**** November 2012 Mummies **** (everyone welcome)

[CARNAT22]

James didn't smile proper until he was about 6 weeks!

He has always been a good feeder (and was one of the reasons I went to FF) he will take 5oz every 3 hours in the day and I'll also give him an extra oz before bed and 2 oz's water a day

He's been feeding like this since he was about 3 weeks minus the water. I was only able to express 4oz's at a time so was topping up with an oz of formula as he always wanted more food.

He's still in 25th centile so the HV is happy for me to carry on feeding him as I am but my God this kid can eat...

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[sallybee]

That's a relief - I'd just about convinced myself she is autistic as she never makes eye contact either

At the end of the day though what can you do even if HV isn't happy with weight? You can't just ignore him when he's crying or something. My nephew is 17lbs 3oz at 17 weeks but is still following his centile lol xx

 

[mrswoody]

I've been an bought some cartons of the Hipp organise formula. I use the bottles as my emergency anyway. For a few weeks now Madison has just fed and fed at night time and today I've decided that ill give her a bottle at night time to try and combat this. Not sure how or what time ill give her it but ill try guess the best time. I'm hoping to start a routine tomorrow so this should help with that too.

Sally..Cathy will give you the big smiles soon x

 

[Kellybean]

argh we have a november mummy thread!!!! YES YES YES! i haven't been around for 3 weeks as many of you know my hubby came home for Christmas so i was preoccupied with him and son . Nat add me on front page please...Massan born 16/11/12 @ 10.08am and weighed in at 9lb13 thank you. Hello again to you all mummies cant wait to catch up. X

 

[sallybee]

Hi again Kelly, hope you had a lovely Christmas with OH and Massan xx

 

[ruthiex]

welcome back kelly! hope you had an amazing christmas with your boys!


my sister has put the pics on facebook from xmas day! i love this one of my little family! Feels wierd to think i have my own family lol!! amazing

ella has slept all day, its going to be a looong night!

 

[sallybee]

Oh what a lovely photo Ruthie its things like that you'll cherish xx

 

[CARNAT22]

Welcome back Kelly, can't wait to hear all about your Crimbo - bet it was amazing!!

Ruth, you look fantastic!

I am well jealous, there were no piccies of me this year!! In-fact I have only a few pic's of me and James!

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[Wilson28]

hi kelly, got your text im not that quick to reply these days lol.
glad u had a lovely crimbo. aww ruth that piccy is just adorable when i get round to putting my pics on ill put some up

Feeling better today a little, still shatterd. Starting our routine tonight, so hes having bath at 7.45, feed and bed, so wish me luck. Then tomorrow i will start my regular expressing xx

 

[Robyn_mcl]

Well think I'm in for a ww stormy week!! Development leap 2 had started! T has been wingy and unsettled all day! Fussy.on the bottle, fighting sleep and crying pretty much on and off all day! Not to mention hes only taken 3 bottles totaling 15oz since this morning!! And he's normally had over 27oz by now

 

[CARNAT22]

Well think I'm in for a ww stormy week!! Development leap 2 had started! T has been wingy and unsettled all day! Fussy.on the bottle, fighting sleep and crying pretty much on and off all day! Not to mention hes only taken 3 bottles totaling 15oz since this morning!! And he's normally had over 27oz by now

I think we're having leap number 2 as well.

Although James is feeding the same as normal but has been constipated? So It could be the constipation that was making him grumpy?

He's been sleeping OK? BUT he has been very grumpy for a few days.

God if this isn't leap 2 then we're in for a treat

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[Little_angel]

Hi everyone

Sorry I haven't been around for a couple of days, I haven't been sleeping well and J has been crying a lot. I can't say I'm coping well, I just feel like a zombie most of the time and when the crying gets too much it makes me cry too. Apart from the reflux, which does seem improved by the gaviscon (now up to 3 doses a day), we're now having trouble with daytime naps. He's waking after just a few minutes, 20 at most and then we're having to get him back off to sleep again, only to have him wake again a few minutes later. He had an hour and a half nap in my arms today, but that's not a road I want to go down for every nap.

