June mummies loss thread

[BunnyN]

Thats what my husband said, that she should go work at Mcdonalds or something, lol. Its at a clinic that usually does scans for the state (I am in Portugal) but we actually paid to do it privately. To get an emergency scan I knew we'd have to wait in the hospital for hours and I didnt fancy that so we managed to book a private scan with her at the last minuite. I think OH was annoyed with her but to be honest I didn't really care because I was too busy dealing with my own thing. Its only looking back that it seems really wierd. Maybe that was it about having to confirm with a second scan, it makes sense now that you say. Its just the way she told me to go home and rest up and not worry and gave the impression it might be okay on Monday. The report she gave made it pretty clear there was no hope too, unless you didnt understand what the things meant. I knew that there was no chance but if it was someone else they would have gone home and actually hoped there was still a chance all weekend. Of course I would have given anything for a different outcome but once I knew there was also a sense of relief not to be in limbo any more. Anyway I'm glad we did it anyway because it got some of the shock etc out of the way and meant we felt prepaired to ask questions etc at the other scan.

 

[Lilmisshopeful]

It's so unfair to offer false hope and like you say some women would hold onto that all weekend. It's even worse because you had to pay for it I think maybe you should get the oh to write a letter of complaint as it's not acceptable xxx

 

[BunnyN]

Yeh, thats what I thought about giving false hope, its really unfair.

The assistant who called our name was really rude and grumpy too. The waiting room was full and there were no chairs and we had to wait for an hour. I didnt hold that againt them because they had squeezed us in even though they didnt really have an opening although I'd been told to drink a liter of water an hr before the scan so was a bit desperate for the loo. We asked the receptionist if we could wait just outside where their was a bench and she said it was fine. Apparently the woman came to call us and the receptionist said we were outside because she came to the door and told us off for not being there when our name was called. OH did say we had been waiting for an hour and the receptionist had said it was okay to be outside. After she came out with the report and gave it to OH. He said she looked totally mortified and was trying to apologise but he didnt give her the chance. We kind of took pleasure out of her feeling so bad, lol. Hopefully she learned something. At least the poor woman does have a heart and was probably just having a bad day.

 

[Eryinera]

Yea false hope is a horrible thing I think that's why my first mc devastated me so much everyone kept saying "oh we've seen worse and it was fine" the doctor I so heavily criticised just said "ok so when did the miscarriage start" before it was confirmed I think he prepared me the most but I think the others were trying to be nice an reassuring. But some people just want the facts not false hope and reassurance that will come crashing down in a few days time.

 

[platypus]

I'm another June loss. At first I thought I had miscarried as my HCG levels were low and dropping and then I bled. But my repeat HCG showed a significant increase, it then kept increasing but at sub optimal levels. They scanned me but couldn't find anything but said it was ectopic but they just couldn't find it - pregnancy in unknown location. On Friday they gave me methotrexane. I have felt rubbish since but hopefully it will work and I won't need a second injection. Will be counting down the 3 months until I can try again.

 

[Redhead]

Had the second scan this morning, it hasn't completed like I thought, but there isn't enough for them to do surgery, the sac is still there so will need to just wait it out. I'm pretty frustrated as I just wanted this all over with but nature doesn't work like that I guess. I'm thinking of returning to work on Wednesday as the pain has gone and Im tired of being at home, I need something to take my mind off it all, but if it gets bad again ill just go back home. So there's my news. How is everyone else?

 

[Redhead]

Sorry to see you here platypus xx

 

[BunnyN]

Thats rubbish platypus, sorry you are here. It sounds like you have had a really stressful time. I am grateful that at least we found out quickly and it was clear. I'm even glad I didnt know that baby had diesd a week and a half before because by the time we confirmed I was bleeding already. Still waiting for more to happen but at least the process has started already.and I'm not left sitting around wondering what the next step will be.

 

[russellmuscle]

I was due June 16th with my wee shy squish!

I should be due my scan soonish, instead I am back to the drawing board - although enjoying it much more this cycle than last.

Keep your chin up love.

xxx

 

[Eryinera]

I didn't realise you were a June mum to be as well RM {{hugs}} what a shit month lol. And it ducks you have to wait so long to try again platypus.

 

[BunnyN]

I was a January mum this year and of course their were losses but nothing like our poor June mums. It iseems like there are almost as many mums to join the loss thread as are left in the 1st trimester thread :/.

 

[Eryinera]

They say august is the most popular month to have a baby I think that's skewed by xmas parties though lol. But I hope we all get our bfps as soon as we can and for Xmas I'm buying us all some extra sticky baby glue!!

 

[russellmuscle]

I OV Friday which is my Xmas night out..

I think they speculate that about October aswell because everyone is cooped up in January in the cold nights means alot of October babies come.

If I catch this cycle itll be EDD 17/08/2016.

xxxx

 

[Redhead]

Got my fingers crossed for you Rm

 

[Eryinera]

Fingers crossed hun x my first mc was due 13/08 it would be nice to be due around then again. I really like my 2nd mc date of 31/10 halloween has always been a face date of mine lol.

 

[russellmuscle]

I want a halloween baby too E.

I should be American Id quite happily celebrate xmas like a giant halloween.

xxxx

 

[Eryinera]

Lol me too I much prefer halloween to xmas people think om mad I was gutted I missed it this year lol.

 

[Redhead]

Ooh I'm another halloweeny, I decorated the house and dressed up, I do every year, I don't even have any children yet! Although I am a big Kid. Here's to October ladies

 

[LyndseyB]

Hi ladies, I'm so sorry to everyone who is in here and I hope you are all keeping as well as can be expected.

I was due 4th June, first baby, im not sure that the miscarriage news has sunk in properly yet (found out on 10th Nov, 10 weeks 3 days that the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks), not had a huge amount of bleeding yet and I keep feeling like I'm in denial but also well aware that I am no longer pregnant..wonderfully confusing!!

Not feeling too chatty today so I'll pop back and catch up with everyone soon, just sending lots of love to the ladies I already got to know and to some new names, we will help each other through and will all hopefully be chatting about our next pregnancies very soon xx

 

[Eryinera]

Glad to see you lyndsey just wish it was happier circumstances. Take as much time to grieve as you need. When you are ready to talk we will be here for you and soon we will be looking back on this time as an awful event that happened but we will have a little bundle of joy in our arms to help us have something better to focus on x x