***January 2017 mummies!*** 3rd Trimester

[BlondeP]

Ohh I've missed loads!! I think about baby alllllll the time! I'm so keen for him to be here I feel like I'm loosing days just thinking about life when he is here.

Bet the plug loss was a bit nervewackiing . Hopefully if something were to happen it would of happened by now maybe? We dtd last week and I cried it was so painful due to being so swollen so we will definitely not be going there again any time soon ! Poor oh!

Just spent the weekend in London. Did the 4.5 HR drive down myself but on our way back now and oh has decided to take over for the last hour thankfully as I'm shattered.

Spent far too much money on baby and me too in Oxford street but well worth it. If anyone fancie it, Baby GAP have 40% off online until tonight. 50% of in store and I got him about £70 worth of stuff for just over £30 so very happy bunny. The most beautiful baby clothes ever.

Hope everyone is ok. xxxxxx

 

[Laura1992]

Glad you had a nice weekend in London Abi! Nothing more exciting than hanging away some brand new baby clothes these days

My Aunties were over yesterday, and one of them announced that she's booked somewhere to stay stay down the road from ours from 7-9th January! She's planning on coming to visit with my cousin and other Aunt to meet the babies. They'll be about 9 days old when they arrive if they hold out until the last minute. It was quite funny how she just booked and announced it to us lol. Now I'm anxious that we might not have left the hospital yet? Hope they won't have colds.. it's sweet that they are so excited about it though. xx

 

[Rhiandell]

Abi, I feel for you! It was like that for me too the last times we tried. It's been months now. And another five weeks now before we're allowed. Hubby is being very patient. But we try to keep the intimacy up by cuddling and other things.

Blueflower, my mum is probably the least flexible person I know. But she seems to have accepted reality.

 

[BlondeP]

I feel awful for him because he was quite enjoy himself til I burst into tears !! :'D

Ohh Laura, I'd of rather they asked!! I suppose it's nice they are showing effort!

Hope boys are ok Lisa! xxxxzx

 

[Blueflower]

Abi, I feel for you! It was like that for me too the last times we tried. It's been months now. And another five weeks now before we're allowed. Hubby is being very patient. But we try to keep the intimacy up by cuddling and other things.

Blueflower, my mum is probably the least flexible person I know. But she seems to have accepted reality.

Does that mean she's being less rigid about mealtimes?! When I lived at home my mum used to be so awkward about meals, if she didn't want me to go out she'd say dinner was at the time I was going out and I wasn't allowed to make anything later. If I had a lie in at weekends I had to miss breakfast and she'd say the kitchen was closed!!

 

[millielaura]

I feel awful for him because he was quite enjoy himself til I burst into tears !! :'D

Ohh Laura, I'd of rather they asked!! I suppose it's nice they are showing effort!

Hope boys are ok Lisa! xxxxzx

I find sex so sore atm too! Glad it's not just me. I didn't know why lol was worried something was wrong!!

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[Papermoon]

Reality definitely settling in!

I feel so anxious atm. I wasn't overly anxious after the 2nd lot of reduced movements but now its been 3 times plus the pain I've had etc. I'm so so stressed something is going to happen to her after coming so far. Too scared to finish the nursery off now and cursing myself for buying all pink things in case something happens and if we were lucky enough to have another baby and if it wasnt a girl (as much as id love a boy) id feel loss all over again as everythings all ready for a daughter.

Has anyone else had these thoughts? Xx

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Oooh I don't even want to think about such a thing. That would be horrible.

Yes Kate, I don't want to become a total bore that only ever talks about their children and posts 50 photos of them on facebook every day!

LOL!! I know! I'm gonna try very hard not to do that too but I might not be able to help it! At least not the first 6 months! I'll have to get it all out on this forum and post all the pictures I want and post about every little thing he does.

Spent some quality time with my honeybunny . It was nice. He's such a sweetheart. We're trying to get it in now before T.J. comes.