I've decided I have to be a bit tougher. There's no way I will let him cry alone, but I'm going to try putting him in his crib upstairs for naps, rather than the Moses basket downstairs. When he cries, I won't take him out, just shush and pat him like I do at night. He does usually cry on and off for 10 minutes or so, but to be fair he does that if I am holding him and he's trying to drop off. He doesn't seem any more distressed in the crib.

So far he's been in bed for 30 mins and I've managed 10 mins out of the bedroom

This is so much harder than I ever imagined. I knew I wouldn't get much sleep at night, but I seem to be unable to nap when he does, I just can't do it on command. And I feel such a failure, I'm so tired, I have no energy to keep the house nice and cook dinner. I can't even keep j happy!

I lurk on this thread quite a bit, I love to see how you're all doing. Sorry I didn't post more, but I sometimes don't have the emotional energy.

Sally - funny you should say that about autism, I thought the same last week, but now J makes more eye contact and we have proper smiles. Only the last few days though so don't worry.

Nat - have you thought of trying comfort formula? it's supposed to help with constipation.

Wilson, hope your routine's going well.

Kelly - hello again!

Xxx

 

[Wilson28]

Hi everyone

Sorry I haven't been around for a couple of days, I haven't been sleeping well and J has been crying a lot. I can't say I'm coping well, I just feel like a zombie most of the time and when the crying gets too much it makes me cry too. Apart from the reflux, which does seem improved by the gaviscon (now up to 3 doses a day), we're now having trouble with daytime naps. He's waking after just a few minutes, 20 at most and then we're having to get him back off to sleep again, only to have him wake again a few minutes later. He had an hour and a half nap in my arms today, but that's not a road I want to go down for every nap.

I've decided I have to be a bit tougher. There's no way I will let him cry alone, but I'm going to try putting him in his crib upstairs for naps, rather than the Moses basket downstairs. When he cries, I won't take him out, just shush and pat him like I do at night. He does usually cry on and off for 10 minutes or so, but to be fair he does that if I am holding him and he's trying to drop off. He doesn't seem any more distressed in the crib.

So far he's been in bed for 30 mins and I've managed 10 mins out of the bedroom

This is so much harder than I ever imagined. I knew I wouldn't get much sleep at night, but I seem to be unable to nap when he does, I just can't do it on command. And I feel such a failure, I'm so tired, I have no energy to keep the house nice and cook dinner. I can't even keep j happy!

I lurk on this thread quite a bit, I love to see how you're all doing. Sorry I didn't post more, but I sometimes don't have the emotional energy.

Sally - funny you should say that about autism, I thought the same last week, but now J makes more eye contact and we have proper smiles. Only the last few days though so don't worry.

Nat - have you thought of trying comfort formula? it's supposed to help with constipation.

Wilson, hope your routine's going well.

Kelly - hello again!

Xxx

I know how u feel sugar i feel the exact same, i pick Arthur up when he cries as i cant concentrate now with no sleep never mind with a screaming baby, but today we are introducing new methods, today we settled him on us after a feed and then put him in the arm chair with a baby support pillow and he woke up, so me n my fella went and carried on cooking tea in the kitchen and let him whimper and he tuck himself off but then i heard him coooing away to himself so he had woke, but then started getting grizzly as hes to tired
so we are trying bath, feed and bed tonight.

But like yrself i can not sleep in the day and im burning my candle at both ends and running myself down xx

 

[kerrie89]

Nat and Robyn i think we are having the second leap too? I am on day 5 of having a very clingy baby who i cannot put down. And to top it off she has her 1st jabs tomorrow

I am so not looking forward to them. They are at 5pm xx

 

[kerrie89]

Im just reading about 'wonder week 8' and it says it can last from a few days to 2 weeks! Yikes!!

It definately sounds like how olivia has been. She would be 7 weeks going by due date so its about right??

 

[CARNAT22]

Hi everyone

Sorry I haven't been around for a couple of days, I haven't been sleeping well and J has been crying a lot. I can't say I'm coping well, I just feel like a zombie most of the time and when the crying gets too much it makes me cry too. Apart from the reflux, which does seem improved by the gaviscon (now up to 3 doses a day), we're now having trouble with daytime naps. He's waking after just a few minutes, 20 at most and then we're having to get him back off to sleep again, only to have him wake again a few minutes later. He had an hour and a half nap in my arms today, but that's not a road I want to go down for every nap.

