*July 2018 Mummies*

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Oh PB, I really hope it doesn't wear you out too much. Must be so so frustrating. Hope you're getting plenty of rest. Will be thinking of you. Xx

 

[Shanivy]

Shan - I'm not sure actually.... I looked at the NHS one online and it doesn't really cover everything I'd like to try and do..from memory I think it's mostly about what interventions and medication I'd be happy with... ?

I'm hoping to cover more of the environmental factors like keeping things quite quiet, dimming the lights, asking the midwife not to examine me without my consent, saying I want to be active and moving around as much as possible...stuff like that in addition to the medical stuff. I had a chat with my MW and she said the midwives at the birth centre are happy to have pretty comprehensive birth plans... But I hadn't thought about my notes, I'll take a look to see what is in there too.. thanks for reminding me! x

This is what I was talking about if you have it. Maybe makes it all a bit easier? Pg 32/33. Now I've had another look it's actually pretty decent at covering everything for a birth plan xx

 

[Shanivy]

How are you doing BP? I won't be surprised if I refresh this page in the morning to a picture of little PB boy! x

I was just thinking the same too! Xx

 

[KHTW]

So this is me on maternity leave as of 3pm today!!! So happy... although I may miss work a little... I got a nice goodbye from all, there were cupcakes, there were gifts and general 'we will miss you' moments, it was nice.

I think nesting is slowly kicking in. Hospital bag is getting organised tomorrow. General cleaning starting with our bedroom. Cat is getting shaved. And DD starts her sleeping alone routine. I am on a mission to have the house in order before mid June... Just in time for the window company to come, replace the windows and turn my whole house into a shithole in need of re-decorating!!!

 

[Shanivy]

Oh fab KHTW, enjoy it, do nothing, and make the most of yours and dds time together. I'm feeling very emotional that I have only got 29 ish days left just the two of us, I wonder if you've felt that? Also wanting the house done asap here too, Homebase tomorrow for paint and OH is going to be very busy. 20th June is our new stair carpet getting done and I want this place gutted! Cat is getting shaved has to be the strangest thing any of us have said haha. Xx

Question for you all:
So I have my 36 week appointment tomorrow at the hospital dmu because midwife wants me to have a tour of the birthing suites.. Last time I was in another part of the hospital that just had a pool so I've never actually seen the proper rooms. Anyway OH booked the day off because he wants to go to the appointment and come to the tour.

But I think it's weird having him come to my appointments?! Like I'm a baby going to the doctor lol. I said I'll come out to get him if he really wants to see the tour. And he was like "I've never been to any of your appointments except your emergency one when you were sick. I've seen loads of dads come out with their partners" I'm asking about haemorrhoid cream tomorrow for fuck sake. And also discussing my vagina to try and stop it tearing apart again, why would I want him hearing that...bad enough he has to see it!

What do you ladies do, go by yourselves or not? Am I being weird? Xx

 

[Fela]

Shan Thanks for sharing that, I’ll take a look when I get home it’s definitely not the one I’ve seen before which is much more clinical!

Our 36 week appointment is a tour as well, OH has come to all my appointments but he’s lucky in that he has a very chilled out employer. I told him he didn’t need to but he’s been pretty keen so I’ve been happy for him to come, but I think it’s just a personal choice and to be honest I think we are more in the minority!

 

[Fela]

Ooh lovely that you’ve finished for your leave KHTW, I’m jealous

I think my OH is experiencing a nesting instinct rather than me... he’s become a cleaning demon - im just leaving him to it!

 

[KHTW]

Oh fab KHTW, enjoy it, do nothing, and make the most of yours and dds time together. I'm feeling very emotional that I have only got 29 ish days left just the two of us, I wonder if you've felt that? Also wanting the house done asap here too, Homebase tomorrow for paint and OH is going to be very busy. 20th June is our new stair carpet getting done and I want this place gutted! Cat is getting shaved has to be the strangest thing any of us have said haha. Xx

I have felt this way about DD since I found out I was pregnant with her sister!! I kind of miss her already... the time i will not have with her once baby comes.

Lol we have a long haired cat and come June he starts shedding like mad... hair everywhere! So he takes a trip to the vet and gets a lion cut. He looks stupid and probably hates it but honestly the house would be ruined otherwise and I can't imagine bringing a newborn to that!

Take OH, it won't be weird! He will be there with you when you are in labour right? So why not let him see the place first. Nothing unusual about it. Hubby went to all appointments with me (accept MW). He wants to feel involved x

 

[Fela]

I checked my notes when I got home just now and there is no birth plan in there... isn’t it strange how they can be so different from place to place?

KHTW I’m trying to imagine your shaved cat with a lion mane

Baby seems to have moved from one side of my bump where she has been for ages to a complete opposite side! Also wondering if everything has dropped a bit because I feel like I can take deeper breathes and I’m not as out of breath on the stairs!

