***January 2017 mummies!*** 3rd Trimester

[millielaura]

Thst made me laugh so much Ery haha! The George Michael bit hahaha. I hope gas and air has that effect on me!

 

[Blueflower]

Also the twin who is attached nearest the cervix is always Twin 1 & will be born first even if they swap sides or Twin 2 's head is lower.

We discussed birth at our class on Wednesday, positions and pain relief, bit scary but interesting! Also passed round photos of placentas, nice!

Thanks for the tip on letting your body do its thing, very helpful!

Had a good last day and a lovely leaving do! Good turnout and everyone is so happy for us as they know how long our journey has been.

 

[Papermoon]

Sarah yes I am getting very nervous about labour and babies being here. The idea of pushing babies out, or having to have a csection is very scary. I am an absolute wimp when it comes to pain, and I don't have much stamina so I'm worried I'll tire out really fast. Also terrified of needles and hate medication, so all the potential drips and pain meds scares me. I don't even like taking paracetamol lol. Then being exhausted from birth and overwhelmed and having to do everything in the hospital overnight while OH gets to go home and rest. Of course I'm SUPER excited to meet the babies and see what they look like and get to know them, but there's a lot of scary stuff that comes before that. It's certainly starting to keep me awake at night and play on my mind, but I think it's normal for us to feel this way! xx

Yes that's exactly how I feel too Laura!

Papermoon - Eewww Imagine being inside a womb... Must be really gooey!!

Hopefully I have now caught up with everyone?? I have a funny feeling Lisa has welcomed her twinnies into the world now!! Hope all is ok.

xxxxx

LOL Yup it was very strange! Haha! Yeah I bet she has had her babies by now, that is so cool! I can't wait for T.J. to be born.

Glad to hear it BlondeP, although not about the consultant. Why is it that medical staff either seem to be really lovely or awful?!

Laura, I've been the worst mummy this morning, I spent ages laying on the sofa, trying to have a sneaky nap while Anna watched TV. Was totally unsuccessful of course, every time I drifted off she came over to chat to me...so I've been spending the rest of the day trying not to be so rubbish and playing with her.

This is such stupid advice but don't worry about labour! (So much more easier said than done, I know) I went into my last labour with no fear and even though it hurt, I didn't care...and I'm a huge wuss. I really think your attitude changes your perception of pain, and if you're scared, it becomes so much worse. Reading/watching positive births really helps, I think, as well as remembering that your body will just do it for you, if that makes sense. You just need to concentrate on being ok in your mind and sort of being a spectator to what your body is doing.

All that being said, labours obviously differ a lot! I'm pretty sure I'll be screaming for drugs if I have back labour/contractions one on top of the other etc etc.

Thanks Sprout! Yes that does help! I'll just try not to think about it too much.

Glad you're ok Abi..

Yes hoping Lisa has some happy news soon!

I agree with Sprout completely - I was in complete blissful ignorance heading into my first birth, I just decided not to think about it. Not going to lie, it bloody hurts, but you are so in the moment you just deal with it and your body tells you what to do. I was on a complete high afterwards having done it naturally, it was so empowering! Bringing a child into the world in any which way is an incredible achievement so instead of fearing it relish the challenge - we'll all be amazing!

xx

Oh wow Kate that doesn't sound bad at all!

I'm stalking your thread x I hope you don't mind me butting in lol. But if you want to hear a positive birth story to read... my son was textbook and pretty darn funny. Best advice I got was don't force anything let your body do the work and listen to the midwife. Even though my labour was technically 24 hrs it didn't feel long at all and only the last few min's really hurt i know most of you won't be allowed the water birth I had but I think the more relaxed you are (I was so bloody high I was in space orbiting Jupiter lol) the better. I needed no stitches and only had a tiny graze at the end of it.
(If your interested I wrote it here http://www.pregnancyforum.co.uk/second-trimester/495241-may-mummies-rainbows-37.html )

You're always welcome Ery! Thanks for that advice!

 

[Laura1992]

Can't remember who said it happened to them recently, but I just started coughing out of nowhere and then was sick. Horrible! I almost can't imagine the sickness ever fully coming to an end after pregnancy. I hope it just vanishes completely. Just bleaching the crap out of the kitchen sink now!

 

[Eryinera]

No problem girls glad you had a chuckle! It kinda makes sense if your tense you clench up and that makes everything more painful!

 

[Papermoon]

Can't remember who said it happened to them recently, but I just started coughing out of nowhere and then was sick. Horrible! I almost can't imagine the sickness ever fully coming to an end after pregnancy. I hope it just vanishes completely. Just bleaching the crap out of the kitchen sink now!