I've decided I have to be a bit tougher. There's no way I will let him cry alone, but I'm going to try putting him in his crib upstairs for naps, rather than the Moses basket downstairs. When he cries, I won't take him out, just shush and pat him like I do at night. He does usually cry on and off for 10 minutes or so, but to be fair he does that if I am holding him and he's trying to drop off. He doesn't seem any more distressed in the crib.

So far he's been in bed for 30 mins and I've managed 10 mins out of the bedroom

This is so much harder than I ever imagined. I knew I wouldn't get much sleep at night, but I seem to be unable to nap when he does, I just can't do it on command. And I feel such a failure, I'm so tired, I have no energy to keep the house nice and cook dinner. I can't even keep j happy!

I lurk on this thread quite a bit, I love to see how you're all doing. Sorry I didn't post more, but I sometimes don't have the emotional energy.

Sally - funny you should say that about autism, I thought the same last week, but now J makes more eye contact and we have proper smiles. Only the last few days though so don't worry.

Nat - have you thought of trying comfort formula? it's supposed to help with constipation.

Wilson, hope your routine's going well.

Kelly - hello again!

Xxx

I feel your frustration hun and believe me I've had plenty of tears and tantrums. This being a Mummy lark isn't as easy as its cracked up to be is it?

No matter how precious and how wanted the baby is some days are just going to be harder than others.

James isn't a bad baby but even a day of him being grumpy and a few nights of no sleep have driven me to tears.

You are doing a fab job hun, baby is just finding his way in this scary and crazy world!

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Nat and Robyn i think we are having the second leap too? I am on day 5 of having a very clingy baby who i cannot put down. And to top it off she has her 1st jabs tomorrow

I am so not looking forward to them. They are at 5pm xx

We've not got ours until 15th - he'll be almost 9 weeks then!

Make sure you have some calpol at the ready hun

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[Little_angel]

Thanks Wilson and Nat xx

No matter how precious and how wanted the baby is some days are just going to be harder than others.

This is exactly it. I struggle so much with the fact that we wanted a baby for so long, and tried so hard, but some days I don't enjoy him. I feel so guilty, because I know we are so lucky. Obviously, I love him so much and wouldn't change things for the world, but I feel bad for not feeling happy all the time.

Silly I know, it's just not logical.

My friend has a 3 yo and she is very perceptive and brutally honest about motherhood. When I was having a tough time, she text me the other day and amongst other advice said "and sometimes you feel like you've made the biggest mistake of your life". This is how I feel at the very lowest moments, but the highs are amazing and when J is content, I'm very happy with my lot.

 

[sallybee]

My sis was very honest with me like that and said she struggled to bond with her LO and she regretted it at the start. I have never regretted having C I just wish I'd spent a bit more quality time with OH just us two instead of going to bed early and ignoring him some nights or whatever. And when OH comes home its a relief to have him take her off me for a whole, its so draining being on my own with her all day xx

 

[CARNAT22]

L_a,

I assumed so much about motherhood and I knew so little.

Everyday is a revelation and sometimes not a happy revelation

The hardest part for me is that OH seems to comfort James better than I do. I do most of the feeds and nappy changes yet when James does have "moments" I cannot seem to soothe him as well as OH does. A screaming James reduces me to an insecure wreck and I leave OH to it.

Luckily James' hissy fits are few and far between but when he does get upset I think he senses that it makes me feel so inadequete?

I am working on it though, OH will be back at work soon (after 3.5 weeks off!) and I'll have to be able to soothe James then.

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[Robyn_mcl]

Nat and Robyn i think we are having the second leap too? I am on day 5 of having a very clingy baby who i cannot put down. And to top it off she has her 1st jabs tomorrow

I am so not looking forward to them. They are at 5pm xx

Yeah think this is leap 2 ladies! Taylor is also very clingy! He's waiting held almost constantly and doesn't want to sleep! If oh is settling him he's ok the minute he hears my voice he starts to fuss!
we have our jabs booked for thur but getting 6 week check up at 8 Weeks lol, on wed so going to try move it all to the one day.

Ladies you are all doing such a great job! It's not easy but we'll all get there! ....then teething will show it's ugly face! Lol
No joke but I'm worried T will teethe early!! He's so drooly and blows bubbles!! Anyone else find this xx