, ready and dressed now?

I've had a dodgy tummy... And when I'm on a day off, I just want to stay in the house with pyjamas on and no makeup all day. You're definitely not the only one. I walked around work yesterday feeling haggard and old. And limping with my bad back. And I said exactly that.... I'm frikkin slowing down. I can't do anything fast anymore.

Last night I was hungry in the middle of the night again, had to have some gaviscon and a snack!

 

[JaneyJan]

You definitely shouldn't pressure yourself to leave the house. Save your energy for when you have baby + toddler

 

[malagueta]

Morning all.

Shep, your DD is so cute! She'll be a great big sister, I'm sure.

Shan I'm struggling to find the energy or motivation these days to work so can understand you're not feeling up to things with a little one already and a dodgy stomach!

 

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Wednesday 29th June is C date. So soon OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!

 

[KHTW]

Wednesday 29th June is C date. So soon OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!

Aaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!! So excited for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xx

 

[malagueta]

Ahhh GG, that's so exciting! You have a date! 29th June is my last day of work but I'm super excited to see a July Mummy already have her baba on that date. I can't wait to see these babies start arriving.

 

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I can't believe it. In 5 weeks time I'll be recovering with my baby. 5 WEEKS!!!