 

[Shepherdess]

Enjoy your maternity leave khtw!

My DD is being sensitive atm, even tonight while she watched in the night garden sat next to me on the couch she was like "can I hold your hand" and she's so cuddly which is lovely but I worry about her so much. I know she's excited but there's definitely some deeper emotions there.

Hope you're doing okay PB?

Fela definitely leave your oh to the cleaning thats great haha. I've done so much organising and cleaning the last few days but I've had enough now. Just want a full day chilling with dd tomorrow

Shanivy I'd feel really strange if husband came with me to an appointment but if your oh is keen then I'd let him

 

[KHTW]

Fela i will post a pic of him once it's done.

I don't have maternity notes at all just a phone app!!! X

 

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Shan, Dan has been with me for a few appointments and I've actually really enjoyed the backup on a few things where he's know how important something is to me and he's made sure I get heard. We are not a couple to share the bathroom, but he was the first person I told when I realised I had a little haemorrhoid. He giggled a bit and gave me a cuddle. I wouldn't have any problem discussing tearing or prep with him there as I'd be glad of him knowing about it all...can only be helpful afterwards if they know how sore you might be.

That said, it is up to you but it sounds like he's feeling a bit guilty not to have joined you yet and that he wants to be involved and that's a lovely thing. You could always ask him to leave just at the end so you can discuss "woman stuff".

 

[Shanivy]

Thanks girls, that was pretty interesting hearing your opinions. We're pretty open and I've already discussed with him the whole tearing thing, but I feel stupid bringing someone in with me to midwife appointments I guess. I've compromised and said I'll come get him for the tour but I just don't need him for the midwife part. He sees enough in labour. Believe me!! Still haven't forgotten how he told everyone I looked like a character from Avatar getting out of the pool with the cord hanging out of me and dragging on the floor And the lovely graphic description of crowning I never needed

Haha KHTW I can't wait to see your poor shaved cat! Mine is the same in the summer with the shedding it drives me crazy!! And it's definitely a weird feeling thinking about losing one on one time with dd. I know once the babies are here we'd not have it any other way. I'm still trying to make the most of the last few weeks just me and dd for the last time Xx

Shep awk god love dd. Ivy has been the same lately, a lot of can I cuddle you etc. Last night she wanted me to lie in her bed until she fell asleep so she could play with my hair. She's not done that in a long long time. She's super excited for the baby but still, they must have some definite feelings about a new baby coming along. I guess it's just up to us to make them feel secure, I suppose their whole world is changing too Xx

Fela that's so strange! And annoying they're all so different. Lol my lump moves from one side to the other too..could well have dropped hun. .I'm thinking she's dropped too but I'll probably be told tomorrow she's not at all haha xx

 

[Shanivy]

PB hope you're doing better hun. Xx

 

[PeanutButter]

Baby born early hours x

 

[Kholl]

Omg Ashleigh- thread crashing to say congratulations!!! Hope you and baby are doing well!

 

[JaneyJan]

Baby born early hours x

Aw PB, knew it! Congratulations love! Really well done and I'm so glad it didn't drag on for long for you.... Rest up and hope to hear details at a later time when you're ready. Hope you and baby are well. Congratulations! How exciting xxxxx

 

[Shepherdess]

Baby born early hours x

Eeeek! Yay! Congratulations! Hope you're both doing well

 

[Shanivy]

Baby born early hours x

Oh my goodness I had a feeling. Aw PB Congratulations lovely!!!! Well done you after all that hope you're both doing well Xx

 

[PeanutButter]

OMG ladies. Will post pic later on. The other night they said I wasn't dilated and cervix was closed and hard. Then pain stopped at 10am didn't start again until about 5ish... But it came back so strong I was crying. Hubby asked if I wanted to go in I said no because my pain wasn't in a pattern would come whenever it felt. Anyways around half 9 I couldn't take it anymore.. Called triage, they told me to calm down and its just my body getting ready and its a bad case of BH. Nope I went in, couldn't barely walk or talk or do anything I was crawling and screaming. They had to take me into another room away from other ladies pmsl. I got in there, was begging for pain relief... Started shouting I need to poop LMFAO embarrassing, so they pulled my bottoms down and made me lay on the bed...They decided to empty my bladder with some tube thing, then checked dilation and I was 10!!!! The midwife that told me it was BH was like your having a baby! I was like nooope I want the fkikg epidural. She told me it was too late, I lay there and just sobbed shouting all sorts for about a min then i pushed and waters went, they bought me a wheelchair, I was like you can fk right off I ain't sitting, and then I started pushing they gave me gas and air, got the bed and started running up the corridor, one lady was trying to close my legs (was lay on my side) I just started asking her why and she's stupid told her to stop. My fanny got shown to everyone haha. Then a few mins later he was here. All happened within 30 mins getting to Hosp. Imagine if i never went in like.