 

[Robbda]

Hi lovlies

How we all doing? Any movements?

I am back to being shattered i have barelt done anything all day slept the afternoon and now cant nod off!

So i have my antenatal class this saturday.. but one this that is playing on my mind.. i live 40 mins away from our hospital.. has anyone any idea when would be a good idea to leave for the hospital? I know they say it depends on how many mins apart the contractions are but im miles away and im a bit worried about leaving it to late or going to early..do they explain this to you in the classes?

 

[Laura1992]

Hi Robbda, good thanks! I think we're all "enjoying" the third trimester difficulties, but looking forward to getting our babies here soon I think just leave for the hospital whenever you feel comfortable doing so? If they threaten to send you home, you can explain that you live far away and they might say you'd be better off staying. You can just refuse to go home lol.

Uhhh so I think twin2 has decided to go transverse, right at the top. I can feel her whole back across my stomach area and she's squiggling around there a lot. Not an ideal position, not least because it's bloody uncomfortable!

 

[millielaura]

I would go when you feel you need to and if they try sending you home explain you live a while away and they may let you wait around there.

We only live 5 mins away since moving and it is actually quicker to walk. And obviously no parking charge etc. Not sure how realistic I am being about wanting to walk there as you have to cross a big bridge over the railway line which I struggle with already lol! But I am hoping to go as late as possible and if I need to then just have OH pay for parking and after she comes go and take the car home and walk back lol. I am hoping I can manage that bridge in labour as it gives me some crazy braxton hicks at the moment so going by that may speed things up haha?

Ouch sounds uncomfy Laura hope she moves!
Imogen keeps getting right under ribs where I can't breathe lol! Everyone is saying my bump has dropped loads though and I have had a lot of stabby type pain which I think is her head pressing on nerves down there so I think its knees etc in ribs.

Can anyone else feel baby parts? I only have been able to this weekend but yesterday I fslt what I think was a foot and I could move it around and wiggle it about and then she kicked me back lol!! Xx

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[millielaura]

I mean I could press down and move them before but now I can wiggle it back and forth and almost get hold of it haha weird xx

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[Papermoon]

I mean I could press down and move them before but now I can wiggle it back and forth and almost get hold of it haha weird xx

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If I press down I can feel body parts but I can't tell which part it is. I haven't tried wiggling a foot. LOL One time I think I pushed what felt like his head down some.

 

[Laura1992]

Lol yeah I can feel definite little heads/feet/hands when they're pushing up. It freaks me out a little bit!

I've been suspecting for a little while now that my mum has it in for OH.. she just kind of moans about him to me all the time behind his back and can be quite mean to him. I knew they would have a difficult time living under one roof because she's very controlling and particular about how pretty much everything is done (in life) and he's quite laid back and probably thinks she needs to get a grip. He irks me too with his laid back way sometimes, but she's definitely pretty unbearable about a lot of things.

Feel a bit sad though because I wasn't sure if I imagined their tense relationship, and then I mentioned it to my dad just now and he said "yes, it's something they will have to work on". So it's all confirmed now and I feel pretty upset about it I think we will be looking to move out sooner rather than later, although it'll be pretty tight at first. I suppose we'll start looking in the new year.

The thing about moving is that my mum threatens not to help out or visit if we move anywhere more than 10 mins walk away. We definitely can't afford to live as centrally as they do at the moment, so we were looking at places a little bit further out and I know she'll flip about that. Stress that I don't really need.

 

[millielaura]

Lol yeah I can feel definite little heads/feet/hands when they're pushing up. It freaks me out a little bit!

I've been suspecting for a little while now that my mum has it in for OH.. she just kind of moans about him to me all the time behind his back and can be quite mean to him. I knew they would have a difficult time living under one roof because she's very controlling and particular about how pretty much everything is done (in life) and he's quite laid back and probably thinks she needs to get a grip. He irks me too with his laid back way sometimes, but she's definitely pretty unbearable about a lot of things.