That was me Laura! Yes it was awful. That's exactly what happened to me. I was eating then suddenly I just had a coughing fit! I coughed so hard it made me throw up. I was coughing so hard my ribs and sides were so sore and my voice was hoarse. I couldn't even laugh without it hurting from the soreness from that. Every muscle in the upper part of my body was sore after that coughing fit. Yup I know exactly how you feel! Sorry that happened to you. Thank goodness it hasn't happened again!

No problem girls glad you had a chuckle! It kinda makes sense if your tense you clench up and that makes everything more painful!

I think that's good advice. I have to remember to just relax and not panic and realize it's natural. That should make it much better.

 

[Laura1992]

Getting a bit worried about Lisa/Rhiandell.. hope she's just very busy.

In other news, I'm pretty excited because I think I've finally come up with a viable childcare arrangement. Childminder or nursery in my area is like 2,200-2,500 per month for two, which would've been unaffordable for me as I'll be going into an entry level job in a new field when I return to work. Au pair was really the only affordable option (400ish per month), but not that reliable/experienced and they are not meant to do more than 30 hours per week PLUS it means putting up an extra person. The plan is to have an au pair live with my parents and drop the twins off with my parents (they live right in town, so I'd get a job nice and central) and between my mum and the au pair, they would be able to cover my working hours and then I pick them up after and bring home. Au pair would live with my parents in a nice, central location and get a break from the babies. So happy because I thought I was going to be trapped with not being able to afford to go back to work!

 

[Sprout]

Bless those of you who are still dealing with nausea, it's a distant memory for me and I'm so so glad.

Have been checking back frequently for news on Lisa - I should imagine she's just got her hands full but I can't help but be a bit worried too.

That's good news Laura. I'm very very lucky in that I've never had to consider childcare, my mum lives a 10 minute walk away and she's retired, plus I've been working from home since Anna was 14 months. It'll never cease to shock me how much childcare costs. How long will everyone be taking off work?

 

[BlondeP]

Laura that's a genius idea!!! Glad you've worked something out.

I'm worried about Lisa too but likewise I presume she has probably got her hands full with a couple of new arrivals

We are the same ish Speout. My mum and OH dad don't work so hopefully childcare shouldn't be a problem xxxx

 

[Laura1992]

My mum hasn't worked for a while now, but I really don't think she could handle two on her own, she isn't the best at coping with stress! So I think an au pair plus my mum together would be ok because I know she wants a big role in their lives. It's nice that we've all got hands on grandparents to help!

Is everyone having a nice weekend? I've had the best day in weeks now. Not too much pain and pretty high energy levels! We left the house about 1 and looked around the annual local Christmas fair, then went out for lunch and ended up going to see a film. It was a sci fi film, not exactly my choice but OH has put up with a lot recently so he picked the film. It's Arrival, the new Amy Adams film - wasn't too bad in the end. Just home now but I feel really positive and Christmassy after a proper afternoon out! xx

 

[Holdingthumbs]

Oh goodness, I don't even want to think about childcare yet! My salary when I go back to work will cover nursery fees and my tube ticket to and from work. And pretty much nothing else. But if I don't go back I'll really struggle to stay in the field. Ugh.

 

[BlondeP]

Sounds lovely laura. I as afternoon tea with some friends today which was lovely and had a spark of energy to do some tidying . Quite thankful as I have a midwife home visit tomorrow then a health visitor visit on Monday!! Not impressed about them coming seperately as its a bit of a pain in the arse but oh well...

Also, OH kindly let me have a two hour nap this afternoon!!! And throughout he was rubbing my back, talking to the baby and making sure I wasn't getting to hot and bothered. Little star man he is!

Oh thumbs, what a bummer! Maybe try an Au Piar like Laura??my Sister au pairs and I didn't realise how little they got paid! Xxxxxx

 

[Laura1992]

Sounds lovely laura. I as afternoon tea with some friends today which was lovely and had a spark of energy to do some tidying . Quite thankful as I have a midwife home visit tomorrow then a health visitor visit on Monday!! Not impressed about them coming seperately as its a bit of a pain in the arse but oh well...

Also, OH kindly let me have a two hour nap this afternoon!!! And throughout he was rubbing my back, talking to the baby and making sure I wasn't getting to hot and bothered. Little star man he is!

Oh thumbs, what a bummer! Maybe try an Au Piar like Laura??my Sister au pairs and I didn't realise how little they got paid! Xxxxxx

It is low pay, but I think it's meant more like a home from home experience for a young person and a chance to travel/study a new language, rather than an employee-employer type relationship! At least, that's how I plan on treating it because I do feel bad that the pay is low. I'll definitely pay upper end and be as flexible as possible with mine so they have the chance to do other things and enjoy their time with us!

