yep im hooked [updated with pics iv put on weight!]

trixipaws said:
well, i did it- i called her! she's coming to visit on friday. a bit nervous now im still worried she might to running off to social services! eek i hope im making the right move :|

of course you are :hug: :hug:
 
You are :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

It'll be good to talk to her, at least have someone supportive there in person who will listen to you. I think once you start actually talking to someone in person about things, and being honest with them about your eating habits, weight loss and how you'd like to change your eating habits etc it'll fall more into place.
 
hey hun i have just seen this- ok i dont want you to get offended in anyway, i'm saying this because i think you seem like a lovely person and i wouldnt want to see you sick- ok here goes...
i saw your new avatar on one of your posts and i thought you looked too slim..i remember you posting some pictures with your weightloss and i actually thought you looked on the border of being too slim in those too.
one of best friends had anorexia and bulimia and it all started with just plain dieting..once she lost some weight and people complimented her that was it..she loved being noticed and she got obsessed, she made herself so ill she is now infertile and will never have kids of her own..she was sectioned under the mental healh act and put in a clinic for 3 months put on a drip for refusing to eat..and it all started with a soup diet!!
you have a beautiful baby and you were absolutley fine before from the pictures i have seen you were not overweight- i'm sure you don't want to be sick hun but you must get help .. from what you said about geting a rush from seeing your weightloss and getting attention/compliments etc..you are addicted to losing weight and soon it will be looks of pity rather than admiration- and rather than compliments ppl be telling you that you look ill. i know i don't know you in "real life" but i seen what happened to my friend i'd hate for you to go down the same route- sorry to sound dramatic or something but i think you might need to hear this. i am so glad that you are admitting you have a problem which is a very good place to start!!! good luck talking to your HV she will be able to get you some help sweetie...you have so much support on here from all of us and if you ever want to chat about anything you have your pick of the bunch :wink: - i know everyone else has already said all this ..but i've just seen the thread- good luck chick keep us updated :hug: :hug: :hug: xxx
 
Hey,
Just started reading this now.. You sound like such a sensible person for getting help and not denying it, most people in your position would just pretend it isnt happening and let it carry on.. I really believe you are doing the right thing in contacting your health visitor, and good luck for when she comes to see you, i'm sure she'll be able to tell what a fab mummy you are to your little Millie :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
Aw trixi, I'm so so proud of you!

She WILL NOT go running to social services, she's there to help you and NOTHING you will be talking about portrays you as a bad Mum - you just need some help with your diet and relationship with food, that's all.

I'm so pleased for you - good luck for Friday - please let us know how it goes.

Valentine Xxx
 
Hey you're a good mum and the fact you realise that something is wrong is a step in the right direction. Social services only get involved if the child is at risk hun - you've got nothing to worry about :hug:
 
:hug: :hug: :hug: Well done for phoning the HV, that must have taken alot to do, but its a great step :hug: :hug: :hug:

All the best of luck
 
iv put on a bit of weight, im 99lbs so i am just over 7st, im trying my hardest not to feel bad about that but if im completely honest i feel kinda depressed about it i feel like a fat blob :( i was pondering on pretending to my HV its something else i wanted her for this morning coz i wanted to lose those 2lbs and feel happy about my weight again :think: i wont tho. i kno iv got to do smething for millie's sake, i dont want her to have eating/weight issues. im still planning to go thru with it, but i did falter this morning. i feel a bit panicky about it :?
 
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

That you've told us this is another postive for you Trix, keep hold of that. It shows you are doing so well with it and are taking those steps to make sure you are fit and well and eating properly. Its only natural to be nervous and worry but please please please do as you've done today if you feel your resolve faltering a bit. Share with us, let us support and encourage you and keep going forward :hug: :hug:
 
good on you trix although you feel like that you are doing the right thing- i'm so glad you can be honest with us on here.its good that you can be open about it as i'm sure you'll find it helps!

well done hun you are doing really well..i'm really proud of you your being brave :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
my HV came round today and i told her. she was more understanding than i couldve expected actually, having been there herself! she said she's gonna make some fone calls and call back next week on wednesday. it was nice to talk to her altho i felt painfully embarrassed! feel quite relieved to hav done it.

its not all good tho, my boyf found out last nite and as i thought he's really mad at me- things really not good between us now this could split us up :(

we'll see how it goes
 
I don't understand why you're boyfriend would be mad with you, you're trying to sort it out he should be supposrting you not bringing you down hun.

Just remember there's plenty of peopl on here to support you when you're feeling down :hug:
 
What exactly did he find out that you are admiting to having a problem and it was him in the first place that prompted this admission he should be pleased that you are no longer in denial and trying to do something about it :think: or is it that you have been hiding the extent of the problem for him and thats what hes upset about?
I am sure he wont split up with you over it either way he needs time to get his head around it and calm down and then he will hopefully understand why you kept it from him and be glad that you are looking for help, well done for talking with the HV and being honest thats such a big step try not to let this upset with your husband put yo0u back hopefully in the long run it will be a good thing that he knows exactly whats going on and can give you suport and encouragement to get a healthier attitude to food again! :hug: :hug:
 
Penstraze said:
is it that you have been hiding the extent of the problem for him and thats what hes upset about?

yep thats it the deceit i lied to him and broken promises, i understand his point of view totally but i just wish he could see mine
he's very frosty with me today i just want hugs i feel so alone!
 
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

he is probably finding it hard to deal with and upsetting- although that is not very helpful to you atm- he will come round hun he just needs time for it to sink in and to accept it, i expect a small part of it its guilt aswell, you know how you feel like you should look after your partner and protect them, maybe deep down he feels she should have known and helped you! we're all here hun..he will come round and be there for you!!
xxx
 
Aw trixi, that's so sad. Its taken so much for you to get to this point, that he really needs to support you now.

I, for one, as are many of the girls on here, really really proud of you. Please keep us updated. I think you are very very brave.

Valentine Xxx
 
You have done the right thing talking to you HV hun, have you told your bf you spoke to her and are trying to get help?
 
yes iv told him. he seems a bit "pfffft" i think he just thinks im being silly, selfish and pissing about and its not something i *need* help for its just something i should pull my bloody socks up for gods sake! type thing :(

he isnt being horrid to me, and i hugged him earlier he sorta stroked my hair a bit so he's not completely rejecting me, but he is bein very very frosty. i think its because iv lied thats a massive part of it

i said when he came home from work and stroked the cat and the baby and not me, "i wish u were my friend" and he said "yes well i wish u were about a stone heavier, but ur not are u" :(

im not very happy, u girls are great i wish u all lived in manc and would come round my house and gimme hugs! im in need of hugs! iv been hugging millie as much as she'll let me :lol: but she's in bed now i cant! ill try my boyf again later, i hope he doesnt reject me :pray:
 

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