**** November 2012 Mummies **** (everyone welcome)

[mrswoody]

As for monitors etc i have the angel care mat and though I haven't used it yet Ive tested it out and it seems really good. I've started putting Madison upto bed without us and just listen out on the monitor.
Not sure I'd need one with the camera? They are super expensive as well!
We bought Ewan the dream sheep for M and she loves it, it does send her off to sleep nicely and works on mummy and daddy too!!

 

[sallybee]

Glad you're having a good time mrswoody I know what you mean about being bankrupted though, I could spend on Cathy all day long! At least she will be well dressed lol. What the heck is Ewan the dream sheep! Lol xx

 

[mrswoody]

Google him I got mine from amazon but they well them in John Lewis too! He glows red and has different sounds to send LO to sleep like a little tune, white noise and heart beat sounds really good investment x

 

[sallybee]

Lol just Googled, I may have to invest! Xx

 

[sallybee]

Aaargh I'm going to blow my top here!

Rather than sleeping in shifts and taking it in turns to look after her in the lounge OH decided we would put her in the bedroom with us as he wanted to cuddle... And was asleep within a minute. It's pitch dark in there as he won't sleep with the light on, so I've poked her in the eye trying to get her dummy in, got her tangled in her sleeping bag and nearly fell over his clothes he decides to leave on the floor. I'm now up and down to the living room, tried to put her down in the bedroom after her feed and express but she cried so back up I go (detaching myself from my hands free expressing system instead of having her within reach). Not to mention we're supposed to take it in turns to get up with the first turn being his and he wouldn't wake up even when I kicked him!

Now she's crying AGAIN!

Sorry for the rant ladies but I am just so annoyed, this is a classic case of if it ain't broke don't fix it.. so after 2 good nights I'm now going to get an awful nights sleep and be super stressed xx

 

[sallybee]

Well I've managed to get about 4 hours sleep but Cathy has carried on being grumpy and grizzly all morning and cries whenever you put her down think my new routine is shot to hell but going to persevere with it anyway even just for my sake. Think this must be the first ww leap xx

 

[Wilson28]

arthur had is a week ago, hes come out of it now, was horrible, very grizzly aggitated baby tip for u, start unwinding her 2 hrs before bed, also let her have some skin to skin on yr chest and if yr bf let her suckle on booby, eorks a treat, but in her leap keep her close to you to sooth her xx

 

[sallybee]

Thanks Wilson, good to know you survived it lol - and maybe i will start getting some of those gorgeous smiles Arthur has been giving you, I still can't get over how cute he is lol.

I'm exclusively expressing but later on I'll see if she will latch and get some skin to skin with her, I know this is a scary time for her and she needs her mummy and daddy xx

 

[CARNAT22]

I love James' Ewan... I use it on him mainly when I change his bum as it fascinates him!!

Tonight I want to start bath, bottle, bed routine with him. We'll see though - when he is hard to settle I tend to just to let him sleep where he wants.

Had another night where he went 5 hours, woke and then had another 4 hours. So we've gone slightly backwards but we're still getting a nice sleep.

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[sallybee]

Don't give in Nat! Routine is so important for them, it will be hard for the first few nights but he should settle xx

 

[ruthiex]

Sallybe- i havnt started a routine with ella yet, have you found or LO has settled to it? Ella just sleeps when she wants in her moses basket i take her up with me at around 11 feed her and put her down for the night, she wakes up every 3 hours for feeds still and last night she woke up after 2 and a half hours both times and screamed for more both times lol, she had 6floz, shes never had that much before?!

Im crossing my fingers that she has just finished her first leap, we had a fun few days of a grumpy, unsettled, crying little ladie but yesterday she seemed back to her normal self and today OH said shes been great!

Im still waiting for my first smile!!

 

[CARNAT22]

I am trying to keep James in a semi routine but I am terrified of the crib - he hates it - selfishly I have chosen sleep over having a very unsettled night to get him used to it

OH isn't back until Monday though so I should start getting James in crib whilst OH doesn't have to get up at 6am.

Bath, bottle and bed may also be a challenge as James hates getting taken out of the bath. It is the only thing, other than being hungry, that makes him scream hysterically...

mrswoody, going to back to your question about maternity leave I have a year off so am due back on 28th October 2013.

I knew all along that I'd only want to go back part-time so I will have to discuss this with them. I work for a software company (I deal with annual contracts for about 500 clients and am a fee earner, our department of three people takes about £2.5 million a year) and I have been there for 11 years.

It is mainly men that work for my company and they've never employed anyone to work part-time? Only two women before me have been on maternity leave and they both ended up not coming back.

My contract states they will have to keep my job open but it will be my full time job, they have no obligation to cater for me wanting to go part-time.

My plan if I cannot go part-time is to look for admin work in a school / college or uni and I eventually want to retrain as a teacher. I have a degree so would just need to do a conversion course and my training.

I don't even want to think about going back to work but I must confess it stresses me already

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[sallybee]

Ruthie Cathy has been going down at 7, waking around 11, 1, 4 and 7 for feeds (we will get up st 7.) I'm not sure she knows what's going on but in all honesty the routine is for my sanity, I was getting nothing done playing it by ear as I had no idea what was coming but now I know what to expect. Xx

 

[kerrie89]

Is anyone going to watch OBEM tonight?

There is no way I can watch it. I used to cry my eyes out before I gave birth so I would be a wreck if I watched it now xx

 

[Wilson28]

yer im going to watch it kerrie, i used to balk my eyes out too, it will make me broody xx

 

[sallybee]

It's in my planner tonight! Woot. It used to make me really emotional but I'm not sure how i'll react now I've been through it. But will defos make me broody - we used to watch it when we were TTC lol (not during the act though! lol) xx

 

[kerrie89]

Hehe i already cant wait to give birth again never mind if i watch it. My tummys feeling funny just thinking about it lol x

 

[kerrie89]

It's in my planner tonight! Woot. It used to make me really emotional but I'm not sure how i'll react now I've been through it. But will defos make me broody - we used to watch it when we were TTC lol (not during the act though! lol) xx

Haha that made laugh

 

[CARNAT22]

Is anyone going to watch OBEM tonight?

There is no way I can watch it. I used to cry my eyes out before I gave birth so I would be a wreck if I watched it now xx

I had to stop watching it ages ago as I was TTC after several miscarriages and I found it too emotional. Then when I was preggers I didn't watch in-case it scared me.

I think I'll tune in later though, bet it will make me sob my heart out.

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[sallybee]

Aw Nat hope it doesn't make you too emotional!

I cried earlier because we had our first "real" interaction - I was kissing her then pulling a little face and she was copying me, puckering her lips then doing the , its the first time she hasn't just stared at me blankly really (she does smile sometimes but its not a proper smile really) xx