2 hour massage! Soooo jealous! Mine is good at getting them started, but moans that his hands hurt after 15 mins

 

[KateK]

Sounds like a plan Laura - bet that's a huge relief.. So glad you had a nice day as well - it sounds as though you needed it and it was thoroughly deserved!

Awful isn't it Thumbs.. My partner has the chance to take 3 months off on full pay when the baby comes as i'm self-employed but his manager outright told him that his progression will be stunted if he takes the time off. He has the luxury of choosing at least..

I'm not sure when i'll be getting back to work, i'm sure i'll feel ok within a couple of months but I need complete quiet and concentration when I work so I just don't know how it's going to play out - depends what type of baby i'm blessed with!

Oh just stop Abi - he sounds too nice! My partner made me cry today, I threw my first pregnant tantrum at him.. He totally deserved it though and it shut him up for once!

Yes Lisa I am sending you virtual hugs.. cannot wait for news - really hope all is well with you and the babies xxx

 

[Papermoon]

Getting a bit worried about Lisa/Rhiandell.. hope she's just very busy.

In other news, I'm pretty excited because I think I've finally come up with a viable childcare arrangement. Childminder or nursery in my area is like 2,200-2,500 per month for two, which would've been unaffordable for me as I'll be going into an entry level job in a new field when I return to work. Au pair was really the only affordable option (400ish per month), but not that reliable/experienced and they are not meant to do more than 30 hours per week PLUS it means putting up an extra person. The plan is to have an au pair live with my parents and drop the twins off with my parents (they live right in town, so I'd get a job nice and central) and between my mum and the au pair, they would be able to cover my working hours and then I pick them up after and bring home. Au pair would live with my parents in a nice, central location and get a break from the babies. So happy because I thought I was going to be trapped with not being able to afford to go back to work!

Yes I hope everything is okay with Lisa. I'm sure she's just trying to recuperate and adjust to having the babies and very busy. Can't wait to hear from her though to know for sure.

That sounds like a good child care plan Laura! Goodness, I didn't realize how expensive childcare is. Once I go back to work, me and OH are going to have to watch T.J.in shifts since we work opposite shifts. I work 5:30am-2pm so he will have to watch him in the morning and then OH works from 3:30 to 11:30 so I will take over when he goes to work.

I'm gonna be off for maternity leave for 6 months. I wish it could be longer, but the maximum is 6 months.

 

[Holdingthumbs]

No space for an au pair unfortunately - were very fortunate amongst our friends that we actually have a second bedroom for baby! I'll figure something out but it's definitely going to take some adjusting. Plan is to focus on the cooking and getting baby out tasks first!

 

[Holdingthumbs]

Also Abi, what are the midwife and health visitor home visits for? Does everyone have them? It's the first time I've heard them mentioned xx

 

[BlondeP]

Ahh sorry ladies. )3 is usually an absolute pain in the arse!!! Not sure why he was feeling so nice !!!!!

Thumbs, midwife is coming as at my last appointment she ran out of time to do everything and chat about everything we needed to do offered to come over tomorrow morning as OHB won't then have to take time off work. And apparently health visitors come out to all new mums in my area before baby is here - I literally got a letter stating when she will be here no choice or anything!

xxxxx

 

[millielaura]

My maternity allowance runs out in August I think it is so will have to look at going back then. Trying not to think about it as my wages would literally cover childcare unless I worked shifts and either missed out on my weekends and evenings as a family or let mil babysit. The thought of either makes me feel a bit sick lol I'm hoping we can work out me not going back!

My health visitor is coming on 3rd Jan. For some reason she called OH's number not mine and left a message to say she was coming to see me at 10am on 3rd Jan lol.

I was in again with reduced movements today. Good news is she has now turned head down yay and they were happy with the trace. I hadn't felt her for a good 17 hours at all! She did some movements on the monitor the monkey! Not really felt her since. They are phoning me on Monday with a scan date just to double check all is ok. They said some women end up going to day unit for daily monitoring..I do hope she starts moving more soon or I will end up having to be one of those women as just cna't take the risk of something actually being up one time. Xx

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[Papermoon]

Also Abi, what are the midwife and health visitor home visits for? Does everyone have them? It's the first time I've heard them mentioned xx

I know there's no such thing here in the US. We don't have anything like that. I wish we did! You guys do things so differently than we do here. Your whole health care system is totally different from ours! I do a lot of googling when I read some posts. I had to google health visitor after pregnancy. It's all interesting how differently things are done. Most women in the US don't have midwives for pregnancy, I think only like 8%. But it seems like most people outside the US has midwives?