Feel a bit sad though because I wasn't sure if I imagined their tense relationship, and then I mentioned it to my dad just now and he said "yes, it's something they will have to work on". So it's all confirmed now and I feel pretty upset about it I think we will be looking to move out sooner rather than later, although it'll be pretty tight at first. I suppose we'll start looking in the new year.

The thing about moving is that my mum threatens not to help out or visit if we move anywhere more than 10 mins walk away. We definitely can't afford to live as centrally as they do at the moment, so we were looking at places a little bit further out and I know she'll flip about that. Stress that I don't really need.

Oh that's a pain

My parents and husband don't get on. Parents are very involved and controlling etc and OH laid back. It mustbe so challenging living with them!
We live 2 hours from mine at the moment and they are wanting me to move in March closer..lol! Not happening with a tiny baby.

I would definitely move to where is best for you and tell her if she wants to visit etc then she can travel a bit further. I've found the only thing that helps with my parents now is putting my foot down totally or they just try take over everything. Xx

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[millielaura]

Also if she didn't visit it would end up being her loss in the long run xxx

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[Laura1992]

Yeah, it would be her loss. I don't like to upset anyone and I feel guilty about the idea of taking my parent's first grandchildren too far away from them. At the same time, a bit of distance would be quite a blessing in reality.

My mum has had a pretty easy life, and yet nothing seems to be good enough. She hasn't had to work since she was 23, my dad pays for absolutely everything and has a really good job, she always had full time nannies/cook/cleaner when we were growing up and so I think she struggles to deal with minimal stress because she hasn't really had to. For the average person, it's quite annoying because it comes off ungrateful and rather lazy. She doesn't really do anything around the house either, my dad does most of the housework and grocery shopping on top of a demanding job. She doesn't realise how good she has it though!

 

[millielaura]

Oh wow yeah any stress must seem big to her if she has been lucky enough to have all that help! Xx

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[Blueflower]

Wow that sounds really difficult Laura. I agree, just decide what's best for you. We don't have children to give our parents grandchildren no matter what they think! My mum and DH don't get on, mostly because he knows how she's treated me in the past, but the 'Controlling mother / laid back partner' combo seems to be a common theme! My sister’s husband refuses to stay with our mum any more which is understandable but means my sister has to face an 8 hour flight with 2 small children and 2-3 weeks without him which is unfair but my mum prefers so she gets her own way all round, grrrr!

I can’t feel any specific body parts, think they are too tightly packed.

 

[Laura1992]

Wow that sounds really difficult Laura. I agree, just decide what's best for you. We don't have children to give our parents grandchildren no matter what they think! My mum and DH don't get on, mostly because he knows how she's treated me in the past, but the 'Controlling mother / laid back partner' combo seems to be a common theme! My sister’s husband refuses to stay with our mum any more which is understandable but means my sister has to face an 8 hour flight with 2 small children and 2-3 weeks without him which is unfair but my mum prefers so she gets her own way all round, grrrr!

I can’t feel any specific body parts, think they are too tightly packed.

Sounds pretty similar. OH isn't happy about the way my mum has treated me in the past and still does, so that doesn't help. My brother in law and mum clash big time and he rarely joins my sister when she visits my parents. Parents eh.. I'm determined not to be a total pain in the neck of a mother!

 

[KateK]

That sounds awful Laura.. Must be so hard for your partner - we lived with my parents for a short while and whilst they do get on and it was all niceties he found it really difficult just not being able to be himself all the time.. There is a bit of tension between him and my Mum at times as she gets a little overprotective of me and he can be a dick to put it bluntly!

That reminded me Millie I had the weirdest dream last night, my skin turned really thin and elastic and baby kept reaching up and I could see the outline of every finger, it was gross!! I can feel all sorts of parts but am hopeless at deciphering what they are!